How to get rid of jealousy?

[Honey&Sweety 1]

Hi, there my VJ Community. I am almost 2 weeks now here in US and for that 2 weeks I was able to meet some of my fiance`s family and friends, he showed me around here in Michigan and I would probably say that I chose the right man in my life. Just tonight we went out and visited my fiance`s friend.In his friends house I was able to meet his ex-fiance and I feel so bad. That friends we visited was their common friends. Ar first I did n`t know that the girl whom was introduced to me was his ex-fiance. I was so glad meeting the lady(that so called his-ex-live in partner)I hug her and keep on talking to her. I did n`t really asks what was his connection to that lady . I was able to know it when we are on the car heading to home. I ask my fiance who is that lady whom was introduced to me, and he said it was his ex-fiance. After that I flared up and felt so bad and my heart was really pumping of anger. I felt that was a set-up so we can meet. My fiance explained to me that he did n`t know that his -ex will be coming in their friends house. Maybe his fiend called her so she can drop by in their house because we were coming. I have a lot of negative feelings in my mind.Oh! well, I did n`t believed him that he does n`t know that. As far as I know here in US you have to inform somebody if you will be coming for a visit or so.

I don`t know what to do now. I am just in silent and not talking. I don`t want to talk to him because I might hurt him too. I know myself I I got angry I often say anything that sometimes I am not aware of. So I want to be cool down and let this feelings past. I want to get rid of this jealousy and just focus on our up coming wedding. My fiance is assuring me of his great love that was his pasts and nothing I can do about it. I love him too that`s why I am here in US and marrying him soon.

Please share anything how can I get rid this ill feeling of mine. I don`t want this to affect to my relationship to him. Jealousy is not good as others said, I rarely experienced this feelings just now because I know that jealousy is not good.

Thank you for reading my posts. It lightens my emotions and feeling okay after doing this.

God bless !

[Marc & Solika 1]

If you loved him enough to endure all the visa procedures and to come all the way to the US, then you can get past this! Jealousy is a very destructive emotion and you really should take control of it. He loved you enough to bring you here to be with him and YOU are with him now, NOT her. Don't take too much stock in her and just forget it and as you said, focus on your upcoming marriage. Possibly he really had no idea that she would be there. Trust in his love for you and everything will be fine!

[mRs StOcKwElL 1]

Hi, there my VJ Community. I am almost 2 weeks now here in US and for that 2 weeks I was able to meet some of my fiance`s family and friends, he showed me around here in Michigan and I would probably say that I chose the right man in my life. Just tonight we went out and visited my fiance`s friend.In his friends house I was able to meet his ex-fiance and I feel so bad. That friends we visited was their common friends. Ar first I did n`t know that the girl whom was introduced to me was his ex-fiance. I was so glad meeting the lady(that so called his-ex-live in partner)I hug her and keep on talking to her. I did n`t really asks what was his connection to that lady . I was able to know it when we are on the car heading to home. I ask my fiance who is that lady whom was introduced to me, and he said it was his ex-fiance. After that I flared up and felt so bad and my heart was really pumping of anger. I felt that was a set-up so we can meet. My fiance explained to me that he did n`t know that his -ex will be coming in their friends house. Maybe his fiend called her so she can drop by in their house because we were coming. I have a lot of negative feelings in my mind.Oh! well, I did n`t believed him that he does n`t know that. As far as I know here in US you have to inform somebody if you will be coming for a visit or so.

I don`t know what to do now. I am just in silent and not talking. I don`t want to talk to him because I might hurt him too. I know myself I I got angry I often say anything that sometimes I am not aware of. So I want to be cool down and let this feelings past. I want to get rid of this jealousy and just focus on our up coming wedding. My fiance is assuring me of his great love that was his pasts and nothing I can do about it. I love him too that`s why I am here in US and marrying him soon.

Please share anything how can I get rid this ill feeling of mine. I don`t want this to affect to my relationship to him. Jealousy is not good as others said, I rarely experienced this feelings just now because I know that jealousy is not good.

Thank you for reading my posts. It lightens my emotions and feeling okay after doing this.

God bless !

I understand your feeling coz I am a very jealous woman too...I am very lucky that I have a very patient husband...Well, just put in your mind that your fiance chooses you and not that girl and soon you will be married soon...Good luck & Best wished to both of you!!!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hi, there my VJ Community. I am almost 2 weeks now here in US and for that 2 weeks I was able to meet some of my fiance`s family and friends, he showed me around here in Michigan and I would probably say that I chose the right man in my life. Just tonight we went out and visited my fiance`s friend.In his friends house I was able to meet his ex-fiance and I feel so bad. That friends we visited was their common friends. Ar first I did n`t know that the girl whom was introduced to me was his ex-fiance. I was so glad meeting the lady(that so called his-ex-live in partner)I hug her and keep on talking to her. I did n`t really asks what was his connection to that lady . I was able to know it when we are on the car heading to home. I ask my fiance who is that lady whom was introduced to me, and he said it was his ex-fiance. After that I flared up and felt so bad and my heart was really pumping of anger. I felt that was a set-up so we can meet. My fiance explained to me that he did n`t know that his -ex will be coming in their friends house. Maybe his fiend called her so she can drop by in their house because we were coming. I have a lot of negative feelings in my mind.Oh! well, I did n`t believed him that he does n`t know that. As far as I know here in US you have to inform somebody if you will be coming for a visit or so.

I don`t know what to do now. I am just in silent and not talking. I don`t want to talk to him because I might hurt him too. I know myself I I got angry I often say anything that sometimes I am not aware of. So I want to be cool down and let this feelings past. I want to get rid of this jealousy and just focus on our up coming wedding. My fiance is assuring me of his great love that was his pasts and nothing I can do about it. I love him too that`s why I am here in US and marrying him soon.

Please share anything how can I get rid this ill feeling of mine. I don`t want this to affect to my relationship to him. Jealousy is not good as others said, I rarely experienced this feelings just now because I know that jealousy is not good.

Thank you for reading my posts. It lightens my emotions and feeling okay after doing this.

God bless !

He dumped her, picked you and then went through the visa process to get you here and you are jealous???? I bet his ex-fiancee wishes she could have inspired him so much.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

LMAO!

[Yoink 7]

“Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time”

“Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

“Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time”

“Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”

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[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

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Its all about the Chase

[caybee 21]

In the U.S., people show up uninvited all the time Your fiance probably really had no idea she would be there.

As others have said, he chose you over her. You're with him. She isn't.

And look how this played out. For all she knows, you knew exactly who she was. And how did you act? You were friendly, confident, gracious, even hugged her (and that was the real you, without jealousy clouding your mind). So just keep that confidence and graciousness, and keep acting as you did with her before you knew (that is if you see her again). Then your fiance won't feel defensive, and no one will have anything to say against you. You will come across as a woman who has nothing to fear from any woman.

Jealousy is quick to latch on and difficult to get rid of once it does. Try to put an end to it as quickly as you can, and you'll both be much happier. Good luck.

Edited February 20, 2009 by caybee

[sweet_wifey22 0]

Gurl, focus on preparing your wedding. AFter the wedding you will feel great!!!!

Jealous are always in the relationship. I am a jealous woman too .

But I can control it now.

good luck.

[Danno 1,228]

I hope you will get a handle on the Jealousy because it will kill his love for you if it gets out of hand.

I was serious with a lady sum years back who has that Jealousy streak. I put up with it for a while but when I found myself lying to her about absolutely nothing just to avoid her suspicious questioning, I ended it.

She was a great lady in many ways, we are distant friends now but every time she would ask me some question like that, it was like she really telling me "I don't trust/ believe you".

I also realize it's not easy to control Jealousy, if you find this to be a reoccurring issue, either you got the wrong guy or you better read up on how to deal with it before you ruin things.

[NickD 203]

Who is jealous of who? When my wife and I first met, we considered our past life history, we just met and you cannot change the past. We agreed not to talk about past relationships. Our ex's come up from time to time, we both have kids that share a life with those ex's, but we stay far far away. Jealously has not been a part of our relationship.

Let's look at the definition of jealously.

jeal·ous (jµl“…s) adj. 1. Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position. 2.a. Resentful or bitter in rivalry; envious: jealous of the success of others. b. Inclined to suspect rivalry. 3. Having to do with or arising from feelings of envy, apprehension, or bitterness: jealous thoughts. 4. Vigilant in guarding something: We are jealous of our good name. 5. Intolerant of disloyalty or infidelity;

Yeah, I dated women with those characteristics, good reason to drop them and if I didn't trust them, certainly not terms for a good relationship, or in short, the shoe doesn't fit, move on. Jealousy is the precise opposite of trust, and if you do not trust your partner, you really don't have anything.

[Jasman0717 9]

You need to communicate with your fiance, that is very important. Don't let petty jealousies get in your way to happiness. I am best friends with my first wife and she adores Claudeth. I guess it is the Filipina nature to be jealous