March 2009 K1 Filer

[Danu 19]

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So sad news for me today, I was laid off. I'm the bene, so no problems with co-sponsors but its shitty cuz now the move is going to be strained on budget. Wes said on the plus side if the paperwork comes through faster I can just go down there right away so that I can start working there quicker....*sigh* I feel pretty aweful.

[viknkam 0]

Today I saw a post at another forum by a member who had their NOA2 and had sent their petition in March. Unfortunately, I don't know ANY details about their case at all-whether it was expedited etc-so there might have been other factors that caused it to be processed faster than ours.

I have this feeling that as soon as one March filer receives their NOA2, many others will follow close after. I hope I am right.

I hope you are right too... this hope is the only thing that keeps me going. My fiance is done waiting. I'm going to India for a week at the end of the month with my mom to do wedding shopping, and he is ready to marry me then and apply for the K3. What he doesn't realize is that the clock starts over... Why are men so impatient? Do they think its easier for us women to be strong?

-Kam

[viknkam 0]

Hi everyone. I have been around, but posting to the VSC threads. I apologize for jumping ship, but all of this terminology and getting acquainted with the process and various branches has been a bit overwhelming.

About us: We met online and immediately started talking online. On day 1 we talked, on day 2 he told me he was going to marry me, and on day three he told me he loved me. I met him 2 months later in England, and the attraction, comfortable feeling of having met "the one" and an overall complete feeling took over both of us. We talk everyday whether it is for a few minutes or for hours. We talk on our cellphones so we use Skype-to-go (UK to US calling) and a calling card from Nobelcom.com (US to UK and India). If anyone knows of anything cheaper please let me know. This man was made for me, and I for him... but this long process makes me feel like something is wrong with me, and that this isn't real. That I really haven't found the most perfect person for me because I am being punished by God having to wait. We are both losing morale, and just overall- losing hope. It is very hard....

Please give me hope... today my lawyer sent me an email to contact INS because the NVC does not have any record of our case. I called USCIS 2 weeks ago and was told and have a receipt of our case. So, are things okay and my lawyer a lame duck? I just need to get our NO2 because we are getting desperate.

[Danu 19]

Hi everyone. I have been around, but posting to the VSC threads. I apologize for jumping ship, but all of this terminology and getting acquainted with the process and various branches has been a bit overwhelming.

About us: We met online and immediately started talking online. On day 1 we talked, on day 2 he told me he was going to marry me, and on day three he told me he loved me. I met him 2 months later in England, and the attraction, comfortable feeling of having met "the one" and an overall complete feeling took over both of us. We talk everyday whether it is for a few minutes or for hours. We talk on our cellphones so we use Skype-to-go (UK to US calling) and a calling card from Nobelcom.com (US to UK and India). If anyone knows of anything cheaper please let me know. This man was made for me, and I for him... but this long process makes me feel like something is wrong with me, and that this isn't real. That I really haven't found the most perfect person for me because I am being punished by God having to wait. We are both losing morale, and just overall- losing hope. It is very hard....

Please give me hope... today my lawyer sent me an email to contact INS because the NVC does not have any record of our case. I called USCIS 2 weeks ago and was told and have a receipt of our case. So, are things okay and my lawyer a lame duck? I just need to get our NO2 because we are getting desperate.

NVC wouldnt have a record of your case yet, they dont get it until the NOA2 is sent to you and USCIS sends them your petition to be forwarded to the embassy, so if this is what your lawyer told you, i think he is quackers (had to play on the duck pun lol). If USCIS has your record and you have the NOA1, I wouldnt worry.

I understand how you feel about being desperate, and about feeling like something is wrong with you. Tonight, due to the loss of my job, I have that feeling too. All kinds of weird thoughts went through my head like, why do things get given to be but taken away, and why things must be so difficult? I meet the perfect man, but hes 3000 miles away, have a job that I like for once thats not stressful and the economy tanks so I lose that. It makes me appriciate what I have so much more, but it still sucks so bad. And tonight I really wish I could be in Wes's arms. I just want to have him hold me and comfort me and be able to tell me everything is alright....in person.

[Wyld Blu 35]

Hi everyone. I have been around, but posting to the VSC threads. I apologize for jumping ship, but all of this terminology and getting acquainted with the process and various branches has been a bit overwhelming.

About us: We met online and immediately started talking online. On day 1 we talked, on day 2 he told me he was going to marry me, and on day three he told me he loved me. I met him 2 months later in England, and the attraction, comfortable feeling of having met "the one" and an overall complete feeling took over both of us. We talk everyday whether it is for a few minutes or for hours. We talk on our cellphones so we use Skype-to-go (UK to US calling) and a calling card from Nobelcom.com (US to UK and India). If anyone knows of anything cheaper please let me know. This man was made for me, and I for him... but this long process makes me feel like something is wrong with me, and that this isn't real. That I really haven't found the most perfect person for me because I am being punished by God having to wait. We are both losing morale, and just overall- losing hope. It is very hard....

Please give me hope... today my lawyer sent me an email to contact INS because the NVC does not have any record of our case. I called USCIS 2 weeks ago and was told and have a receipt of our case. So, are things okay and my lawyer a lame duck? I just need to get our NO2 because we are getting desperate.

Don't lose hope yet. You only received your NOA1 a couple of days after me. I still haven't even got a "touch" on the USCIS website. In fact it has said the same date all along, March 3rd. But if you check Igor's list, you will see most people who received their NOA1 in March are still waiting. I am hoping to see the NOA2 by the end of this month, but it can take a LOT longer. My fiance and I use the webcam on Skype to chat free. It isn't perfect by any means, especially with my slow connection, but it works for us. It is VERY hard to wait and not be side by side with the one you love, but you are in good company here on VJ.

-Blu- (sighing heavily)

[FrostyMist 1]

So sorry to hear that some of you are going through some difficult times at the moment. Danu, that's such a shame about your job.

Things for me have quitened down at the moment (meaning I'm coping okay currently) but I think that's probably a large part to do with the fact that my guy is flying over here in less than 3 weeks. My thoughts go out to all those who are unable to be with their loves until their visa is approved.

My fiance is done waiting. I'm going to India for a week at the end of the month with my mom to do wedding shopping, and he is ready to marry me then and apply for the K3. What he doesn't realize is that the clock starts over... Why are men so impatient? Do they think its easier for us women to be strong?

I think men struggle the same way we do. My guy and I were just talking last night about how big a difference having webcam has made to things online. We only started using it after he went back to the US in January, and it has made the distance feeel a little less... distant.

Sometimes, I want to scrap in the whole K1 process and just do the "get married and wait for a K3" route, but this is not such a good idea at this point. I do not want to be married to him and yet be so far from him. I do not think I could cope with that, at all.

Plus, at this point, applying for a K3 would take even longer than waiting for the K1.

[Rainschild 0]

Danu, I'm really sorry about your job. Hopefully you'll get NOA2 soon so you can start working on getting your visa.

Viknkam, welcome to our March club and good luck with your journey!

[Danu 19]

So sorry to hear that some of you are going through some difficult times at the moment. Danu, that's such a shame about your job.

Things for me have quitened down at the moment (meaning I'm coping okay currently) but I think that's probably a large part to do with the fact that my guy is flying over here in less than 3 weeks. My thoughts go out to all those who are unable to be with their loves until their visa is approved.

My fiance is done waiting. I'm going to India for a week at the end of the month with my mom to do wedding shopping, and he is ready to marry me then and apply for the K3. What he doesn't realize is that the clock starts over... Why are men so impatient? Do they think its easier for us women to be strong?

I think men struggle the same way we do. My guy and I were just talking last night about how big a difference having webcam has made to things online. We only started using it after he went back to the US in January, and it has made the distance feeel a little less... distant.

Sometimes, I want to scrap in the whole K1 process and just do the "get married and wait for a K3" route, but this is not such a good idea at this point. I do not want to be married to him and yet be so far from him. I do not think I could cope with that, at all.

Plus, at this point, applying for a K3 would take even longer than waiting for the K1.

Thanks both of you

I totally agree that Skype and webcams help soooo much. Its one of the things that definately keeps us going, not sure if I could do it if I couldn't see him. I would say in our relationship though its definately me who is the impatient one. I've been trying not to drive him nuts while freaking out about the whole process lol. Have you explained to him that getting married voids the K1 and that starting the K3 not only means more money, but also more time, and that you also can't work until your AOS comes through? Maybe that would help him to understand a bit.

[emmaline_g 2]

Sorry about your job Danu. That's an awful feeling to get laid off (I got laid off/quit from my first real job--after a lot of yelling--and I think I stopped crying about a month later). But I have a feeling we will start seeing NOA2s in here soon and that things will work out for you.

FranziskaS, my thoughts are with the Air France victims too.

viknkam, hi! how are you! nice to meet you .. I think the impatience from the fiance is because being "husband and wife" is so much more SERIOUS than being "engaged" and we worry about the distance and want that extra serious link to each other. I think that is why sometimes people want to ditch the K1 and do K3 because if you have to wait, you might as well be married already and the K3 allows you to get married in the beneficiary's country if you want. There are also cultural/religious reasons that people want to get married fast. BUT I really do believe that all of our fiances will be here before 2010! Tell him to be patient for a little bit longer.

You are lucky that you guys can Skype with your fiances, for some reason in my apartment when I try to use Skype it just FAILS for audio and video is impossible. We do all our talking via cell phone and phone card (I use rebtel). Soooo, like I know the nuances of my fiance's voice really well... and it makes it that much more special when I do get to see his face for real... haha

-->happy 3 month anniversary to us for filing our petitions

[viknkam 0]

Thank you everyone. All of you have confirmed my suspicions. I will be a more regular poster now... I sincerely thank all of you. Last night/this morning was very hard for Vik... he is working a shitty cash-in-hand job as he is on a student visa and can't work more than 20 hours without violating his visa status. It's rough. He works from 4am-10/11pm at night pretty much M-F and on the weekends he works from 8-5. Those hours couples with 5,000 miles and an eight hour time difference make Skype video chat impossible (although we did yahoo chat for 5 mins once). Video is too hard for him. He can't see me and not want to be with me. I'm sure you can all relate to that feeling. There is a sense of helplessness in all of this, but the hope is that we are all waiting. We are all in the queue together. Once the February people are approved, it's our turn. March will have it's time. The hard part is feeling like I'm walking on pins and needles everyday with him, with my family, and with myself. There is the constant pressure of knowing that your life is incomplete because your SO is not by your side. There is even more angst about having to face the world alone and answer the questions about "where things are" and "when he will be here" and "when is the wedding." I mean honestly, do people think I'm a clairvoyant and can light a few candles then POOF it's done?! I think our parents are taking it pretty hard too. Our fathers have met each other, but our siblings and mothers have not met each other or us. What can a person do? I'm actually nervous, because when I go to India I will be meeting his family... and unless our NO2 comes by June 25th it will be without him...

[viknkam 0]

So sorry to hear that some of you are going through some difficult times at the moment. Danu, that's such a shame about your job.

Things for me have quitened down at the moment (meaning I'm coping okay currently) but I think that's probably a large part to do with the fact that my guy is flying over here in less than 3 weeks. My thoughts go out to all those who are unable to be with their loves until their visa is approved.

My fiance is done waiting. I'm going to India for a week at the end of the month with my mom to do wedding shopping, and he is ready to marry me then and apply for the K3. What he doesn't realize is that the clock starts over... Why are men so impatient? Do they think its easier for us women to be strong?

I think men struggle the same way we do. My guy and I were just talking last night about how big a difference having webcam has made to things online. We only started using it after he went back to the US in January, and it has made the distance feeel a little less... distant.

Sometimes, I want to scrap in the whole K1 process and just do the "get married and wait for a K3" route, but this is not such a good idea at this point. I do not want to be married to him and yet be so far from him. I do not think I could cope with that, at all.

Plus, at this point, applying for a K3 would take even longer than waiting for the K1.

I agree with everything you have said. The problem is that I'm marrying a mans man. I am ready to marry him yesterday... but I have to be the practical one and calm him down and explain how things are. Luckily he is amazing and agrees with everything I say or do and would never compromise anything... he won't even leave the UK because he doesn't want to have to explain his recent travels in the interview or have any hiccups with his police clearance. What a guy....

[viknkam 0]

Hi everyone. I have been around, but posting to the VSC threads. I apologize for jumping ship, but all of this terminology and getting acquainted with the process and various branches has been a bit overwhelming.

About us: We met online and immediately started talking online. On day 1 we talked, on day 2 he told me he was going to marry me, and on day three he told me he loved me. I met him 2 months later in England, and the attraction, comfortable feeling of having met "the one" and an overall complete feeling took over both of us. We talk everyday whether it is for a few minutes or for hours. We talk on our cellphones so we use Skype-to-go (UK to US calling) and a calling card from Nobelcom.com (US to UK and India). If anyone knows of anything cheaper please let me know. This man was made for me, and I for him... but this long process makes me feel like something is wrong with me, and that this isn't real. That I really haven't found the most perfect person for me because I am being punished by God having to wait. We are both losing morale, and just overall- losing hope. It is very hard....

Please give me hope... today my lawyer sent me an email to contact INS because the NVC does not have any record of our case. I called USCIS 2 weeks ago and was told and have a receipt of our case. So, are things okay and my lawyer a lame duck? I just need to get our NO2 because we are getting desperate.

Don't lose hope yet. You only received your NOA1 a couple of days after me. I still haven't even got a "touch" on the USCIS website. In fact it has said the same date all along, March 3rd. But if you check Igor's list, you will see most people who received their NOA1 in March are still waiting. I am hoping to see the NOA2 by the end of this month, but it can take a LOT longer. My fiance and I use the webcam on Skype to chat free. It isn't perfect by any means, especially with my slow connection, but it works for us. It is VERY hard to wait and not be side by side with the one you love, but you are in good company here on VJ.

-Blu- (sighing heavily)

Have you tried going to Starbucks? I have actually had to do that in the past or even a public library. The Skype-to-go feature is great for europeans. You set it up once and pay for it, then when they call you from europe it costs them a local fee and it is a domestic call for you on your cellphone. i would look into whether it is available for you. At the very least this costs 10-15$ and that is per month... think of the savings! i sound like I'm being paid for this. But in all honesty, when money and convenience is an issue, its worth looking into. I don't mind researching this for you... I will work on it today.

[viknkam 0]

Hi everyone. I have been around, but posting to the VSC threads. I apologize for jumping ship, but all of this terminology and getting acquainted with the process and various branches has been a bit overwhelming.

About us: We met online and immediately started talking online. On day 1 we talked, on day 2 he told me he was going to marry me, and on day three he told me he loved me. I met him 2 months later in England, and the attraction, comfortable feeling of having met "the one" and an overall complete feeling took over both of us. We talk everyday whether it is for a few minutes or for hours. We talk on our cellphones so we use Skype-to-go (UK to US calling) and a calling card from Nobelcom.com (US to UK and India). If anyone knows of anything cheaper please let me know. This man was made for me, and I for him... but this long process makes me feel like something is wrong with me, and that this isn't real. That I really haven't found the most perfect person for me because I am being punished by God having to wait. We are both losing morale, and just overall- losing hope. It is very hard....

Please give me hope... today my lawyer sent me an email to contact INS because the NVC does not have any record of our case. I called USCIS 2 weeks ago and was told and have a receipt of our case. So, are things okay and my lawyer a lame duck? I just need to get our NO2 because we are getting desperate.

NVC wouldnt have a record of your case yet, they dont get it until the NOA2 is sent to you and USCIS sends them your petition to be forwarded to the embassy, so if this is what your lawyer told you, i think he is quackers (had to play on the duck pun lol). If USCIS has your record and you have the NOA1, I wouldnt worry.

I understand how you feel about being desperate, and about feeling like something is wrong with you. Tonight, due to the loss of my job, I have that feeling too. All kinds of weird thoughts went through my head like, why do things get given to be but taken away, and why things must be so difficult? I meet the perfect man, but hes 3000 miles away, have a job that I like for once thats not stressful and the economy tanks so I lose that. It makes me appriciate what I have so much more, but it still sucks so bad. And tonight I really wish I could be in Wes's arms. I just want to have him hold me and comfort me and be able to tell me everything is alright....in person.

Thanks! There must have been something in the air last night... As for the job situation. Can't you just go be with your SO? Vik and I talked about this. Worst case scenario I would leave to India where he would meet me and just be together there... If not, then I would work on me. Work out, and just put together our wedding and do the research and focus more on school... Take some classes. Summer school is usually cheaper and it will give you purpose and make you more marketable... I'm sorry about your job... I worry about mine everyday.... I have my annual review tomorrow (I want to ask for a raise, but with the economy being weak it feels like a bad move... any advice? eek..).... Let's see how that one goes...

[Tina&Roland 4]

So sorry to hear that some of you are going through some difficult times at the moment. Danu, that's such a shame about your job.

Things for me have quitened down at the moment (meaning I'm coping okay currently) but I think that's probably a large part to do with the fact that my guy is flying over here in less than 3 weeks. My thoughts go out to all those who are unable to be with their loves until their visa is approved.

My fiance is done waiting. I'm going to India for a week at the end of the month with my mom to do wedding shopping, and he is ready to marry me then and apply for the K3. What he doesn't realize is that the clock starts over... Why are men so impatient? Do they think its easier for us women to be strong?

I think men struggle the same way we do. My guy and I were just talking last night about how big a difference having webcam has made to things online. We only started using it after he went back to the US in January, and it has made the distance feeel a little less... distant.

Sometimes, I want to scrap in the whole K1 process and just do the "get married and wait for a K3" route, but this is not such a good idea at this point. I do not want to be married to him and yet be so far from him. I do not think I could cope with that, at all.

Plus, at this point, applying for a K3 would take even longer than waiting for the K1.

Thanks both of you

I totally agree that Skype and webcams help soooo much. Its one of the things that definately keeps us going, not sure if I could do it if I couldn't see him. I would say in our relationship though its definately me who is the impatient one. I've been trying not to drive him nuts while freaking out about the whole process lol. Have you explained to him that getting married voids the K1 and that starting the K3 not only means more money, but also more time, and that you also can't work until your AOS comes through? Maybe that would help him to understand a bit.

Hi Danu,

Sorry to hear about your job situation. Hopefully, things will work out better for you when you move to the U.S.

Regarding the whole impatience in waiting, it's you and me both! I know our process is nowhere near yours, as we filed in May, but it seems as if I've been the one who has been worried. Then I thought...well, it could have been worse. Both of us could have been sick and tired of waiting, and probably that would have been the end of that. At least you know that he's there for you, near or far. That's what makes the relationship work

Take care,

Tina

[Wyld Blu 35]

If you can't use Skype with the webcam, try Yahoo chat with webcam. Seems to work better than Skype for me sometimes.

My fiance and I have a 9 hour difference. My nighttime, is the next morning for him. We have it arranged that we IM (on my cell phone...NOT TEXT, but IM via Yahoo chat) during the day while I am at work, and he is home from work, and then we Skype at night (my time 9:45 pm). This is 6:45 am for him. So while he is eating breakfast and getting ready for work in his morning, I am usually settled in for my evening. We get about a half hour together this way.

The weekends we try to spend as much time on Skype as possible together. It gets hard for me because this is all day long, MY time, but late afternoon/evening for him. It really cuts down on things I can do during the day on the weekend. I still manage to get things done, but not as much as I used to. It is a sacrifice we make though, to be together in the only way we can.

There are ways to deal with the time difference if you really work on it. It is not easy and the distance makes us crazy of course. Neither of us can be there for each other just any time we need to be. It sucks, but we do what we can until visa's are issued and new lives together are started.

-Blu-(STILL crazy after all these years)