Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[DaDa 1]

DaDa - You will notice that I usually don't reply to venting post...because they are just that -venting. However, I realize that your venting post almost always have the same theme. While I wish you the very best in your relationship, I'm a bit concerned. If everytime he does something or you feel a certain way, you want to break it off. The concern comes when he eventually get to the US, will you then threaten to send him back home when there are issues.

If you decide to start the visa journey, he will be your husband. You have to fight and work hard at a LDR. I know..I did it for 5 years. My husband and I set up a boundary line. Here they are:

1. No indecent language PERIOD

2. No hanging up (If you need a while to think it over, just say I’ll call you back)

3. Be truthful (if something is bothering you say it)

4. Don’t be too big to apologize

5. As the star and moon as our witness, let’s love and adore each other to death do us apart.

Don't beat me up too much VJ Yardies. I just had to let this out. Much love for you DaDa and like I said..I pray for the very best. I think it's an awesome experience with being in love with a jamaican.

Kim

Kim first of all I for one don't mind you responding. I think if you don’t want to hear peoples opinions don’t put it out there so being that I did I knew I was bound to get someone’s opinion. I also like your five rules.

I'm not in denial I can be quite honest and say that to me you’re either cut out for this LDR thing or your not. It’s like the expression, If you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen. I know I need to get out of the kitchen. LDR is not for me I can't manage it BUT(there's always a but isn’t it) I love this man so much and I don't want to let him go so I'm stuck... I have two choices either ish or get off the pot. I'm trying to decide now what I'm going to do...

And to answer your question if he comes when I get mad at him will I send him back home?? Hecks yeah he got ta go!!!! Then I'll be that woman running on the runway as the plane is taking off like Waittttttttt I changed my mind.... No let me stop I'm joking...

[sus 70]

When I have been by myself, I took books, etc.... Have him find a taxi / driver that he trusts and link you up with a number - go to the beach, shopping, etc....

I love my beach time by myself - Although half the time, if we are at the beach together, DJ sleeps and lets me read in peace, lol

[NatPatBen 3]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

I might would use the word disagree more than argue, but here are a few of our disagreement topics:

• When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years)
• When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit)
• My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat)

[sus 70]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

I might would use the word disagree more than argue, but here are a few of our disagreement topics:

• When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years)
• When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit)
• My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat)

I would use the word argue, lol -

And they usually center around:

Left his phone in a taxi

Dropped his phone in a bucket of concrete

Dropped his phone in the river

Someone stole his phone

See a pattern here?

[^KK^ 3]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

That's a good question. To tell you the truth..I can't even remember. We didn't argue or disagree much but I can't for the life of me remember a reason or event. I guess it was pointless

I just love him soo much. Okay..I'm going into my mushy mood. He hates it...lol...because I start building my kisses bank. I kiss him on the checks..over and over again. hahahaha

Oh yeah...and another thing...NO ONE SHOULD THROW PUNCHES OR SLAPS.....it wasn't even worth mentioning as part of the boundary line...it's way past crossing the line.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Sus, I see the pattern, he needs a phone on a chain. That's like the latch key kid, so DJ needs to have his phone attached to a chain to be worn around his neck.

Edited April 10, 2009 by RoxcieJoe

[^KK^ 3]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

I might would use the word disagree more than argue, but here are a few of our disagreement topics:

• When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years)
• When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit)
• My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat)

I would use the word argue, lol -

And they usually center around:

Left his phone in a taxi

Dropped his phone in a bucket of concrete

Dropped his phone in the river

Someone stole his phone

See a pattern here?

Yes...DJ needs a string tie to his phone and his pants pocket.

[sus 70]

LOL, Roxcie - I am going to surgically implant it in his azz soon!

Saw this and thought it was appropriate:

Kim, I love that you get in the mushy mood!

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

That's a good question. To tell you the truth..I can't even remember. We didn't argue or disagree much but I can't for the life of me remember a reason or event. I guess it was pointless

I just love him soo much. Okay..I'm going into my mushy mood. He hates it...lol...because I start building my kisses bank. I kiss him on the checks..over and over again. hahahaha

Oh yeah...and another thing...NO ONE SHOULD THROW PUNCHES OR SLAPS.....it wasn't even worth mentioning as part of the boundary line...it's way past crossing the line.

Note: ALL relationships should have diagreements, it healthy and it builds a healthy respect for each other, This is a what makes relationships grow. But agruing turns a realtionship into a sour disaster.

Edited April 10, 2009 by RoxcieJoe

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

SUS, I found this for DJ...Tri-band Metal Watch Phone with Bluetooth, he now can wear his ophone on his wrist. If he leaves his phone in the taxi then his arm must be detached.

[sus 70]

LMAO Roxcie - that might work, but he loses his watch, too - That one I don't care about as much as the phone -

[^KK^ 3]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...

I might would use the word disagree more than argue, but here are a few of our disagreement topics:

• When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years)
• When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit)
• My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat)

Nat - I'm glad these are things you ARE discussing.

[*]When we'll have children (him = yesterday, me = in 2 years) You can probably talk him out of the yesterday part once he gets here.

[*]When I'll next come to Jamaica (him = today, me = my next visit is a surprise so I act like there is no next visit) This is so cute. I always wanted to surprise my SO but never got a chance too. It's a wonderful thing that he wants you to come and spend time there. awh..... Plus you get to go to Jamaica!!!!!!!!!!!!

[*]My male friendships (him = doesn't like the idea, me = my best male friend is in JAPAN and poses 0 threat) I use to feel the same way about my husbands female best friend. When I realized that he was willing to back off their friendship...I checked myself. Once I met her, I realized I was overacting big time. I just had heard so many "best friends" hooking up..I wasn't willing to take down my wall. Once he meets him, it'll probably go away..that feeling.

Awh....love is in the air.

Edited April 10, 2009 by KKHoliday

[^KK^ 3]

SUS, I found this for DJ...Tri-band Metal Watch Phone with Bluetooth, he now can wear his ophone on his wrist. If he leaves his phone in the taxi then his arm must be detached.

that was too funny.

[Islandwoman 0]

DaDa - You will notice that I usually don't reply to venting post...because they are just that -venting. However, I realize that your venting post almost always have the same theme. While I wish you the very best in your relationship, I'm a bit concerned. If everytime he does something or you feel a certain way, you want to break it off. The concern comes when he eventually get to the US, will you then threaten to send him back home when there are issues.

If you decide to start the visa journey, he will be your husband. You have to fight and work hard at a LDR. I know..I did it for 5 years. My husband and I set up a boundary line. Here they are:

1. No indecent language PERIOD

2. No hanging up (If you need a while to think it over, just say I’ll call you back)

3. Be truthful (if something is bothering you say it)

4. Don’t be too big to apologize

5. As the star and moon as our witness, let’s love and adore each other to death do us apart.

Don't beat me up too much VJ Yardies. I just had to let this out. Much love for you DaDa and like I said..I pray for the very best. I think it's an awesome experience with being in love with a jamaican.

Kim

Very good advice KK.

[DaDa 1]

So I guess his job isn't one where you could be near him while he's working. Will you at least be near the beach? Some things I bring: sudoku puzzle book, magazines, Laptop with DVD player, iPod. I can't imagine going to JA and sitting in a house all day. At least go sit at a beach-front restaurant/bar so you can people-watch for entertainment.

I haven't been to any casinos in Jamaica. What casino are you talking about? I think Steven pointed out one in Negril to me, but he's not into them, so we didn't go.

Memba mi a Mobay gyal so there is a casino on the hip strip.. Mi forget the name but I'm not a gambler eidda so the one time we went we went downstairs to the arcade part and had a blast acting like kids playing all the games. Like Ski ball, Pac Man etc..When I went in Feb the arcade was under renovations so I'm not sure if its back up and running but it will be no fun doing it by myself.

Rocks now works at a resort far aways from his house so nope I can't be with him. I'll have to fend for myself. I wonder if any of my other friends will be free but he only likes me to hang with one of them my friend I call Daddy D. The others he doesn’t trust.

Edited April 10, 2009 by DaDa