What happens if baby's father not around or wont sign?

[SuperDuper! 230]

I would be interested in hearing about experiences the community may have in petitioning a single mom, with the bio dad being not available or not cooperative, maybe even demanding a ransom to release the kid. Thanks.

[YuAndDan 153]

Moving this to Consulate/Embassy forum, this becomes a problem at the consulate stage of the process.

[lucyrich 20]

It's going to depend in a large part on the laws of the country in question. You've got a mother, father, and child, all located in country X and citizens of country X. The US laws have no jurisdiction over the citizens of country X while they're inside country X. Country X's laws will determine under what circumstances the mother can leave the country and take the child. Maybe you could get more specific advice in one of the regional forums for the country in question.

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

There are international stances on child kidnapping which means taking a child without the permission of a parent. The US government wants no part in aiding in this. So if the other parents is known and will not sign willing you will have to seek whatever remedies that counties laws have for issuing child custody and visitation rulings. If you can't get permission the child will not be able to come.

[Dakine 26]

I would be interested in hearing about experiences the community may have in petitioning a single mom, with the bio dad being not available or not cooperative, maybe even demanding a ransom to release the kid. Thanks.

Depends on the country!

[Fred N Emilia 0]

There are international stances on child kidnapping which means taking a child without the permission of a parent. The US government wants no part in aiding in this. So if the other parents is known and will not sign willing you will have to seek whatever remedies that counties laws have for issuing child custody and visitation rulings. If you can't get permission the child will not be able to come.

Depends on the country, weather or not they are married, weather the kids passports carry the mothers lastname or fathers name, so many factors.

[SingleCharles 0]

We are dealing with the same issue. There were a number of VJ'ers that posed the following solutions to me:

1) Come to an amiable agreement outside of the court (i.e. arrange for extended visits, plane fares, etc) - our first choice

2) Fight it in court (be prepared for ugly things to happen, and spend lots of money on a lawyer)

3) Pay off the father

4) Move to her country and forget ideas about separating the child from his father.

I am sorry I cannot offer more than that. I know it is difficult. I wish you the best of luck.

[Fred N Emilia 0]

If we know what country they are from it will make it easier for people to offer advice

[SuperDuper! 230]

Sorry, the Philippines is the country I am referring to. What if the father abandons the child and mother? Or refuses to sign off on the child? How can a man petition her for K1 visa in a situation like this. Thanks for your input.

[Fred N Emilia 0]

Sorry, the Philippines is the country I am referring to. What if the father abandons the child and mother? Or refuses to sign off on the child? How can a man petition her for K1 visa in a situation like this. Thanks for your input.

NOW I CAN COMMENT!

First of all

Are they married?

Who's lastname are the children carrying?

Is the fathers name in the birth certificates?

Do they have a case in court or arrangement for custody?

[sj5 4]

He can have the child if he doesn't sign the travel document. However, unmarried Filipino with children doesn't need their father's parent consent unless if the child carry his/her father's last name.

[Fred N Emilia 0]

He can have the child if he doesn't sign the travel document. However, unmarried Filipino with children doesn't need their father's parent consent unless if the child carry his/her father's last name.

AMEN!!!!!!!!!

Do a search on K2 in the forum and you will see many single Filipinos with children has gone through thios already!

Goodluck!

Edited February 23, 2009 by SoInLove16

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I would be interested in hearing about experiences the community may have in petitioning a single mom, with the bio dad being not available or not cooperative, maybe even demanding a ransom to release the kid. Thanks.

Depends on all the circumstances. In our case the bio Dad just wanted something for himself (imagine that) so my wife drew up the letters and an agreement to be filed with the court relieving him obligations to child support (he actually WAS paying his child support and nothing else). They had a "signing party" at her attorney's office and the attorney did the whole thing for $50 under the table. I took over the child support pyamnets and more until we got everything approved and she arrived. We don't need his money and never expected him to send money to the USA at any rate. I know some have offered cash payments and usually not so much, depends on the country. Best to do this and avoid court action if you can.

[SuperDuper! 230]

I really appreciate all the input here. It is a hypothetical situation right now. But I know I want to find my true love in the Philippines, and so many nice ladies have a kid or two, and I am willing to form an "instant family", just add ring, hehe. BUT...I am concerned about a crum bum "father" who would refuse to "sign off" on the deal and kid, and thus prevent said kid from coming to US with mommy.

Is it really so simple as said below, that if the kid is in the mother's name only, then the child is free to travel to US under a K1 petition with mommy, my wife to be?

In an abandonment situation, does the mother have to prove that she attempted to NOTIFY the father of her intentions to take child to US?

You guys rock!

I would be interested in hearing about experiences the community may have in petitioning a single mom, with the bio dad being not available or not cooperative, maybe even demanding a ransom to release the kid. Thanks.

[sj5 4]

I really appreciate all the input here. It is a hypothetical situation right now. But I know I want to find my true love in the Philippines, and so many nice ladies have a kid or two, and I am willing to form an "instant family", just add ring, hehe. BUT...I am concerned about a crum bum "father" who would refuse to "sign off" on the deal and kid, and thus prevent said kid from coming to US with mommy.

Is it really so simple as said below, that if the kid is in the mother's name only, then the child is free to travel to US under a K1 petition with mommy, my wife to be?

In an abandonment situation, does the mother have to prove that she attempted to NOTIFY the father of her intentions to take child to US?

You guys rock!

I would be interested in hearing about experiences the community may have in petitioning a single mom, with the bio dad being not available or not cooperative, maybe even demanding a ransom to release the kid. Thanks.

CAN A TRAVEL CLEARANCE BE ISSUED TO ILLEGITIMATE CHILDREN WHO ARE STILL APPLYING FOR THEIR VISA IN THE EMBASSY?

Illegitimate children are under the custody of the mother. If they will be traveling with the mother, they are not required to secure a travel clearance from the DSWD. If they are traveling with person other than the mother, they must secure a travel clearance.

Edited February 24, 2009 by VJ's Opportunist