Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[JOURNEE1125 0]

Excellent and fair point JAWI,

We all invest something, time, food, money, physical, patience. But it is when it becomes an Issue or situation that the person should be concerned. Everyone has the one last straw!

Just keep your eyes opend and stay focused on what You feel You Deserve!

Exactly! That's what I was trying to convey last night in my response to you.

Hey ladies, wha gwaan?

interesting topic.....LOL... Journee if you flinging stones can you FLING SOME MIDOL my way cause for the last week i dont know whether to or or i absolutely hate being so not in control of my emotions, but this month is particularly rough....

The st Johns wort, aint working, i think im gonna have to double up, or find something stronger.....

.....like ganja, or crack or alcohol ( SIGH) ( j/k)

I know I say this all the time...but you are a natural nut...from the day you were born. LOL LOL LOL Weren't you just swearing by the virtues of St. Johns wort last month this time? LAWD!!!!

Quana:

i agree w/ u jawi.. if someone trying to get here on a visa KNOWS that u have a problem w/ men asking for money then he wont ask and will try to show himself honorable in that area.. BELIEVE me i used to ponder that one day and night..

Exactly if you tell him what your red flags are...he will avoid those red flags...for a while at least.

Ja Honey

jUST tAK it ez!

It will all work. The beauty of being a woman is we are allowed to be emotional! Society has somewhat taken that from us and marked it as being a ###### or crazy. But we are emotional we just have to know when to eloquently apply it. I am emotional as hell. I apply it when I want and as much as I want . Hell I guess I am crazy! lmao

I am just defensive by nature. Sometimes emailing and cyber chatting can come off as harsh and that was not my intention. But as a jamaican child told me. "Mi na leave mi head at home wit mi mudda". I can think for my self. And at times people will say things in a "round about" way. So I may have to throw some dayum stones back.

And if they dont hit "Your Windown/ or Bust your head". Dont worry yourself!

Even if I am wrong in how I understood the reply, I will still defend my positon!

And I am still humming Jilly from Philly

response from Jawi

There was nothing "round about" in my response...regardless of what someone may say in PM to you. I am going to always stand by what I feel and be true to myself first. I don't have to do PM chat to say what I feel. Nor, do I need someone to "ruffle my feathers" so I can laughingly "act crazy." Somebody may see this as me arguing with you...but I don't. I think we are have a healthy exchange of ideas. I hope from my heart that I get to know you better, and that we become fast friends.

Response fro Journee:

The PM'S I RECIEVED WERE NOT TO RUFFLE MY FEATHERS. I DONT NEED A "AMEN" CREW TO SAY WHATS ON MY MIND". They were in relation to the way the post may have read. Applying again " If the shoe doesnt it your foot. Dont Wear It. In MY Opinion this board response was round about WAY.

response from Jawi

In bold, I thought the same EXACT thing when you posted about how to determine if your man is using you. I felt it was judgemental based on your own experiences and your statement that noone was more qualified than you to speak on the subject matter. However, there are many women going through the very thing you posted whether they ever post or not. I just wanted us ALL (me included) to stop judging each other and our relationships based on what would be breaking points for us individually. Every person and couple is different. FOR EXAMPLE: you may never date a man that can't provide for you financially or at least equally. However, there may be another woman here that was beat and controlled for years by a man that provided financially and all she wants is a man that supports her emotionally and lovingly. Does that mean she is being used by the new man? Nope...means that they reached their own compromise for what works in their relationship.

So if your position is to call me a hater...so be it. I have had worse said...and probably will long after I leave this Earth. Much respect and love to you same way ((((Journee)))

Response from Journee

And as I have said once again While Whistling Hate on Me. If the shoe doesnt fit. Dont apply it to your foot!

When I prefeced my response. "No one has more experiance" I was speaking in reference to people in Jamaica asking you to bring things back.

Not, that I had experianced being used. That is not a position I have every applied for have much experiance at or am willing to participate in. I truly believe that people allow their selves to used. (Once again not speaking in reference to anyone here)

Honestly Jawi, I am not offended. I play alot and I was laughing at it all. I recieved ALOTT of pm referencing it and that is the reason for some of my board responses.

I am self employed and I am able to take "some" of my work with me. I have an excellent team that works with me in the states and we hold each other down when we are away. 2 of the ladies that work with me have SO's who live outside of the US. I just know that MY Sweetie is worth it. And he helps me tremendously.

I am on the board quite a bit I just dont post this much .LMAO

response from Jawi

Really? Wow.

I

Response from Journee

I know I fell that way also. WOW, and Thank You Jesus, I do have this level of freedom for myself. (Not saying that someone here doesnt)

Shem, thanks for sending me that diet,,,, as you can see today the diet is shot to hell ... i did good last night though

hopefully tomorrow will be a better day ( )

Think about that dress when you get ready to kill your diet. You have a dress to stay in remember. Now, you need to do about 900 sit ups to combat what you just did missy.

Now it's my turn to agree with Jawi - preach on, sista!

Response from Journee (Sorry about the editing the response wasnt aligned)

Nevertheless, At this stage I consider this a mute point. I have expressed what "My intentions" were to the person who my comment was directed. I have exchanged in "several comical" responses. And I dont feel the need to keep regererating this same issue. We all know who we are and the goal we are focoused on. Some things can really be taken out of context and if my responses have been taken in that way. Then so be it.

I have enjoyed chatting with some of you ladies. I have enjoyed the "Valuable" info provided to me by others. And for all else continue to waste your time not mine. There is so much more positive topics to be discussed here. Remember to only wear that shoe if it fits your foot.

Jawi, I agree wiht you on alot of the points you made. And I am sure we will have more discussions again in the future. And I say all of this with no sarcasim. I dont have anything bad to say about you or anything bad to say about anyone here. Hopefully as you all pass trhough Negril I hope you drop me a lone so that we can meet. I get so excited putting names from VJ with faces. And as much as I love Jamaica. I do miss American Friends from time to time.

And I am still humming Jilly from Philly. Feel Free to Hate on me cause I like the dayum song.

Edited March 25, 2009 by JOURNEE1125

[jawi876 2]

Than you so much JAWI for this quote:

FOR EXAMPLE: you may never date a man that can't provide for you financially or at least equally. However, there may be another woman here that was beat and controlled for years by a man that provided financially and all she wants is a man that supports her emotionally and lovingly. Does that mean she is being used by the new man? Nope...means that they reached their own compromise for what works in their relationship.

I was beginning to feel so guilty because I did not necessary agree that if you contribute more financially than your SO then he does not love you. I am by no means a rich person, but financial independence is not on my top ten list of what I need from my partner. Everyone looks for something different from their partner. This is not a one-size-fits all world where a plus b always equals c. This is just my humble opinion!

No thanks necessary.

Wow...it's hard to stay on top on this thread.....so much to talk about!! my home computer is broke, so this is my only work time to peek in.

even though i don't chime in much, i just want you all to know how helpful all this is...just knowing that others are going thru these issues....LDR's...its a real blessing

Dillon....looking forward to hearing about your interview.

me...still waiting, no news, cept they finally emailed me back with " no, no further information needed. no date of interview to report"....at least it was an answer.

My SO......he works when he can...i work 40-50 hours /week...so if i need to help out, i do...but it's not too often that he asks. I've never had anyone support me, don't plan to support anyone but me.....BUT, plans and reality don't mesh. And yep, trust your guts, ladies...........love can be blind, but my guts never lie.

Ells...you in bay area? let's get together!

Love to all....Culture1

Culture1 your interview will be here soon. Chin up...I know it's hard as I wait for my NOA2...*sigh* Did I mention today that I really hate the USCIS?

Hey Stella and Shades of Blue fans...please post your vote in the thread I started. I need some good suggestions to get past my writer's block. Hey, I may even create a new character in the story named after the person's idea I decide to use/or get the most inspiration from.

If any of our newer members want to read the stories then vote...let me know.

[Ellsinlove 2]

Wow...it's hard to stay on top on this thread.....so much to talk about!! my home computer is broke, so this is my only work time to peek in.

even though i don't chime in much, i just want you all to know how helpful all this is...just knowing that others are going thru these issues....LDR's...its a real blessing

Dillon....looking forward to hearing about your interview.

me...still waiting, no news, cept they finally emailed me back with " no, no further information needed. no date of interview to report"....at least it was an answer.

My SO......he works when he can...i work 40-50 hours /week...so if i need to help out, i do...but it's not too often that he asks. I've never had anyone support me, don't plan to support anyone but me.....BUT, plans and reality don't mesh. And yep, trust your guts, ladies...........love can be blind, but my guts never lie.

Ells...you in bay area? let's get together!

Love to all....Culture1

Culture, see here for Dillon's interview report:

I got into Mobay on Thursday the 19th. It took about 2 hours to go through immigration and customs so I didn't get out of the airport until 3:00. We were planning on paying the visa fee once I got out of the airport but by the time we got to the NCB it was 3:30 and they closed at 2:30! I was shocked that they close so early.

So we just started our drive to Kington and he had to stop at him first because he forgot the shoes he wanted to wear. We drove to Kington through Stoney Hill and not the flat bridge route. That night we stayed at Mikouzi Guest house. The woman was VERY nice and even helped us find it. It isn't anything fancy but we had a one bedroom. It had a kitchen, sitting area, bathroom and a bedroom with a queen bed and a TV. The water pressure was good and there was hot water although it took a minute to come out. The grounds are very lush and a nice place to stay.

Friday we woke up early because we wanted to be at the NCB by 8:30 when it opened and we still didn't know where it was. There is one accross the street and from the embassy so you don't have to go far. You can walk there. We were in line by about 8:10 I would say. We paid the fee and then went over to the embassy.

We went right up to the front of the line the woman checked our paper work and put it in order and in we went through the metal detectors. When we were in the courtyard there is another woman who gives you the yellow piece of paper that you write your passport number on for DHL.

We go in check in and get out number A151 so we go into section A and it is crowded we go and stand along the wall with the counter and just check out what is going on for a while. Then we started to play hangman. People are getting called up and seats start opening up so we sit down. Finally our number is called and we go to window 6. The lady takes all our paperwork and tells me that I am very organized and I responded well I have been waiting for this day for along time. We go and sit back down and wait for our interview.

We get called up around noon and we get this white guy with an afro, window 8. He was very nice and we have been listening to him all day. He pretty much approved everyone if they had all their paperwork there, those that didn't he gave a blue slip too. I think there were only 2 or 3 fiance visa's in that section that day the rest were family based visa's.

So we go up and he asks for our passports and then goes around the corner to look at them. Thought that was a bit strange. He comes back and tells us raise our right hands and says do you swear to tell the truth and then the questions start:

When we met?

Where we met?

How many times have I been to Jamaica?

Have I seen him on every trip?

When did you start dating?

When did you get engaged?

I answered all those questions.

He then asks Conmar to go sit at the back of the room and for me to pick up the phone.

I pick up the phone and then the questions just start pouring in:

When did I get there?

Where did we stay the night before?

Was it just the two of us there?

When am I going back home?

Have I met anyone in his family?

What are their names?

Has he met anyone in my family?

What is her name?

Do I live with anyone?

Does Conmar live alone?

Do I live in a house or an apartment?

Do we talk about what I do at my job?

How often do we talk?

What do you guys talk about?

Where does his son live?

Who does his son live with?

Who is Conmar closest to in his family?

Does he know Marley’s Dad?

Is Marley’s Dad involved in her life?

There were more questions but I can’t remember what they are right now.

Then he tells me to send Conmar up and for him to pick up the phone.

He asked him:

Have you met anyone in her family?

Have you met Marley’s Dad?

Who are you closest to in your family?

And that was about it for Conmar…He said congratulations take this to DHL for them to arrange for your passport to be delivered to you.

We were both so excited and I don’t think that the smile has left our faces yet.

Afterwards we were starving because we didn’t eat anything in the morning so we went to KFC. He pulled into the wrong car park and we were going to the right one and he wasn’t paying attention and he hit a car that was coming down the little lane. Not just any car but a Land rover!!!! Amazingly enough their car didn’t get one scratch, thank GOD, but on his front bumper there was some damage.

Sorry about the novel but I thought that it would help the others that are waiting for their interviews.

Yes, I am in the Bay Area, SF to be exact. Where are you? I'd like to meet fellow yardies!

Hey Stella and Shades of Blue fans...please post your vote in the thread I started. I need some good suggestions to get past my writer's block. Hey, I may even create a new character in the story named after the person's idea I decide to use/or get the most inspiration from.

If any of our newer members want to read the stories then vote...let me know.

What is this Shades of Blue?? I missed this! I loved the Stella stories but at the time didn't have time to read it all. Are there handy links for getting back to them? Have you copied them from here and put them in a word doc or anything yet? I think you should so that it'll be easier for you to submit them to a publisher one day!

[JOURNEE1125 0]

Wow...it's hard to stay on top on this thread.....so much to talk about!! my home computer is broke, so this is my only work time to peek in.

even though i don't chime in much, i just want you all to know how helpful all this is...just knowing that others are going thru these issues....LDR's...its a real blessing

Dillon....looking forward to hearing about your interview.

me...still waiting, no news, cept they finally emailed me back with " no, no further information needed. no date of interview to report"....at least it was an answer.

My SO......he works when he can...i work 40-50 hours /week...so if i need to help out, i do...but it's not too often that he asks. I've never had anyone support me, don't plan to support anyone but me.....BUT, plans and reality don't mesh. And yep, trust your guts, ladies...........love can be blind, but my guts never lie.

Ells...you in bay area? let's get together!

Love to all....Culture1

Culture, see here for Dillon's interview report:

I got into Mobay on Thursday the 19th. It took about 2 hours to go through immigration and customs so I didn't get out of the airport until 3:00. We were planning on paying the visa fee once I got out of the airport but by the time we got to the NCB it was 3:30 and they closed at 2:30! I was shocked that they close so early.

So we just started our drive to Kington and he had to stop at him first because he forgot the shoes he wanted to wear. We drove to Kington through Stoney Hill and not the flat bridge route. That night we stayed at Mikouzi Guest house. The woman was VERY nice and even helped us find it. It isn't anything fancy but we had a one bedroom. It had a kitchen, sitting area, bathroom and a bedroom with a queen bed and a TV. The water pressure was good and there was hot water although it took a minute to come out. The grounds are very lush and a nice place to stay.

Friday we woke up early because we wanted to be at the NCB by 8:30 when it opened and we still didn't know where it was. There is one accross the street and from the embassy so you don't have to go far. You can walk there. We were in line by about 8:10 I would say. We paid the fee and then went over to the embassy.

We went right up to the front of the line the woman checked our paper work and put it in order and in we went through the metal detectors. When we were in the courtyard there is another woman who gives you the yellow piece of paper that you write your passport number on for DHL.

We go in check in and get out number A151 so we go into section A and it is crowded we go and stand along the wall with the counter and just check out what is going on for a while. Then we started to play hangman. People are getting called up and seats start opening up so we sit down. Finally our number is called and we go to window 6. The lady takes all our paperwork and tells me that I am very organized and I responded well I have been waiting for this day for along time. We go and sit back down and wait for our interview.

We get called up around noon and we get this white guy with an afro, window 8. He was very nice and we have been listening to him all day. He pretty much approved everyone if they had all their paperwork there, those that didn't he gave a blue slip too. I think there were only 2 or 3 fiance visa's in that section that day the rest were family based visa's.

So we go up and he asks for our passports and then goes around the corner to look at them. Thought that was a bit strange. He comes back and tells us raise our right hands and says do you swear to tell the truth and then the questions start:

When we met?

Where we met?

How many times have I been to Jamaica?

Have I seen him on every trip?

When did you start dating?

When did you get engaged?

I answered all those questions.

He then asks Conmar to go sit at the back of the room and for me to pick up the phone.

I pick up the phone and then the questions just start pouring in:

When did I get there?

Where did we stay the night before?

Was it just the two of us there?

When am I going back home?

Have I met anyone in his family?

What are their names?

Has he met anyone in my family?

What is her name?

Do I live with anyone?

Does Conmar live alone?

Do I live in a house or an apartment?

Do we talk about what I do at my job?

How often do we talk?

What do you guys talk about?

Where does his son live?

Who does his son live with?

Who is Conmar closest to in his family?

Does he know Marley’s Dad?

Is Marley’s Dad involved in her life?

There were more questions but I can’t remember what they are right now.

Then he tells me to send Conmar up and for him to pick up the phone.

He asked him:

Have you met anyone in her family?

Have you met Marley’s Dad?

Who are you closest to in your family?

And that was about it for Conmar…He said congratulations take this to DHL for them to arrange for your passport to be delivered to you.

We were both so excited and I don’t think that the smile has left our faces yet.

Afterwards we were starving because we didn’t eat anything in the morning so we went to KFC. He pulled into the wrong car park and we were going to the right one and he wasn’t paying attention and he hit a car that was coming down the little lane. Not just any car but a Land rover!!!! Amazingly enough their car didn’t get one scratch, thank GOD, but on his front bumper there was some damage.

Sorry about the novel but I thought that it would help the others that are waiting for their interviews.

Yes, I am in the Bay Area, SF to be exact. Where are you? I'd like to meet fellow yardies!

Hey Stella and Shades of Blue fans...please post your vote in the thread I started. I need some good suggestions to get past my writer's block. Hey, I may even create a new character in the story named after the person's idea I decide to use/or get the most inspiration from.

If any of our newer members want to read the stories then vote...let me know.

What is this Shades of Blue?? I missed this! I loved the Stella stories but at the time didn't have time to read it all. Are there handy links for getting back to them? Have you copied them from here and put them in a word doc or anything yet? I think you should so that it'll be easier for you to submit them to a publisher one day!

Jawi

I cant stop laughing at your title idea.

MY NAME AINT STELLA !!

Na thats hot

[dancehallquana 5]

Than you so much JAWI for this quote:

FOR EXAMPLE: you may never date a man that can't provide for you financially or at least equally. However, there may be another woman here that was beat and controlled for years by a man that provided financially and all she wants is a man that supports her emotionally and lovingly. Does that mean she is being used by the new man? Nope...means that they reached their own compromise for what works in their relationship.

I was beginning to feel so guilty because I did not necessary agree that if you contribute more financially than your SO then he does not love you. I am by no means a rich person, but financial independence is not on my top ten list of what I need from my partner. Everyone looks for something different from their partner. This is not a one-size-fits all world where a plus b always equals c. This is just my humble opinion!

u are right shaunsgal.. i hope none of my comments made u feel any way.. most people that know me on VJ, know that i am going from a relationship where i was financially equalled to one where I am in no way equalled so i didn't mean anything like that.. i have come to terms w/ the fact that Roger MAY NOT (u never know w/ God all things are possible) even make half of what i make and i am ok w/ that.. his love for me outweighs any monetary value.

What i am saying is don't think a man or woman don't have to hold up their end becuz of whatever drawbacks, we should have some expectations, urs might be different than mine, u know ur hubby's potential.. i am sure ur hubby is not gonna let u work ur fingers to the bone and enjoy the fruits of ur labor and not try to help in some way.. u guys are a team

but there are men who look at ur job or ur car and say oh, well she don't need my help.. she good.. NO SIR.. u must pull ur own weight.. my brotha is UNEMPLOYED, but WILL ONLY date a woman if she is as he says "BALLIN" baby.. the predators are out there, lets thank God we don't have one!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Tosh Love 77]

Than you so much JAWI for this quote:

FOR EXAMPLE: you may never date a man that can't provide for you financially or at least equally. However, there may be another woman here that was beat and controlled for years by a man that provided financially and all she wants is a man that supports her emotionally and lovingly. Does that mean she is being used by the new man? Nope...means that they reached their own compromise for what works in their relationship.

I was beginning to feel so guilty because I did not necessary agree that if you contribute more financially than your SO then he does not love you. I am by no means a rich person, but financial independence is not on my top ten list of what I need from my partner. Everyone looks for something different from their partner. This is not a one-size-fits all world where a plus b always equals c. This is just my humble opinion!

u are right shaunsgal.. i hope none of my comments made u feel any way.. most people that know me on VJ, know that i am going from a relationship where i was financially equalled to one where I am in no way equalled so i didn't mean anything like that.. i have come to terms w/ the fact that Roger MAY NOT (u never know w/ God all things are possible) even make half of what i make and i am ok w/ that.. his love for me outweighs any monetary value.

What i am saying is don't think a man or woman don't have to hold up their end becuz of whatever drawbacks, we should have some expectations, urs might be different than mine, u know ur hubby's potential.. i am sure ur hubby is not gonna let u work ur fingers to the bone and enjoy the fruits of ur labor and not try to help in some way.. u guys are a team

but there are men who look at ur job or ur car and say oh, well she don't need my help.. she good.. NO SIR.. u must pull ur own weight.. my brotha is UNEMPLOYED, but WILL ONLY date a woman if she is as he says "BALLIN" baby.. the predators are out there, lets thank God we don't have one!!!!!!!!!!!!

No Quana. Not at all. There wasn't any specific comment. I just refuse to believe that if my man is not on my level financially then he is not for me. If all I needed was financial help, I would not need a man for that. I need something that I cannot provide for myself --a teammate.

I love you guys for bringing up these conversations. Where else would we be able to have this exchange of ideas and ideals.

Edited March 25, 2009 by Shaunsgal

[jawi876 2]

Hey Stella and Shades of Blue fans...please post your vote in the thread I started. I need some good suggestions to get past my writer's block. Hey, I may even create a new character in the story named after the person's idea I decide to use/or get the most inspiration from.

If any of our newer members want to read the stories then vote...let me know.

What is this Shades of Blue?? I missed this! I loved the Stella stories but at the time didn't have time to read it all. Are there handy links for getting back to them? Have you copied them from here and put them in a word doc or anything yet? I think you should so that it'll be easier for you to submit them to a publisher one day!

Hey Ells...I lost my memory card in Canada that had the Stella story on it, so I started another one to get the vultures off my back (Kimmy, Dillon). LOL I type them in Word, and then post to the board.

Hey Stella and Shades of Blue fans...please post your vote in the thread I started. I need some good suggestions to get past my writer's block. Hey, I may even create a new character in the story named after the person's idea I decide to use/or get the most inspiration from.

If any of our newer members want to read the stories then vote...let me know.

Jawi

I cant stop laughing at your title idea.

MY NAME AINT STELLA !!

Na thats hot

Thanks!

If you read the main character Mya, you will know why I titled it "My Name Ain't Stella" because she definitely never lost her groove. LOL

u are right shaunsgal.. i hope none of my comments made u feel any way.. most people that know me on VJ, know that i am going from a relationship where i was financially equalled to one where I am in no way equalled so i didn't mean anything like that.. i have come to terms w/ the fact that Roger MAY NOT (u never know w/ God all things are possible) even make half of what i make and i am ok w/ that.. his love for me outweighs any monetary value.

What i am saying is don't think a man or woman don't have to hold up their end becuz of whatever drawbacks, we should have some expectations, urs might be different than mine, u know ur hubby's potential.. i am sure ur hubby is not gonna let u work ur fingers to the bone and enjoy the fruits of ur labor and not try to help in some way.. u guys are a team

but there are men who look at ur job or ur car and say oh, well she don't need my help.. she good.. NO SIR.. u must pull ur own weight.. my brotha is UNEMPLOYED, but WILL ONLY date a woman if she is as he says "BALLIN" baby.. the predators are out there, lets thank God we don't have one!!!!!!!!!!!!

Quana now we all know you can't possibly have a mean bone in your body. Hush babes. It's just me stirring up trouble again. Like Kimmy say "mi back broad" I need to reduce it some if I want to fit in my dress without bat wings in the back. LMAO

[Thompson2 1]

Does anyone know if I can get put to sleep when they clean my teeth. I hate the dentist. I havent been in a while. But all I need is a cleaning. And I would love it if they could just knock me the hell out!

I don't know about getting knocked out, but my dentist will give you laughing gas for anything. I've had it for a filing and you don't care what they do to you. It's great! I think if you look around enough you'll find a dentist to at least giving you laughing gas for a cleaning. Good luck! I don't like going to the dentist either.

[Ellsinlove 2]

Carrying Jawi's story links over for anyone who wants to check it out:

My name ain't Stella (Part 1)

Stella (Part 2)

Stella (Part 3)

Existing in Shades of Blue

Edited March 25, 2009 by Ellsinlove

[dancehallquana 5]

jawi.. mi sey that man of urs is cetainly making a difference.. i was proud of u TODAY!!!! ya back is diminishing b4 we very eyes!!!

that kimmy is anodda story doh!! LOL!!!!!!!

i will have to go read the story's again since it look like i will not see my man in a while.. mek get my pillow and a copy of stella LMAO

[JaHoney 3]

Jawi, im still a fan of ST Johns WORT, but this month it aint working out so well so we got to move on to stronger things...LOL

i think maybe a strawberry daquiri, will do it...

[phillyfashionista 8]

quana nothing worse than a girdle that squeezes the fat to the top, then you looking all sleek till you sit down and once you do sit you cant breathe cause all the fat is pushed up under your chin cutting off your air...LOL

can't do girdles. put one on once for a wedding and took it off in the limo before getting to the church. I got out of the limo and put the bottom part of my dress on. I damn near suffocated my hips I felt so much better.

See Lawny there you go have me rolling, I can't never read your posts while I'm drinking juice

alright ladies time for me to go, must go visit the mentally ill and downtrodden....

one of my clients is off the chain today calling everyone black b's, stupid mf's, nappy headed heffa's, so im sure this visit will be a fun one.....LOL

ah so it go ....LOL

PEace Yall

Honey

LOL I remember those days when I was a mental Health therapist in the North Philly crisis unit girl HOT AZZ MESS~! The stories I could tell~ God Bless you after 2 years I changed professions, I have enough crazies in my family to have to deal with them at work too

Well to make it short and to the point, my trip was very good, good food, great fun, and good lovivng. As in any family, thre is always some family drama, but we must remember we don't get to choose our family. But we still love them the same. The Jamaican economy has suffered from some of the same changes we are suffering here in the USA, so that makes people act different alos.

I enjoyed good food, and plenty of good music.

Welcome back Roxcie, glad you enjoyed yourself. You are so right our economy has stifled the JA economy and, many other Caribbean nations. Being broke don't make people feel good

quana nothing worse than a girdle that squeezes the fat to the top, then you looking all sleek till you sit down and once you do sit you cant breathe cause all the fat is pushed up under your chin cutting off your air...LOL

can't do girdles. put one on once for a wedding and took it off in the limo before getting to the church. I got out of the limo and put the bottom part of my dress on. I damn near suffocated my hips I felt so much better.

yuh see it!!! mi cyaan manage, they say those all over ones are better but i just have to let that back fat and that belly hang LOL im too scared to try again LOL

Quanna LOL @ back fat and belly hanging, I know that's right, it's not worht cutting off your circulation. have you ever tried Spanx they are supposed to be like a second skin? I keep saying I was going to try it. they have them at Torrid.

[dancehallquana 5]

no philly.. let it hang, let it hang, let it hang LOL

[JaHoney 3]

quana people get arrested for letting stuff hang...LOL

Spanx are expensive

where is mrs P today?

yall think its too early to get in the bed?

[jawi876 2]

jawi.. mi sey that man of urs is cetainly making a difference.. i was proud of u TODAY!!!! ya back is diminishing b4 we very eyes!!!

that kimmy is anodda story doh!! LOL!!!!!!!

i will have to go read the story's again since it look like i will not see my man in a while.. mek get my pillow and a copy of stella LMAO

Girl not my man...GOD. I have been praying long and hard for God to bridle my tongue. Sometimes its hard. But, today there was nothing for me to get riled up about. Like I said I have been called worse...HEEEYYYYYY. LOL

Jawi, im still a fan of ST Johns WORT, but this month it aint working out so well so we got to move on to stronger things...LOL

i think maybe a strawberry daquiri, will do it...

Can you make me a Appleton Rumaquiri with a dash of strawberry? I had a drink two nights in a row and A got all upset asking 1000 questions about what is bothering me to drink...waaaaiiiiieeee. Not two or three drinks a night...one each night and he was all worried. Lawd...I'm getting ready to marry my father. LMAO.