Question Regarding Employment ...

[AnnexoxShay 1]

Hi guys, I hope you can help me out with this question ... Its probably not going to be an issue but it will give us a bit of peace of mind ...

My fiance lives in a small town in Grand County OR and when winter hits a lot of business shut down or go to minimum staff .. his a chef and his past employer was having a few probs and was going to go down to a minimum staff during the winter months ... Shay being the highest paid stuff member was going to have his hours reduced down to 20hours per week (distributed over the busy aftenoons /nights) which would have left him with barely enough to survive ...

In the meantime, one of his ex waitresses from a restaurant he had previously managed told him about a position that was becoming available at her current place of employment ... Shay met the owner and the woman would have promised the moon to get him ... He lay down the cards about our situation and she was completely supportive and said she would work around our plans ... that plus the fact he would have his steady 40hours+ and an increase of income he/we decided it would be a great opportunity ... He had left on good terms from his old employer so the opportunity for him to return at a later date is still there, maybe not right now but in the coming months..

Now 2-3months on the story has changed somewhat ... a few days back Shay and I sat down and started making more solid plans in regards to the wedding/reception/honeymoon etc ... We would like to get married in May and the 2 dates available are the 2nd and 16th ... I dont like the 16th because that was the date I was married to my ex, different month but I just dont want to see that date on our marriage certificate or engraved in our rings ... the other dates during the month are important work dates for him, his mothers birthday and the anniversary of his fathers death ... so they are also not suitable ... which leaves us with the 2nd ...

Now here is the problem ... She the boss, has gone all wierd on him and has started threatening him that if he doesnt do this or that she WILL hire another Chef and the new chef with have first dibs on hours ... first it was the our choice of wedding dates she didnt like, apparently she has a function on the 9th and the days he wanted off wouldnt suite ... soo we adjusted the dates so we can still get married on the 2nd but be back well and truely before the 9th for this function and make up the days we miss out on a couple weeks later in Bend or Boise on his days off ... But since the threats worked she now uses that card whenever she wants to have her way ... Shays very personable and has a good rep not only in his town but in neighbouring towns so its got nothing to do with his work quality, shes using this to manipulate him to get her own way ... Normally he wouldnt fall for this but she knows she has him over a barrel because he cant afford to loose his job atm .. We dont know what to do, she being completely unreasonable with her demands ... In the afternoon they have a split shift between 1 and 3 and during the two hours he is completely alone and has to bar tend, wait on tables and cook... the other day 7 tables came in at the same time during the two hour shift and he had to float between bar, restaurant and kitchen when he mentioned that it was getting increasingly hard to do this she again told him that maybe she would have to find someone who could ... The building is long and thin and takes almost a full street block the kitchen and bar are located at opposite ends it impossible to cook for 7 tables and serve the bar at the same time ...

We are terrified about what this can do for us at this late date in our process ... We're at the final stages now, Im just waiting for my interview date/time at the embassy ... If he lost his job at this stage how would it affect us at this stage?????

Thank You

[Otto 83]

If it were me/us - I'd stick it out but keep my eyes open for something better and jump ship if the opportunity were to arise. The new employer shows little/no loyalty so why should you? '

As to the effect at your stage - without a timeline is it safe to assume you're at the interview stage?

[AnnexoxShay 1]

If it were me/us - I'd stick it out but keep my eyes open for something better and jump ship if the opportunity were to arise. The new employer shows little/no loyalty so why should you? '

As to the effect at your stage - without a timeline is it safe to assume you're at the interview stage?

If things dont iron out he intends and Im in full support of him going back to his old job ... but his old employer wont be going back to summer months for another month or so at this stage ...

Ive havent filled in the timeline in the timeline section but I have it in my siggy ... and yes I mailed off my pack 3 last week and am now waiting for an interview time/date... so we really are at the final stage.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hi guys, I hope you can help me out with this question ... Its probably not going to be an issue but it will give us a bit of peace of mind ...

My fiance lives in a small town in Grand County OR and when winter hits a lot of business shut down or go to minimum staff .. his a chef and his past employer was having a few probs and was going to go down to a minimum staff during the winter months ... Shay being the highest paid stuff member was going to have his hours reduced down to 20hours per week (distributed over the busy aftenoons /nights) which would have left him with barely enough to survive ...

In the meantime, one of his ex waitresses from a restaurant he had previously managed told him about a position that was becoming available at her current place of employment ... Shay met the owner and the woman would have promised the moon to get him ... He lay down the cards about our situation and she was completely supportive and said she would work around our plans ... that plus the fact he would have his steady 40hours+ and an increase of income he/we decided it would be a great opportunity ... He had left on good terms from his old employer so the opportunity for him to return at a later date is still there, maybe not right now but in the coming months..

Now 2-3months on the story has changed somewhat ... a few days back Shay and I sat down and started making more solid plans in regards to the wedding/reception/honeymoon etc ... We would like to get married in May and the 2 dates available are the 2nd and 16th ... I dont like the 16th because that was the date I was married to my ex, different month but I just dont want to see that date on our marriage certificate or engraved in our rings ... the other dates during the month are important work dates for him, his mothers birthday and the anniversary of his fathers death ... so they are also not suitable ... which leaves us with the 2nd ...

Now here is the problem ... She the boss, has gone all wierd on him and has started threatening him that if he doesnt do this or that she WILL hire another Chef and the new chef with have first dibs on hours ... first it was the our choice of wedding dates she didnt like, apparently she has a function on the 9th and the days he wanted off wouldnt suite ... soo we adjusted the dates so we can still get married on the 2nd but be back well and truely before the 9th for this function and make up the days we miss out on a couple weeks later in Bend or Boise on his days off ... But since the threats worked she now uses that card whenever she wants to have her way ... Shays very personable and has a good rep not only in his town but in neighbouring towns so its got nothing to do with his work quality, shes using this to manipulate him to get her own way ... Normally he wouldnt fall for this but she knows she has him over a barrel because he cant afford to loose his job atm .. We dont know what to do, she being completely unreasonable with her demands ... In the afternoon they have a split shift between 1 and 3 and during the two hours he is completely alone and has to bar tend, wait on tables and cook... the other day 7 tables came in at the same time during the two hour shift and he had to float between bar, restaurant and kitchen when he mentioned that it was getting increasingly hard to do this she again told him that maybe she would have to find someone who could ... The building is long and thin and takes almost a full street block the kitchen and bar are located at opposite ends it impossible to cook for 7 tables and serve the bar at the same time ...

We are terrified about what this can do for us at this late date in our process ... We're at the final stages now, Im just waiting for my interview date/time at the embassy ... If he lost his job at this stage how would it affect us at this stage?????

Thank You

Ah yes, what people will do when they know you need the job.

Well, given the state of things at the moment, I would say he needs to hang in there. At least until the AOS interview. You can get married by a JP to make it all legal and then have your ceremony another time, you can choose to celebrate either date, my wife would want an anniversary present on both dates. (I joke, maybe not) Unfortunatley between the USCIS and his boss you have to be flexible and do things when they say.

[AnnexoxShay 1]

Ah yes, what people will do when they know you need the job.

Well, given the state of things at the moment, I would say he needs to hang in there. At least until the AOS interview. You can get married by a JP to make it all legal and then have your ceremony another time, you can choose to celebrate either date, my wife would want an anniversary present on both dates. (I joke, maybe not) Unfortunatley between the USCIS and his boss you have to be flexible and do things when they say.

we ladies like pretty things soo Id say be prepared with 2 gifts!!

Actually we are getting married by a minister ... Shay already has spoken to him and has booked the gardens were we are having the ceremony and a champaigne brunch reception ... Nothing huge just family and close friends but hopefully he aunt and uncle and there family will be able to come from Wyomming and his brother from Eugene and a couple great uncles and aunts from interstate but they are getting old now and travelling is getting hard on them so we'll see.

His old boss said he is welcome back at anytime, they parted on good terms but he will have to wait till the summer hours to return ... We are just worried at this stage if her threats arent idol and she really does decide to hire someone else .. there will be a gap of a month or two were he is unemployed and that has us worried on what it will mean to us...