Need Help. I think I have been scammed for K-3 Visa by my Dominican wife

[Dakine 26]

Make Infopass and take a notarized letter yanking the I-864.

[MMW 2]

I have read everyone's post and my question to the OP is what do you see as your part in this? Everything is about you being a victim, what about her too? You were jealous without proof on hearsay, you threatened her with deportation, you accused her of stealing money(which in my marriage is joint property) which she sent to help her family as you admitted you found out. She is in a strange country and knows little about how things work so yes a woman group would tell her do this do that. But what have you done to save the marriage or even understand your WIFE"S side of it. I am not defending her in any way but a marriage is not disposable it is hard work and needs constant understanding. Unconditional Love is exactly that UNCONDITIONAL. From what you posted you admit to doing just the opposite. So again my question would be what is your part in this? Just something to consider. Best of luck with it and my wife and I will include your situation in our prayers. May God be with you and your family.

[KevinB 0]

So, do I get the divorce done in Honduras? I called the attorney that married us in Honduras this weekend and he's looking into the process as I am here in the USA (NY) as is my Dominican wife. Do I contact a divorce attorney here now as well? Keep in mind I never registered the marriage here in the USA or New York. I just sent the translated copy of the marriage certificates into the USCIS to accompany all the paperwork for the I-130, I-129F, I-485 and I-765. I've never made contact or registered the marriage locally. I'm confused on next steps here in the USA as it relates to the divorce?

[Troy W 0]

So, do I get the divorce done in Honduras? I called the attorney that married us in Honduras this weekend and he's looking into the process as I am here in the USA (NY) as is my Dominican wife. Do I contact a divorce attorney here now as well? Keep in mind I never registered the marriage here in the USA or New York. I just sent the translated copy of the marriage certificates into the USCIS to accompany all the paperwork for the I-130, I-129F, I-485 and I-765. I've never made contact or registered the marriage locally. I'm confused on next steps here in the USA as it relates to the divorce?

Withdraw your affidavit of support as said above and file for a divorce here in the states, any divorce lawyer here can handle the divorce. In the US you get divorced in the state and county of your residency. Divorce is a simple procedure (by law) here in most states, it is the divorcing parties that make it complicated.

[Tiggi247 0]

I have read everyone's post and my question to the OP is what do you see as your part in this? Everything is about you being a victim, what about her too? You were jealous without proof on hearsay, you threatened her with deportation, you accused her of stealing money(which in my marriage is joint property) which she sent to help her family as you admitted you found out. She is in a strange country and knows little about how things work so yes a woman group would tell her do this do that. But what have you done to save the marriage or even understand your WIFE"S side of it. I am not defending her in any way but a marriage is not disposable it is hard work and needs constant understanding. Unconditional Love is exactly that UNCONDITIONAL. From what you posted you admit to doing just the opposite. So again my question would be what is your part in this? Just something to consider. Best of luck with it and my wife and I will include your situation in our prayers. May God be with you and your family.

Well said so many people are just ready to throw in the towel and just give up

[tomuts 0]

I think you should take a breather and get a lawyer to help you with making sure your finances are protected and explain to him the case. If you love her then maybe you should take a step back and think if you have changed any and wether some of her changes are a result of your unnoticed changes.

If they are seek marriage couceling and fall back into love.

[n0pr0blemx 0]

Wow!!!

I thank God everyday that my ex-fiance was stupid enough to show her true self before we started the K1 process. Had some nagging thoughts that wouldn't go away and (don't hate me for my tactics) checked her email. The email was filed with letters to men and a cousin. She confessed to her cousin about wanting the visa very bad and how she was going to make sure she completed her education before divorcing me.

Funny how love and hope can blind you.....

Luckily I did not let this crushing experience to ruin my trust in love. I found a true angel not in the Philippines but in Colombia. Someone that has already proven she can take the good with the bad. Someone that truly loves me more than themselves. Thanks be to God!!!!

Sorry for your pain. A divorce (or breakup in my case) hurts. But knowing that what you thought was love was all a big lie, is the worse feeling ever. I know the pain and how it will make you view future relationships. Work through it; fight through the mistrust. It is difficult and the mistrust will come but don't let someones lies keep you from true love.

Sincere Prayers,

Tom

[mrsjeffs 0]

My question to the OP is y did u take her passport?? There she has a case to prove that u were controlling.....

[DEDixon 39]

You were jealous without proof on hearsay

He wasn't jealous, he was concerned.

you threatened her with deportation

He didn't threaten deportation. She had already implied it by speaking of divorce so she was deporting herself. He told her that he would give her what she wanted.... an immediate divorce. People have to be careful about what they say, because the other party has a right to take what was said seriously.

you accused her of stealing money(which in my marriage is joint property) which she sent to help her family as you admitted you found out.

He didn't accuse her, he asked her about it and she confessed. She was the only possible candidate other than fraud... before assuming fraud, best to "ask" your spouse. Cash is not joint property in all marriages and neither are a lot of other things.

She is in a strange country

So what, all the more reason to either stay home or go back to the DR, not run off to some women's group or immigrant group to dream up some basis for leaving him. If she doesn't want to be with him, then simply pack one's bags and calmly leave the country. She wanted to leave him, but remain in country, that is BS.

Unconditional Love is exactly that UNCONDITIONAL.

Everyone has a limit, even you.

My question to the OP is y did u take her passport?? There she has a case to prove that u were controlling.....

He was concerned about her disappearing since he brought her to the US. That is not controlling, that is being responsible.

[DEDixon 39]

you accused her of stealing money(which in my marriage is joint property) which she sent to help her family as you admitted you found out.

One more thing about this one.... it is always the one's that have nothing to lose that are eager to claim "joint property." Get your own 2 million in the bank, get married and then see how easy it is to think of it as "joint property."

[AaronM 0]

What a shame , " does anyone ever test , the person they love , too see if their a gold digger anymore "?. If you do , you will know their real intention

[meowmeowmeow 1]

You don't give a timeline nor any indication of where you live in the U.S. In any event, just know that the Department of State oversees all of the consulates, and all of them will treat your husband the same way--that he is guilty of being a potential terrorist until he is proven innocent. Though it happens all the time, for a Muslim to marry a Christian is against the Muslim teachings and traditions. That's another source of suspicion. In this country, it seems that Pakistanis tend not to integrate into American culture very readily, and for this and other reasons are not readily trusted. It will be a difficult process because the bottom line is that he is a Pakistani national, simply studying in the Phils, and a Muslim living in a country that is worried about the growth of Islam. For all the wrong reasons, it will be tough.

One thing I suggest is to contact some firms and ask if they have pro-bono services. Many of these big firms nowadays are killing themselves over doing as much pro-bono work in the community as possible. Perhaps you can find someone who can help you settle your situation for free.

Start the divorce proceedings, and make a list of your suspicions and everything you've gone through so far. I don't know where you live, but in NJ there are some lawyers that take only $200 to get divorced, if there are no kids involved. And since this is not your blood child anyways, it doesn't matter.

Get testimonies from your friends and family who can verify your version of the events that have occured and get them notarized and submitted as evidence along with your divorce paperwork.

And the most obvious, from what everyone else said as well, is to withdraw your support and call USCIS and inform them that you are withdrawing your support because your suspect fraud. I would like to hope that even though the situation has gone on pretty far ahead in the process, you can still help to plant some major red flags in her life, and hopefully these people will see them when it comes to her trying to push her status forward.

I am sorry for what you went through. I have been there But it will pass, believe me...just have patience, but in this case, please have a clear mind and act quickly. Your state of mind and life depend on it!

Good luck!

Kat

[Giovanni77 0]

Never talk to her directly again and divorce as fast as possible is the best thing to do. Don't give her another chance. She has shown you how she deals with conflict - by not dealing with it and by involving every possible agency known to WOMAN.

Really, if she calls you, hang up!!! The only word you need to get to her is the name and number of your lawyer - communicate through your lawyer only.

People that involve outside agencies for minor things such as this from the get-go are never going see anything other than what is good for them. Please them today and tomorrow they are asking what have you done for me lately.

I'm so sorry.. but I think she will file for VAWA ...

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you need some advices..

[SuperDuper! 230]

And so many people think that a prenup is a bad thing, unromantic, yadda, yadda, yadda. Wise up, men!

[minimule 3]

I am sure u have been thru a lot, and i can see u have a big heart .but hidding her papers like you did, and false deportation accusation, ect are just WRONG!!!

u really do seem like u mean well, but remember we all see things a certain way, and we always think we re right, but the thing is, im sure u guys both have faults in this mess...did she marry you for he papers? i don t know... in this world, everything is possible... but it is also possible that she didn t marry you for her papers and that ur constants doubts and accusations pushed her away... You do talk about money a lot, and in my opinion, but i don t see others members complaining about how much money they spent on their fiances....now it seems like im attacking you, but im really not, im trying to make you see that maybe and that is a lil maybe, there is a chance that you can see things from a different point of views, i m sorry ur going thru this kind of pain and trouble, and i really do hope ur situation gets better, if the divorce goes thru, my thoughts to you is to not be bitter, and end this all thing in the nicest and fastest way you can, and along the way ull realize you did the right thing....i do believe in karma and if she did marry you for the wrong reasos, she ll someday pay the consequences

AGAIN GOOD LUCk