Internet Dating

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

Ian and I met while playing online poker. I was actually just going through my divorce and really didn't want to be with anyone as I was just starting over and getting my independance back. We talked as friends on the poker site but that was it for a few months. We gradually started talking more and more and exchanged msn addys, then one night I said...would you like to call me?? He sure did.. We spoke for 2 hours on the phone. The rest is history...

Laura Mitchell

[HuffyTheSlayer 22]

LOL don't laugh, but we met on Yahoo when they had users rooms. The chatroom was called BBWSexyBoobies....no joke

That's gonna be a fun one to explain to the kids!

I met my husband on a website for a TV show, neither of us were looking for someone. We just seemed to hit it off and started chatting off of the board via AIM and things went on from there.

[Dina 0]

Marky and I met playing Everquest, an online roleplaying game. Yeah we're geeks. Anyway, I was going though a divorce and neither of us were looking for any kind of relationship. Our friendship grew. We started talking on the phone, then met in person and well yeah... here we are.

It's funny how similar some of your stories are to mine, even if the meeting place is a little different. Our first phone call was several hours as well. Man those first phone bills before we got smart were painful!

[Sister Fracas 5]

Hubster and I met in a music chatroom...

the chatroom is long gone though now...

Edited June 19, 2006 by Frances

[Fandango 1,439]

Ok right, I'm going to ask summat that I hope doesn't get taken the wrong way (I'm sure it will by someone tho, lol)

Now obviously we are all in the same boat with the LDRs, but I HAVE to ask...to those who intentionally sought after someone from another country......WHYYY??? Seriously, why would you intentionally go thru living thru a phone/computer/etc. I'm not saying those who met while chatting about music or books or whatever...but those who looked intentionally for love in a foreign land. I can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to experience the lonliness and the pain of having your life 'on hold' so to speak. I am not trying to come across as condescending or judgemental, but I honestly don't understand it.

No it's not FOR me to have to understand it either, but I'm curious. Would someone care to share? thanks!

[chri'stina 190]

We met online too, on aol instant messenger. Sujeet was looking for a Christian to discuss some theological stuff with, since he didn't know any Christians around him. He went to "find a buddy" on AOL IM and searched "common interest" and picked Christianity. My screen name was one of probably hundreds that popped up, so it was kind of random that he chose me, and my screen name wasn't gender based, I could have been a guy or girl for anyone looking at it, and I almost didn't accept his IM (oh the horror to think of that split second decision!! hehe) since I didn't recognize his screen name and he had no info about himself in his buddy box thingy.

But I did accept it, and his first words were "do you love God?" cuz I guess he talked to a bunch of others who didn't want to talk about God at all, so he got straight to the point. That turned into a friendship and then into love. Never imagined it could happen that way!!

[UmmSqueakster 54]

We met back in the day when ICQ was spam free in 2001. People randomly IMed each other and we made dozens of friends from places all over the world. For some odd reason, among all those people who remained platonic friends (and still are our friends today), we felt something more We both weren't looking for love and were shocked when it developed. And now, almost 5 years later, we're finally together and lovin it

[Cassie 8]

We met on an online Christian website, in their chatroom. We chatted for a couple of hours, then on the phone, then through a webcam....well, the rest is history.

[Mirorgate 0]

Ok right, I'm going to ask summat that I hope doesn't get taken the wrong way (I'm sure it will by someone tho, lol)

Now obviously we are all in the same boat with the LDRs, but I HAVE to ask...to those who intentionally sought after someone from another country......WHYYY??? Seriously, why would you intentionally go thru living thru a phone/computer/etc. I'm not saying those who met while chatting about music or books or whatever...but those who looked intentionally for love in a foreign land. I can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to experience the lonliness and the pain of having your life 'on hold' so to speak. I am not trying to come across as condescending or judgemental, but I honestly don't understand it.

No it's not FOR me to have to understand it either, but I'm curious. Would someone care to share? thanks!

dunno... but why limit oneself to just the local area either? it is one huge world with many diverse and interesting ppls, customs, traditions, languages.

what you're asking to me (so this is just MHO) is, "why look for someone/something not in your home town but 30 miles away?"

maybe it is something like that, i do not know. since i spent most of my time growning up and young adult life overseas from US, I always suspected that i'd marry someone that wasnt a US citizen, though i thought probably western europe, not south america... but i wouldnt change a thing that has transpired thats for sure.

did i intentionally look? no. so sorry if its not specifically what youre looking for... just a thought from my perspective.

[sukie175 0]

We met at a backgammon table in MSN ZONE

[Fandango 1,439]

Ok right, I'm going to ask summat that I hope doesn't get taken the wrong way (I'm sure it will by someone tho, lol)

Now obviously we are all in the same boat with the LDRs, but I HAVE to ask...to those who intentionally sought after someone from another country......WHYYY??? Seriously, why would you intentionally go thru living thru a phone/computer/etc. I'm not saying those who met while chatting about music or books or whatever...but those who looked intentionally for love in a foreign land. I can't for the life of me understand why someone would choose to experience the lonliness and the pain of having your life 'on hold' so to speak. I am not trying to come across as condescending or judgemental, but I honestly don't understand it.

No it's not FOR me to have to understand it either, but I'm curious. Would someone care to share? thanks!

dunno... but why limit oneself to just the local area either? it is one huge world with many diverse and interesting ppls, customs, traditions, languages.

what you're asking to me (so this is just MHO) is, "why look for someone/something not in your home town but 30 miles away?"

maybe it is something like that, i do not know. since i spent most of my time growning up and young adult life overseas from US, I always suspected that i'd marry someone that wasnt a US citizen, though i thought probably western europe, not south america... but i wouldnt change a thing that has transpired thats for sure.

did i intentionally look? no. so sorry if its not specifically what youre looking for... just a thought from my perspective.

Well, it's hardly an easy path...it's frought with heartache, lonliness, stress, etc.....

You say why limit yourself...and I agree....why limit yourself to not seeing what's in your backyard either? Not that I'm sayin 'oh you should only marry American' or anything like that...but surely it's a frickin horrible path to choose to walk. You don't get normality in a progression of a relationship. You go from 'i love you' on the phone to 'nice to meet you' in person, then it's a quick visit and you're off planning a wedding. there's no real dating getting-to-know-you stage..surely you agree with that?

I just don't think it's the easiest choice and I'm curious as to why someone would intentionally want to walk this path that is so lonely sometimes it just makes me cry, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

[incanada1234 0]

We met on a Beatles message board that he started (which is still around but we've closed it down so no one can post anymore). I never ever ever ever ever thought I'd meet someone online and fall in love with him. And, not that I'm shallow , but I was so happy to find out that he's gorgeous. I don't feel bad about that though since I fell in love with his mind first, 6 months before I saw his picture. He's the funniest, most intelligent, sweetest guy I've ever known.

I have to say though, the first two hours together face-to-face were two of the most awkward hours of my life!

[Mirorgate 0]

Well, it's hardly an easy path...it's frought with heartache, lonliness, stress, etc.....

You say why limit yourself...and I agree....why limit yourself to not seeing what's in your backyard either? Not that I'm sayin 'oh you should only marry American' or anything like that...but surely it's a frickin horrible path to choose to walk. You don't get normality in a progression of a relationship. You go from 'i love you' on the phone to 'nice to meet you' in person, then it's a quick visit and you're off planning a wedding. there's no real dating getting-to-know-you stage..surely you agree with that?

I just don't think it's the easiest choice and I'm curious as to why someone would intentionally want to walk this path that is so lonely sometimes it just makes me cry, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

hmmm... my reality seems to be different than what your postulating goes on with everyone. i never told her "i love you" before meeting her, and definately not in the first visit did i propose marriage. we went 3+ yrs as being just friends, and i left there as just friends too... much more interested in her as a possible more than just that.. but that didnt come about till other trips. after 5 yrs we were married.. so i guess were not "typical" in the sense that you are thinking of.

I just don't think it's the easiest choice and I'm curious as to why someone would intentionally want to walk this path that is so lonely sometimes it just makes me cry, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

if anyone knew what the total time, process, cost .. everything that they know now before they look abroad (or find elsewhere) who they are with .. they just might make the same decision. not saying as fact since i do not know... but they just might. yes it is long, painful, and trying... but in the end, i believe the relationship to be stronger for the patience and effort put into it at the beginning, than say to someone that took no effort at all to be with in their own "backyard" so to speak. just my opinion... but time will tell.

help any more? or are we still on different waves here?

[Fandango 1,439]

Well, it's hardly an easy path...it's frought with heartache, lonliness, stress, etc.....

You say why limit yourself...and I agree....why limit yourself to not seeing what's in your backyard either? Not that I'm sayin 'oh you should only marry American' or anything like that...but surely it's a frickin horrible path to choose to walk. You don't get normality in a progression of a relationship. You go from 'i love you' on the phone to 'nice to meet you' in person, then it's a quick visit and you're off planning a wedding. there's no real dating getting-to-know-you stage..surely you agree with that?

I just don't think it's the easiest choice and I'm curious as to why someone would intentionally want to walk this path that is so lonely sometimes it just makes me cry, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

hmmm... my reality seems to be different than what your postulating goes on with everyone. i never told her "i love you" before meeting her, and definately not in the first visit did i propose marriage. we went 3+ yrs as being just friends, and i left there as just friends too... much more interested in her as a possible more than just that.. but that didnt come about till other trips. after 5 yrs we were married.. so i guess were not "typical" in the sense that you are thinking of.

I just don't think it's the easiest choice and I'm curious as to why someone would intentionally want to walk this path that is so lonely sometimes it just makes me cry, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

if anyone knew what the total time, process, cost .. everything that they know now before they look abroad (or find elsewhere) who they are with .. they just might make the same decision. not saying as fact since i do not know... but they just might. yes it is long, painful, and trying... but in the end, i believe the relationship to be stronger for the patience and effort put into it at the beginning, than say to someone that took no effort at all to be with in their own "backyard" so to speak. just my opinion... but time will tell.

help any more? or are we still on different waves here?

We're on different waves here....

My original question was posed to those who intentionally sought love on the internet. Not ppl who met on the internet as friends thru message boards or gaming sites or anything like that. I'm saying those who went on international dating sites.....what was the draw? Was it something that drew you that was exciting, exotic, etc....was it you wanted to marry someone from the place of your ancestry? That's what I'm asking

Of course this process is totally worth it, and the couples are usually stronger in the end....but *in my case* I would have never thought 'hey lemme find a Brit, that'd be cool' because I wouldn't wish this separation on my worst enemy. Of course I gladly go thru it for HIM, but if I were single, and looking to find love online, I'd look for the path of least resistance...I wouldn't say USCIS? bring it on!!!

[maria_b84 0]

Me and Mike met on the internet. On match.com. Strange but true

Maria