Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[DaDa 1]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

I might would use the word disagree more than argue, but here are a few of our disagreement topics:

• When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years)
• When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit)
• My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat)

I would use the word argue, lol -

And they usually center around:

Left his phone in a taxi

Dropped his phone in a bucket of concrete

Dropped his phone in the river

Someone stole his phone

See a pattern here?

My SO is forever having something happen to his phone too. I memba the one time I called this man answerd and I was like Rock.. He was like yeah and we were talking but something wasn't right. I asked him to say my name and you could tell he had to look at the phone to do so and when he called me Dara instead of Dada I was like nope this isnt him. Rock had left his phone in a taxi. Everytime I go see him it has a different rubber band around it. Last time I left he talked me into letting him use my Digicel. He says he'll buy him another one and give me back his when I return. I can only imagine what that phone will look like. I mines well chalk it up as a lost.

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Memba mi a Mobay gyal so there is a casino on the hip strip.. Mi forget the name but I'm not a gambler eidda so the one time we went we went downstairs to the arcade part and had a blast acting like kids playing all the games. Like Ski ball, Pac Man etc..When I went in Feb the arcade was under renovations so I'm not sure if its back up and running but it will be no fun doing it by myself.

Rocks now works at a resort far aways from his house so nope I can't be with him. I'll have to fend for myself. I wonder if any of my other friends will be free but he only likes me to hang with one of them my friend I call Daddy D. The others he doesn’t trust.

Why does he like Daddy D? Is he older? Can you hang out with his family?

My mother-in-law..aways got upset if I didn't spend one whole day with her during my trips. I would just sit on the veranda with her and the kids (she had a daycare). Eat all day.(she was always offering food)...watching tv. Then when his sister came home to school, we would walk to Lucea for some candy or something else to eat. I miss those days.

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CONGRATS DAMNIECY !!

mi glad trecia

sorry fi wah mi miss..i haven't tried to read beyonf 1 pg

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Kimmy!!! Are you having a good Friday?

Kim

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Kimmy!!! Are you having a good Friday?

Kim

yes i is Kim...i see ur on a role..i have dropped my advice specialty..LMAO....did u pick it up...

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Kimmy!!! Are you having a good Friday?

Kim

yes i is Kim...i see ur on a role..i have dropped my advice specialty..LMAO....did u pick it up...

You know you were in my thoughts...

But I didn't pick it up...nope.

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funny KK

stop posting here...link to part 13

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=190649

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SORRY....PART 14 IS THE LINK

[Thompson2 1]

So how does this work thing work?? I have been blessed that all the times I go to see my SO he doesn’t have to work. If I go in May he will have to work so I'm kind of worried about this. I mean he lives in a part of Jamaica where you have ta walk a good way to get to the taxi stand and he's terrified about me walking alone so he won't let me do that but who wants to sit in the house all day?? This is another reason why I’m not sure it I’m going. He does have a personal taxi friend I can probably call to come get me while I'm there but you can only walk the hip strip so much sit it the casino so long and I'm not used to going to the beach by myself.. Umm do I take books and movies??

Well, before I met his family I went to work with him. He works at a hotel and depending on the boss I sometimes was able to go in and have some drinks, eat, and enjoy the entertainment. Other times I would sit in the lobby and read a book or watch a movie on my portable DVD player. Now that I met his family I have to spend all his work time with his mom. I rent a car so usually I take his mom on errands. I'm trying to think what you can do. It's so true about only being able to walk the hip strip so much. I hate the thought of being stuck in a house all day too. I think your best bet is to get a ride to the hip strip and then do a little shopping/looking and then bring a book and find a nice place to read. I know right past Breezes (going away from Margaritaville there are a few shops and in the middle is a grill/bar. There are some tables and chairs that you can sit at and chill. Some of it is shady if you don't want the sun all day. You have been lucky your SO hasn't had to work.

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PLEASE STOP POSTING HERE...CLICK THE LINK TO PART 14 !!!

[Tosh Love 77]

DaDa - You will notice that I usually don't reply to venting post...because they are just that -venting. However, I realize that your venting post almost always have the same theme. While I wish you the very best in your relationship, I'm a bit concerned. If everytime he does something or you feel a certain way, you want to break it off. The concern comes when he eventually get to the US, will you then threaten to send him back home when there are issues.

If you decide to start the visa journey, he will be your husband. You have to fight and work hard at a LDR. I know..I did it for 5 years. My husband and I set up a boundary line. Here they are:

1. No indecent language PERIOD

2. No hanging up (If you need a while to think it over, just say I’ll call you back)

3. Be truthful (if something is bothering you say it)

4. Don’t be too big to apologize

5. As the star and moon as our witness, let’s love and adore each other to death do us apart.

Don't beat me up too much VJ Yardies. I just had to let this out. Much love for you DaDa and like I said..I pray for the very best. I think it's an awesome experience with being in love with a jamaican.

Kim

Thanks KK. I know this was not necessarily meant for me, but THANKS! I needed to hear this. Thanks again!

Edited April 10, 2009 by Shaunsgal

[DaDa 1]

Nat - I'm glad these are things you ARE discussing.

[*]When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years) You can probably talk him out of the yesterday part once he gets here.

[*]When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit) This is so cute. I always wanted to surprise my SO but never got a chance too. It's a wonderful thing that he wants you to come and spend time there. awh..... Plus you get to go to Jamaica!!!!!!!!!!!!

[*]My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat) I use to feel the same way about my husbands female best friend. When I realized that he was willing to back off their friendship...I checked myself. Once I met her, I realized I was overacting big time. I just had heard so many "best friends" hooking up..I wasn't willing to take down my wall. Once he meets him, it'll probably go away..that feeling.

Awh....love is in the air.

Funny my SO has a female best friend too. He started out being cool with her man and then the two of them have formed a bond. He asked me in the beginning if I would have a problem with this because his last girl wanted him to end it with her and he couldn't. He says they have too much history together. At first I didn't care because we were just friends but as we got serious and he was over her house all the time I started to question it. But heck we were on the phone while he was there. Well on one of my trips there he told me to get dressed. I had no idea where we were going and sure enough he took me to her house. We stayed for hours and she was catering to me but my guard was still up. I seen how the two of them interacted with one another and I could tell its was a friendship. She was so kind to me and you could tell she was trying to be nice because of Roc. She has a coffee shop and she came to get me and take me to the shop. We have really formed a bond and every time I go to JA I go and see her. Roc will even leave us to talk. I wonder if he's using her to feel me out but I told him I would never ask him to stop being friends with her especially since he's not friends with too many people.

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dada.. u need to go to 14 this thread is closed suga dumplin.. go back up a few posts and u will find it

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everybody just feel like fi ignore the big ole red post..fi stop post yah so!!!

[jawi876 2]

Jawi, there are bust firming excercises you can do, and you can deceased your back width and that will make your bust look smaller too.

Do you have a link or recommendation on specific ones that won't require me to use my neck?

i second that opinion JAWI ..i went from a Bcup to a damn DD..lol..all from birthcontrol..and i hate it..most people think i'm crazy becuz i want to go back to being a B but...these DD arent cute to me ..lol

I went from a B to a D from two kids...I heard if you breastfeed, they will go back to nothingness. Didn't happen to me! All they did was start point toward the floor. Can I have my nipples repositioned without adding the sacs? I know TMDI!!!! LOL

DaDa - You will notice that I usually don't reply to venting post...because they are just that -venting. However, I realize that your venting post almost always have the same theme. While I wish you the very best in your relationship, I'm a bit concerned. If everytime he does something or you feel a certain way, you want to break it off. The concern comes when he eventually get to the US, will you then threaten to send him back home when there are issues.

If you decide to start the visa journey, he will be your husband. You have to fight and work hard at a LDR. I know..I did it for 5 years. My husband and I set up a boundary line. Here they are:

1. No indecent language PERIOD

2. No hanging up (If you need a while to think it over, just say I’ll call you back)

3. Be truthful (if something is bothering you say it)

4. Don’t be too big to apologize

5. As the star and moon as our witness, let’s love and adore each other to death do us apart.

Don't beat me up too much VJ Yardies. I just had to let this out. Much love for you DaDa and like I said..I pray for the very best. I think it's an awesome experience with being in love with a jamaican.

Kim

You are good posting this as long as your name is not Jawi.