Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[damniecy 0]

Morning all -

Congrats Damniecy - I know the feeling of having too many balls in the air, but have faith in yourself, you will manage to juggle them all!

MrsLadyD is good, I heard from her the other day

Thanks for the words of encouragemnt. Sometimes it good to hear the words from someone else even though u have faith

Edited April 10, 2009 by damniecy

[DaDa 1]

OK ladies is this a test or what? Is it me or since you all have gotten engaged/married all of a sudden you are just gods gift to men and everybody wants you? I mean fine a$$ guys that I was looking for when I was single and was no where to be found all of a sudden wants to flirt and have my #, mind you I work at a bank so I already know if they have money or not. LOL I know I am crazy I love my boo to death but am just sayin......

Does anyone else feel this way???

LOL, that's life - it's like you give off this scent of being unavailable and they come crawling out of the woodwork

Well for me its my soon to be ex husband. We were fine being seperated and filing for the divorce. Well not all of a sudden he keeps sending me texts and calling me he wants to make it work, he misses me and he needs me. Its funny a few years ago I would have been dying to hear these words now I'm like please stop calling mi phone with this ish!!!! Ugh he meks mi belly ache...

Good night ladies,

Just popping to share some good news got my SO got his interview date today May 14, 2009 at 9 am.

Congrats to all the goods and it will be okay to all those that are going through a struggle.

Congrats!!!

[^KK^ 3]

Good Morning!!!

Hi ToAliwithLove and DaDa!!! (waving)

[MSNELLY 0]

NO ONE HERE I SEE WELL, GOOD MORNING LADIES

A friend gave me link to download Steve Harvey, if you all like here it is...

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[DaDa 1]

Good night ladies,

Just popping to share some good news got my SO got his interview date today May 14, 2009 at 9 am.

Congrats to all the goods and it will be okay to all those that are going through a struggle.

YEEEAAAHHHIIIEEE damniecy!

HEY Jawi !!

Hey HeavenSent...how are you?

i'm fine ..just here missing my boo..dealing with the frustartions of this LDR..its taking a toll on me..but i'm trying to stay strong..at least i know everyday i wake is a day closer to being with him..

O.k. so is it something in the air. For some reason I am missing my SO like crazy to the point I'm becoming snappy. I bit his head off the other day and then I started sending some crazy text to him like I cant do this, I want out, Have a nice life blah blah . He called me so fast like what's wrong with yuh oomen... I wanted to tell him I miss him so and like I REALLY MISS HIM to the point I hurt. I was just there in Feb it hasn’t been that long. I was thinking about canceling my trip next month but it looks like come hell or high water I might have to pull it off after all. Ughhh!!! O.k. just a vent.

Umm I still haven’t texted him back to say sorry. Maybe I should huh? Maybe I should tell him why I'm acting so crazy... He did just lose his aunt who was like a 2nd mom to him so he told me he is busy like heck running around trying to help the family get things in order. We haven’t been able to chat much cuz he said he is mad busy. Between trying to work and support his family he is barely able ta manage. So our calls are quick and I think that is what added to my frustration not being able to talk to him so I went hard on him yesterday I mean the text were real bad where I was like.. Well I'm not going to tell you what I said or else you girls would be like Dada you didn't!!! He called me and kind of cussed me out in patwa. Umm I thought you didn’t use patios that much. I guess when he gets vexed he goes der... After he calmed down he did apologize to me for going off but he said he's under so much stress and he can’t take mine too on top of it. I just listened and didn’t say a thing.

So around 2:00 a.m. in morning he called me back again. He said he is so exhausted but he couldn’t sleep because he felt like he took the stress of it all out on me but my text I sent really upset him. He asked me why every time I can’t reach him do I have to be so negative... I told him unno. Its the LDR it can really make you think and do the craziest things. I told him to get some rest because I knew he had to be ta work at 8:00 a.m. this morning. I told him I was fine and not to worry about me.. Sigh...I have to learn to get my emotions under control. I have a tendency ta go from 0 to 60 in seconds and sometimes its just not cool..

( As she gets up off the physiatrists couch) O.k. I guess I needed to get that off my chest huh?? Oh by the way good Morning... LOL

[DaDa 1]

next month will be a year..but ive only been back to JA twice since then ..which was back in Nov and just recently in Feb..and i'll be going back sometime in late may or early june..but i just cant wait...

I second this motion!!!

[Islandwoman 0]

NO ONE HERE I SEE WELL, GOOD MORNING LADIES

A friend gave me link to download Steve Harvey, if you all like here it is...

http://forums.slickdeals.net/showthread.ph...0&t=1286871

Wow! Thanks Nells.

[DaDa 1]

Does anyone know if my SO has to be there to get his non impediment report? I was wondering if I could get it while he was working?

My SO's mother was able to get his for him.

Thanks Nat! I was actually planning to take my SO's mom with me just because I have to spend the day with her anyways.

You say it like it's a chore.

It is kind of like a chore. It's not entirely her fault though. I just hate being that close and being away from my SO, while he works.

So how does this work thing work?? I have been blessed that all the times I go to see my SO he doesn’t have to work. If I go in May he will have to work so I'm kind of worried about this. I mean he lives in a part of Jamaica where you have ta walk a good way to get to the taxi stand and he's terrified about me walking alone so he won't let me do that but who wants to sit in the house all day?? This is another reason why I’m not sure it I’m going. He does have a personal taxi friend I can probably call to come get me while I'm there but you can only walk the hip strip so much sit it the casino so long and I'm not used to going to the beach by myself.. Umm do I take books and movies??

Good Morning!!!

Hi ToAliwithLove and DaDa!!! (waving)

Good Morning!!!

[^KK^ 3]

DaDa - You will notice that I usually don't reply to venting post...because they are just that -venting. However, I realize that your venting post almost always have the same theme. While I wish you the very best in your relationship, I'm a bit concerned. If everytime he does something or you feel a certain way, you want to break it off. The concern comes when he eventually get to the US, will you then threaten to send him back home when there are issues.

If you decide to start the visa journey, he will be your husband. You have to fight and work hard at a LDR. I know..I did it for 5 years. My husband and I set up a boundary line. Here they are:

1. No indecent language PERIOD

2. No hanging up (If you need a while to think it over, just say I’ll call you back)

3. Be truthful (if something is bothering you say it)

4. Don’t be too big to apologize

5. As the star and moon as our witness, let’s love and adore each other to death do us apart.

Don't beat me up too much VJ Yardies. I just had to let this out. Much love for you DaDa and like I said..I pray for the very best. I think it's an awesome experience with being in love with a jamaican.

Kim

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Kim, this was nicely done. I too, have told myself that I will no longer respond to venting posts, because most people are not looking to welcome advice or opinions, they just want to vent.

I do notice, that relationships are handled differently, depending on what stage level the relationship is at. Married vs dating takes on a different tolerance level. The lines in the sand are drawn differently.

[^KK^ 3]

Kim, this was nicely done. I too, have told myself that I will no longer respond to venting posts, because most people are not looking to welcome advice or opinions, they just want to vent.

I do notice, that relationships are handled differently, depending on what stage level the relationship is at. Married vs dating takes on a different tolerance level. The lines in the sand are drawn differently.

I totally agree. No two relationships are the same. I haven't read Steve Harvey's book..but I've seen him on Oprah. I think he makes a very good point to say "You have to set your standards". Setting what you will allow and what you won't allow. My friends and I used to call them deal breakers. Not all deal breakers for every relationship are the same either. Which takes me back to again you gotta set the standards.

[sus 70]

I agree with both of you - Everyone's standards are different - But I think that sometimes replying to someone's venting posts can help, because it can help the person to see a different perspective on their situation - I know that there are times in my life where I have whined to my friends, and they either validated my feelings, or made me see what a whiny baby I was being, lol

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Sus, I do agree we all are looking for validations on our decisions when we post, but it's how the individual handles the comments are what counts.

If they get mad because some tells them that they are acting like a 2 years and goes off on a tatum to the the person that is trying to make them see what they can't see because they are too close up on the relationship. Posters needs to understand that most people are trying to give sound and solid advice when they have taken the time to comment. Just my 2cents.... don't take it to the bank.

[NatPatBen 3]

So how does this work thing work?? I have been blessed that all the times I go to see my SO he doesn’t have to work. If I go in May he will have to work so I'm kind of worried about this. I mean he lives in a part of Jamaica where you have ta walk a good way to get to the taxi stand and he's terrified about me walking alone so he won't let me do that but who wants to sit in the house all day?? This is another reason why I’m not sure it I’m going. He does have a personal taxi friend I can probably call to come get me while I'm there but you can only walk the hip strip so much sit it the casino so long and I'm not used to going to the beach by myself.. Umm do I take books and movies??

So I guess his job isn't one where you could be near him while he's working. Will you at least be near the beach? Some things I bring: sudoku puzzle book, magazines, Laptop with DVD player, iPod. I can't imagine going to JA and sitting in a house all day. At least go sit at a beach-front restaurant/bar so you can people-watch for entertainment.

I haven't been to any casinos in Jamaica. What casino are you talking about? I think Steven pointed out one in Negril to me, but he's not into them, so we didn't go.

...My husband and I set up a boundary line. Here they are:

1. No indecent language PERIOD

2. No hanging up (If you need a while to think it over, just say I’ll call you back)

3. Be truthful (if something is bothering you say it)

4. Don’t be too big to apologize

5. As the star and moon as our witness, let’s love and adore each other to death do us apart.

This is a great idea! I'll have to talk to Steven about us setting a few rules like this. Supposedly, it's not whether you fight, but HOW, that determines your success as a couple. The one thing I've noticed with us is that if we stay on the phone and talk it out, we almost ALWAYS resolve the issue. But if we get off the phone, he stays upset. (I'm not an upset-getting person.)

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

MAY I asked this question, what is it that you'll agrue about in a LDR.

You'll in a LDR, so it can't be that he forgot to put the toliet seat down, left his clothes on the floor, or didn't cook dinner. Didn't put gas in the car, drew too much money out of your joint account, stayed out all night(how will you know this)?...