My Husband cancel my adjustment of status

[ziia 9]

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

Your husband can't cancel anything, but he pobably said that to confuse you and make you weak. It is your petition. He can option not to come with you when it's the interview time. Do you have the conditional Green Card? If you do, pursue lifting up the conditions yourself.

Baby, you don't need to know no one in any town. People can help with advises and compasion, but you are the only one who can keep it together and help you stay strong. You are not stuck. You don't need to stay married to an abuser. Fight for your right as a human beeing, always tell the truth no matter what and endure everything untill you've made justice for yourself.

The best thing in my opinion is to find a place to work at. it will give you a great opportunity to meet people, find friends and not feel so alone. Any job is good as long as you surround yourself with people and possibly get out of the shelter, get a roomte and be more on your oun two feet. You'll not be able to find people that will support you without asking anything in return. I hope some of you who read this would be ready to jump up my throught, but it is just my oppinion, a life long lesson i've learned dealing with my own life experiences, so that's just y oppinion.

Bottom line, what i would do. If the situation in this country is better than the situation in your country, then stay, go on the road of removing conditions on your own(you have enough proof), look for a job to lift yourself higher up financialy and ultimately lift yourself up moraly, don't remarry with someone else if you are adjusting status through this man you've been with so far and dn't be intimidated byhis threats. call the cops if you need to and hather all your documents that state you enetered the marriage in good faith. If the situation here is worse than one you have back in the Philly, then don't leave right away, make justice for yourself because no one can be treated the way you did without justice beeing made. After you make justice for yourself, then the option is yours wether you want to stay here or go. i personaly wouldn't stay here illegaly and face a lifetime ban to ever come back if i wanted to another time, but that's just me.

good luck to you and God bless your soul, i know it's hard but stay strong! Unfortunately thee's always a price to pay before we get the reward we deserve and there's always rain before the sun will shine!

[butterfly1 0]

hi! i noticed youre from philippines..im from the philippines,been here in US for 4 years now,happily married and have one daughter..sorry to hear your story,but if you dont mind,where are you right now? i mean what state? im from wisconsin..my advice is just go home..america is not what its used to be economically, so there's really no point of staying here..my husband and i are planning of moving to the philippines ASAP before the economy goes really bad and civil unrest could happen...let's be honest, atleast most of the women from philippines (or any other countries) hope to get married to a US citizen to be able to come here and have a better life than what we have in our country but we also have hopes and dreams to be married to good man and have happy marriage (our filipino tradition/culture/belief is that we are against divorce) so i know that you really hoped and believed that you married a good man but since that failed, youre only reason left to stay here in this country is to be able to hopefully be employed,earn money and help out your family back home..but you have to be realistic here,thousands of US citizens lost their jobs recently and more and more businesses are closing, so the chance of you getting a job is unlikely..maraming nagsasabi na posibleng magka martial law dito sa US,kaya uwi ka na bago mangyari yun,kami nga ng asawa ko gusto ng umalis dito..

Thanks for ur concern. im living n cali right now and wrking... that stories was happn long time ago.... im wrking and doing self-petition. just asking for an advice mybe anybody has sme case like mine. adjustmnt of status( his petition) bt lawyer of mine. cancel it and pursue my 1360-- its self-supportimng of wife of abusive usc. thanks alot and Godbless.

[butterfly1 0]

He had three foreign wives before you? Hmmmmmmm, red flag. What did you love about him before and after the marriage??? Did he change from the love of your life to this monster overnight? Maybe give a little bit more background. How did things go so rotten??

As for staying in America......IMHO....... If I immigrated ONLY for true love, and my marriage ended, I would be devasted, and would want nothing more than to return to the comfort of my friends and family at home. If I moved across the world for true love......and that true love went sour, I don't think that I would want to hang around and "give it a shot....why not"

What are you giving "a shot"??? Just curious.

No one in this world deserves to be abused, but people need to go into every situation and relationship ESPECIALLY MARRIAGE with eyes wide open!!

u didnt get the whole story... or i didnt tell the whole story.,.. im nt living wth him anymore. since i ask help from the authorty. im already wrking. but im self-petitiong. im here to ask an advice... if i have a chnce to get my greencard for a self-supporting.. wth a documnts(reports,from police, domestic violence cnter) etcthanks. Godbless.

[butterfly1 0]

she isn't planning to live in the US and get a job and pay bills and taxes. she is planning to live on government assistance and spousal support and work under the table so she can send cash home. to fail in her perceived mission to move to america and make big bux to send back to her family would be too shameful. nobody would accept her at home if she blows her big chance to exploit her american husband and ship big piles of cash back so everybody she's related to can live the easy life and brag to their neighbors about how their little girl is squeaking it all out of her foolish american.

Thanks a lot. im working on my own. and im nt sending cash back home. i didnt nt marry for money, to stayed n america. I have my own carreer and iM wrking here and pay my own immgration lawyer. Im here to ask advice. I didnt elaborate the whole story. if thats ur experoience wth ur fiancee.. ( asking money to send backj home.. well.. im sorry.. cz im not/ Thanks for ur encouragement. goodluck in ur marriage.

[walls1010 3]

she isn't planning to live in the US and get a job and pay bills and taxes. she is planning to live on government assistance and spousal support and work under the table so she can send cash home. to fail in her perceived mission to move to america and make big bux to send back to her family would be too shameful. nobody would accept her at home if she blows her big chance to exploit her american husband and ship big piles of cash back so everybody she's related to can live the easy life and brag to their neighbors about how their little girl is squeaking it all out of her foolish american.

are you talking about your experienced? read all her reply, she said SHE'S WORKING!!!!! and not in any government assistance or food stamp.

[butterfly1 0]

she isn't planning to live in the US and get a job and pay bills and taxes. she is planning to live on government assistance and spousal support and work under the table so she can send cash home. to fail in her perceived mission to move to america and make big bux to send back to her family would be too shameful. nobody would accept her at home if she blows her big chance to exploit her american husband and ship big piles of cash back so everybody she's related to can live the easy life and brag to their neighbors about how their little girl is squeaking it all out of her foolish american.

are you talking about your experienced? read all her reply, she said SHE'S WORKING!!!!! and not in any government assistance or food stamp.

i will not get food stamps.. because i hve my emplymnt authorization... he cancel the adjustmnt of status(greencard).

[walls1010 3]

she isn't planning to live in the US and get a job and pay bills and taxes. she is planning to live on government assistance and spousal support and work under the table so she can send cash home. to fail in her perceived mission to move to america and make big bux to send back to her family would be too shameful. nobody would accept her at home if she blows her big chance to exploit her american husband and ship big piles of cash back so everybody she's related to can live the easy life and brag to their neighbors about how their little girl is squeaking it all out of her foolish american.

are you talking about your experienced? read all her reply, she said SHE'S WORKING!!!!! and not in any government assistance or food stamp.

i will not get food stamps.. because i hve my emplymnt authorization... he cancel the adjustmnt of status(greencard).

butterfly1,

Hanga ako sa iyo at tama ka hindi porke't pumunta tayo dito ay pwede na nila tayong apihin, hindi nila alam na tayo'y marunong lumaban at higit sa lahat ay marunong makibaka sa anumang problema sa buhay. sinagot ko nga ang hunghang sa pag-aakalang umaasa ka sa gobyerno nila, palibhasa gawain nila at wala pa akong nababalitaan na pinoy/pinay na nabubuhay sa gov't. assistance dahil tayong mga pinoy ay hindi tamad! umaasa ako at kasama ka sa bawat dasal ko na magiging maayos ang lahat para sa iyo kabayan.

[butterfly1 0]

she isn't planning to live in the US and get a job and pay bills and taxes. she is planning to live on government assistance and spousal support and work under the table so she can send cash home. to fail in her perceived mission to move to america and make big bux to send back to her family would be too shameful. nobody would accept her at home if she blows her big chance to exploit her american husband and ship big piles of cash back so everybody she's related to can live the easy life and brag to their neighbors about how their little girl is squeaking it all out of her foolish american.

are you talking about your experienced? read all her reply, she said SHE'S WORKING!!!!! and not in any government assistance or food stamp.

i will not get food stamps.. because i hve my emplymnt authorization... he cancel the adjustmnt of status(greencard).

butterfly1,

Hanga ako sa iyo at tama ka hindi porke't pumunta tayo dito ay pwede na nila tayong apihin, hindi nila alam na tayo'y marunong lumaban at higit sa lahat ay marunong makibaka sa anumang problema sa buhay. sinagot ko nga ang hunghang sa pag-aakalang umaasa ka sa gobyerno nila, palibhasa gawain nila at wala pa akong nababalitaan na pinoy/pinay na nabubuhay sa gov't. assistance dahil tayong mga pinoy ay hindi tamad! umaasa ako at kasama ka sa bawat dasal ko na magiging maayos ang lahat para sa iyo kabayan.

slmat ha.. ingat kau.. hindi ko na kc kwnto whole detail kc msydong nang mhabo.. medyo kinuha ko lang yng part na gustong makuhang advice. anyway. may wrk ako. so hndi ko kailngan support nang govt. and nag advce din sakin Ins wth regards wth my case. thanks God. medyo postive nman kc.. alam nila na i marry for i right reason. tlgang di lang tlaga nagwrk out.. hndi ko nman sinbi na lhat naniwwla cz they didny know me. tska its normal cguro na people r judgemntal.bt in case like this dpat cgro hndi tau ppaapi. kc innisp nag iuba dyan aswa mga pinoy.. dhil gusto mgstay dto. well. in m case hndi. well. hndi ko na kailangn iexplain cz God knows the truth. Thanks.... Ingat kau nang husband mo and kids.

[butterfly1 0]

hi! i noticed youre from philippines..im from the philippines,been here in US for 4 years now,happily married and have one daughter..sorry to hear your story,but if you dont mind,where are you right now? i mean what state? im from wisconsin..my advice is just go home..america is not what its used to be economically, so there's really no point of staying here..my husband and i are planning of moving to the philippines ASAP before the economy goes really bad and civil unrest could happen...let's be honest, atleast most of the women from philippines (or any other countries) hope to get married to a US citizen to be able to come here and have a better life than what we have in our country but we also have hopes and dreams to be married to good man and have happy marriage (our filipino tradition/culture/belief is that we are against divorce) so i know that you really hoped and believed that you married a good man but since that failed, youre only reason left to stay here in this country is to be able to hopefully be employed,earn money and help out your family back home..but you have to be realistic here,thousands of US citizens lost their jobs recently and more and more businesses are closing, so the chance of you getting a job is unlikely..maraming nagsasabi na posibleng magka martial law dito sa US,kaya uwi ka na bago mangyari yun,kami nga ng asawa ko gusto ng umalis dito..

Thank for ur advice. i appreciate it. actually may emplymnt authrization namn ako to wrk. kc un greencard lang nag kaprblema. so obviously im nt askin an assitance to the govt. in my case-i need to have a job and capable of supportngmyself. kc petition ko self-petition. well..wth regards of staying here. i love to stay here not because of money. bt ... because of wht happened to me. I believe that this great country is so good. very helpful. from any govt agencies that went too. they are all willing to helkped n any way. i proved it.. police, ins.. they do a great job. I have too much respect fopr these country.. in here they exercise freedom and human rights. wth my marriage. yes.. i was nlove wth my husband... i believe ive done my part as a wife. im nt perfect but he knew wht ive done for him. i didnt believe n dvorce (esp. his my frst boyfriend) bt i have respect for myself. and nobdy cpould tke it away from me. I disobey my parents by marryng him . i choose him over my family. and ths is wht he did to me. i cant bear no more pains from the people that is so fake.!! his love for me is nt real. he jjust wnted to show to people that his njormal nd can have a wife. which his nt capable of. Im done loving him. i hate how he hurted and i will nver frgt it n mjylife. i will fight if i have too. bt if the option is going home.. why nt. PI is our home. Thanks for advice and Godbless to u. im here n Vj to know if they somebdy who has sme case like mine... wht are the chnce s of self-supporting. Thanks

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

Did you marry for love or a green card? If it was for love, sorry it didn't work out. Buy a plane ticket and go back to the Phillipines.

[ziia 9]

If you are working and have your own money, why do you stay in a shelter? How do you know your petition was canceled? Did you see paperwork regarding that or was it just what he told you he would do?

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

..maraming nagsasabi na posibleng magka martial law dito sa US,kaya uwi ka na bago mangyari yun,kami nga ng asawa ko gusto ng umalis dito..

butterfly1,

Hanga ako sa iyo at tama ka hindi porke't pumunta tayo dito ay pwede na nila tayong apihin, hindi nila alam na tayo'y marunong lumaban at higit sa lahat ay marunong makibaka sa anumang problema sa buhay. sinagot ko nga ang hunghang sa pag-aakalang umaasa ka sa gobyerno nila, palibhasa gawain nila at wala pa akong nababalitaan na pinoy/pinay na nabubuhay sa gov't. assistance dahil tayong mga pinoy ay hindi tamad! umaasa ako at kasama ka sa bawat dasal ko na magiging maayos ang lahat para sa iyo kabayan.

slmat ha.. ingat kau.. hindi ko na kc kwnto whole detail kc msydong nang mhabo.. medyo kinuha ko lang yng part na gustong makuhang advice. anyway. may wrk ako. so hndi ko kailngan support nang govt. and nag advce din sakin Ins wth regards wth my case. thanks God. medyo postive nman kc.. alam nila na i marry for i right reason. tlgang di lang tlaga nagwrk out.. hndi ko nman sinbi na lhat naniwwla cz they didny know me. tska its normal cguro na people r judgemntal.bt in case like this dpat cgro hndi tau ppaapi. kc innisp nag iuba dyan aswa mga pinoy.. dhil gusto mgstay dto. well. in m case hndi. well. hndi ko na kailangn iexplain cz God knows the truth. Thanks.... Ingat kau nang husband mo and kids.

english only when outside of the regional forums, you two.

[butterfly1 0]

If you are working and have your own money, why do you stay in a shelter? How do you know your petition was canceled? Did you see paperwork regarding that or was it just what he told you he would do?

i stayed n the shlter home for a while. nd find a job nd hve my own plce. he cancelled it because i went to INS. im pursuing my own petition. thanks a lot. tc

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

Did you marry for love or a green card? If it was for love, sorry it didn't work out. Buy a plane ticket and go back to the Phillipines.

wht do u think?????

[DanielParul 50]

Don't go by what people think. Whether you want to go back or stay here is your choice. It is easy to say - marriage did not work out so just pack your bags and go back. Sometimes its not that simple for someone who fought with their family and everybody and left everything to come here to be with their SOs and now probably have nothing to go back to.

Its easy for me to say that I will go back if mine did not work out because I will get a job there easily (heck, I will get my old job back if nothing else), my family and friends are there to support me. I still have money in my accounts there. But the OP might not have any of it there. Here she has a job atleast.

[Joyce/Jeremy 0]

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

Did you marry for love or a green card? If it was for love, sorry it didn't work out. Buy a plane ticket and go back to the Phillipines.

Maybe you should read the rest of the forum before posting a reply like that?