Need Help. I think I have been scammed for K-3 Visa by my Dominican wife

[R de la R 2]

Your post is really long, I have some comments and questions for you.

When you marry to a Dominican woman, and you have money if her family needs help, then you are supposed to help in the way you can, it means money, clothes, medicine or medical attention whatever it is.

You started a very bad conversation when you talked to her about that you called to immigration for deporting her and her son. Why you didn´t hire a detective? You started the fire like we say here.

If she is in a safe house, she needs money for her and her son living expenses, if she took that money was because she needed it. You are talking like if you was stealing from you. You were her husband you are financially responsible for her, you signed the affidavit of support, right???

Now that you got the emails and other stuff with her ex, now you have something but you started all this mess for a simple comment about something that somebody said to you.

Maybe she loved you but you pushed a button, never do that again.

Good luck!!!!

Edited April 12, 2009 by YMR

[chinese_mutt 11]

i'm not trying to sound unsympathetic here... but hiding her passport would cause you problems there.

i'm not familiar with your laws there, but i'm sure that's a foul and a criminal offense.

perhaps this is why she went to the Women's right organization, and that this organization is out to kick your ####.

remember, she is an immigrant there, she can't speak good english, she doesn't have work, yada yada... who do you think will look more like a victim here.

the money you spent on your wife and her family, I assume was a mutual decision to send (except for the last US400).. so why are you throwing all these back to her face? you said so yourself you wanted to help.

Anyhoo, my analysis here... you made the worst move when you took away her and her son's passport... that's going to really look bad in court. I tell you, if I'm not mistaken.. that's tantamount to domestic violence. Domestic violence need not be physical, it can be mental or psychological.. she can really play this in court that you mentally abused her and psychologically abused her because by taking away the passport you put her under a 'slavery' attitude (can't escape = doom), psychological torture BS. Sorry man, this really looks bad for you. If she can therefore play on this piece of info, as i'm sure the women's right group will advise her to do so.. and you get divorce, you will still be liable to support her at least for another 7 years (saw this somewhere in the internet).

So, my advice.. get a lawyer... get a really really good lawyer. hire an investigator.. if she slips up and go to her bf.. you're lucky.

I'm sorry this happened to you... next time be wise.. investigate before getting married.

[Maire 1]

Wow this was really a long one...that sux...but it happens all the time...If i remember right he said his court date was March 23rd...I wonder how it went...it would be very helpful if people just dont come for the advise but also tell us how it went...

[Zen Den 18]

Your post is really long, I have some comments and questions for you.

When you marry to a Dominican woman, and you have money if her family needs help, then you are supposed to help in the way you can, it means money, clothes, medicine or medical attention whatever it is.

You started a very bad conversation when you talked to her about that you called to immigration for deporting her and her son. Why you didn´t hire a detective? You started the fire like we say here.

If she is in a safe house, she needs money for her and her son living expenses, if she took that money was because she needed it. You are talking like if you was stealing from you. You were her husband you are financially responsible for her, you signed the affidavit of support, right???

Now that you got the emails and other stuff with her ex, now you have something but you started all this mess for a simple comment about something that somebody said to you.

Maybe she loved you but you pushed a button, never do that again.

Good luck!!!!

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is this true about marrying domican women? coz helping your wie's family is totally ok if you have extra money and you do it willingly, but does dominican culture obligate the husband to help the rest of the family? just curious

[Krikit 1,165]

Moving to the Major Changes forum.

[R de la R 2]

Good luck!!!!

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is this true about marrying domican women? coz helping your wie's family is totally ok if you have extra money and you do it willingly, but does dominican culture obligate the husband to help the rest of the family? just curious

It is not obligatory but if you or your husband have extra money, and you family has basic needs, you are suppose to help. Not to give them your back.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Just wondering why it is that you believe your "wife" has to ask your permission to use funds that are in a joint account? Granted you may have earned those funds, but what perplexes me is your notion of the fact that after marriage, what's yours is yours. She isn't a neighbour, she's your wife.

I can provide sufficient evidence. I have Western Union and La Nacional money transfer receipts in my wives name as the sender to various family members. Keep in mind she has no job, and was sending large sums of $ (no idea) where it came from to the DR. I personally think she took $ from our account in the DR (however it is a joint account, however all the $ in there was mine at the time she took the $). Again, this is tough to prove as she is the primary on that account. I also found Western Union money receipts sent to a boyfriend (I believe) who is here in the US now as he is/was a minor league baseball player (currently released and without a job), but who is originally from the DR.

Beacuse of the events that have gone on since last week and my infidelity suspicions, I have reviewed all cell-phone calls made and received by my wife for the last year, and there are over 200 phone calls and texts + photos exchanged, made/received between my wife and the alleged boyfriend. This I'm sure is significant proof for the USCIS.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I have sufficient proof that she clearly married me fraudulently and for the sole purposes of receiving immigration benefits.

You do? I don't see proof in your explanation of the facts. The fact of the matter as I see it is that you are reaping the rewards of having "called her bluff". Of course she would have recourse, provided by an immigrants' assistance group. You were threatening to have her deported, when you don't have the right or the power to do so. You should simply have honoured her request and proceeded to divorce.

[headoverheels 0]

Your post is really long, I have some comments and questions for you.

When you marry to a Dominican woman, and you have money if her family needs help, then you are supposed to help in the way you can, it means money, clothes, medicine or medical attention whatever it is.

You started a very bad conversation when you talked to her about that you called to immigration for deporting her and her son. Why you didn´t hire a detective? You started the fire like we say here.

If she is in a safe house, she needs money for her and her son living expenses, if she took that money was because she needed it. You are talking like if you was stealing from you. You were her husband you are financially responsible for her, you signed the affidavit of support, right???

Now that you got the emails and other stuff with her ex, now you have something but you started all this mess for a simple comment about something that somebody said to you.

Maybe she loved you but you pushed a button, never do that again.

Good luck!!!!

Well ..she demanded divorce immediately.....she walked away. Divorce her and send her back to domican republic where she belongs!!!

[headoverheels 0]

Begin the Divorce process and just let her go back to Dominican republic and let her family ex-boyfriend pay for her tickets.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Good Gravy - paragraphs next time

To the OP -

Lawyer time. Cancel your support affidavit, divorce, walk away.

Seems she is playing hardball by getting the protection order, may even attempt to VAWA.

Get your ducks in a row, or you may end up supporting her for a very long time.

(note: I am basing this on what the OP says, two sides to the story, yada yada yada)

I like how you boil things down and cut to the chase.

Based on the wife from DRz attitude as described by the OP, we get a feel for her true colors, which are absolutely horrible. DR wife sounds like wives that american men divorce. I feel bad for you, but cut all ties and cut your losses with her. Be glad if you can cancel your affidavit of support and not be on the hook to her.

If she did it for a green card, what does she really have here in the US, if she doesnt have a decent secure job, family or man here? Sounds like she would do better to go back home to family, bf in DR.

Good luck!

[nycgirl 13]

Just wondering why it is that you believe your "wife" has to ask your permission to use funds that are in a joint account? Granted you may have earned those funds, but what perplexes me is your notion of the fact that after marriage, what's yours is yours. She isn't a neighbour, she's your wife.

I'm sorry, I don't care how much I love my husband, if he started plundering our joint bank account, for WHATEVER reason, we would have words. Doesn't matter who earned it. When large amounts of funds are withdrawn, there MUST be a discussion first. In all marriages. Even Donald Trump's!!

[B&Gie 0]

Ouch, what a mess. From reading your account I get a confrontational, controlling, paranoid vibe. I'm not saying you necessarily are like that, but that's the impression I get from reading your story. Now that may just be you writing style, and after what's happened you clearly do have some reason to be angry and suspicious.

The wife sounds like (1) a gold digging green card scammer or (2) a dumb slu.....person of limited intelligence and unrestrained relations, who genuinely doesn't realize that seeing her boyfriend(s) and funding them with your money is going to cause problems. I suppose it could also be (3) a decent girl who was driven away by an angry paranoid husband. I haven't the foggiest idea which it really is, though I'm lean toward 1 or 2.

Like on of the earlier posters said, taking her passport was a HUGE mistake, and you might loose just based on that. I'll elaborate a bit on the why of that. I totally understand why you did it, it's not that unreasonable, and it doesn't make you a bad person. However, in the eyes of the law it is a very serious transgression and puts you in company with some very nasty criminals. Pimps take the IDs of their hos. Brothels/dodgey massage shops take the IDs of their illegal workers. Drug dealers and loan sharks take the IDs of people who owe them money. Factory owners who use debt-bonded(slave) workers take their IDs to keep them from escaping. You took her passport to stop her from leaving. Withholding someone's ID, especially a female immigrant, is associated with the worst kinds of human trafficking. The laws are written for that and unfortunately it sounds like you violated those laws. I know you're not like them and didn't have bad intentions when you did it, but boy her lawyer will have a field day with that one. Since you DID violate those laws the burden of proof is probably going to be on you to show that it was not malicious and hope they are feeling nice. Google is failing to give me the pertinent laws but if she presses charges I'm pretty sure there's a chance you could do some serious jail time. In some ways if might be better if you had smacked her around. Assault is only a misdemeanor, while the passport thing gets into shades of bondage/trafficking in persons so it might well be a felony. I'd say you need a good lawyer ASAP. Hopefully you won't get burned too bad by any of this, but if this was chess you just lost your queen a few turns into the game...you might still win but you're gonna have to be careful and play a heck of a game.

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