Living in Separate Place after 1 Year of Marriage

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Hi everybody.. my husband and i will be separating pretty soon, because he wants to be with his mom, we are now in CA, and his mom is in HI.. i am in my conditional residency here in US upto Sept. 2010.. what would i do? i don't wanna come with him going back to HI because me and his mom cannot go along to each other.. my husband is a mama's boy, he is very dependent to his mom.. i just came here with good faith for our marriage not for anything else.. i sacrificed everything i have in my home, like my very good job in a government just to come here to marry him.. i didn't know that he is a big mama's boy that cannot do anything without his mom.. i am worried maybe he will neglect his obligation and responsiblity to me as his wife and for my residency status.. what is the best thing to do? he did not listen to anybody's advice except to his mom.. please help me.. he has no permanent job since i came here.. he cannot stay in one job in a long period of time.. he always quits after a month having a job.. we don't even have any documents that would prove that we are joint like bills, insurance, etc.. we open a bank account but he refused to deposit his paycheck in our accounts, instead he deposited his paycheck in his account joint with mom.. is this would be fair for me? is this right? please i need help! thank u!

Sorry this happened to you. Drop mommas boy like a hot potato. Divorce him ASAP and file for a waiver. Collect lot of evidence. If his mom can give him more than you he should marry her. Hope he gets some sense before its too late.

So what are the warning signs that you are marrying a momma's boy?? Surely we should be able to think of some.