Advice lang po sa mga tulad ko...

[maritoni 3]

1st talk to your husband about your feelings. Keeping quiet wont help your situation.

2nd discipline the kids, kahit hindi mo anak yan, if they are in your house, your rules should be followed. Kids would try their best to get what they want. If they think they can push you, they would do that to you. They are kids and you are the adult. You should discipline the kids. Talk to them.

3rd you need a leash. or I will go with charles suggestion LOL

Charles's suggestion would make her situation even worse though

[rheanick 42]

1st talk to your husband about your feelings. Keeping quiet wont help your situation.

2nd discipline the kids, kahit hindi mo anak yan, if they are in your house, your rules should be followed. Kids would try their best to get what they want. If they think they can push you, they would do that to you. They are kids and you are the adult. You should discipline the kids. Talk to them.

3rd you need a leash. or I will go with charles suggestion LOL

Charles's suggestion would make her situation even worse though

The 3rd one was a joke. Notice the LOL (Laugh out Loud) at the end of the sentence.

Though very tempting to do it to those kids...

Seriously, Its about time that those kids learn some manners.

[maritoni 3]

1st talk to your husband about your feelings. Keeping quiet wont help your situation.

2nd discipline the kids, kahit hindi mo anak yan, if they are in your house, your rules should be followed. Kids would try their best to get what they want. If they think they can push you, they would do that to you. They are kids and you are the adult. You should discipline the kids. Talk to them.

3rd you need a leash. or I will go with charles suggestion LOL

Charles's suggestion would make her situation even worse though

The 3rd one was a joke. Notice the LOL (Laugh out Loud) at the end of the sentence.

Though very tempting to do it to those kids...

Seriously, Its about time that those kids learn some manners.

I know it was a joke

It is not really funny to look after brats..but sometimes as a mother i understand that it's just a part of growing up.but again all up to the parents how to educate them or teach them...you ever or your wife ever have a child?if so you know what i am saying...

Cheers...

Mj

[Loolie 56]

i feel sad for you...i wish everything will be okay...honestly i am thankful my husband is single and never had kids from other women.

i know its hard on your part to discipline them because you have a two year old kid and you are pregnant...all you need to do now is tell your husband about what you feel...so he can make a new arrangement to her ex wife about the kids so you wont get so tired also.

you need to tell your husband about it...if you cant tell him because it will make you cry then just write all the things that you feel in a paper and let your husband read it...in that way you can tell him all the things thats bothering you.

God bless you and you take care.

[sj5 4]

Sorry to hear this. Your step children are fortunate with you. Anyway, you should be able to discipline your step children. If their mother or father get angry then tell them, you're not going to baby sit for them.

[miss_jane 0]

Magandang araw sa inyong lahat dyan...

Gusto ko lang humingi ng advice regarding my situation or my feelings...

Yung asawa ko kasi may mga anak sa unang asawa...Even when we're still chatting,alam ko nang may mga anak sya and it really didnt bother me at all kasi friendly naman ako sa mga bata..3 yung anak nya before at lahat ay mga boys..pero yung eldest nya,hindi dito sa amin nakatira kundi dun sa grandparents nya pero yung youngest which happens to be twins,9 years old dito sa amin nakatira...

Hindi nman sila araw-araw na nandito sa amin kasi every 2 days lang naman and then 2 days naman sa mother nila...

Now,I got here sa US just last year in August..During my couple of days or months here everything was perfectly fine...Hanggang sa unti-unti kong na obserbahan na ang mga anak ng asawa ko ( yung twins ) ay may mga ugaling hindi ko gusto..Maybe becoz hindi ako sanay sa ganong klaseng tao...

Very manipulative sila lalong-lalo na sa asawa ko.Super burara or makalat..Hindi nag flash ng toilet after mag poopoo..Smart mouth pa..Saka,alam nyo ba yung feelings na natutulog ka tapos gigisingin ka nila para lang ipag gawa sila ng peanut butter sandwhich or para ikuha sila ng baso sa cabinet...

Hindi ko pala na mention,may 2 years old na kami ng asawa ko at buntis ako ngayon ng 5 months..Lagi akong napapagod..Nagtatrabaho kasi asawa ko 12 hours..Tapos just almost 2 months ago,binago ng ex-wife ng asawa ko ang arrangement about sa mga bata kasi nga balik work na yung mother nila..Pag nasa kanya yung mga bata especially during weekdays,inihatid nya sila dito sa bahay ng mga 6 or 6:30 ng umaga tapos at 3pm dito uuwi yung mga bata from school then their mom will just pick them up around 4pm or sometimes 5pm...

I didnt have a say with the situation kasi wala namang ibang choice eh saka ok lang naman talaga sa akin...Saka sino ba naman ako para sabihin ko sa asawa na hindi pwede diba...ayoko namang ma offend sya saka ayokong mgka problema...

Ngayon,kasi nga sa ugali ng mga anak ng asawa ko...later on parang hindi na ako comfortable sa new arrangement...Siguro naman maintindihan nyo na kelangan ko ring magpahinga kahit konti or sandali man lang,diba..Lalo na't may 2 years old pa akong inaalagaan..Tapos buntis pa ako..Hindi na ako comfortable in a way na,im having less rest lately...Lagi akong napapagod and nahihilo...Pag hinatid dito ng x-wife yung mga bata around 6 or 6:30 tapos nata-on na kelangan pumasok sa work yung husband ko...Ako ang gigising ng maaga para ihanda sila sa school around 7:30am..which I know its my responsibility..Then in the afternoon,babalik sila dito around 3pm to wait for their mom but you have to deal with everything they'll do kasi nga super makalat..tapos hindi ka talaga tantanan kasi laging may gustong ipagawa sayo kahit alam mo namang kaya nila yun...Hindi naman ako yung tipo ng tao na maging mean sa kanila or pagagalitan sila kasi feel ko nga,wala akong right na gawin yun at saka as much as possible,kelangan kong makibagay sa kanila kahit medyo nahihirapan ako kasi ayokong mgka problema..Para kasing...kaya ko na lang sigurong tiisin lahat ng pagod basta wag lang malaman ng asawa ko ang mga nangyayari habang wala sya...

May mga times nga iiyak na lang ako patago kasi sa frustration at saka minsan kasi,sinasagot ako ng mga anak ng asawa ko...Kung pagiging sensitive lang ang pag-uusapan...naku...Super sensitive ako sa mga bagay na yan..Hindi kasi ako nasanay to be treated like that eh..Hindi rin naman ako ganun sa mga magulang ko..Nasasaktan din ako pag sinagot-sagot nila yung father nila or nag dedemand ng kung anu-ano..Hindi naman mayaman asawa ko saka yung work nga nya medyo mahina na ngayon..Gusto ko lang naman maintindihan nila ang sitwasyon namin ngayon but it seems like they dont care...And then just about 1 week ago,sinagot-sagot na naman ako ng isa sa mga anak ng asawa ko...that time,narinig na asawa ko ang nangyari..pinagalitan nya ito but the damage has been done,ika nga..nasaktan na ako eh..umiyak na naman ako sa banyo..Ayoko kasing nakikita ng asawa ko na nahihirapan na rin ako..Pero parang na feel nya na affected talaga ako...3 days akong hindi kumi-kibo sa bahay..by that time,off work yung asawa ko so sya ang nag hahandle sa mga bata..I know nararamdaman nya ang pagiging tahimik ko kasi hindi naman ako ganun.Madaldal ako eh..Tapos,before kami matutulog,he'll ask me what's wrong..gusto ko na rin naman sanang e-share sa kanya ang nararamdaman ko eh..kaso lang,na unahan ako ng doubt..at saka mas ma-unang tutulo ang luha ko before I can say anything else...Mas nahihirapan ako pag ganun..Pero mas mahirap kung nararamdaman mo na worried din ang asawa mo...Mas mahirap kung ang sasabihin mo sa kanya ay tungkol sa kanyang mga anak...Mas mahirap kung alam mong masasaktan din sya..Mas mahirap kung alam mong mahihirapan din sya pag nalaman nyang ganun na pala ang nararamdaman ko about his kids...At ang pinaka mahirap....Mahal mo syang sobra at ayaw mong masaktan sya...

Ano bang dapat kong gawin?

Hi, sa akin iba naman ang situation ko but it is also about my stepson. Yung anak ng partner ko dito siya every weekend and kinukuha din siya ng partner ko most of the time during weekdays. Tapos yung partner ko tintabihan talaga yung anak niya sa pagtulog. I just felt bad kasi palagi lang yung attention niya nasa anak niya and we don't even much have time for each other.

[Ban Hammer 13,135]

1st talk to your husband about your feelings. Keeping quiet wont help your situation.

2nd discipline the kids, kahit hindi mo anak yan, if they are in your house, your rules should be followed. Kids would try their best to get what they want. If they think they can push you, they would do that to you. They are kids and you are the adult. You should discipline the kids. Talk to them.

3rd you need a leash. or I will go with charles suggestion LOL

Charles's suggestion would make her situation even worse though

if that one above don't work, try a little tough love. take them out for a drive......

[maritoni 3]

1st talk to your husband about your feelings. Keeping quiet wont help your situation.

2nd discipline the kids, kahit hindi mo anak yan, if they are in your house, your rules should be followed. Kids would try their best to get what they want. If they think they can push you, they would do that to you. They are kids and you are the adult. You should discipline the kids. Talk to them.

3rd you need a leash. or I will go with charles suggestion LOL

Charles's suggestion would make her situation even worse though

if that one above don't work, try a little tough love. take them out for a drive......

Nasty Charles!

[maritoni 3]

Magandang araw sa inyong lahat dyan...

Gusto ko lang humingi ng advice regarding my situation or my feelings...

Yung asawa ko kasi may mga anak sa unang asawa...Even when we're still chatting,alam ko nang may mga anak sya and it really didnt bother me at all kasi friendly naman ako sa mga bata..3 yung anak nya before at lahat ay mga boys..pero yung eldest nya,hindi dito sa amin nakatira kundi dun sa grandparents nya pero yung youngest which happens to be twins,9 years old dito sa amin nakatira...

Hindi nman sila araw-araw na nandito sa amin kasi every 2 days lang naman and then 2 days naman sa mother nila...

Now,I got here sa US just last year in August..During my couple of days or months here everything was perfectly fine...Hanggang sa unti-unti kong na obserbahan na ang mga anak ng asawa ko ( yung twins ) ay may mga ugaling hindi ko gusto..Maybe becoz hindi ako sanay sa ganong klaseng tao...

Very manipulative sila lalong-lalo na sa asawa ko.Super burara or makalat..Hindi nag flash ng toilet after mag poopoo..Smart mouth pa..Saka,alam nyo ba yung feelings na natutulog ka tapos gigisingin ka nila para lang ipag gawa sila ng peanut butter sandwhich or para ikuha sila ng baso sa cabinet...

Hindi ko pala na mention,may 2 years old na kami ng asawa ko at buntis ako ngayon ng 5 months..Lagi akong napapagod..Nagtatrabaho kasi asawa ko 12 hours..Tapos just almost 2 months ago,binago ng ex-wife ng asawa ko ang arrangement about sa mga bata kasi nga balik work na yung mother nila..Pag nasa kanya yung mga bata especially during weekdays,inihatid nya sila dito sa bahay ng mga 6 or 6:30 ng umaga tapos at 3pm dito uuwi yung mga bata from school then their mom will just pick them up around 4pm or sometimes 5pm...

I didnt have a say with the situation kasi wala namang ibang choice eh saka ok lang naman talaga sa akin...Saka sino ba naman ako para sabihin ko sa asawa na hindi pwede diba...ayoko namang ma offend sya saka ayokong mgka problema...

Ngayon,kasi nga sa ugali ng mga anak ng asawa ko...later on parang hindi na ako comfortable sa new arrangement...Siguro naman maintindihan nyo na kelangan ko ring magpahinga kahit konti or sandali man lang,diba..Lalo na't may 2 years old pa akong inaalagaan..Tapos buntis pa ako..Hindi na ako comfortable in a way na,im having less rest lately...Lagi akong napapagod and nahihilo...Pag hinatid dito ng x-wife yung mga bata around 6 or 6:30 tapos nata-on na kelangan pumasok sa work yung husband ko...Ako ang gigising ng maaga para ihanda sila sa school around 7:30am..which I know its my responsibility..Then in the afternoon,babalik sila dito around 3pm to wait for their mom but you have to deal with everything they'll do kasi nga super makalat..tapos hindi ka talaga tantanan kasi laging may gustong ipagawa sayo kahit alam mo namang kaya nila yun...Hindi naman ako yung tipo ng tao na maging mean sa kanila or pagagalitan sila kasi feel ko nga,wala akong right na gawin yun at saka as much as possible,kelangan kong makibagay sa kanila kahit medyo nahihirapan ako kasi ayokong mgka problema..Para kasing...kaya ko na lang sigurong tiisin lahat ng pagod basta wag lang malaman ng asawa ko ang mga nangyayari habang wala sya...

May mga times nga iiyak na lang ako patago kasi sa frustration at saka minsan kasi,sinasagot ako ng mga anak ng asawa ko...Kung pagiging sensitive lang ang pag-uusapan...naku...Super sensitive ako sa mga bagay na yan..Hindi kasi ako nasanay to be treated like that eh..Hindi rin naman ako ganun sa mga magulang ko..Nasasaktan din ako pag sinagot-sagot nila yung father nila or nag dedemand ng kung anu-ano..Hindi naman mayaman asawa ko saka yung work nga nya medyo mahina na ngayon..Gusto ko lang naman maintindihan nila ang sitwasyon namin ngayon but it seems like they dont care...And then just about 1 week ago,sinagot-sagot na naman ako ng isa sa mga anak ng asawa ko...that time,narinig na asawa ko ang nangyari..pinagalitan nya ito but the damage has been done,ika nga..nasaktan na ako eh..umiyak na naman ako sa banyo..Ayoko kasing nakikita ng asawa ko na nahihirapan na rin ako..Pero parang na feel nya na affected talaga ako...3 days akong hindi kumi-kibo sa bahay..by that time,off work yung asawa ko so sya ang nag hahandle sa mga bata..I know nararamdaman nya ang pagiging tahimik ko kasi hindi naman ako ganun.Madaldal ako eh..Tapos,before kami matutulog,he'll ask me what's wrong..gusto ko na rin naman sanang e-share sa kanya ang nararamdaman ko eh..kaso lang,na unahan ako ng doubt..at saka mas ma-unang tutulo ang luha ko before I can say anything else...Mas nahihirapan ako pag ganun..Pero mas mahirap kung nararamdaman mo na worried din ang asawa mo...Mas mahirap kung ang sasabihin mo sa kanya ay tungkol sa kanyang mga anak...Mas mahirap kung alam mong masasaktan din sya..Mas mahirap kung alam mong mahihirapan din sya pag nalaman nyang ganun na pala ang nararamdaman ko about his kids...At ang pinaka mahirap....Mahal mo syang sobra at ayaw mong masaktan sya...

Ano bang dapat kong gawin?

Hi, sa akin iba naman ang situation ko but it is also about my stepson. Yung anak ng partner ko dito siya every weekend and kinukuha din siya ng partner ko most of the time during weekdays. Tapos yung partner ko tintabihan talaga yung anak niya sa pagtulog. I just felt bad kasi palagi lang yung attention niya nasa anak niya and we don't even much have time for each other.

I can imagine how you feel...so your'e jealous with the kid?

[DEDixon 39]

This should be a warning to Filipinas teaming up with men that have kids. Warning, because the game can change at anytime, especially after the honeymoon has ended.

Wow what a mess!

You are probably better off just ignoring his kids.... zone out... be a brat! You didn't sign up for no yaya job in the USA.

When he gets home throw dinner plates at him... start breaking things.... get loud... yell and scream!!!!!

[sunlyk 1]

some advise gone wild obviously they are just joking around. I really love my SD she even sleep with us whenever she is with us she is so adorable. It took me time to adjust her and she feel comfortable with me. She always make puppy face with me when she want something but I have to be firm its part of disciplining and controlling to her behavior. I belong to other forum about Step Parenting it helps me understand children here in US and how to deal with step kids. Read online about Step parenting it can definately help you. I always communicate with my husband about her behavior and it is my husband as a primary disciplinarian to her. Look at the bigger picture it will also affect you bio kids behavior so as much as possible while you bio kid still little and another on the way, slowly fix the problem I know its not easy but if you know exactly how you will succeed. Just to make you happy that being step parent is also rewarding while writing this my SD is sleeping beside me and I was reading her story before that about our ALAMAT she might knows well our Philippine Literature than children in the Philippines.lol..

[-B&T- 1]

Magandang araw sa inyong lahat dyan...

Gusto ko lang humingi ng advice regarding my situation or my feelings...

Yung asawa ko kasi may mga anak sa unang asawa...Even when we're still chatting,alam ko nang may mga anak sya and it really didnt bother me at all kasi friendly naman ako sa mga bata..3 yung anak nya before at lahat ay mga boys..pero yung eldest nya,hindi dito sa amin nakatira kundi dun sa grandparents nya pero yung youngest which happens to be twins,9 years old dito sa amin nakatira...

Hindi nman sila araw-araw na nandito sa amin kasi every 2 days lang naman and then 2 days naman sa mother nila...

Now,I got here sa US just last year in August..During my couple of days or months here everything was perfectly fine...Hanggang sa unti-unti kong na obserbahan na ang mga anak ng asawa ko ( yung twins ) ay may mga ugaling hindi ko gusto..Maybe becoz hindi ako sanay sa ganong klaseng tao...

Very manipulative sila lalong-lalo na sa asawa ko.Super burara or makalat..Hindi nag flash ng toilet after mag poopoo..Smart mouth pa..Saka,alam nyo ba yung feelings na natutulog ka tapos gigisingin ka nila para lang ipag gawa sila ng peanut butter sandwhich or para ikuha sila ng baso sa cabinet...

Hindi ko pala na mention,may 2 years old na kami ng asawa ko at buntis ako ngayon ng 5 months..Lagi akong napapagod..Nagtatrabaho kasi asawa ko 12 hours..Tapos just almost 2 months ago,binago ng ex-wife ng asawa ko ang arrangement about sa mga bata kasi nga balik work na yung mother nila..Pag nasa kanya yung mga bata especially during weekdays,inihatid nya sila dito sa bahay ng mga 6 or 6:30 ng umaga tapos at 3pm dito uuwi yung mga bata from school then their mom will just pick them up around 4pm or sometimes 5pm...

I didnt have a say with the situation kasi wala namang ibang choice eh saka ok lang naman talaga sa akin...Saka sino ba naman ako para sabihin ko sa asawa na hindi pwede diba...ayoko namang ma offend sya saka ayokong mgka problema...

Ngayon,kasi nga sa ugali ng mga anak ng asawa ko...later on parang hindi na ako comfortable sa new arrangement...Siguro naman maintindihan nyo na kelangan ko ring magpahinga kahit konti or sandali man lang,diba..Lalo na't may 2 years old pa akong inaalagaan..Tapos buntis pa ako..Hindi na ako comfortable in a way na,im having less rest lately...Lagi akong napapagod and nahihilo...Pag hinatid dito ng x-wife yung mga bata around 6 or 6:30 tapos nata-on na kelangan pumasok sa work yung husband ko...Ako ang gigising ng maaga para ihanda sila sa school around 7:30am..which I know its my responsibility..Then in the afternoon,babalik sila dito around 3pm to wait for their mom but you have to deal with everything they'll do kasi nga super makalat..tapos hindi ka talaga tantanan kasi laging may gustong ipagawa sayo kahit alam mo namang kaya nila yun...Hindi naman ako yung tipo ng tao na maging mean sa kanila or pagagalitan sila kasi feel ko nga,wala akong right na gawin yun at saka as much as possible,kelangan kong makibagay sa kanila kahit medyo nahihirapan ako kasi ayokong mgka problema..Para kasing...kaya ko na lang sigurong tiisin lahat ng pagod basta wag lang malaman ng asawa ko ang mga nangyayari habang wala sya...

May mga times nga iiyak na lang ako patago kasi sa frustration at saka minsan kasi,sinasagot ako ng mga anak ng asawa ko...Kung pagiging sensitive lang ang pag-uusapan...naku...Super sensitive ako sa mga bagay na yan..Hindi kasi ako nasanay to be treated like that eh..Hindi rin naman ako ganun sa mga magulang ko..Nasasaktan din ako pag sinagot-sagot nila yung father nila or nag dedemand ng kung anu-ano..Hindi naman mayaman asawa ko saka yung work nga nya medyo mahina na ngayon..Gusto ko lang naman maintindihan nila ang sitwasyon namin ngayon but it seems like they dont care...And then just about 1 week ago,sinagot-sagot na naman ako ng isa sa mga anak ng asawa ko...that time,narinig na asawa ko ang nangyari..pinagalitan nya ito but the damage has been done,ika nga..nasaktan na ako eh..umiyak na naman ako sa banyo..Ayoko kasing nakikita ng asawa ko na nahihirapan na rin ako..Pero parang na feel nya na affected talaga ako...3 days akong hindi kumi-kibo sa bahay..by that time,off work yung asawa ko so sya ang nag hahandle sa mga bata..I know nararamdaman nya ang pagiging tahimik ko kasi hindi naman ako ganun.Madaldal ako eh..Tapos,before kami matutulog,he'll ask me what's wrong..gusto ko na rin naman sanang e-share sa kanya ang nararamdaman ko eh..kaso lang,na unahan ako ng doubt..at saka mas ma-unang tutulo ang luha ko before I can say anything else...Mas nahihirapan ako pag ganun..Pero mas mahirap kung nararamdaman mo na worried din ang asawa mo...Mas mahirap kung ang sasabihin mo sa kanya ay tungkol sa kanyang mga anak...Mas mahirap kung alam mong masasaktan din sya..Mas mahirap kung alam mong mahihirapan din sya pag nalaman nyang ganun na pala ang nararamdaman ko about his kids...At ang pinaka mahirap....Mahal mo syang sobra at ayaw mong masaktan sya...

Ano bang dapat kong gawin?

Tough situation.Ano ba yan ginawa ka naman ata slave diyan kapatid. Kausapin mo asawa mo huwag ka martir at iiyak na lang sa tago sabihin mo kung ano nangyayari at yung nararamdaman mo.Masama yan sa health mo lalo na buntis ka naku ang baby mo nagsa-suffer din yan di mo lang alam.

[Mrs.Cage 0]

This should be a warning to Filipinas teaming up with men that have kids. Warning, because the game can change at anytime, especially after the honeymoon has ended.

Wow what a mess!

You are probably better off just ignoring his kids.... zone out... be a brat! You didn't sign up for no yaya job in the USA.

When he gets home throw dinner plates at him... start breaking things.... get loud... yell and scream!!!!!

[Yogurt 0]

You should speak up with your husband tell your feelings. Being quite will not solve the problem. For sure he loves you and his children. He will understand you. If you feel like you cant dicipline them because of you are afraid of what their mama and papa will think of you, then maybe asking your husband's permission of disciplining his children maybe will make you feel free to dicipline them the better way just like the way how you will dicipline your own child because you love them and make them good children.

[rheanick 42]

This should be a warning to Filipinas teaming up with men that have kids. Warning, because the game can change at anytime, especially after the honeymoon has ended.

Wow what a mess!

You are probably better off just ignoring his kids.... zone out... be a brat! You didn't sign up for no yaya job in the USA.

When he gets home throw dinner plates at him... start breaking things.... get loud... yell and scream!!!!!

If you can't beat them, join them. Be a BRAT too.