The Vent - Part 2

[Krikit 1,164]

So my boss had a break down this morning in my co-workers office. Absolutely balling. Now, I know people have stuff that gose on in their lives and I'm always here as a listener, but I'm a big advocate of not turning on the fireworks at work, you know? It does happen to ppl though.

Any ways, the purpose of her cry? She thinks she is losing her mind. Literally thinks she has the onset of dementia. Why are you talking to your co-worker about that though that you don't interact with often? Kind of a serious topic.

Ohmygoodness. Perhaps someone could refer her to the EAP program? Do you have one where you work?

[Sprailenes 47]

I have a "friend" who I just feel needs to be purged from my life. She's constantly putting down my husband and she's constantly calling him names. I will talk about something good and she'll turn it into something bad. She's a frenemy. I have come to that conclusion.

She dropped out of my wedding when she found out I wasn't buying her dress. She's just done a lot of stuff that a real friend wouldn't do.

My husband is also pretty sure this girl linked my MIL to the threads here. She has done some shady things in the past. We can't prove she did it but all signs would point to yes.

I have just had enough. I feel like I can't be happy about anything around her. We had fun maybe 4 years ago, but since then things have changed. I just feel it's time to cut her loose yanno? But I mean I usually just stop talking to someone who I want to cut loose, but I feel like I should at least give her an explanation.. and yet at the same time I don't even think its worth it. I have so many other things going on right now. She's moving to Texas to go to grad school... it's not like I'll even have to deal with her much. Sadly, I think I have vented about this person before.

And I mean she puts down everyone. She puts down every friend I have even if she hasn't met them. She puts down where I live. EVERYTHING that I am remotely happy about she makes me feel like absolute ####### about.

Edited July 22, 2009 by Sprailenes

[thetreble 19]

I'm not sure what EAP is, Krikit, but I'm sure we have all kinds of stuff on a university campus.

She has all kinds of medical issues and all kinds of doctors. She sees doctors weekly for all kinds of stuff. She never exercised her entire life, not even a walk. She takes the elevator down 2 flights of stairs. She drives her car on campus when we have a meeting that is a 5 minute walk away. I can tell you why she's not healthy, including her poor hygiene.

Rob- That's why I'm not falling for it. She got blasted in a meeting this morning and then this happened like literally..10 seconds afterwards. We have a company that runs our parking office for us. (I work in the administration, not the customer service portion of it which we pay them to run)

Well, someone stole $1500.00 from the safe and she told the VP it was $150.00 because she just didn't take time to read it.

BIG difference.

[minnew 4]

I have a "friend" who I just feel needs to be purged from my life. She's constantly putting down my husband and she's constantly calling him names. I will talk about something good and she'll turn it into something bad. She's a frenemy. I have come to that conclusion.

She dropped out of my wedding when she found out I wasn't buying her dress. She's just done a lot of stuff that a real friend wouldn't do.

My husband is also pretty sure this girl linked my MIL to the threads here. She has done some shady things in the past. We can't prove she did it but all signs would point to yes.

I have just had enough. I feel like I can't be happy about anything around her. We had fun maybe 4 years ago, but since then things have changed. I just feel it's time to cut her loose yanno? But I mean I usually just stop talking to someone who I want to cut loose, but I feel like I should at least give her an explanation.. and yet at the same time I don't even think its worth it. I have so many other things going on right now. She's moving to Texas to go to grad school... it's not like I'll even have to deal with her much. Sadly, I think I have vented about this person before.

And I mean she puts down everyone. She puts down every friend I have even if she hasn't met them. She puts down where I live. EVERYTHING that I am remotely happy about she makes me feel like absolute ####### about.

Definitely time to cut her loose...but it sounds like it won't be too hard as she will be moving to Texas...you will drift away and that will be the end of it! It's sad but friends drift away, you think they won't but real friends will last a lifetime.

I'm not sure what EAP is, Krikit, but I'm sure we have all kinds of stuff on a university campus.

Employee Assistance Program, where they will cover the cost of counselling sessions.

Edited July 22, 2009 by minnew

[Sprailenes 47]

I have never met someone so vindictive though.

[thetreble 19]

And I mean she puts down everyone. She puts down every friend I have even if she hasn't met them. She puts down where I live. EVERYTHING that I am remotely happy about she makes me feel like absolute ####### about.

She ain't worth it. People who constantly put others down are just a downer to be around.

[MrsCat 6]

^ Holy cow Sprai. Where does the friend part of frenemy come in. She just sounds like enemy and nothing saving the friend part.

[Krikit 1,164]

I'm not sure what EAP is, Krikit, but I'm sure we have all kinds of stuff on a university campus.

Employee Assistance Program, where they will cover the cost of counselling sessions.

Oh dear. I'm sorry, Treble. Yes, the Employee Assistance Program.

Sprailenes, I think I've heard you mention this "friend" before. Wasn't she the one who sponged off you two for a trip to NYC? Or was that someone else?

It's good she's moving. I'd just ignore her from this point forward. And if she asks.... I'd tell her. Just for the satisfaction of letting her know that she can't treat people like that and not be held accountable.

[Sprailenes 47]

I hate it when my boss over explains things.

I feel like she does it because she's trying to convince herself.

[Autumnchik 6]

I can't stand the new director of Declan's daycare. She actually made my husband mad today, which is pretty amazing, since he is the nice Canadian Seriously though, of the 2 of us, I am much more likely to get upset with something and also more likely to advocate for myself. So it is really bad when hubby gets pissed.

Well, the new director keeps switching the staff in the infant room, so there is no consistency. I've complained about it to her, and she assured me that there would be no more changes, only to have people switch out again. We are supposed to adhere by the times we have agreed upon in our contract. The one day that we had to drop Declan off 10 minutes early, we were charged extra. I was upset because the week before, they had sent the kids home after only a few hours because something happened to a pipe and they didn't have water. We didn't get a refund for the day. Personally, I was okay with that, because I understand that unexpected things happen sometimes. However, being charged for 10 minutes early right after we did not complain or anything about that day really ticked me off. Got that straightened out (I shared my concerns with the director and she agreed to take the charge off). Then, she recently approached my husband and wanted us to switch one of the days that Declan is there. Apparently, on Wednesday, Declan is the only infant. So she asked if my husband could switch him to Friday when there is only one child there. I don't mind her asking, but when my husband said that does not work for his schedule, she really tried to manipulate him into switching.

Declan is supposed to attend from 9 -6. Hubby dropped him off today at 9:30. Well, the director was there waiting for him and upset that she had staffed the infant room from 9 am and Declan was not there until 9:30. She asked my hubby if we wanted to change his schedule to 9:30, which hubby refused (because normally Declan is there at 9, occasionally there are times he is later depending on how he is feeling or when he wakes up, etc.). Our problem is that again, she was manipulative and really very bitchy to hubby.

This is the most expensive daycare in the area. We had thought about switching for financial reasons before, but we did not feel the quality of the other daycares available at the time were up to par, so we sucked it up and paid for the more expensive daycare because they had great staff and an amazing program. The staff is still good, but the program has gone downhill with the new director. People have been pulling their kids out of the program. I personally know another mother of a kid in Declan's class and she has serious concerns too and is looking into other options. I have made some calls today and we are going to see what options are available to us. I would love to get him into the Montessori school that begins at 18 months, but the program is all full for the upcoming year.

[JillA 2]

^ Holy cow Sprai. Where does the friend part of frenemy come in. She just sounds like enemy and nothing saving the friend part.

Seriously, ditch the b1tch! She's not a real friend, and especially if she really is the one that did the VJ link - that is despicable!

[Krikit 1,164]

Wow, Autumn. My eyebrows were waaaaaay up reading your post.

I would definitely be looking into alternate arrangements. Morale is bound to be affected sooner than later, and the children will feel a change in the atmosphere. I wonder if you could speak to the new director's supervisor, in the meantime, to share your concerns? I'm sure they would love the feedback.

[thetreble 19]

So my boss is throwing up in her office with the door closed again, like it's okay.

She dose this about once a week now.

[Sprailenes 47]

I'm not sure what EAP is, Krikit, but I'm sure we have all kinds of stuff on a university campus.

Employee Assistance Program, where they will cover the cost of counselling sessions.

Oh dear. I'm sorry, Treble. Yes, the Employee Assistance Program.

Sprailenes, I think I've heard you mention this "friend" before. Wasn't she the one who sponged off you two for a trip to NYC? Or was that someone else?

It's good she's moving. I'd just ignore her from this point forward. And if she asks.... I'd tell her. Just for the satisfaction of letting her know that she can't treat people like that and not be held accountable.

No that was Sammi... ahh she was special.

But this friend knows her too... we're all connected via the zwan board, same board I met my husband on.

Amanda I don't know how you hold it in, I would just me like: "####### go to the freaking bathroom you disgusting cow!"

[Krikit 1,164]

So my boss is throwing up in her office with the door closed again, like it's okay.

She dose this about once a week now.

There is definitely a psychological problem which needs to be addressed. Someone should speak with her supervisor.