Visa/Waiver trap

[ktmmansgal 0]

Don't let dmartmar bother you, tigretigre. He enjoys going into topics whose titles sound controversial and seeing who he can tick off or insult.

So, it appears that TracyTN has the list -- who's posts are worthy of response and who's posts are not ---

always remember before slagging someone else off ... that your post is above criticism!

What a wave of response --- I am of the belief that everyone has a viewpoint and "yes" a finger was pointed in the comment back to tigretigre but, it may have also made tigretigre take another look at her situation from a different angle --- there have been several posts just like the one that appeared to hurt some feelings --- In defense of any post that does not come across as "Everything will be OK" is that we spare some feelings at the interview by sharing both the positive and negative aspects of a situation so a person is well informed and prepared for anything -- because a big ANYTHING always seems to happen --- all we have is information to arm ourselves with in preparation for this whole nightmare of a VISA process --- As evidenced I don't read every post on this site But some of you folks just stand out from time to time ---

guess i don't stand out from time to time because you would realize that i'm not of the mindset that 'everything will be ok' whenever someone posts about an issue ... hence my response here ...

tracy merely suggested that tigre ignore dmart ... it was clear that he didn't have a grasp of the actual situation and he likes to spin things! a persona attack on tracy was not warranted, IMHO.

Thanks for your backup documentation to prove you standout --- gimygirl is officially added to the list ---but in all reality if you have a thousand +posts you are already there ---

I just ride the wave here ---- answer questions to the best of my ability, give advice on things I have been through and all in all, find the sagas that sometimes ensue to be entertaining and sometimes quite sad --- I am here to read about experiences I have not gone through yet, so I am prepared for those I will be going through --- I have met some folks that I will continue to communicate with after all this is over but when my Hubby gets here and we get that green card --- I will be done and soooooo ready to begin a normal life which does not include Visa Journey --- As for TracyTN her visa journey has not even begun --- I wish here all the luck when it does and hope that she can sail through it without a glitch due to her broad understanding of all the ins and outs through the rest of our experiences --- and appears she has pretty tough skin (no correct that -- she uses that Airbonne product so her skin is likely smooth and supple --- whatever --- I thank you all for responding -------

[aussiewench 9]

Don't let dmartmar bother you, tigretigre. He enjoys going into topics whose titles sound controversial and seeing who he can tick off or insult.

So, it appears that TracyTN has the list -- who's posts are worthy of response and who's posts are not ---

always remember before slagging someone else off ... that your post is above criticism!

What a wave of response --- I am of the belief that everyone has a viewpoint and "yes" a finger was pointed in the comment back to tigretigre but, it may have also made tigretigre take another look at her situation from a different angle --- there have been several posts just like the one that appeared to hurt some feelings --- In defense of any post that does not come across as "Everything will be OK" is that we spare some feelings at the interview by sharing both the positive and negative aspects of a situation so a person is well informed and prepared for anything -- because a big ANYTHING always seems to happen --- all we have is information to arm ourselves with in preparation for this whole nightmare of a VISA process --- As evidenced I don't read every post on this site But some of you folks just stand out from time to time ---

guess i don't stand out from time to time because you would realize that i'm not of the mindset that 'everything will be ok' whenever someone posts about an issue ... hence my response here ...

tracy merely suggested that tigre ignore dmart ... it was clear that he didn't have a grasp of the actual situation and he likes to spin things! a persona attack on tracy was not warranted, IMHO.

Thanks for your backup documentation to prove you standout --- gimygirl is officially added to the list ---but in all reality if you have a thousand +posts you are already there ---

I just ride the wave here ---- answer questions to the best of my ability, give advice on things I have been through and all in all, find the sagas that sometimes ensue to be entertaining and sometimes quite sad --- I am here to read about experiences I have not gone through yet, so I am prepared for those I will be going through --- I have met some folks that I will continue to communicate with after all this is over but when my Hubby gets here and we get that green card --- I will be done and soooooo ready to begin a normal life which does not include Visa Journey --- As for TracyTN her visa journey has not even begun --- I wish here all the luck when it does and hope that she can sail through it without a glitch due to her broad understanding of all the ins and outs through the rest of our experiences --- and appears she has pretty tough skin (no correct that -- she uses that Airbonne product so her skin is likely smooth and supple --- whatever --- I thank you all for responding -------

I guess I am too then by that logic, considering my 1000's of posts and they arent all off topic This is all getting a bit ridiculous if you ask me. Many of us stay around to help others. If thats not having a life then Im guilty and proud If we all left once we completed this journey then there would be a lot left flayling in the wind.

[rebeccajo 14]

If thats not having a life then Im guilty and proud If we all left once we completed this journey then there would be a lot left flayling in the wind.

No life here either Lorelle.

Besides that, it gives us something other than porn to look at.......

Edited August 2, 2006 by rebeccajo

[ChasUK 0]

If thats not having a life then Im guilty and proud If we all left once we completed this journey then there would be a lot left flayling in the wind.

No life here either Lorelle.

Besides that, it gives us something other than porn to look at.......

Now you tell me,.....

I wondered where the porn forum was here. I've wasted months trying to find the naughty piccys here.

[ktmmansgal 0]

Never did I imply that you folks didn't have a life outside VJ --- For myself, I am just very excited to get back to what normal life was pre-our Visa process --- Doing a couple 50-mile bicycle rides a month, getting back to the design work I have put off --- Building a deck together on our house --- And Yes, If someone were to email me from a previous post, I would certainly answer it -- but ,using this as my local support group to help me deal with this separation and the process hopefully will not be necessary ---- Oh and the last thing I forgot to tell you I will be doing when I finish my journey is to write that "Horror Story" about the Visa Process that I have been living for the last year --- anyone willing to add some input?

--- I personally use this computer for work way too much to want to sit down for any reason once huybby is here and we can do the things we did separately now together --- If your thing is this or porn what ever turns your crank ---

Edited August 2, 2006 by ktmmansgal

[tigretigre 0]

I am of the belief that everyone has a viewpoint and "yes" a finger was pointed in the comment back to tigretigre but, it may have also made tigretigre take another look at her situation from a different angle

And indeed I would be lost without such guidance.

Certainly our situation is open to dmartmar's interpretation--which is why I posted in the first place, by the way. My whole point is that I want to avoid the CO from jumping to the same conclusion, when the reality is that even legal and medical professionals are confused about this aspect of immigration law. Please don't insult me by suggesting his comments were intended to be some kind of "tough love" approach to helping me evaluate the situation, when all he did was restate the issue while casting aspersions on my fiance's character.

Other folks here have been offering me encouragement, yes, but they have also been offering me suggestions based on their own experiences and it's been very helpful. One of the best uses of this site is as a clearinghouse for anecdotal information on how various types of cases usuallly turn out, which is very different from being a clearinghouse for sugarcoated reassurances that everything will be fine. I have no doubt that if someone here had been denied a visa in a situation like that of my fiance's, they'd share that experience. That would be helpful. Dmartmar simply interpreted our situation in the worst possible light, then posted that interpretation as if it were established fact, and in the form of an accusation. How is that helpful? It isn't, and it was never intended to be, and I think that's what got peoples' dander up here. Especially if it is true that dmartmar has a history of posting nastygrams just to get a rise out of people.