Wife is Psycho

[justashooter 430]

Isn't schizophrena a cause for annulment instead of divorce?. If so, is ther a way he can stay in this country? or is it that if marriage is annuled then the ex has to go on his marry way back home?. There should be a law in regards to this.

If the issue is addressed at onset, yes.

If a person stays married to a whack job for a long period of time before attempting to annul, then no.

[justashooter 430]

leaving my green card behind is not a very good idea because its my property now...

the green card is intended to allow you to have cohabitive relationship with the wife, and everythign else that comes with it is liagniappe. it is not a piece of property that you can beg, borrow, or steal, although that appears to be your intent.

i'm looking forward to seeing you deported when it expires. america is just too easy on people like you.

[reymidge 0]

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ??? Because thats what her parents says, that I shouldn't hang around with single men, we are both young under 25...............Her family sees me as a bad guy which I am not, they have a problem with the way I dress who I talk to and who I don't talk to and also wants me to take her everywhere I go like if I had to run to store I have to ask her would you like to come I agree take her places but everywhere ???or if a friend says come hang out with me I must take her along....You can imagine she doesn't have friends, don't have a liecense, she always in the house, now this is not my fault that she doesn't have friends or liecense but for some reasons she thinks its my fault

The point I am trying to make her is that there is no trust between us two, she and her mum always thinks I am cheating on her and its not like she has ever caught talking to some girl. OK there is guy she said she's "working" for and all that and the calls her like every 2hrs even up to 1AM in the morning and she will be on the phone with him, I never questioned her or anything because I do trust her, but why is it so hard for her to trust me.....I have to talk to her like I am talking to a 6yrs old girl .This is not the first time this is happening.... She always says I don't talk to her and I spend more time with my friend than I do her which is a fat lie, whenver I say something to her she doesn't give me a good advice and this is because of her disorder like if I need to talk to my wife about anything I can't because it's like talking to a brick wall and whatever I say don't say this to anybody this is between you and I and I want it to remain a secret, the first things she does is call her mum and tell her mum what I say DO NOT TELL ANYONE, she does something bad in a minutes and the next minutes she turns around and I say I don't remember saying or doing that .. I am honestly tired of this married, this isn't what I signed up for, the mistake we both made was when she came to visit me back in Africa she only stayed for 8days that didn't give me time to know her very well in person and what she does and stuffs.... I really don't know what to do at this point and everything I say complain about something she's doing or not doing her mum will say because I have my green card now that's why I am saying that and honestly its not...... Not only I am not happy with marriage my life is in danger too because her sister threatened me that she will get someone to iron me out...its obvious I am living among people that don't like me and before things gets outta hand or anyone gets hurts I want to be out of here, I am so far away from home and I have a family that loves me so dearly..... There are lots of things I'd like to put down here, I am not myself right now

If you were in my shoes what would you do... I am only 24yrs old

hi there

after reading your letter and your sentiments and worries.I would say that youre still concern about your wife and to tell you the truth -I DONT THINK SHE HAS SCHIZOPHRENIA..coz the patients with such mental illness doesnt even recognize they are sick meaning-THEY ARE ON DENIAL THEY ARE SICK WITH SUCH ..Youre both young yes and youre definitely confused..MARRIAGE ENTAILS A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITY AND NOT JUST ANOTHER FAIY TALE STORY...You have to talk to a doctor and check all her medications if she is taking any and talk to her in private and ask her what is bothering her and her concerns also..you dont solve the problem by escaping from it..TRY TO FIX IT FIRST AND REMEDY IT AND GIVE IT ANOTHER CHANCEAND TIME..and most of all ..PRAY AND ASK FOR WISDOM..

Godbless

[Niel&Femi 0]

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ???......

I9 don’t think I would want to believe the story of this guy, not that I’m trying to judge him but I believe that he is tired of the relationship and he is looking for a way out.

Point number one, why did you change your id umm curious to know.

2 this is what I read about schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a brain disorder that affects 1% people from all over the world. It is not linked by sex, age or breed.

What schizophrenia is not

People with schizophrenia aren’t witches as they were considered in antiquity, and isn’t either linked with split personality or multiple personality?

What schizophrenia is

Is a mental illness with multiple symptoms that are difficult to distinguish from another psychotic disorders. Patients with schizophrenia present delusions, hallucinations, bizarre behavior, withdrawal from society lack of interest in life and people around, etc.

What causes schizophrenia

Difference in brain chemistry, such as imbalances of: certain proteins, specific amino acids, specific neurotransmitters; difference in brain structure, difference in brain circuitry , genetic factors, developmental factors, such as: prenatal exposure to a viral infection , exposure to a virus during infancy , early parental loss or separation, hormonal changes that affect the brain’s chemistry and serve as a trigger, environmental stress might be causes of schizophrenia.

Can schizophrenia be treated

In present is no cure for schizophrenia. But medication for schizophrenia is developing with every day that is passing by. If the first medication that appeared, called the classic antipsychotics, have many side effects, the new generation of antipsychotics have fewer side effects and treat well the symptoms. Patients with schizophrenia under a right treatment can live in present almost a normal life.

What happens to people with schizophrenia

In present people with schizophrenia need no more to be treated in special hospitals, but they must respect the treatment that are given, otherwise the ill can develop and the symptoms are very annoying.

How big a problem is schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a major problem of ours times because it affects a big number of people, have many symptoms and need a special and complex treatment.

So you he can not tell me that her wife is suffering with all those thing and he can live with her for 2 good years, please open your heart, again look at what he said the green card is his so that mean he is not ready to leave the country. There is something fishing.

[nycgirl 13]

By the way, a green card is NOT your property, now or ever. It is the property of the United States Government.

[Steph0814 1]

So, basically you only met in person for 8 days then decided to travel away from family and friends to marry her. Then you stay with her for 2 years (With her disability) and now "its not working" and the GC is "yours".

Hmm, I don't want to judge but uh something smells stinky like fish.

[DanielParul 50]

So, basically you only met in person for 8 days then decided to travel away from family and friends to marry her. Then you stay with her for 2 years (With her disability) and now "its not working" and the GC is "yours".

Hmm, I don't want to judge but uh something smells stinky like fish.

Finally! you said exactly what I wanted to say but was too lazy to type

[Minya's wife 25]

Isn't schizophrena a cause for annulment instead of divorce?. If so, is ther a way he can stay in this country? or is it that if marriage is annuled then the ex has to go on his marry way back home?. There should be a law in regards to this.

If the issue is addressed at onset, yes.

If a person stays married to a whack job for a long period of time before attempting to annul, then no.

JS, a little more little more sensitivity in referring to Schizofphrenia please.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Isn't schizophrena a cause for annulment instead of divorce?. If so, is ther a way he can stay in this country? or is it that if marriage is annuled then the ex has to go on his marry way back home?. There should be a law in regards to this.

If the issue is addressed at onset, yes.

If a person stays married to a whack job for a long period of time before attempting to annul, then no.

JS, a little more little more sensitivity in referring to Schizofphrenia please.

That would be expecting too much my friend. Sadly, that kind of attitude towards mental health is more prevalent than one can imagine.

[Ladylethal 12]

So, basically you only met in person for 8 days then decided to travel away from family and friends to marry her. Then you stay with her for 2 years (With her disability) and now "its not working" and the GC is "yours".

Hmm, I don't want to judge but uh something smells stinky like fish.

Finally! you said exactly what I wanted to say but was too lazy to type

Ditto.

I never get the "life is horrible, I can't stand it" speech followed by advices to divorce and go home with the OP going "Oh no way Jose, I got my GC not going home". 80% of the time sounds fishy to me.

[Minya's wife 25]

OP, what exactly do you want us to tell you? Your wife may have neglected to inform fully about her mental health, but you have now been married too long for your have any kind of pot to pi$$ in as far as annullment goes. If your marriage is not working, get a divorce and move on with your life. You have conditional residency, which you would have to apply to remove(by showing evidence of ongoing marriage) 90 days prior to the expiration date on your card. If you divorce before this 90 days, then you apply to remove said conditions to residency by yourself (this time proving that the marriage was bona-fine while it lasted).

These are the 'Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits" as they apply to your personal situation.

As for your insensitively titled tirade against your wife, you want my opinion? I think you need to grow up and behave like an adult. You made a choice to marry, emigrate and live in the marriage for 2 years now!? Now, you should either commit to working out your marital problems (which seem more centered around a lack of mature communication between you and your wife, than any mental disorder) OR get a divorce. Two choices, simple as that...only thing you need to do is make one.

-P

[Chica Yeyé 41]

AMEN!

[edmagenta5 0]

SOMETIMES, WE JUST HAVE TO PLAY DETECTIVE: SORRY WE GOTCHA!!!!! : :rofl:

U r right no reason for u to stay in america..no need for people lyk u ....

leaving my green card behind is not a very good idea because its my property now...

the green card is intended to allow you to have cohabitive relationship with the wife, and everythign else that comes with it is liagniappe. it is not a piece of property that you can beg, borrow, or steal, although that appears to be your intent.

i'm looking forward to seeing you deported when it expires. america is just too easy on people like you.

[edmagenta5 0]

SOMETIMES, WE JUST HAVE TO PLAY DETECTIVE: SORRY WE GOTCHA!!!!! : rofl.gif rofl.gif rofl.gif

U r right no reason for u to stay in america..no need for people lyk u ....

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Thank you guys, life is too short to live with someone you are not happy with...But certainly the decision is mine, leaving my green card behind is not a very good idea because its my property now... We have been trying to work it out for months same old B.S keeps repeating it self

[Minya's wife 25]

SOMETIMES, WE JUST HAVE TO PLAY DETECTIVE: SORRY WE GOTCHA!!!!! :

U r right no reason for u to stay in america..no need for people lyk u ....

Doooood, what are you on about? Play detective with what? OP's not guilty of any crime...other than being a young and insensitive lout, which at last check was not a valid deportation ofense.

-P

Edited February 20, 2009 by Minya's wife