Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[PortlandAngel 0]

Good Morning Everyone! (sorry its afternoon)

Hey Quana, totally understand, I will miss you.

Hey JAEng ~ good luck, I know what's to be unemployed and just praying for the right oppertunity,

Hey Sus, Any news yet?

Hey 1luv, how is the step daughter adjusting?

[^KK^ 3]

KK..mi deh yah...u a work hard?

Not really. I've been hanging out on VJ this whole week. Next week will be anything story.

[justucia 0]

How's everyone today

hey kimmy!

long time no see- my day is easy, give thanks

its ####### outside and i am not leaving the apartment

you good?

[DaDa 1]

Quana,

I'm with you today!! So and I had an arguement this morning and I'm questioning if I can handle the LDR..

Don't get me wrong I love him with all of me everything but being away from him is so hard..

it is hard, it's hard as hell

of course ive thought "am i able to handle this relationship?"

my heart at once answered "of course you can handle these bumps- you think you can handle life without him?"

i listen to mi heart and ignore the "what-ifs"

love and light

JAEnglish- you go girl!!!

ps your pictures are great! pps you look amazing- good job on the healthy lifestyle switch

Thanks for the words of encouragement justucia...

I know that he loves me and I know that I love him. But this LDR mess is HARD..

Think about how hard it is to be in a relationship and you see the man everyday!! It's hard!!

I was married for 11 years the first time and thought that My husband was the most faithful loving man in the world and could do no wrong.. Boy how wrong was I!!! That man had more women on the side than I don't know what! I was blinded or should I say FOOL for his love and I'm so scared to let this happen again!! I know that I'mprobably being paranoid and overthinking thinking things but I refuse to be made the fool ever again!!

Sorry for ranting.. Having a bad day if you can't tell!!

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Girl I am the same way. I'm currently separated from my husband and filing for a divorce too. My husband was such a sweet loving man who could do no wrong..Whoooo and then I woke up. My soon to be ex husband has damaged my trust for men and my poor SO is the blunt of this madness. I think that is another reason why I go crazy when he doesn’t answa his phone. I always have the what ifs in mi head and with him being so far away there are really a lot of what ifs but its like can a man go that long with out sex, companionship, someone to lay next to and to just be there after a long day of work? He tells me all the time that sex isn’t everything. A man doesn’t have to have it every day so stop assuming I am but there is always a little birdie on my shoulder that be like hmmm ummm tell me anything.

I have a girlfriend who told me so what if he is having sex. Men can jook someone and not have any attachments they just need ta bruk and maybe but when I think of someone getting something that I have become accustomed to its so hard to deal wid?? Who knows like he said do I have ay proof? No he says don’t you stay at my house, don’t we go out in the street all over the place and to the clubs and bars? Don’t I go to work and come home all the time? For the most part you normally can always reach me its them few times you react when you cant.. Like what am I hiding?? Who knows I'm in your country who knows where you got a woman hiding but he's right I do need to chill because until I find evidence he is innocent until proven guilty. I think I need to learn to judge every one different and stop trying to put them all in the same category. See its easy to say and type this but so hard for me to do it.

[justucia 0]

I was married for 11 years the first time and thought that My husband was the most faithful loving man in the world and could do no wrong.. Boy how wrong was I!!! That man had more women on the side than I don't know what! I was blinded or should I say FOOL for his love and I'm so scared to let this happen again!! I know that I'm probably being paranoid and overthinking thinking things but I refuse to be made the fool ever again!!

i am on the other side of this situation

my man was cheated on by his last woman- the mother of his child

its hard- i just want to scream at times- "that was not me who broke your heart, i cherish your heart"

all i can do to prove to him that i am not her- i hold his heart close

i try to understand where he is coming from, but it's hard

i ask him "please dont just expect that im going to hurt you too"

i also have been on the other side and been cheated on

the mind starts to work overtime, especially when there are many miles seperating

i suppose patience is crucial and trust even more so

im sure im not telling you anything you already dont know, im just letting the feelings flowwwwww

(lol)

[sus 70]

Good luck JAEng, hope you get the job!

Good Morning Everyone! (sorry its afternoon)

Hey Quana, totally understand, I will miss you.

Hey JAEng ~ good luck, I know what's to be unemployed and just praying for the right oppertunity,

Hey Sus, Any news yet?

Hey 1luv, how is the step daughter adjusting?

Hi Portland - no news yet - are you ready for work on Monday?

Girl I am the same way. I'm currently separated from my husband and filing for a divorce too. My husband was such a sweet loving man who could do no wrong..Whoooo and then I woke up. My soon to be ex husband has damaged my trust for men and my poor SO is the blunt of this madness. I think that is another reason why I go crazy when he doesn’t answa his phone. I always have the what ifs in mi head and with him being so far away there are really a lot of what ifs but its like can a man go that long with out sex, companionship, someone to lay next to and to just be there after a long day of work? He tells me all the time that sex isn’t everything. A man doesn’t have to have it every day so stop assuming I am but there is always a little birdie on my shoulder that be like hmmm ummm tell me anything.

I have a girlfriend who told me so what if he is having sex. Men can jook someone and not have any attachments they just need ta bruk and maybe but when I think of someone getting something that I have become accustomed to its so hard to deal wid?? Who knows like he said do I have ay proof? No he says don’t you stay at my house, don’t we go out in the street all over the place and to the clubs and bars? Don’t I go to work and come home all the time? For the most part you normally can always reach me its them few times you react when you cant.. Like what am I hiding?? Who knows I'm in your country who knows where you got a woman hiding but he's right I do need to chill because until I find evidence he is innocent until proven guilty. I think I need to learn to judge every one different and stop trying to put them all in the same category. See its easy to say and type this but so hard for me to do it.

Being in an LDR is hard on all - But the bottom line to it is - How long can you go without sex, companionship, etc... Why would you give a man a different standard then the one you hold out for yourself? If you can do it, so can he -

An LDR is hard, tests EVERY thing you are and have - But you have to make the decision for yourself is it worth it? It's hard not to bring your past relationships into your current ones - but I think you have to make a conscious effort to not do it - I know that I dated men - Good men - that I damaged the relationship based on what I had experienced in my past - I have made a very deliberate effort to not do that with DJ, and not jump to assume things or let my past shade my views.

It's hard - and we all have good days and bad days, and we are all here to pick each other up when we have those down times - To me, even with all the issues - it's worth it = we all take a break from VJ, cause sometimes it gets overwhelming - nothing about this process is easy for anyone -

[DaDa 1]

Nicely put Sus if I do say so myself... Gave me something to think about...

[PortlandAngel 0]

well we will keep praying that you get some good news.

I am not quite ready. We are about to go to the mall, I haven't been shopping in forever. I lost 15lbs and cant seem to gain it back, didnt want to shop until I do. But I cant go to work with my clothes falling off.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

How's everyone today

hey kimmy!

long time no see- my day is easy, give thanks

its ####### outside and i am not leaving the apartment

you good?

Hey Justucia..yea it's crappy here too..not nice at all..

I'm good i promised myself to work at two As this semester..so i'm over here trying...girls are good..Kashi is loving the spring like season..weird he loves the cooler weather...we are going out saturday night..so hopefully thats fun...

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Quana,

I'm with you today!! So and I had an arguement this morning and I'm questioning if I can handle the LDR..

Don't get me wrong I love him with all of me everything but being away from him is so hard..

it is hard, it's hard as hell

of course ive thought "am i able to handle this relationship?"

my heart at once answered "of course you can handle these bumps- you think you can handle life without him?"

i listen to mi heart and ignore the "what-ifs"

love and light

JAEnglish- you go girl!!!

ps your pictures are great! pps you look amazing- good job on the healthy lifestyle switch

Thanks for the words of encouragement justucia...

I know that he loves me and I know that I love him. But this LDR mess is HARD..

Think about how hard it is to be in a relationship and you see the man everyday!! It's hard!!

I was married for 11 years the first time and thought that My husband was the most faithful loving man in the world and could do no wrong.. Boy how wrong was I!!! That man had more women on the side than I don't know what! I was blinded or should I say FOOL for his love and I'm so scared to let this happen again!! I know that I'mprobably being paranoid and overthinking thinking things but I refuse to be made the fool ever again!!

Sorry for ranting.. Having a bad day if you can't tell!!

[

Girl I am the same way. I'm currently separated from my husband and filing for a divorce too. My husband was such a sweet loving man who could do no wrong..Whoooo and then I woke up. My soon to be ex husband has damaged my trust for men and my poor SO is the blunt of this madness. I think that is another reason why I go crazy when he doesn’t answa his phone. I always have the what ifs in mi head and with him being so far away there are really a lot of what ifs but its like can a man go that long with out sex, companionship, someone to lay next to and to just be there after a long day of work? He tells me all the time that sex isn’t everything. A man doesn’t have to have it every day so stop assuming I am but there is always a little birdie on my shoulder that be like hmmm ummm tell me anything.

I have a girlfriend who told me so what if he is having sex. Men can jook someone and not have any attachments they just need ta bruk and maybe but when I think of someone getting something that I have become accustomed to its so hard to deal wid?? Who knows like he said do I have ay proof? No he says don’t you stay at my house, don’t we go out in the street all over the place and to the clubs and bars? Don’t I go to work and come home all the time? For the most part you normally can always reach me its them few times you react when you cant.. Like what am I hiding?? Who knows I'm in your country who knows where you got a woman hiding but he's right I do need to chill because until I find evidence he is innocent until proven guilty. I think I need to learn to judge every one different and stop trying to put them all in the same category. See its easy to say and type this but so hard for me to do it.

wow....ummm..wow

[Rick Ross 0]

Quana,

I'm with you today!! So and I had an arguement this morning and I'm questioning if I can handle the LDR..

Don't get me wrong I love him with all of me everything but being away from him is so hard..

it is hard, it's hard as hell

of course ive thought "am i able to handle this relationship?"

my heart at once answered "of course you can handle these bumps- you think you can handle life without him?"

i listen to mi heart and ignore the "what-ifs"

love and light

JAEnglish- you go girl!!!

ps your pictures are great! pps you look amazing- good job on the healthy lifestyle switch

Thanks for the words of encouragement justucia...

I know that he loves me and I know that I love him. But this LDR mess is HARD..

Think about how hard it is to be in a relationship and you see the man everyday!! It's hard!!

I was married for 11 years the first time and thought that My husband was the most faithful loving man in the world and could do no wrong.. Boy how wrong was I!!! That man had more women on the side than I don't know what! I was blinded or should I say FOOL for his love and I'm so scared to let this happen again!! I know that I'mprobably being paranoid and overthinking thinking things but I refuse to be made the fool ever again!!

Sorry for ranting.. Having a bad day if you can't tell!!

[

Girl I am the same way. I'm currently separated from my husband and filing for a divorce too. My husband was such a sweet loving man who could do no wrong..Whoooo and then I woke up. My soon to be ex husband has damaged my trust for men and my poor SO is the blunt of this madness. I think that is another reason why I go crazy when he doesn’t answa his phone. I always have the what ifs in mi head and with him being so far away there are really a lot of what ifs but its like can a man go that long with out sex, companionship, someone to lay next to and to just be there after a long day of work? He tells me all the time that sex isn’t everything. A man doesn’t have to have it every day so stop assuming I am but there is always a little birdie on my shoulder that be like hmmm ummm tell me anything.

I have a girlfriend who told me so what if he is having sex. Men can jook someone and not have any attachments they just need ta bruk and maybe but when I think of someone getting something that I have become accustomed to its so hard to deal wid?? Who knows like he said do I have ay proof? No he says don’t you stay at my house, don’t we go out in the street all over the place and to the clubs and bars? Don’t I go to work and come home all the time? For the most part you normally can always reach me its them few times you react when you cant.. Like what am I hiding?? Who knows I'm in your country who knows where you got a woman hiding but he's right I do need to chill because until I find evidence he is innocent until proven guilty. I think I need to learn to judge every one different and stop trying to put them all in the same category. See its easy to say and type this but so hard for me to do it.

PHEWW.. And I thought that I was the only one that felt this way!! LOL!! It's good to know that I'm not alone and that other people have the same issues that I have.

My SO is pretty much the same way DaDa and I have to admit that if I were in his shoes that I would have left my ####### sitting on the curb a long time ago.. I have a tendency of thinking that he's cheating on me when he doesn't answer the phone but I have NO GOD GIVEN REASON to think that because I have no proof I'm just basing it on my ex husband's behavior and that is so unfair!!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

well we will keep praying that you get some good news.

I am not quite ready. We are about to go to the mall, I haven't been shopping in forever. I lost 15lbs and cant seem to gain it back, didnt want to shop until I do. But I cant go to work with my clothes falling off.

that's how i feel Ken...but i need to get myself some new stuff..so i did... when mi lose di weight..mi wi tek dem in..lol

[phillyfashionista 8]

Afternoon Ladies,

I have to catch up been working hard trying to prepare to depart in a few days. . Still can't get enough of Stella LOL

I'll catch up on the post this evening..... back to work for me. TGIF!

Edited April 3, 2009 by phillyfashionista

[Rick Ross 0]

Good luck JAEng, hope you get the job!

Good Morning Everyone! (sorry its afternoon)

Hey Quana, totally understand, I will miss you.

Hey JAEng ~ good luck, I know what's to be unemployed and just praying for the right oppertunity,

Hey Sus, Any news yet?

Hey 1luv, how is the step daughter adjusting?

Hi Portland - no news yet - are you ready for work on Monday?

Girl I am the same way. I'm currently separated from my husband and filing for a divorce too. My husband was such a sweet loving man who could do no wrong..Whoooo and then I woke up. My soon to be ex husband has damaged my trust for men and my poor SO is the blunt of this madness. I think that is another reason why I go crazy when he doesn’t answa his phone. I always have the what ifs in mi head and with him being so far away there are really a lot of what ifs but its like can a man go that long with out sex, companionship, someone to lay next to and to just be there after a long day of work? He tells me all the time that sex isn’t everything. A man doesn’t have to have it every day so stop assuming I am but there is always a little birdie on my shoulder that be like hmmm ummm tell me anything.

I have a girlfriend who told me so what if he is having sex. Men can jook someone and not have any attachments they just need ta bruk and maybe but when I think of someone getting something that I have become accustomed to its so hard to deal wid?? Who knows like he said do I have ay proof? No he says don’t you stay at my house, don’t we go out in the street all over the place and to the clubs and bars? Don’t I go to work and come home all the time? For the most part you normally can always reach me its them few times you react when you cant.. Like what am I hiding?? Who knows I'm in your country who knows where you got a woman hiding but he's right I do need to chill because until I find evidence he is innocent until proven guilty. I think I need to learn to judge every one different and stop trying to put them all in the same category. See its easy to say and type this but so hard for me to do it.

Being in an LDR is hard on all - But the bottom line to it is - How long can you go without sex, companionship, etc... Why would you give a man a different standard then the one you hold out for yourself? If you can do it, so can he -

An LDR is hard, tests EVERY thing you are and have - But you have to make the decision for yourself is it worth it? It's hard not to bring your past relationships into your current ones - but I think you have to make a conscious effort to not do it - I know that I dated men - Good men - that I damaged the relationship based on what I had experienced in my past - I have made a very deliberate effort to not do that with DJ, and not jump to assume things or let my past shade my views.

It's hard - and we all have good days and bad days, and we are all here to pick each other up when we have those down times - To me, even with all the issues - it's worth it = we all take a break from VJ, cause sometimes it gets overwhelming - nothing about this process is easy for anyone -

WOW Sus.. Thank you for putting it in perspective for me!!

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

well we will keep praying that you get some good news.

I am not quite ready. We are about to go to the mall, I haven't been shopping in forever. I lost 15lbs and cant seem to gain it back, didnt want to shop until I do. But I cant go to work with my clothes falling off.

PortlandAngel, good luck on your job Monday morning.