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trinket Experienced

trinket   30

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The only marriage counseling that you need to know is here:

THE RULES (FROM MEN TO WOMEN)

3. Don't cut your hair. EVER.

Hmm I don't get it, why is it a rule :wacko:

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3. Don't cut your hair. EVER.
Hmm I don't get it, why is it a rule
(Sigh) This is one of the several (not many, not few) things in life that All Men Agree Upon Without Argument, but No Women Have a Clue About: women's hair should be LONG and STRAIGHT and never, EVER mess with it!!!!! I like Rule #31 best, actually. And #1. :)

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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Dr. Obvious Experienced

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3. Don't cut your hair. EVER.
Hmm I don't get it, why is it a rule
(Sigh) This is one of the several (not many, not few) things in life that All Men Agree Upon Without Argument, but No Women Have a Clue About: women's hair should be LONG and STRAIGHT and never, EVER mess with it!!!!! I like Rule #31 best, actually. And #1. :)

My husband told me a soccer mom cut might be grounds for divorce. :rofl:

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lucyrich Proficient

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We're coming up on our fifth anniversary, and we've been through joy, grief, fights, love, and a few years of raising our daughter together, and I'm still sometimes amazed at some subtle cultural differences. BTW, we're very much in love, thank you.

One of the stark differences is the amount of faith placed in trained professionals versus the faith placed in "going with the gut", or talking with close friends who have no training nor credentials, but seem to more-or-less have their heads on straight. Also, some cultures have much less of a tendency to want to air personal feelings in front of strangers, even if the strangers are well trained professionals.

So before you say, "Oh, honey, I made reservations for us at this wonderful marriage encounter weekend", it may be interesting to probe your partner's feelings and cultural attitudes in this area. And find out what his/her attitudes are toward self-help books.

And if you can find other bicultural couples with the same cultural backgrounds as yourselves, you may find them becoming very valuable friends and resources.

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About a month ago the NPR radio program This American Life did a show on an intercultural relationship between a US man and Chinese woman. They had a very romantic beginning, and then he brought her to the US on a K-1 visa, and they married. But after living together for awhile, they realized that they didn't have that much in common. They finally worked through it, and fell in love a second time, on a different level. One of the interesting quotes, and I'm paraphrasing wildly from memory here, was, "Everybody asks how you met and fell in love. Rarely does anyone ask how you managed to stay together. But it's in the staying together, more so than the meeting, where true love and romance lies".

04 Apr, 2004: Got married

05 Apr, 2004: I-130 Sent to CSC

13 Apr, 2004: I-130 NOA 1

19 Apr, 2004: I-129F Sent to MSC

29 Apr, 2004: I-129F NOA 1

13 Aug, 2004: I-130 Approved by CSC

28 Dec, 2004: I-130 Case Complete at NVC

18 Jan, 2005: Got the visa approved in Caracas

22 Jan, 2005: Flew home together! CCS->MIA->SFO

25 May, 2005: I-129F finally approved! We won't pursue it.

8 June, 2006: Our baby girl is born!

24 Oct, 2006: Window for filing I-751 opens

25 Oct, 2006: I-751 mailed to CSC

18 Nov, 2006: I-751 NOA1 received from CSC

30 Nov, 2006: I-751 Biometrics taken

05 Apr, 2007: I-751 approved, card production ordered

23 Jan, 2008: N-400 sent to CSC via certified mail

19 Feb, 2008: N-400 Biometrics taken

27 Mar, 2008: Naturalization interview notice received (NOA2 for N-400)

30 May, 2008: Naturalization interview, passed the test!

17 June, 2008: Naturalization oath notice mailed

15 July, 2008: Naturalization oath ceremony!

16 July, 2008: Registered to vote and applied for US passport

26 July, 2008: US Passport arrived.

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About a month ago the NPR radio program This American Life did a show on an intercultural relationship between a US man and Chinese woman. They had a very romantic beginning, and then he brought her to the US on a K-1 visa, and they married. But after living together for awhile, they realized that they didn't have that much in common. They finally worked through it, and fell in love a second time, on a different level. One of the interesting quotes, and I'm paraphrasing wildly from memory here, was, "Everybody asks how you met and fell in love. Rarely does anyone ask how you managed to stay together. But it's in the staying together, more so than the meeting, where true love and romance lies".

Beautiful. :thumbs:

My SO and I are reading "1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married" by Monica Mendez Leahy. It's been great and helps us grow closer while so many miles apart.

K-1 Timeline

05/14/08 Engaged on my last day while visiting Bremen

07/03 Mailed 129f package

07/24 NOA1

12/05 NOA2

12/27 Packet 3 received

01/19/09 Medical in Hamburg

03/24 Successful interview at Frankfurt

03/31 Visa received

07/09 POE Salt Lake City

AOS/EAD/AP Timeline

08/22/09 Mailed package

08/28 NOA1

10/28 Biometrics completed; EAD card production ordered

11/07 EAD arrived

12/14 Successful AOS interview in Seattle

12/28/09 Greencard arrived

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Ed+Cindy   1

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My husband I lived together before we got married so that was our prep class. We also lived with a 89 year old Italian woman but that is another story....

Yup, we lived for 3 years together before the K-1 mess and sorted ALL our issues out...marriage will be no change but paperwork for us :)

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06.29.2011 Mailed I-751

09.22.2011 RFE

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