My Husband cancel my adjustment of status

[butterfly1 0]

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

I have not commented much out here, since I have been so focused on my own situation. However, I spent some money on an intial consultation with an immigration attorney, who reviewed the K-1 timeline in detail with me. I remember his advice about the 2-year period, and that the law does not require the foreign spouse does to remain married for 2 years if she can demonstrate that she been the victim of Domestic Violence. Get yourself to a shelter for battered women, then get yourself some legal advice from a lawyer. Your future depends on it. If you feel overwhelmed by all of this, and I am sure you are, just ask one of the women at the shelter to help you find a lawyer. The perfect lawyer for you is an immigration lawyer who also does divorces, or a divorce lawyer who also sidelines in immigration law. Good luck and God bless you.

thanks for ur advice.... i appreciate. I hve my own immgration lawyer now. who will took care of my case. Gpodb. Godbless

[sj5 4]

Butterfly1,

I'm sure, you can adjust status by yourself. I'm not expert with this case. Other Visajourney's members are able to give you an advice. Good luck.

Edited March 5, 2009 by VJ's Opportunist

[butterfly1 0]

That makes me really angry that your husband treated you like that. No wonder he is divorced 3 times. what a jerk. Im not sure how you stay here, i just wish you the best, no matter what you do, stay here, or go back home. good luck.

I am not being mean but i agree, you came here for love it did not work, y don't you go home to your family where u know people. I have a hard time completely believing these stories. You had this bad experience but yet you want to stay! That don't sound right to me. I am not saying your marriage was perfect, i don't know and we don't know your husbands point of view either. There is so much questions, what if he realized you used him to come here then decided he wanted a divorce, and you knowing the law cause you took a class before you came to the US about the laws decided to call 911 in order for you to stay. Like i said i am not being mean i just find a lot of question in these cases. The number one thing that makes me ask question is, you don't want to go home. Your in this strange town, you have this abusive husband yet you still want to stay? that is odd. But none the less good luck!

I dont stay wth him anymore. im lving here in the shelter home. the reason im came here n this site is to educate myself. about laws of immigration. ii hvave a lawyer who already goin to takecare of my case. yes., ur right.. marriage is not perfect. but nobody has a right to treat a person like an animal ,battered emotionally... which is harder.. whn ur husband threathing to kill you... and a mother who dont want his son to be wth a woman/wife. how can a woman who is believer of happily marriage will tk that. mybe its not ur situation. but it happened to me. i dnt make believe but my police reports will tell the truth. the question wth using him.... i dnt think so... i know in my heart and in my mind i marry for a right reason. in good faith. yes we have a seminar in phil bfore i cme here. bt that is very helpful.. atleast i know what to do and my human rights. i didnt call 911 for a minor reason. i call because he abused me physically. /mentally so as his mother. yes i will go home if its my last option but i will give it a shot.! why not.. he needs to learn how to respect other people nd know what his responsiblities when he marry a woman wth diff. culture. so tht whn its a lesson for man/like him thast whtever they do it has a consequences., its nt a matter of staying here or not but i want him to face the law.so that he cant noi longer marry outside the country and abuse them.

[Jasman0717 9]

The shelter should be able to help you and hook you up with people who and work with you and government agencies to make your life more bearable. I am sorry this happened, I just don't understand why people have to be monsters to one another.

[sj5 4]

The shelter should be able to help you and hook you up with people who and work with you and government agencies to make your life more bearable. I am sorry this happened, I just don't understand why people have to be monsters to one another.

Its addiction. They get sick if they can't torture somebody.

[Loolie 56]

hi butterfly1,

im happy you are getting ok now...i know you cant get through all the things thats happening to you...dont go back home in pi...he brought you here...stand where you fall.

Dont worry God will always be there for you.

God bless you and be safe.

[Paul & Evelyn 0]

That makes me really angry that your husband treated you like that. No wonder he is divorced 3 times. what a jerk. Im not sure how you stay here, i just wish you the best, no matter what you do, stay here, or go back home. good luck.

I am not being mean but i agree, you came here for love it did not work, y don't you go home to your family where u know people. I have a hard time completely believing these stories. You had this bad experience but yet you want to stay! That don't sound right to me. I am not saying your marriage was perfect, i don't know and we don't know your husbands point of view either. There is so much questions, what if he realized you used him to come here then decided he wanted a divorce, and you knowing the law cause you took a class before you came to the US about the laws decided to call 911 in order for you to stay. Like i said i am not being mean i just find a lot of question in these cases. The number one thing that makes me ask question is, you don't want to go home. Your in this strange town, you have this abusive husband yet you still want to stay? that is odd. But none the less good luck!

With all due respect, in this country, we have a presumption of innocence. He will be presumed innocent until proven guilty, and we should presume she is telling the truth in order to offer some support and advice. I will not presume that she is perpetrating an outlandish marriage fraud, and unless I am offered some clear and convincing evidence to the contrary, I would tend to believe her. Unless we know her entire story, we should not jump to conclusions. As a former fraud investigator, my mind can go in a dozen different directions on her case, and I know there are all sorts of varying levels of truth, but I see no harm in accepting her at face value and being constructive.

[butterfly1 0]

That makes me really angry that your husband treated you like that. No wonder he is divorced 3 times. what a jerk. Im not sure how you stay here, i just wish you the best, no matter what you do, stay here, or go back home. good luck.

I am not being mean but i agree, you came here for love it did not work, y don't you go home to your family where u know people. I have a hard time completely believing these stories. You had this bad experience but yet you want to stay! That don't sound right to me. I am not saying your marriage was perfect, i don't know and we don't know your husbands point of view either. There is so much questions, what if he realized you used him to come here then decided he wanted a divorce, and you knowing the law cause you took a class before you came to the US about the laws decided to call 911 in order for you to stay. Like i said i am not being mean i just find a lot of question in these cases. The number one thing that makes me ask question is, you don't want to go home. Your in this strange town, you have this abusive husband yet you still want to stay? that is odd. But none the less good luck!

With all due respect, in this country, we have a presumption of innocence. He will be presumed innocent until proven guilty, and we should presume she is telling the truth in order to offer some support and advice. I will not presume that she is perpetrating an outlandish marriage fraud, and unless I am offered some clear and convincing evidence to the contrary, I would tend to believe her. Unless we know her entire story, we should not jump to conclusions. As a former fraud investigator, my mind can go in a dozen different directions on her case, and I know there are all sorts of varying levels of truth, but I see no harm in accepting her at face value and being constructive.

THanks a lot for those people who gave support and advice. i do appreciate it. and for those whoi are nt... im nt making u believe. im just sharing my stories and ask/ learn some tips about my case. people are judgemental for a non immigrant who marry a usc. not all of us wanted same thing!!!its not fraud when u gave it all....nothing left to me but my lil respect and dignity. once ur n my situation.. u well know how exctly wht i felt.... well.. im so glad that some /agencies helped me. and believe me. and for my character... i dnt have anything to hide. what is important is im saying the truth. Thank you. i will update u soon about my case. Godbless you all!!

[JSVP08 3]

That makes me really angry that your husband treated you like that. No wonder he is divorced 3 times. what a jerk. Im not sure how you stay here, i just wish you the best, no matter what you do, stay here, or go back home. good luck.

I am not being mean but i agree, you came here for love it did not work, y don't you go home to your family where u know people. I have a hard time completely believing these stories. You had this bad experience but yet you want to stay! That don't sound right to me. I am not saying your marriage was perfect, i don't know and we don't know your husbands point of view either. There is so much questions, what if he realized you used him to come here then decided he wanted a divorce, and you knowing the law cause you took a class before you came to the US about the laws decided to call 911 in order for you to stay. Like i said i am not being mean i just find a lot of question in these cases. The number one thing that makes me ask question is, you don't want to go home. Your in this strange town, you have this abusive husband yet you still want to stay? that is odd. But none the less good luck!

I dont stay wth him anymore. im lving here in the shelter home. the reason im came here n this site is to educate myself. about laws of immigration. ii hvave a lawyer who already goin to takecare of my case. yes., ur right.. marriage is not perfect. but nobody has a right to treat a person like an animal ,battered emotionally... which is harder.. whn ur husband threathing to kill you... and a mother who dont want his son to be wth a woman/wife. how can a woman who is believer of happily marriage will tk that. mybe its not ur situation. but it happened to me. i dnt make believe but my police reports will tell the truth. the question wth using him.... i dnt think so... i know in my heart and in my mind i marry for a right reason. in good faith. yes we have a seminar in phil bfore i cme here. bt that is very helpful.. atleast i know what to do and my human rights. i didnt call 911 for a minor reason. i call because he abused me physically. /mentally so as his mother. yes i will go home if its my last option but i will give it a shot.! why not.. he needs to learn how to respect other people nd know what his responsiblities when he marry a woman wth diff. culture. so tht whn its a lesson for man/like him thast whtever they do it has a consequences., its nt a matter of staying here or not but i want him to face the law.so that he cant noi longer marry outside the country and abuse them.

go girl as long as you did your fair share of marital responsibilities and was right...be strong...u made it up to this stage so pursue what is there to finish. best wishes

[nycgirl 13]

He had three foreign wives before you? Hmmmmmmm, red flag. What did you love about him before and after the marriage??? Did he change from the love of your life to this monster overnight? Maybe give a little bit more background. How did things go so rotten??

As for staying in America......IMHO....... If I immigrated ONLY for true love, and my marriage ended, I would be devasted, and would want nothing more than to return to the comfort of my friends and family at home. If I moved across the world for true love......and that true love went sour, I don't think that I would want to hang around and "give it a shot....why not"

What are you giving "a shot"??? Just curious.

No one in this world deserves to be abused, but people need to go into every situation and relationship ESPECIALLY MARRIAGE with eyes wide open!!

Edited March 5, 2009 by nycgirl

[Donna A 4]

im not understanding something here...aos is not his petition so how can he cancell it. it is ur petition and only u can cancell it.

[filipinawife28 0]

hi! i noticed youre from philippines..im from the philippines,been here in US for 4 years now,happily married and have one daughter..sorry to hear your story,but if you dont mind,where are you right now? i mean what state? im from wisconsin..my advice is just go home..america is not what its used to be economically, so there's really no point of staying here..my husband and i are planning of moving to the philippines ASAP before the economy goes really bad and civil unrest could happen...let's be honest, atleast most of the women from philippines (or any other countries) hope to get married to a US citizen to be able to come here and have a better life than what we have in our country but we also have hopes and dreams to be married to good man and have happy marriage (our filipino tradition/culture/belief is that we are against divorce) so i know that you really hoped and believed that you married a good man but since that failed, youre only reason left to stay here in this country is to be able to hopefully be employed,earn money and help out your family back home..but you have to be realistic here,thousands of US citizens lost their jobs recently and more and more businesses are closing, so the chance of you getting a job is unlikely..maraming nagsasabi na posibleng magka martial law dito sa US,kaya uwi ka na bago mangyari yun,kami nga ng asawa ko gusto ng umalis dito..

[kcoyclay1 98]

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

I found the following information online and hope it will help. I am shocked to see so many judges and jury here on VJ trying to send you home. Suppose you do not want to go back home? We are here to help others and not judge their case. I know that some say go home because they are trying to advice you against staying in the abusive relationship and wish for you to be safe where you have a loving family around you while some are just plain mean spirited. Whatever your reason for staying its not our concern. If we can answer your question then that is what we should do. Don't mind the negatvity. Hope this helps.

Under the Violence against Women Act (VAWA) passed by Congress in 1994, spouses and children of U.S. citizens or lawful permanent residents may self-petition to obtain lawful permanent residency. The immigration provisions of VAWA allow certain battered immigrants to file for immigration relief without the abuser's assistance or knowledge, in order to seek safety and independence from the abuser.

Spouse: You may self-petition if you are a battered spouse married to a U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident. Unmarried children under the age of 21, who have not filed their own self-petition, may be included in your petition as derivative beneficiaries

The self-petitioning spouse:

Must be legally married to the U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident batterer. A self-petition may be filed if the marriage was terminated by the abusive spouse’s death within the two years prior to filing. A self-petition may also be filed if the marriage to the abusive spouse was terminated, within the two years prior to filing, by divorce related to the abuse.

Must have been battered in the United States unless the abusive spouse is an employee of the United States government or a member of the uniformed services of the United States.

Must have been battered or subjected to extreme cruelty during the marriage, or must be the parent of a child who was battered or subjected to extreme cruelty by the U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident spouse during the marriage.

Is required to be a person of good moral character.

Must have entered into the marriage in good faith, not solely for the purpose of obtaining immigration benefits.

I hope the lawyer can help you. You can log unto justanswers.com and an immigration lawyer will answer your question within a couple of minutes. You pay $15 for the answer if you find it helpful or relist it to get other lawyers answering until you select the one you feel has answered. Anyway you only pay $15. Be blessed

Edited March 5, 2009 by kcoyclay1

[walls1010 3]

hi! i noticed youre from philippines..im from the philippines,been here in US for 4 years now,happily married and have one daughter..sorry to hear your story,but if you dont mind,where are you right now? i mean what state? im from wisconsin..my advice is just go home..america is not what its used to be economically, so there's really no point of staying here..my husband and i are planning of moving to the philippines ASAP before the economy goes really bad and civil unrest could happen...let's be honest, atleast most of the women from philippines (or any other countries) hope to get married to a US citizen to be able to come here and have a better life than what we have in our country but we also have hopes and dreams to be married to good man and have happy marriage (our filipino tradition/culture/belief is that we are against divorce) so i know that you really hoped and believed that you married a good man but since that failed, youre only reason left to stay here in this country is to be able to hopefully be employed,earn money and help out your family back home..but you have to be realistic here,thousands of US citizens lost their jobs recently and more and more businesses are closing, so the chance of you getting a job is unlikely..maraming nagsasabi na posibleng magka martial law dito sa US,kaya uwi ka na bago mangyari yun,kami nga ng asawa ko gusto ng umalis dito..

[justashooter 430]

she isn't planning to live in the US and get a job and pay bills and taxes. she is planning to live on government assistance and spousal support and work under the table so she can send cash home. to fail in her perceived mission to move to america and make big bux to send back to her family would be too shameful. nobody would accept her at home if she blows her big chance to exploit her american husband and ship big piles of cash back so everybody she's related to can live the easy life and brag to their neighbors about how their little girl is squeaking it all out of her foolish american.