The Vent - Part 2

[Krikit 1,164]

My dad is really upset about the whole Mexicans need a tourist visa to Canada thingy. He says the requirements include a medical (#######, really), which not even the US requires for tourist visas; bringing the visa price way overboard. And, being the hot headed one he is, he is seriously considering canceling the cruise and just visiting Seattle. I am NOT impressed

Oh oh. Wow. They must be really overly concerned. I try not to pay attention to the news because I find it too depressing. But now I'm wondering what the extent of the flu problem in Mexico really is.

[Flames9_RN 358]

Not because of the flu --but they are taking all the good Tim Hortons Jobs!! --Just kidding!! real reason--so the PM says: http://ipsnews.net/news.asp?idnews=47662

[Sprailenes 47]

Stephen Harper can shut his pie hole.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Not because of the flu --but they are taking all the good Tim Hortons Jobs!! --Just kidding!! real reason--so the PM says: http://ipsnews.net/news.asp?idnews=47662

bleh. Now you're just being mean. I miss timmy's.

[Krikit 1,164]

Do all visitors visa applicants require a medical?

[JillA 2]

Do all visitors visa applicants require a medical?

Not too sure... I just know these rules really hurt families. I know they are in place for a reason, but the "good ones" don't always get through. My 2 cousins who are born in Venezuela but Canadian citizens moved back to Canada 10 years ago. Their Mom (my aunt) died and their Dad (Venez. citizen) still lived there. Well my cousin got married and wanted more than anything her Dad at her wedding, at least 1 parent. He is a doctor down there, has a good income and applied for a Visa. He proved he had $$, had a return ticket, was NOT planning on staying in Canada. Just wanted to be at his daughter's wedding. Well Canada denied him the Visa, claming his country was too high risk and too many Venezuelans came to Canada on a Visa and claimed refugee status. Needless to say, it caused heartbreak for my cousin. She hasn't seen him in over 5 years as the situation in Caracas where he lives is too troubled to visit and he can't come to Ottawa.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Do all visitors visa applicants require a medical?

that's what my dad said -- but I'll have more info when I talk to him later today.

[BermyCat 1]

I had to have a crown put on one of my molars yesterday. My gums are all swollen and sore where he did the work and of course it was an unexpected expense ($700).

To make the day even worse, my laptop motherboard expired after dinner. For the WoW players, this happened fifteen minutes before my 25 man Ulduar raid.

So yet another unexpected expense. I could choose not to replace the computer of course but it's about the only thing keeping me sane at the moment.

~ Catherine

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

I had to have a crown put on one of my molars yesterday. My gums are all swollen and sore where he did the work and of course it was an unexpected expense ($700).

To make the day even worse, my laptop motherboard expired after dinner. For the WoW players, this happened fifteen minutes before my 25 man Ulduar raid.

So yet another unexpected expense. I could choose not to replace the computer of course but it's about the only thing keeping me sane at the moment.

~ Catherine

cheap for a crown, mine ran about $900 a few months ago.

[Sprailenes 47]

So as you all know I had to go see some specialists today.

My husband for some odd reason told his mother that we'd be going down to the shore. He knew I had these appointments but he told her that he would be there... yes he shouldn't have done that.

So she just wrote him the meanest email telling him that we treat them with such disregard because we did not call them and let them know that we weren't coming down to spend the day there. So at the end of the email she told him she wanted to write him off.

I don't even care anymore you know if she sees this? But to talk to him the way she talks to him, yes he should have called, he called his dad this morning and told them. I don't understand why it was such a big deal that we weren't going down, but hello I had 3 appointments this morning and I didn't exactly feel like going to the shore. But to threaten to write him off?

Its so funny how it works in that family and I really wish things were different because I don't like feeling the way I do.

You don't threaten to write off family over something so small. I am saddened by the way they all treat each other.

Mike is so weird though about it, he's just like: "I dont care... I don't want to care" when I asked him to call her and at least talk to her.

Its like this happens all of the time and its okay. It's not okay and I am tired of it to be honest.

And its always done through emails.... never face to face and never over the phone. Its done through emails. And the next time they see each other they wont talk about, they'll act like it never happens.

Edited July 17, 2009 by Sprailenes

[JillA 2]

That's so sad Nev..... similar situation as my sister and BIL. I think it's a guy thing, he says he doesn't care either and has a "whatever" attitude. They also wrote him off and have not spoken in over 4 months, and may not ever again. It's soooo sad that parents can be SO selfish over their children, so sad. It troubles my sister to no end but Phil, he's like whatever my parents suck! They also wouldn't talk to his face, it was always snail mail or over the phone

[Sprailenes 47]

I don't know... if my mother told me she would write me off I would have a few words for her. She's not my mother so I don't care as much, but I do care about the way she treats Mike.

Think about it... what if something happened between now and their next encounter and her last words were the words she wrote to him? To live with that sucks.

I know because I had a friend who got hit by a train and I was the last person with her that night, and the last thing we did was fight because she wanted me to keep walking with her and I wanted to stand around and shoot the ####### with friends... and she walked off and I let her go. And to live with that sucks. My last words to her were: "Keep walking then you crazy b1tch, I'm staying here!" Yep.

So I am so careful with how I choose my words, especially with loved ones and I only learned to do that the hard way.

I would never threaten to write good family off. I just don't think it's right. Especially over this. I think she should apologize to him, but she won't. But you bet she'll expect one from him, even though he was with me seeing doctors this morning.

I am so sad by their dynamics sometimes. Mike goes over there to cook fourth of july dinner, Mike goes over there to cook her mother's day dinner, we're there for weddings, birthdays, and sometimes, albeit rarely, he stops by. I feel like we see them quite a bit, but we're MARRIED we do have lives outside of their circle now and I don't think she'll ever accept that. Which makes me wonder about a lot of things.

[Ontarkie 14,193]

One of my best friends just called crying again, andI hate how I can only tell my friend so much and not get thru to her. My friend and her daughter live in NB in an appartment above her parents. Now her parents have pretty much controled her entire life, they ruined her marriage to a great guy (they didn't like him), and till this day they pretty much still control her. They wanted to move from Sault Ste Marie to NB (her parents). They convinced her to move with her daughter.

She also gave up custody of her son at 2yrs cause her parents convinced her she could'nt handle him. He's with his dad. She hasn't seen him i think in like 6 yrs.

Her mother is an drunk and her dad well he should be in jail, I wont get into that.

I've been telling her for years to grow up and take charge of her own life. . Her daughter and her are both on attidepresents and getting worse. She is slow and has been treated like a retard by her parents for ever. They run her life she is not that dum, she can do things on her own, she wants to get away and move back to the Sault where she has friends and is able to do things on her own.

Her parents moved to and area that she is totaly dependant on them. She doesn't drive and has lots of health issues. It drives me nuts I can't help her, Ive told her to pack up and get on a bus and just go, but she doesnt want to leave all her stuff or pets. She has a friend she can stay with till she gets disability transfered for an appartment, but she can't get any help from disability in NB. They don't have any type of moving allowence from what she has been told.

So anyways I figured I would vent in here and also see if anyone has any ideals how she can get moved with little money any type of help I can find her would help. I was thinking a womens shelter if things got worse, but I don't know if they would help her move that far. I know she probably would never move but I have to keep trying to give her options and just maybe when her lease is up this time she will go. All I can do is be there when she is ready to go and hope it will be soon.

Danielle

[Jenni and Bo 0]

One of my best friends just called crying again, andI hate how I can only tell my friend so much and not get thru to her. My friend and her daughter live in NB in an appartment above her parents. Now her parents have pretty much controled her entire life, they ruined her marriage to a great guy (they didn't like him), and till this day they pretty much still control her. They wanted to move from Sault Ste Marie to NB (her parents). They convinced her to move with her daughter.

She also gave up custody of her son at 2yrs cause her parents convinced her she could'nt handle him. He's with his dad. She hasn't seen him i think in like 6 yrs.

Her mother is an drunk and her dad well he should be in jail, I wont get into that.

I've been telling her for years to grow up and take charge of her own life. . Her daughter and her are both on attidepresents and getting worse. She is slow and has been treated like a retard by her parents for ever. They run her life she is not that dum, she can do things on her own, she wants to get away and move back to the Sault where she has friends and is able to do things on her own.

Her parents moved to and area that she is totaly dependant on them. She doesn't drive and has lots of health issues. It drives me nuts I can't help her, Ive told her to pack up and get on a bus and just go, but she doesnt want to leave all her stuff or pets. She has a friend she can stay with till she gets disability transfered for an appartment, but she can't get any help from disability in NB. They don't have any type of moving allowence from what she has been told.

So anyways I figured I would vent in here and also see if anyone has any ideals how she can get moved with little money any type of help I can find her would help. I was thinking a womens shelter if things got worse, but I don't know if they would help her move that far. I know she probably would never move but I have to keep trying to give her options and just maybe when her lease is up this time she will go. All I can do is be there when she is ready to go and hope it will be soon.

Danielle

Hi Danielle,

I used to work in a Women's Shelter in New Brunswick and I would highly recommend you telling your friend to call and talk to someone. I know that each shelter does have it's own set of criteria to allow admittance, but they would be able to tell her. It sounds like it is emotional abuse from her parents and I know that that would have satisified criteria at the shelter that I worked at. We would aid women in relocating and setting them up with basic items such as dishes, clothes, bedding and toiletries. If nothing else, the workers would be able to give her other ideas, she would have someone to talk her problems through and she could go to the house for a visit and speak to the workers in person. Some of the houses also have outreach programs, so she may be able to have someone come to her and talk to her, maybe make a plan of action.

I hope that helps, let me know if you have any other questions

[Sprailenes 47]

So yesterday I went to the hair cuttery to get a hair cut. I usually go see my husbands stylist who is AMAZING but expensive. BUT she's the only stylist who just understands my hair and me. Anyways I like to be money savvy and I get cheap thrills from saving (no pun intended). My husband likes spending more and always says that you get quality that way and I always disagree... I think you can save money and still get optimum results.

I have been proven wrong in the past though.

see: garlic press, pot and pan set, food.

I went to the hair cuttery... and my husband was weary all along but I insisted on proving him wrong.

I asked for choppy layers and she gave me straight awful layers and then she did the unthinkable... she gave me the Rachel cut. If you're not familiar with the "Rachel cut" just google "Rachel cut" and you'll understand. It was the hair cut all the girls wanted... FIFTEEN YEARS AGO!

So I had to tell her to take more off than planned because what she did was just awful. So I left and I wasn't happy with it, I get home and stare in the mirror and both sides of my hair were VERY uneven so husband to the rescue... he came in and fixed it. There were long pieces all over the place. I paid 30.00 for a stylist that didn't know #######.

Next month its back to my regular stylist.

Oh and she was a total man-hater. When she found out I was married she asked: "Oh... well... how is that working out for ya?"

And then she asked me who colours my hair and I told her my husband did it, and I told her the story about the time Mike and I went to CVS and bought a highlight kit and he did my hair and it came out all screwy. So she says: "Oh I bet you just wanted to kill him because YOU JUST KNOW IT WAS HIS FAULT RIGHT!? EVERYTHING IS HIS FAULT!" *evil laugh*

Umm no we both laughed and I went out and bought a new box of dye you crazy b1tch.

I mean just because you feel the need to talk doesn't mean you have to. Anyways I have learned my lesson. I will never go back there again. EVER.