DINNER IN MENA LAND

[KHPerfectMatch 1]

How did you know that's my favorite show??? The muffin tin meat loaf idea came DIRECTLY from 30 Minute Meals with Rachel Ray!

[merijan 0]

My husband was spoiled by his mom in Pakistan. But he lived in London for two years before comeing here and he learned to do it all on his own. He likes to cook and we take turns. When I recently had my gall bladder surgery he made me stay in bed and cooked and took care of kids, and everything.

My ex was very different he would even expect me to make his coffee or tea when I was home from the hospital after a c-section, nursing our son, and two other kids to take care of... well needless to say what he was...******* ********..

I did cook when my hubby was working full time and I was not and on his days off he cooked . Now he was laid off so its 50/50. .

[childress_london 3]

Last night while cooking I said to the husband "can you come help me please" his responce was "why thats a woman's job", then starts laughing about it. Needless to said I didnt find it to funny.

If my husband said that to me, I would have put aside what I was cooking, slowly put my coat on and drove to the nearest applebees by myself and have dinner there I don't do well with snotty remarks like that.

besides, my husband is a fab cook. He's the best and he would never say "that's a woman's job". that infuriates me and wont take that from anyone.

he knows better.

This is really the way men from MENA think.....

THIS IS WHAT I THINK

ladies the ideas are great and thank you

i mean i guess it comes down on me either way

i am an excellent cook and cooked up a storm before he came, but i guess it was when I wanted to or had the extra time, usually on weekends

the freezing thing is a great idea and i am looking into that crock pot

hubby doesnt mind left overs for then next day

he does love tuna and mac n cheese and the easy stuff just not much for "dinner"

to him a sandwich is not a meal

I just told him that HERE people will eat pretty much whatever they want at any time

i told him snacks were good to hold him over throughout the day and like snacks dont work with him

ok

so i said that typically you can even eat breakfast for dinner, i mean it isnt ideal but it works if you are low on food or just plain ol hungry

i dunno i guess my liberal thinking is just too much for him, it's gonna take some time

Yeah, food is one of the most important things a person brings from his/her culture. Mess with their food and they will feel very insecure. I can't count the stories I've heard of people going to another country for a vacation and heading straight to the first McDonald's they see! I'm sure it will take time for him to adapt his eating habits, if he's able to do it at all. lol. My husband lives in Canada and all he eats is pizza or take out from the local Perisan restaurant. Lately though he has been willing to venture out to different restaurants with me when I visit. He has something he's familiar with, and then he will try whatever I order to see if he likes it. He's soooo picky!

[childress_london 3]

How did you know that's my favorite show??? The muffin tin meat loaf idea came DIRECTLY from 30 Minute Meals with Rachel Ray!

Wow! Well you've been able to adapt her style to your own dishes. I think that's great. I wish I could do that.

[Ban Hammer 13,333]

after reading all these replies, i know dinner better be ready tonight. ya'll been spending way too much time posting here.

[Nothing1234 2]

after reading all these replies, i know dinner better be ready tonight. ya'll been spending way too much time posting here.

I agree. What's with women these days trying to flip the roles? Get back in the kitchen darn it!

[amal 4]

Mine doesn't care much for frozen meals but will eat leftovers.

does jameed soup freeze well???

I MIGHT try the ziploc bag freezing the meat thing and see how that goes over. el hubster is EXTREMELY picky (and is still in the "sandwich is not a meal" frame of mind...

[Nothing1234 2]

Mine doesn't care much for frozen meals but will eat leftovers.

does jameed soup freeze well???

I MIGHT try the ziploc bag freezing the meat thing and see how that goes over. el hubster is EXTREMELY picky (and is still in the "sandwich is not a meal" frame of mind...

It IS a meal...tell him to call my hubby. He can explain how an addition of pickles and some potato salad or cole slaw makes a full meal!

[sandinista! 1,816]

from my understanding, in muslim households if women don't want to cook, they don't have to. their husbands are obligated to bring them whatever food they want in that case. and i have to question the very sanity of men who marry women they know they have no possible way of providing for fully in the manner prescribed by God in the quran, making it necessary for their wives to work outside, that then behave like whiny children over what they're served for dinner. if a woman is gracious and generous enough to help her husband fulfill his God given obligations like that, complaints are simply unacceptable. i don't know how anything could be more obvious or self-explanatory than that. it's more than just bad manners, it's un-islamic.

[Sandrila 1]

Ha re: sandwhiches. The husband came right before Ramadan 2005. On the first iftar of the fast, I made my usual fast breaking meal - a tuna melt and some soup from a can. When he looked at his plate he had the saddest look on his face. We figured out quickly that we had different ideas of what constitutes a meal.

[Jenn! 918]

from my understanding, in muslim households if women don't want to cook, they don't have to. their husbands are obligated to bring them whatever food they want in that case. and i have to question the very sanity of men who marry women they know they have no possible way of providing for fully in the manner prescribed by God in the quran, making it necessary for their wives to work outside, that then behave like whiny children over what they're served for dinner. if a woman is gracious and generous enough to help her husband fulfill his God given obligations like that, complaints are simply unacceptable. i don't know how anything could be more obvious or self-explanatory than that. it's more than just bad manners, it's un-islamic.

I have to agree. While I can't speak to whether or not it's islamic, I just think it defies all common sense. I don't understand how someone could justify behaving in that way. If it were me, my focus would be less on figuring out how to accommodate the selfishness (IMO) and more on education.

[Nothing1234 2]

from my understanding, in muslim households if women don't want to cook, they don't have to. their husbands are obligated to bring them whatever food they want in that case. and i have to question the very sanity of men who marry women they know they have no possible way of providing for fully in the manner prescribed by God in the quran, making it necessary for their wives to work outside, that then behave like whiny children over what they're served for dinner. if a woman is gracious and generous enough to help her husband fulfill his God given obligations like that, complaints are simply unacceptable. i don't know how anything could be more obvious or self-explanatory than that. it's more than just bad manners, it's un-islamic.

I have to agree. While I can't speak to whether or not it's islamic, I just think it defies all common sense. I don't understand how someone could justify behaving in that way. If it were me, my focus would be less on figuring out how to accommodate the selfishness (IMO) and more on education.

[sara535 15]

from my understanding, in muslim households if women don't want to cook, they don't have to. their husbands are obligated to bring them whatever food they want in that case. and i have to question the very sanity of men who marry women they know they have no possible way of providing for fully in the manner prescribed by God in the quran, making it necessary for their wives to work outside, that then behave like whiny children over what they're served for dinner. if a woman is gracious and generous enough to help her husband fulfill his God given obligations like that, complaints are simply unacceptable. i don't know how anything could be more obvious or self-explanatory than that. it's more than just bad manners, it's un-islamic.

I have to agree. While I can't speak to whether or not it's islamic, I just think it defies all common sense. I don't understand how someone could justify behaving in that way. If it were me, my focus would be less on figuring out how to accommodate the selfishness (IMO) and more on education.

I also agree with the principles of this, working women shouldnt be expected to be a full time homemaker as well and husbands absolutely should be more appreciative of this

BUT

I will say that in the years before my husband arrive I relied way too heavily on convenience foods - be it prepackaged or carryout or whatever, and his distate for this stuff has only improved the health of our household's overall diet. Granted, he is not a whiner and helps out with cooking quite a lot, so between the 2 ofus we prepare almost all of the food in the house and with the help of some planning as this thread has discussed, its really not a big deal or a hardship. its fresher and healthier and way less packed with preservatives and additives. so in this case I guess I see there is a possible outcome thats win/win. I wouldnt be cool with b*tching and whining though, thats for sure.

[amal 4]

mine gets cranky if the food isn't "right". He was that way in his country too though. He even admitted it was one of the biggest causes of arguments in his home before he came here and it continues to be such to this day. I agree with what sara agreed with but also agree with what she stated. His "gripes' aren't really that bad considering he prefers fresh vs preservatives so therefore we do eat much MUCH healthier than I ever thought of before. It just drives me nuts that we can't just have canned ravioli once in a great while without him throwing a tantrum about how "you know that I don't eat this food..." It's tiresome, really.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

from my understanding, in muslim households if women don't want to cook, they don't have to. their husbands are obligated to bring them whatever food they want in that case. and i have to question the very sanity of men who marry women they know they have no possible way of providing for fully in the manner prescribed by God in the quran, making it necessary for their wives to work outside, that then behave like whiny children over what they're served for dinner. if a woman is gracious and generous enough to help her husband fulfill his God given obligations like that, complaints are simply unacceptable. i don't know how anything could be more obvious or self-explanatory than that. it's more than just bad manners, it's un-islamic.

True. According to traditional Islamic law, wives are only obligated to provide sexual favors to their husbands. They have a choice whether to cook, clean or even raise their own children. The expectations of the men that their wives are to cook and clean is cultural.