LDR'S & you

[newlynluv 0]

I was just wondering with going through the whole process and transition of bringing your so to where your at do any of you ever feel alone like you have no one that can relate to you?

everyone already look at it as being a weird thing to do... I think the first thing that pop in ppl head especially with yardies is not love but they just trying to use you for a green card which is ignorant, I’m new to all this but I know I never felt anyway close to how I feel now about my so it just so happens he is in Jamaica and I’m in NYC, you can date someone around the corner from you and they still deceive you... I just hate the stigmas that come with LDR's oh you must have low self esteem ect... also something that bothers me is the fact of the money situation it is a very costly process to file for someone and maintain a LDR it is much easier for me to accumulate 455 us then him lol, a friend of mine mentioned to me "well what’s the difference would you spend money like that on a guy in NYC and not feel used" the difference is that in NYC we have the utensils that foreign ppl might not have, I hate lack of ambition especially when we have things at our fingertips I mean I can do a short focus group in NYC and get paid $150 bucks for a hour of my time lol so we have tools to get money! so I would like to know if anyone feel this way and how do you explain your situation to other ppl in general how do you cope with this because I’m having a difficult time right now...

[sus 70]

Newly, everyone goes through that and you are gonna hear the hate and the naysayers from all kinds of people - Reality is, the best and only proof to show them wrong is time and the strength of your love. No matter how many times you break it down to someone, they aren't going to fully grasp it unless they have been through it - You have to have faith with what is in your heart and follow it - you can choose where or when love happens, it happens -

As for the money thing and dealing with other people - I don't - Money in my relationship, and the costs of the visa, etc... are between me and my man - People just don't understand it - Even a friend of mine who married and came to the US doesn't get why it is so much harder and takes so much longer for us - she was lucky in that she was from a country that allowed Direct Consular filing - people can only grasp from their own perspectives and experiences

If you truly love this man and want to spend your life with him - Pop your collar and brush off the haters, and believe in what you are doing.

[newlynluv 0]

awww sus you are absolutely right thanks that was def a pick me up :)

[SupportOAFJF 0]

WHAT sUS said !

Just do what ur heart tells u NEWLY..ur in it to win..who cares what anyone else thinks..until u starting differently

[jamerican 2]

Thats why this site is good to share your feelings and experiences because most people have been there, done that or felt that same way. I have learned the hard way that sharing your LDR/JA relationship info with those who have never been through the process will come back to bite you in the azz! So, do as we all have ...come on here to remain sane in the crazy world of LDR!!!

[NatPatBen 3]

I was just wondering with going through the whole process and transition of bringing your so to where your at do any of you ever feel alone like you have no one that can relate to you?

everyone already look at it as being a weird thing to do... I think the first thing that pop in ppl head especially with yardies is not love but they just trying to use you for a green card which is ignorant, I’m new to all this but I know I never felt anyway close to how I feel now about my so it just so happens he is in Jamaica and I’m in NYC, you can date someone around the corner from you and they still deceive you... I just hate the stigmas that come with LDR's oh you must have low self esteem ect... also something that bothers me is the fact of the money situation it is a very costly process to file for someone and maintain a LDR it is much easier for me to accumulate 455 us then him lol, a friend of mine mentioned to me "well what’s the difference would you spend money like that on a guy in NYC and not feel used" the difference is that in NYC we have the utensils that foreign ppl might not have, I hate lack of ambition especially when we have things at our fingertips I mean I can do a short focus group in NYC and get paid $150 bucks for a hour of my time lol so we have tools to get money! so I would like to know if anyone feel this way and how do you explain your situation to other ppl in general how do you cope with this because I’m having a difficult time right now...

What! How can I get in on this focus group thing??

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I was just wondering with going through the whole process and transition of bringing your so to where your at do any of you ever feel alone like you have no one that can relate to you?

everyone already look at it as being a weird thing to do... I think the first thing that pop in ppl head especially with yardies is not love but they just trying to use you for a green card which is ignorant, I'm new to all this but I know I never felt anyway close to how I feel now about my so it just so happens he is in Jamaica and I'm in NYC, you can date someone around the corner from you and they still deceive you... I just hate the stigmas that come with LDR's oh you must have low self esteem ect... also something that bothers me is the fact of the money situation it is a very costly process to file for someone and maintain a LDR it is much easier for me to accumulate 455 us then him lol, a friend of mine mentioned to me "well what's the difference would you spend money like that on a guy in NYC and not feel used" the difference is that in NYC we have the utensils that foreign ppl might not have, I hate lack of ambition especially when we have things at our fingertips I mean I can do a short focus group in NYC and get paid $150 bucks for a hour of my time lol so we have tools to get money! so I would like to know if anyone feel this way and how do you explain your situation to other ppl in general how do you cope with this because I'm having a difficult time right now...

Why do you feel the need to explain or defend the choices you've made. Nothing is guaranteed in life, NOTHING...

I love focus groups, the last ones I did were in New York and it had to do with the way hotels/resorts treat visiting Jamaicans. It was fun and we were paid $150/hr plus we were given vouchers to different properties. I might do another one like that this year...but it has to do with customs/immigrations. I can't wait.

[newlynluv 0]

NatPatBen: lol they really come in handy these focus groups the one i signed up for is http://www.schlesingerassociates.com/ i signed up with them and they call me or i will call them every now and then to get sum xtra cash TRELAWNY PARISH i need the info for the focus group you do vochers is very much needed lol but this site is really good everyone makes very vaild points and i guess no one would understand unless they are going through it theyself

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

NatPatBen: lol they really come in handy these focus groups the one i signed up for is http://www.schlesingerassociates.com/ i signed up with them and they call me or i will call them every now and then to get sum xtra cash TRELAWNY PARISH i need the info for the focus group you do vochers is very much needed lol but this site is really good everyone makes very vaild points and i guess no one would understand unless they are going through it theyself

Newly, my friend recommended me for the focus group, we had to go through some screening process. Girl, that was almost a year ago, I'll see if I have their information. I'm waiting for my girlfriend to get back from Canada, so she can hook me up again.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

my girlfriends do them all the time...up to like $200 bucks.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

my girlfriends do them all the time...up to like $200 bucks.

Kimmy --

mi ago ask her if any ago deh innah CT near u

[sus 70]

my girlfriends do them all the time...up to like $200 bucks.

Kimmy --

mi ago ask her if any ago deh innah CT near u

What about me

[*HeavenSent* 0]

Newlyinluv i can relate to how you feel becuz at times i do get discouraged.. its so hard being away from my SO..i live in south florida and my SO is in jamaica as well ...we text everyday but we dont talk everyday sometimes i go for days without hearing his voice and its the hardest thing..i'm 22 and a college student ...since meeting him and being with i'm so happy and in love ...he is truly heavensent.. and the only person who understands what i'm going thru is my mom becuz she has been there thru it all and was even there when we met in jamaica back in april ..my dad doesnt even know about my relationship..becuz he's not going to agree with it..i just engagded valentines day weekend and my dad and his side of the family doesnt even know ..i'm scared to tell them becuz i dont want them to think i'm crazy..its so hard on me at times ..becuz i want my family to support me and i know that their not going to becuz their gonna say he's trying to use me and they dont even know him...you can't help the way people feel and how they think..i cant tell u how many times people have made stupid ignorant comments about how my SO is trying to use me for this and for that..its very hard to deal with but at the end of the day all that matters is that YOUR happy..there will always be people who say things to discourage you becuz they don't know and they don't understand. All i can say is that trust in god ..and follow your heart..everyone has their own life to live..and the great thing about visa journey is that their are people here who always here to support you..through the journey !! keep the faith and may god bless your journey !!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

my girlfriends do them all the time...up to like $200 bucks.

Kimmy --

mi ago ask her if any ago deh innah CT near u

What about me

ush

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

my girlfriends do them all the time...up to like $200 bucks.

Kimmy --

mi ago ask her if any ago deh innah CT near u

What about me

Lawd sus;

I never knew you to have any problems with immgration and customs in Jamaica. If I'm wrong correct me, I hate it when the take every DAMN THING out of my suitcases then ask me to pack it back, I have to ask them...IF A MI TEK DEM OUT INNAH DI FUS PLACE