The Vent - Part 2

[thetreble 19]

I'm basically not allowed to quit.

My whole family is counting on me to stick to it and just get through it somehow for Lacy. It all makes me sick because they aren't the ones that have to go through it.

If I back out now, Lacy would make my family life a living hell. I can guarantee you that much because she is very good at manipulating people. I don't need that.

I get all my strength from knowing my whole family realizes what a bint she is. My sister in law has been a victim of her family's craziness and my SIL is a daddy's girl. She tells him everything. So, I know that my FIL probably realizes I am teh better daughter in law

[trailmix 77]

I'm basically not allowed to quit.

My whole family is counting on me to stick to it and just get through it somehow for Lacy. It all makes me sick because they aren't the ones that have to go through it.

If I back out now, Lacy would make my family life a living hell. I can guarantee you that much because she is very good at manipulating people. I don't need that.

I get all my strength from knowing my whole family realizes what a bint she is. My sister in law has been a victim of her family's craziness and my SIL is a daddy's girl. She tells him everything. So, I know that my FIL probably realizes I am teh better daughter in law

Well, I admire you for sticking with it - I truly do - you are a strong person and will get through it - I am sorry it is also going to cost you so much money! Your bridesmaid expenses are about 20 times what our whole wedding cost us.

[Sprailenes 47]

She's offended because she feels he took a wonderful "quote" (as she put it) and put an unacceptable spin on it. I have read the paper. He questioned why America is always asking god to bless them and them only. He said God needs to bless the middle east and Africa and all the poor countries in the world before blessing countries that are already blessed. Maybe because he said Middle East? I don't know.

He took something he sees everywhere and took it literally and wrote about it. In Canada you don't hear us going on about: "GOD BLESS CANADA" so its something that is new to him and it has him thinking... it's had him thinking since he arrived here and this was an opportunity for him to talk about that feeling.

It wasn't a major assignment it was in his creative writing book, but still. The fact that she called me at work about this... there are kids probably being bullied at that school, perhaps there is a kid who really needs help. And you're calling me over this??? Please.

I tend to be pretty patriotic and as such, I see nothing wrong with what he wrote. I think a lot of Americans get the entire basis for patriotism wrong. Patriotism is about loving your country, but also accepting that there's always room for improvement. It's a lot like loving an individual -- you love them, but you can recognize that they aren't perfect.

I see his topic as patriotic as well. He says the "U.S. is blessed." I don't know if I agree with the whole religious aspect, but the point is he says the United States is at a point where we don't need assistance, so others should be helped first. How is that a bad thing?

Exactly.

I am not religious at all either, but my son is, I am an atheist as a matter of fact but he is Catholic.

He believes, that God wouldn't take time to bless the countries that need it most, because they are okay. He believes that God thinks that the USA is probably selfish for always asking for a blessing.

Kids do indeed say the darndest things.

Edited April 2, 2009 by Sprailenes

[Krikit 1,163]

After her wedding my boss and I got a bottle of wine, charged it to her account and sat in our office and got drunk. That felt good.

[ozone_1974 1]

Why in the hell do some people need to spend that much for a wedding ??? I mean it is not about money or the impression you make on others or the amount of cash you are able to throw in a wedding but about the event itself...

I think most of them completely miss the point of a wedding. Personally (and some of you are going to say that this is because I am a guy ) but I could care less if my fiancee and I where getting married at home and serving some good homemade food to our few but true friends and family ... lol : My point is that as long as we are all happy and having fun, that is what matters and I will still remember that day until I die, NOT because of some superficial reasons, but just because I am marrying the most beautiful woman in every ways

pssssshhhh .. I am sorry to say this thetreble, but "SUPERFICIAL at the highest level" are the words I would use for people like that .. but to each and everyone its own. God I feel sorry for you to be stuck in a situation like that ... And sorry again for what I am about to say, I mean, no offense, but I would just tell them to F%$#k off !!! lol

[DeadPoolX 9]

I'm basically not allowed to quit.

My whole family is counting on me to stick to it and just get through it somehow for Lacy. It all makes me sick because they aren't the ones that have to go through it.

If I back out now, Lacy would make my family life a living hell. I can guarantee you that much because she is very good at manipulating people. I don't need that.

I get all my strength from knowing my whole family realizes what a bint she is. My sister in law has been a victim of her family's craziness and my SIL is a daddy's girl. She tells him everything. So, I know that my FIL probably realizes I am teh better daughter in law

At this point in time there's only one option: suggest very weird ideas. For instance, claim that raw duck with an apple up its butt would be good to have at the wedding reception. Claim you have allergy to linen and that it's spying on you. Refuse to attend the wedding until someone's cat has been shaved!

I'm not sure how much any of these would help, but the reactions from others would be priceless (and yes, for everything else there's Mastercard).

[Krikit 1,163]

At this point in time there's only one option: suggest very weird ideas. For instance, claim that raw duck with an apple up its butt would be good to have at the wedding reception. Claim you have allergy to linen and that it's spying on you. Refuse to attend the wedding until someone's cat has been shaved!

I'm not sure how much any of these would help, but the reactions from others would be priceless (and yes, for everything else there's Mastercard).

I don't know why, but this struck me as really funny.

Edited April 2, 2009 by Krikit

[The_Dude 1,142]

so, in the latest bridezilla saga, this is what all the bridemaids got from the bridezilla's sister.

Lacy asked you all to be Bridesmaids because she and Chris considered you to be important parts in their lives. When Lacy asked you to be Bridesmaids, you obligated yourselves to the above duties. If you were unable to fulfill ANY of them, even on the financial end, you should have declined. It is EXTREMELY unfair at this point to say what you cannot spend. You are putting the rest of us (and my parents) in a predicament.

I am VERY insulted at those last 2 emails. You girls have done nothing but complain about everything. You have spent more time saying what you aren't going to do. I am sick of it. I have spent alot of time researching places to have a nice, yet inexpensive shower. $189 is totally reasonable. We are giving guests a nice meal, which is our duty. It includes sou or salad, pasta, and entree, and beverages..plus tx/gratuity.Technically, we should be responsible for the cake, decorations, favors, invitations, etc as well. My family and I are beside ourselves with the way some of you are acting about this. You act like I'm trying to rip you off or pocket the money. I don't know where you live..or what you do, but things cost what they cost!!! Should I call McDonald's and see if they have room for 70?! Because with the price you want to spend, we'll be giving guests Happy Meals. What do you think we are going to be able to do with $200, including the gift?! I have been in many weddings and have never encountered this kind of stuff. I'm at a loss for words to be honest.I'm trying to give my sister and your "friend" a nice shower. I feel like you are making this all about you. It is about Lacy..and her special day. Don't you want to give her a nice day she will never forget?? I really didn't want to get confrontational with you. It's not my style, but you have pushed me there.It's not like we have to throw her 2 showers..or shes asking you to take her to Vegas for her Bachelorette Party.How can I give an EXACT amount of things when nothing is set in stone?! You want me to quote you to the penny up front. I cannot do that. How do I know what its going to cost in the end?! I'm sorry I went ahead and booked the CHEAPEST place. I did that to appease YOU. Have any of you even researched prices of things?? Because if you did, you'll know its not doable. If it were up to me, I'd have it somewhere better..and I'd pay for it myself. If anyone is being "hurt" it's Lacy..you girls are not being very good "friends".

I'm not talking about this over email anymore. I am aggrivated beyond belief. This should be fun and exciting and all it is doing it causing everyone grief. We need to get togeher and talk about this in person. ASAP.

This is all too surreal.

I should add I've paid $300.00 for my dress already. (without shoes or anything else)

They are asking for 200 dollars from all of us without including anything like the shower gift. We are now looking at $350.00 per bridesmaid just for the shower.

Wow, The saga continues. I don't know why, but this whole story intrigues me so. I must get a link to this blog

In all seriousness, you must be the most tolerant person on earth. I would have told her to go ** herself 8 months ago

I just got a phone call at work from the school... story of my life.

So my son did a creative writing assignment and called it: "God Bless the World" and in it he wrote about and wondered why Americans were asking god to bless them when they already seemed so blessed, and why they weren't asking for God to bless the world as a whole.

I have heard my son speak of this before when he sees the bumper stickers and stuff, but I never corrected him, nor have I found it offensive. But his teacher is offended and would like to have me talk to him about the way he chooses to write. I told her that I didn't think there was a problem and she said: "Oh but there is...." I just said that there wasn't again and I ended the call.

I personally found the story to be thought provoking for a 10 year old child. Why must people be so sensitive. It wasn't a hateful story... it was actually really beautiful. Blah. I hate school.

What a xenophobic teacher. That sort of teaching has NO place in the classroom. The attitude that your son displayed in his writing should be applauded, NOT suppresed. I got into trouble in junior high for a similar incident. After my mom yelled at me for having to take off work to go down to talk to the school administrators, my dad said "good job", bought me an ice cream, and gave me a quote that I have used in just about every class and beyond.

"Dissent is the sincerest form of patriotism."

-Thomas Jefferson

[Sprailenes 47]

The average cost of a wedding is $25,000 and that is average. Even that number is high to me.

I don't have anything against people who want it to be nice, many women dream of this day. I do have a problem with women who choose to drag everyone down and make outlandish demands.

[Krikit 1,163]

What a xenophobic teacher. That sort of teaching has NO place in the classroom. The attitude that your son displayed in his writing should be applauded, NOT suppresed. I got into trouble in junior high for a similar incident. After my mom yelled at me for having to take off work to go down to talk to the school administrators, my dad said "good job", bought me an ice cream, and gave me a quote that I have used in just about every class and beyond.

"Dissent is the sincerest form of patriotism."

-Thomas Jefferson

*wanders off in search of a dictionary*

[SonoranSongbird 3]

Take it to the principal girl, although meet first with the teacher to find out why she is offended, perhaps there is something more to it. Stay calm and gather the facts.

Whip out the American idea of free speech, everyone has a right to their opinion when expressed in an approriate way which doesn't hurt anyone

That's what I think, too, Sprailenes. You are his only advocate. It is probably fairest--and most effective--to discuss your concerns with the teacher directly first, and then move up the chain if that does not help.

[BermyCat 1]

The average cost of a wedding is $25,000 and that is average. Even that number is high to me.

I don't have anything against people who want it to be nice, many women dream of this day. I do have a problem with women who choose to drag everyone down and make outlandish demands.

Wow. Ours is costing about $9000 including the plane tickets because Phil insisted that we have it in Bermuda. I still think that's expensive. Of course, I limited the the guest list to 25 people. We only invited the people that are involved in our everyday lives that will have a role in emotionally supporting us in our marriage (if that makes sense). I don't see the point in inviting relatives that you only see once every few years.

My Dad's wedding is costing a bloody fortune. His guest list is at 200 and Maureen's dress cost $5000. Even the bridesmaids dresses cost more than my wedding dress. Maureen insisted on paying for it though since she recognizes that Phil and I are on one income right now. I really like my step-mom to be. She's very sweet and considerate.

~ Catherine

[DeadPoolX 9]

The average cost of a wedding is $25,000 and that is average. Even that number is high to me.

I don't have anything against people who want it to be nice, many women dream of this day. I do have a problem with women who choose to drag everyone down and make outlandish demands.

It seems everyone wants this fantasy/fairy tale wedding. Probably the worst influence is Hollywood weddings. Celebrities have these huge weddings and people see it. They then think: "I want that too!"

[Sprailenes 47]

I have always hated big weddings. I don't know 200 people well enough to have them at my wedding and I didn't want everyone and their neighbors brother at my wedding. I already didn't know most of my guests because they were friends and family of my in-laws. I had 2 tables of guests and the rest belonged to my husband's side. Which was fine.

The only part of our wedding that was probably considered "zilla-ish" is that my husband and I specifically said: 'No guests' on our invites.

We just didn't want complete strangers at our wedding. That was a personal choice of ours. Just like some people put 'no kids' in or whatnot.

Edited April 2, 2009 by Sprailenes

[SonoranSongbird 3]

so, in the latest bridezilla saga, this is what all the bridemaids got from the bridezilla's sister.

Lacy asked you all to be Bridesmaids because she and Chris considered you to be important parts in their lives. When Lacy asked you to be Bridesmaids, you obligated yourselves to the above duties. If you were unable to fulfill ANY of them, even on the financial end, you should have declined. It is EXTREMELY unfair at this point to say what you cannot spend. You are putting the rest of us (and my parents) in a predicament.

OMFG!!! See, if someone asks me to be a bridesmaid, I assume that means I'm going to have to spend a few hours wearing a low cut uncomfortable dress in an unflattering color, probably made of taffeta or some equally gag-worthy fabric, paying maybe $200 to 300 for said dress, walking down the aisle ahead of the bride and trying not to look bored during the ceremony no matter how long it gets. Maybe I'd expect to pay for a bridal shower---but a reasonable shower (Lacy's shower is a bigger 'do than my wedding was!). The rest of it? I would not have expected that #######.