Living in Separate Place after 1 Year of Marriage

[mystical rose 0]

Hi everybody.. my husband and i will be separating pretty soon, because he wants to be with his mom, we are now in CA, and his mom is in HI.. i am in my conditional residency here in US upto Sept. 2010.. what would i do? i don't wanna come with him going back to HI because me and his mom cannot go along to each other.. my husband is a mama's boy, he is very dependent to his mom.. i just came here with good faith for our marriage not for anything else.. i sacrificed everything i have in my home, like my very good job in a government just to come here to marry him.. i didn't know that he is a big mama's boy that cannot do anything without his mom.. i am worried maybe he will neglect his obligation and responsiblity to me as his wife and for my residency status.. what is the best thing to do? he did not listen to anybody's advice except to his mom.. please help me.. he has no permanent job since i came here.. he cannot stay in one job in a long period of time.. he always quits after a month having a job.. we don't even have any documents that would prove that we are joint like bills, insurance, etc.. we open a bank account but he refused to deposit his paycheck in our accounts, instead he deposited his paycheck in his account joint with mom.. is this would be fair for me? is this right? please i need help! thank u!

[Dakine 26]

Hi everybody.. my husband and i will be separating pretty soon, because he wants to be with his mom, we are now in CA, and his mom is in HI.. i am in my conditional residency here in US upto Sept. 2010.. what would i do? i don't wanna come with him going back to HI because me and his mom cannot go along to each other.. my husband is a mama's boy, he is very dependent to his mom.. i just came here with good faith for our marriage not for anything else.. i sacrificed everything i have in my home, like my very good job in a government just to come here to marry him.. i didn't know that he is a big mama's boy that cannot do anything without his mom.. i am worried maybe he will neglect his obligation and responsiblity to me as his wife and for my residency status.. what is the best thing to do? he did not listen to anybody's advice except to his mom.. please help me.. he has no permanent job since i came here.. he cannot stay in one job in a long period of time.. he always quits after a month having a job.. we don't even have any documents that would prove that we are joint like bills, insurance, etc.. we open a bank account but he refused to deposit his paycheck in our accounts, instead he deposited his paycheck in his account joint with mom.. is this would be fair for me? is this right? please i need help! thank u!

Divorce him and file solo to remove conditions. Get a lawyer to help prove you married with good faith.

[luv2uallday 1]

Hi everybody.. my husband and i will be separating pretty soon, because he wants to be with his mom, we are now in CA, and his mom is in HI.. i am in my conditional residency here in US upto Sept. 2010.. what would i do? i don't wanna come with him going back to HI because me and his mom cannot go along to each other.. my husband is a mama's boy, he is very dependent to his mom.. i just came here with good faith for our marriage not for anything else.. i sacrificed everything i have in my home, like my very good job in a government just to come here to marry him.. i didn't know that he is a big mama's boy that cannot do anything without his mom.. i am worried maybe he will neglect his obligation and responsiblity to me as his wife and for my residency status.. what is the best thing to do? he did not listen to anybody's advice except to his mom.. please help me.. he has no permanent job since i came here.. he cannot stay in one job in a long period of time.. he always quits after a month having a job.. we don't even have any documents that would prove that we are joint like bills, insurance, etc.. we open a bank account but he refused to deposit his paycheck in our accounts, instead he deposited his paycheck in his account joint with mom.. is this would be fair for me? is this right? please i need help! thank u!

you married a boy not a man. If you remove conditions while not living together you will definitly be denied.. I never promote divorce but in this case it is best to leave. Find yourself a man who will love you and that means putting his share into the relationship Imagine you doing 100% of the work how long do you think that kind of marriage will last? it takes two and this boy still has the umbilicle cord to his mama. Wait till he grows up then maybe it can work. Sounds like he has no interest in taking on the responsabilites of a husband at all. I do hope he will get a wake up call in his life. You deserve better than to be treated like that. I wish you the best

[GiGii 4]

I wish there were something to make these USCs accountable for what they put immigrants through. Since you have your conditional green card, you should just run up a whole bunch of debt and since he's responsible for 10yrs, let him deal with it. Then divorce him and go home.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

[justashooter 430]

I wish there were something to make these USCs accountable for what they put immigrants through. Since you have your conditional green card, you should just run up a whole bunch of debt and since he's responsible for 10yrs, let him deal with it. Then divorce him and go home.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

what wonderful advise. (NOT)

[mystical rose 0]

hi Haole.. how much would be the cost if i would get a lawyer? thanks for your advice...

[Chica Yeyé 41]

hi Haole.. how much would be the cost if i would get a lawyer? thanks for your advice...

Contact Catholic Social Services; they usually have pro-bono (free) lawyers to help immigrants in you kind of situation. Best of luck.

[MihaelaNYS 10]

hi Haole.. how much would be the cost if i would get a lawyer? thanks for your advice...

Contact Catholic Social Services; they usually have pro-bono (free) lawyers to help immigrants in you kind of situation. Best of luck.

yes... you should get an immigration expert opinion on this; I needed a divorce lawyer too and they said: "we are Catholic Church, don't deal with divorces".... uhhh...

Although it seems that your best choice is to get divorced, you can skip the services of an atturney by talking to your husband and have him agree with the divorce; then you can file the paperwork and he'll be free to ... live happily ever after with his mommy! (My husband is a Mom's boy too, I know how bad it is... what a waist of time!!!!).

[mystical rose 0]

hi Haole.. how much would be the cost if i would get a lawyer? thanks for your advice...

Contact Catholic Social Services; they usually have pro-bono (free) lawyers to help immigrants in you kind of situation. Best of luck.

yes... you should get an immigration expert opinion on this; I needed a divorce lawyer too and they said: "we are Catholic Church, don't deal with divorces".... uhhh...

Although it seems that your best choice is to get divorced, you can skip the services of an atturney by talking to your husband and have him agree with the divorce; then you can file the paperwork and he'll be free to ... live happily ever after with his mommy! (My husband is a Mom's boy too, I know how bad it is... what a waist of time!!!!).

thanks! my question is when we get divorce, what would happend to me here? my temporary green card is only valid up 2010.. would i be able to apply for permanent residency? would the immigration will approve my application? i'm so confused, i don't know what to do.. pls help..

[pushbrk 12,895]

hi Haole.. how much would be the cost if i would get a lawyer? thanks for your advice...

Contact Catholic Social Services; they usually have pro-bono (free) lawyers to help immigrants in you kind of situation. Best of luck.

yes... you should get an immigration expert opinion on this; I needed a divorce lawyer too and they said: "we are Catholic Church, don't deal with divorces".... uhhh...

Although it seems that your best choice is to get divorced, you can skip the services of an atturney by talking to your husband and have him agree with the divorce; then you can file the paperwork and he'll be free to ... live happily ever after with his mommy! (My husband is a Mom's boy too, I know how bad it is... what a waist of time!!!!).

thanks! my question is when we get divorce, what would happend to me here? my temporary green card is only valid up 2010.. would i be able to apply for permanent residency? would the immigration will approve my application? i'm so confused, i don't know what to do.. pls help..

You'll need to show evidence you entered the marriage in good faith. You don't absolutely need an attorney for divorce but you may need one to help build a case to remove conditions on your own. The joint bank account helps regardless of who is depositing money in it.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

Well that would be every country, I'm afraid. Not sure if you'd starve first or drown in the ocean taking that advice.

[Ellie-and-David 38]

I wish there were something to make these USCs accountable for what they put immigrants through. Since you have your conditional green card, you should just run up a whole bunch of debt and since he's responsible for 10yrs, let him deal with it. Then divorce him and go home.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

What is wrong with you?

Responses like this leave immigrants open to the suggestion that they only moved for a green card. Have some class.

[greg584 0]

I wish there were something to make these USCs accountable for what they put immigrants through. Since you have your conditional green card, you should just run up a whole bunch of debt and since he's responsible for 10yrs, let him deal with it. Then divorce him and go home.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

WOW!

[himher 634]

(laughing) bad advice......the last part that is.....

I wish there were something to make these USCs accountable for what they put immigrants through. Since you have your conditional green card, you should just run up a whole bunch of debt and since he's responsible for 10yrs, let him deal with it. Then divorce him and go home.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

[KGH 0]

(laughing) bad advice......the last part that is.....

I wish there were something to make these USCs accountable for what they put immigrants through. Since you have your conditional green card, you should just run up a whole bunch of debt and since he's responsible for 10yrs, let him deal with it. Then divorce him and go home.

Screw a man that is a momma's boy, screw a country that has irresponsible men like him

Well, you I bet you knew that he is mama's boy before marrying him?!!!! I bet you have heard that he talked about his mama to you, or did he just changed over night??

if you are saying you had good life in your old country, you can always go back and forget about your green card and just divorse him and go back home, screw the removal of your green card condition, don't you think?

Hi everybody.. my husband and i will be separating pretty soon, because he wants to be with his mom, we are now in CA, and his mom is in HI.. i am in my conditional residency here in US upto Sept. 2010.. what would i do? i don't wanna come with him going back to HI because me and his mom cannot go along to each other.. my husband is a mama's boy, he is very dependent to his mom.. i just came here with good faith for our marriage not for anything else.. i sacrificed everything i have in my home, like my very good job in a government just to come here to marry him.. i didn't know that he is a big mama's boy that cannot do anything without his mom.. i am worried maybe he will neglect his obligation and responsiblity to me as his wife and for my residency status.. what is the best thing to do? he did not listen to anybody's advice except to his mom.. please help me.. he has no permanent job since i came here.. he cannot stay in one job in a long period of time.. he always quits after a month having a job.. we don't even have any documents that would prove that we are joint like bills, insurance, etc.. we open a bank account but he refused to deposit his paycheck in our accounts, instead he deposited his paycheck in his account joint with mom.. is this would be fair for me? is this right? please i need help! thank u!

Well, you I bet you knew that he is mama's boy before marrying him?!!!! I bet you have heard that he talked about his mama to you, or did he just changed over night??

if you are saying you had good life in your old country, you can always go back and forget about your green card and just divorse him and go back home, screw the removal of your green card condition, don't you think?

[3600rs 24]

Hi everybody.. my husband and i will be separating pretty soon, because he wants to be with his mom, we are now in CA, and his mom is in HI.. i am in my conditional residency here in US upto Sept. 2010.. what would i do? i don't wanna come with him going back to HI because me and his mom cannot go along to each other.. my husband is a mama's boy, he is very dependent to his mom.. i just came here with good faith for our marriage not for anything else.. i sacrificed everything i have in my home, like my very good job in a government just to come here to marry him.. i didn't know that he is a big mama's boy that cannot do anything without his mom.. i am worried maybe he will neglect his obligation and responsiblity to me as his wife and for my residency status.. what is the best thing to do? he did not listen to anybody's advice except to his mom.. please help me.. he has no permanent job since i came here.. he cannot stay in one job in a long period of time.. he always quits after a month having a job.. we don't even have any documents that would prove that we are joint like bills, insurance, etc.. we open a bank account but he refused to deposit his paycheck in our accounts, instead he deposited his paycheck in his account joint with mom.. is this would be fair for me? is this right? please i need help! thank u!

Sorry this happened to you. Drop mommas boy like a hot potato. Divorce him ASAP and file for a waiver. Collect lot of evidence. If his mom can give him more than you he should marry her. Hope he gets some sense before its too late.