Wife is Psycho

[marieke 1]

The post is reminscent of some posts from other african men who claimed their wifes were mentally ill after getting here to the US. Is this a repeat of the same post???

The first thing that came to my mind was: i have read this before! I had to check the date! Im not sure if its only African men though.

[Old Dominion 26]

The problem is pretty clear! Your wife's mental condition won't change any time soon. It is more complicated than paranoid schizophrenia because it includes her neurotic relationship with her mother. Proper mental health treatment would need to involve her mother at the same time, or it would be useless.

So, why are you still in the US? Go to the nearest divorce lawyer, sign whatever papers are needed, and get on with your life.

[crazyinEgypt 0]

all women are psycho.

Poo on you Charles!

Seems psycho wifes are everywhere these days!

[KnightAndMagpie 7]

all women are psycho.

Poo on you Charles!

Seems psycho wifes are everywhere these days!

In conclusion, women are crazy, men are dumb .

But in all seriousness? What everyone else said. If you know it's not a lasting relationship and your heart isn't in it, don't push it further than it has to go. It's not healthy for either of you, and putting off making a major decision is only going to make it worse. Also, calling her a "psycho" isn't very kind of you if she has a diagnosed condition.

Magpie.

Edited February 19, 2009 by KnightAndMagpie

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

all women are psycho.

You are still NOT getting whipped.

you're such a tease!

[Ennis 0]

remember this "FOR BETTER OR WORSE" every newlywed goes through an adjustment period. your friends are friends and only that. in the end all you two will have is eachother. she married you to have you support her and she you, to have a shoulder to lean on for support and comfort.

if your friends have a problem bringing her with you then they're not your friends. what exactly do you do with them so she can't come. maybe you should that way she will see there is nothing for her to vorry about.

as for her mother getting involved, she has to when you're not. you're not a kid anymore and you and her are eachother's responsibility. NOT YOUR FRIENDS.

[Dave-n-Oksana 49]

I have to agree to the comments that if you are not happy find a divorce lawyer. Trying to make a marraige work when you are unhappy and the only one trying will only make you miserable.

[edmagenta5 0]

okey, what do u mean she is a psycho..sorry, but i feel bad for you though..but you married her,.if you two think you can get counseling you must saying that you are still young..it seems that she always get her way and u are always the one whipped..although you must understand her because u are already aware that she has this sickness... if you think her mother is interfering with your marriage which is why she is acting this way then you must tell her mom that you are concerned and she needs help...

If she really is a psycho, you must leave and leave your green card behind,.you said that is not what you are after right, you married her without knowing her fully..

it is hard to being married young..you have to guide her.. if you can't take this anymore..leave..

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ??? Because thats what her parents says, that I shouldn't hang around with single men, we are both young under 25...............Her family sees me as a bad guy which I am not, they have a problem with the way I dress who I talk to and who I don't talk to and also wants me to take her everywhere I go like if I had to run to store I have to ask her would you like to come I agree take her places but everywhere ???or if a friend says come hang out with me I must take her along....You can imagine she doesn't have friends, don't have a liecense, she always in the house, now this is not my fault that she doesn't have friends or liecense but for some reasons she thinks its my fault

The point I am trying to make her is that there is no trust between us two, she and her mum always thinks I am cheating on her and its not like she has ever caught talking to some girl. OK there is guy she said she's "working" for and all that and the calls her like every 2hrs even up to 1AM in the morning and she will be on the phone with him, I never questioned her or anything because I do trust her, but why is it so hard for her to trust me.....I have to talk to her like I am talking to a 6yrs old girl .This is not the first time this is happening.... She always says I don't talk to her and I spend more time with my friend than I do her which is a fat lie, whenver I say something to her she doesn't give me a good advice and this is because of her disorder like if I need to talk to my wife about anything I can't because it's like talking to a brick wall and whatever I say don't say this to anybody this is between you and I and I want it to remain a secret, the first things she does is call her mum and tell her mum what I say DO NOT TELL ANYONE, she does something bad in a minutes and the next minutes she turns around and I say I don't remember saying or doing that .. I am honestly tired of this married, this isn't what I signed up for, the mistake we both made was when she came to visit me back in Africa she only stayed for 8days that didn't give me time to know her very well in person and what she does and stuffs.... I really don't know what to do at this point and everything I say complain about something she's doing or not doing her mum will say because I have my green card now that's why I am saying that and honestly its not...... Not only I am not happy with marriage my life is in danger too because her sister threatened me that she will get someone to iron me out...its obvious I am living among people that don't like me and before things gets outta hand or anyone gets hurts I want to be out of here, I am so far away from home and I have a family that loves me so dearly..... There are lots of things I'd like to put down here, I am not myself right now

If you were in my shoes what would you do... I am only 24yrs old

[Mrs.Cage 0]

all women are psycho.

oh yeah? and you men are bigger nutso for marrying us psychos

[Leenie 15]

It's one thing to try to save a once-functioning marriage, but this marriage was doomed from the start. She had never been honest with you in the first place. Having a condition like schizophrenia is definitely something that needs to be out in the open between partners before a marriage. It leads me to wonder, as have others who have replied, how well you really knew her before you got married.

In the end, the choice is up to you. You can stick with her because you truly love her and perhaps go to counseling with her (and maybe her parents), but if this has pushed you beyond the point that you feel you can maintain a loving relationship, get your divorce and go home.

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

all women are psycho.

oh yeah? and you men are bigger nutso for marrying us psychos

[Cuchita 1]

Isn't schizophrena a cause for annulment instead of divorce?. If so, is ther a way he can stay in this country? or is it that if marriage is annuled then the ex has to go on his marry way back home?. There should be a law in regards to this.

[SaadBell 0]

The both of you need counseling. She needs to learn boundaries and you need to learn compassion. That you made an initial mistake by getting married too soon does not mean that the marriage's future is cast in stone. It can be whatever you want it to be if you both want it to change. But so long as you act like a caged animal, she's going to continue to distrust you and things will spiral downward.

You need professional help, and not just your wife, you could use some serious counseling, so go and get some help. Your wife is not the only one with some mental issues.

[Cobbs 1]

okey, what do u mean she is a psycho..sorry, but i feel bad for you though..but you married her,.if you two think you can get counseling you must saying that you are still young..it seems that she always get her way and u are always the one whipped..although you must understand her because u are already aware that she has this sickness... if you think her mother is interfering with your marriage which is why she is acting this way then you must tell her mom that you are concerned and she needs help...

If she really is a psycho, you must leave and leave your green card behind,.you said that is not what you are after right, you married her without knowing her fully..

it is hard to being married young..you have to guide her.. if you can't take this anymore..leave..

Thank you guys, life is too short to live with someone you are not happy with...But certainly the decision is mine, leaving my green card behind is not a very good idea because its my property now... We have been trying to work it out for months same old B.S keeps repeating it self

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ??? Because thats what her parents says, that I shouldn't hang around with single men, we are both young under 25...............Her family sees me as a bad guy which I am not, they have a problem with the way I dress who I talk to and who I don't talk to and also wants me to take her everywhere I go like if I had to run to store I have to ask her would you like to come I agree take her places but everywhere ???or if a friend says come hang out with me I must take her along....You can imagine she doesn't have friends, don't have a liecense, she always in the house, now this is not my fault that she doesn't have friends or liecense but for some reasons she thinks its my fault

The point I am trying to make her is that there is no trust between us two, she and her mum always thinks I am cheating on her and its not like she has ever caught talking to some girl. OK there is guy she said she's "working" for and all that and the calls her like every 2hrs even up to 1AM in the morning and she will be on the phone with him, I never questioned her or anything because I do trust her, but why is it so hard for her to trust me.....I have to talk to her like I am talking to a 6yrs old girl .This is not the first time this is happening.... She always says I don't talk to her and I spend more time with my friend than I do her which is a fat lie, whenver I say something to her she doesn't give me a good advice and this is because of her disorder like if I need to talk to my wife about anything I can't because it's like talking to a brick wall and whatever I say don't say this to anybody this is between you and I and I want it to remain a secret, the first things she does is call her mum and tell her mum what I say DO NOT TELL ANYONE, she does something bad in a minutes and the next minutes she turns around and I say I don't remember saying or doing that .. I am honestly tired of this married, this isn't what I signed up for, the mistake we both made was when she came to visit me back in Africa she only stayed for 8days that didn't give me time to know her very well in person and what she does and stuffs.... I really don't know what to do at this point and everything I say complain about something she's doing or not doing her mum will say because I have my green card now that's why I am saying that and honestly its not...... Not only I am not happy with marriage my life is in danger too because her sister threatened me that she will get someone to iron me out...its obvious I am living among people that don't like me and before things gets outta hand or anyone gets hurts I want to be out of here, I am so far away from home and I have a family that loves me so dearly..... There are lots of things I'd like to put down here, I am not myself right now

If you were in my shoes what would you do... I am only 24yrs old

okey, what do u mean she is a psycho..sorry, but i feel bad for you though..but you married her,.if you two think you can get counseling you must saying that you are still young..it seems that she always get her way and u are always the one whipped..although you must understand her because u are already aware that she has this sickness... if you think her mother is interfering with your marriage which is why she is acting this way then you must tell her mom that you are concerned and she needs help...

If she really is a psycho, you must leave and leave your green card behind,.you said that is not what you are after right, you married her without knowing her fully..

it is hard to being married young..you have to guide her.. if you can't take this anymore..leave..

Thank you guys, life is too short to live with someone you are not happy with...But certainly the decision is mine, leaving my green card behind is not a very good idea because its my property now... We have been trying to work it out for months same old B.S keeps repeating it self

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ??? Because thats what her parents says, that I shouldn't hang around with single men, we are both young under 25...............Her family sees me as a bad guy which I am not, they have a problem with the way I dress who I talk to and who I don't talk to and also wants me to take her everywhere I go like if I had to run to store I have to ask her would you like to come I agree take her places but everywhere ???or if a friend says come hang out with me I must take her along....You can imagine she doesn't have friends, don't have a liecense, she always in the house, now this is not my fault that she doesn't have friends or liecense but for some reasons she thinks its my fault

The point I am trying to make her is that there is no trust between us two, she and her mum always thinks I am cheating on her and its not like she has ever caught talking to some girl. OK there is guy she said she's "working" for and all that and the calls her like every 2hrs even up to 1AM in the morning and she will be on the phone with him, I never questioned her or anything because I do trust her, but why is it so hard for her to trust me.....I have to talk to her like I am talking to a 6yrs old girl .This is not the first time this is happening.... She always says I don't talk to her and I spend more time with my friend than I do her which is a fat lie, whenver I say something to her she doesn't give me a good advice and this is because of her disorder like if I need to talk to my wife about anything I can't because it's like talking to a brick wall and whatever I say don't say this to anybody this is between you and I and I want it to remain a secret, the first things she does is call her mum and tell her mum what I say DO NOT TELL ANYONE, she does something bad in a minutes and the next minutes she turns around and I say I don't remember saying or doing that .. I am honestly tired of this married, this isn't what I signed up for, the mistake we both made was when she came to visit me back in Africa she only stayed for 8days that didn't give me time to know her very well in person and what she does and stuffs.... I really don't know what to do at this point and everything I say complain about something she's doing or not doing her mum will say because I have my green card now that's why I am saying that and honestly its not...... Not only I am not happy with marriage my life is in danger too because her sister threatened me that she will get someone to iron me out...its obvious I am living among people that don't like me and before things gets outta hand or anyone gets hurts I want to be out of here, I am so far away from home and I have a family that loves me so dearly..... There are lots of things I'd like to put down here, I am not myself right now

If you were in my shoes what would you do... I am only 24yrs old

Thank you guys, life is too short to live with someone you are not happy with...But certainly the decision is mine, leaving my green card behind is not a very good idea because its my property now... We have been trying to work it out for months same old B.S keeps repeating it self

[STEPHnRIA 2]

all women are psycho.

It's no secret. I think Im psycho too.