Wife is Psycho

[SuperDuper! 230]

all women are psycho.

haha i agree ..

Yea, why cant women be normal, like us <duck>

[^KK^ 3]

all women are psycho.

haha i agree ..

Yea, why cant women be normal, like us <duck>

And the shoes is going toward you head!!! Why can't men be normal??/

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

all women are psycho.

haha i agree ..

Yea, why cant women be normal, like us <duck>

And the shoes is going toward you head!!! Why can't men be normal??/

so violent! this above proves my earlier statement!

[Ginger cat 3]

I think we tend to forget that cobbs hasn't been lucky at the lottery of wifey.

if he has his green card, it's not under the condition of being married. so he has the choice to leave or stay, but never be a public charge for the US society...they have enough burden to bear this way.

.... the traders at the stock exchange, for instance.

[Elghazi2008 4]

Cobbs,

I am sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time with your wife. Schitzophrenia doesn't equal crazy, it's a mental disorder that causes people to see, hear, or sometimes even feel things that aren't there. I worked with people affected by that disorder, so when you say that you didn't like what you saw, I can completely understand what you mean. It can be really frightening, especially if you don't know what's going on or if your wife doesn't know when it's happening. She should be on medication for that. As far as her not telling you about her illness before you got married, it was unfair of her. I don't think you can get an annulment based on that, but it doesn't sound like she wants to be honest about things unless they benefit her in some way.

Aside from that, no it's not normal for married couples to go EVERYWHERE together. You both should have your alone time, even if it's only when you're walking to the store. There's nothing wrong with making friends with the opposite sex either, but staying up until 1am talking to them on the phone or something (unless they've been best friends and the other party is seriously involved in his own relationship) isn't quite the best way to keep a trusting relationship. As far as her telling her mom everything, you should talk to her about that. Maybe she doesn't realize that you know about it...That or maybe she just wants to talk to somebody about it, in which case, you should be stepping in and letting her tell you how she feels when certain things happen between you two. Some women feel a need to talk to their friends about the most personal things in their life, so if her mom is her best friend, she will probably be told EVERYTHING unless you move further away from her mother and find her some new friends.

I think it sounds like you are just stressed and as you learn more about your spouse, you're finding it harder and harder to deal with the fact that you chose to be permanently involved with her. I would honestly try working things out, give it 3-6 months because it takes a long time for people to change annoying habits or learn how to redirect their conversation...and if you're still going nuts, go ahead and begin pursuing a divorce. But before you do, at least talk to her and tell her how you're feeling and let her know that you're willing to work things out before throwing in the towel. If she knows that you're down to the line between staying and leaving, she may just decide it's worth keeping her mouth shut :-)

[Elghazi2008 4]

If you were in my shoes what would you do... I am only 24yrs old

Feel sorry for you..

if she use computer lot and really wanna find out what she doing

check out think link

http://www.top5softwarereviews.com/pcpandora/?id=pcpandora

Now THAT is mature... installing a stroke following software instead of open and honest communication.....

It has absolutely nothing to do with maturity at all. It's trust they're dealing with. If she isn't an honest person, I guess this is a good way to find out what the truth really is. If she doesn't have anything to hide and they have good communication between the two of them, nothing he finds will be a shock then, will it?

[GregYohn 0]

Hola!

My 1st wife was instutionalized in a mental hospital 2 times. The first time was on our honeymoon. The 2nd time was 14 months later! She moved out and never came back!

Divorce her after you give her a one-way ticket back to her home country!

My Ex's parents should have told me she should never get have gotten married. They just wanted her out of the house!

You seem to have other problems there too, so just end it all!

Simple!

Edited April 2, 2009 by GregYohn

[Elghazi2008 4]

#1 get a job. every man needs a job

#2 make enough money to support yourself, and you can complain about yourself.

#3 make enough money to support yourself and your family, and you can complain about yourself and your family.

#4 when you get married, forget about your friends. your wife is your friend, and she may allow you to occasionally see "old friends".

#5 put down the nintendo. men do not play nintendo.

#6 sitting around coffee bars chatting with your buds is not the way to spend a day. go home to your wife and take her out for the day. this is america, not turkey.

Actually, I liked the 'man rules' for the most part...If you don't read them literally, they really do make sense. Extra kudos for #5.

[GueraKristina 1]

#1 get a job. every man needs a job

#2 make enough money to support yourself, and you can complain about yourself.

#3 make enough money to support yourself and your family, and you can complain about yourself and your family.

#4 when you get married, forget about your friends. your wife is your friend, and she may allow you to occasionally see "old friends".

#5 put down the nintendo. men do not play nintendo.

#6 sitting around coffee bars chatting with your buds is not the way to spend a day. go home to your wife and take her out for the day. this is america, not turkey.

I read these manrules and i like them. Another poster said that they include their wives in their friendly outings with their friends when its appropriate, ummm when is it not appropriate? shes ur wife. I dont know, i think its rude to leave ur SO at home while you go out with your friends, my husband speaks little english and i have to translate most everything my family and friends say, but its hurtful when you dont include them. I was in mexico for 2 months, and my husband went out with his friends 1 night and left me at home, it hurts, and i felt left out.

#1, man and woman should both have a job, given their situation allows them to. (i know my husband gets upset at the fact that he wouldnt be able to work, which is good VERY GOOD haha

#2 making enough money for yourself is always a good thing, then you can afford to have your own stuff and do what you want b/c its all your own stuff and you have the right to B***H

#3 see ^^

#4 I completely agree with that, see the above comment, i personally dont like my husbands best friends, (whom are all in mexico, thank god... is that bad???) I know my husband has his own mind, but his friends like to hang out in bad compromising situations,they like to party, club, go to brothels, mess around on their girl friends/baby mamas, ewwwww, no way!!!! As with my best friends, they dont do anything like that, so even if my husband is working when i go shopping with my best friend, he has nothing to worry about.

#5, i like playing game cube and play station, as does my husband, but when the significant other wants attention, put it down,

#6, damn right, take me out, spoil me, what should make u happier than using your money on anyone but me?? <<joke, i always tell my husband MIMAME!!!! <<spoil me in spanish.

[almaty 19]

My 1st wife was instutionalized in a mental hospital 2 times. The first time was on our honeymoon..

no comment, but seriously ####### honeymoon was a movie and not a documentary

[^KK^ 3]

all women are psycho.

haha i agree ..

Yea, why cant women be normal, like us <duck>

And the shoes is going toward you head!!! Why can't men be normal??/

so violent! this above proves my earlier statement!

[Elghazi2008 4]

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ??? Because thats what her parents says, that I shouldn't hang around with single men, we are both young under 25...............Her family sees me as a bad guy which I am not, they have a problem with the way I dress who I talk to and who I don't talk to and also wants me to take her everywhere I go like if I had to run to store I have to ask her would you like to come I agree take her places but everywhere ???or if a friend says come hang out with me I must take her along....You can imagine she doesn't have friends, don't have a liecense, she always in the house, now this is not my fault that she doesn't have friends or liecense but for some reasons she thinks its my fault

The point I am trying to make her is that there is no trust between us two, she and her mum always thinks I am cheating on her and its not like she has ever caught talking to some girl. OK there is guy she said she's "working" for and all that and the calls her like every 2hrs even up to 1AM in the morning and she will be on the phone with him, I never questioned her or anything because I do trust her, but why is it so hard for her to trust me.....I have to talk to her like I am talking to a 6yrs old girl .This is not the first time this is happening.... She always says I don't talk to her and I spend more time with my friend than I do her which is a fat lie, whenver I say something to her she doesn't give me a good advice and this is because of her disorder like if I need to talk to my wife about anything I can't because it's like talking to a brick wall and whatever I say don't say this to anybody this is between you and I and I want it to remain a secret, the first things she does is call her mum and tell her mum what I say DO NOT TELL ANYONE, she does something bad in a minutes and the next minutes she turns around and I say I don't remember saying or doing that .. I am honestly tired of this married, this isn't what I signed up for, the mistake we both made was when she came to visit me back in Africa she only stayed for 8days that didn't give me time to know her very well in person and what she does and stuffs.... I really don't know what to do at this point and everything I say complain about something she's doing or not doing her mum will say because I have my green card now that's why I am saying that and honestly its not...... Not only I am not happy with marriage my life is in danger too because her sister threatened me that she will get someone to iron me out...its obvious I am living among people that don't like me and before things gets outta hand or anyone gets hurts I want to be out of here, I am so far away from home and I have a family that loves me so dearly..... There are lots of things I'd like to put down here, I am not myself right now

If you were in my shoes what would you do... I am only 24yrs old

hi there

after reading your letter and your sentiments and worries.I would say that youre still concern about your wife and to tell you the truth -I DONT THINK SHE HAS SCHIZOPHRENIA..coz the patients with such mental illness doesnt even recognize they are sick meaning-THEY ARE ON DENIAL THEY ARE SICK WITH SUCH ..Youre both young yes and youre definitely confused..MARRIAGE ENTAILS A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITY AND NOT JUST ANOTHER FAIY TALE STORY...You have to talk to a doctor and check all her medications if she is taking any and talk to her in private and ask her what is bothering her and her concerns also..you dont solve the problem by escaping from it..TRY TO FIX IT FIRST AND REMEDY IT AND GIVE IT ANOTHER CHANCEAND TIME..and most of all ..PRAY AND ASK FOR WISDOM..

Godbless

Absolutely untrue. Patients with schizophrenia are often VERY aware of their illness. There is no denying schizophrenia and I have never met a schizophrenic who did not know they were affected by the illness. I agree with the rest of your advice though.

[Old Dominion 26]

Schizophrenia is simply an old but convenient label for a variety of illnesses. The means of successful treatment are complicated, but medications seem to help patients lead a fairly normal lifestyle in some cases.

[Elghazi2008 4]

Actually, Cobbs if you genuinely married her out of love and things have changed from that time, I completely agree that you should try to get her help in any way possible. However, if you can not help her or improve your relationship, get out of it and go back home. If you did your vows the traditional way, those vows ALSO promise that you will love, honor, and protect your wife in sickness and in health...if you no longer love her, then you should not harm her further by remaining in a false relationship. If you are able to support yourself here in the states, that's great, but if you can't, go home. Leaving a marriage doesn't make you a sissy or make you any less of a person and nobody can define the RIGHT choice for you. As long as your reasons for leaving are honorable, then do what you have to do. Don't feel pressured to stay in an unhappy marriage. Your wife should have been open with you to start with, you probably should have made the decision about not wanting to deal with her illness BEFORE living with her for 2 years and obtaining your 10-year green card, but that is your business.

You aren't going to find anybody on here to help you justify leaving your wife, if that's what you're looking for. The best thing for you to do is talk to your wife and sort it out between the two of you. Perhaps she is feeling the same way you are about your marriage.

Best of luck to both of you.

[It's me 1]

Actually, Cobbs if you genuinely married her out of love and things have changed from that time, I completely agree that you should try to get her help in any way possible. However, if you can not help her or improve your relationship, get out of it and go back home. If you did your vows the traditional way, those vows ALSO promise that you will love, honor, and protect your wife in sickness and in health...if you no longer love her, then you should not harm her further by remaining in a false relationship. If you are able to support yourself here in the states, that's great, but if you can't, go home. Leaving a marriage doesn't make you a sissy or make you any less of a person and nobody can define the RIGHT choice for you. As long as your reasons for leaving are honorable, then do what you have to do. Don't feel pressured to stay in an unhappy marriage. Your wife should have been open with you to start with, you probably should have made the decision about not wanting to deal with her illness BEFORE living with her for 2 years and obtaining your 10-year green card, but that is your business.

You aren't going to find anybody on here to help you justify leaving your wife, if that's what you're looking for. The best thing for you to do is talk to your wife and sort it out between the two of you. Perhaps she is feeling the same way you are about your marriage.

Best of luck to both of you.