Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[dillon 6]

Philly don't stress...as Lawny told me it is no big deal and it isn't. And tell him to stop listening to people. Have all your stuff in order and you will be fine.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Thanks philly for commiserating with me... i took my azz to Dairy Queen and now im sitting here stuffing my face, hopefully i will feel better, may be a tad gassy but definitely will feel better for the time being...LOL

LOL JAHoney you are funny I wish I could have some ice cream this diet has got me starving LOL We had a pot luck today at work and I was the only one eating salad and carrot sticks.

Philly don't stress...as Lawny told me it is no big deal and it isn't. And tell him to stop listening to people. Have all your stuff in order and you will be fine.

Thanks Dillon, I will tell him I have a huge accordion folder full of all of the documents I even made a checklist. What do you think, is this what they are looking for?

Embassy Interview Checklist

USCIS Approval letter(s) I-130, I-129F

Sealed Medical Packet

2 Passport photos

Beneficiary’s Passport

Petitioner’s Passport

Copy of DS230 packet (1st page signed, 2nd page not yet signed)

Petitioners original Birth Certificate

Beneficiary’s original Birth Certificate

Original Marriage Certificate

Original Police Certificate

Photocopies of Husband's passport

DHL delivery Visa fee

Copy of AOS I-1864 packet

Employment Verification

Recent Paystubs

W2 (2006, 2007, 2008)

1040 US Income Tax Return (2006 & 2007, 2008)

Pictures:

Wedding

Honeymoon Pictures

Past visits

Cards

Phone records:

Verizon

ATT

Digicel Top up Credits

Credits

Calling cards

Ringyard

Joint Ownership:

Apt. Lease

Rental receipts

Scotia Bank Acct Transfers/Withdrawals

[Islandwoman 0]

Philly don't stress...as Lawny told me it is no big deal and it isn't. And tell him to stop listening to people. Have all your stuff in order and you will be fine.

I agree with Dillon - if you're on your game you will be fine. People lose to tell stories, just like when you are pregnant they love to tell their horror story.

[dillon 6]

Philly I don't know about CR1 but we needed 4 passport photos.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Philly I don't know about CR1 but we needed 4 passport photos.

Oh Lawd I will have him take more, he just gave 4 to the hospital for the medical. Also we sent 2 along with the DS-230. I read on the site they only needed 2 pics for the interview but we will have 4 just in case

[*HeavenSent* 0]

DILLON: CONGRATZ !! I WISH U AND YOUR SO THE BEST..I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU..CANT WAIT FOR MY JOURNEY TO BEGIN AND END ..XOXO

[mrsladyd 0]

I'm confused about the police certificate. I thought you had to get it from the places you lived since 16, but after reading more it looks like you get it in Kingston (even if you never lived there). So does my SO just need to get it in Kingston for all the places he lived? Also, will they mail it to him or does he have to go back down there and pick it up? I understand it's not given that day.

u get a police record if u live in a country for 6 mths or more. i had to get 2 police record one from jam and the other from cayman because i lived there for over a year. you will have to request the police record directly from that country but you can get the fingerprints taken care of at the police station in kgn that handles police records.

Yeah, finished it on time but of course at the very last minute. Now I can relax for a minute! As for the rest I'm pretty good....happy we're starting to see spring.

Well June isn't too far away now. Where are all of you going to stay? Are they excited to meet the SO?

We are going to stay at Hidden Paradise....I'm a serious creature of habit and that is home base for me! I'm not sure there will be a "meeting" since it's up in the air right now! I'm just going because I'm excited to share it with my kids!

Who are you meeting with? And what is up in th air? Did I miss something important? Forgive my ignorance if this was discussed before.

yes claire mi fass like u . i ask the same question just waitin for the answer when she returns

There really isn't an answer. I am choosing not to share the details for many reasons! But I'm sure it is what you think it is. Sorry for being so vague....I know I should have never let on on here to begin with. But I know Ells from before VJ and she asked so I answered. I could have pm'd her....I know. Sorry guys...nothing to see here.

[mrsladyd 0]

EXACTLY.. we can't take care of everything and then when he get here EXPECT for him to START taking on some of the responsibility we had harbored all throughout the romance.. that expectation has to be established from the start.. when i first met RG i used to intentionally not take my wallet (heck i did that w/ guys here, cuz don't know if ya'll noticed alot of men are becoming SORRY!!!!!!! another subject) so if he couldnt pay for it then WE don't need it..

so anyway, now that i know he is an upstanding guy and is not out to spend up all my money, i don't mind sharing in expenses, we are working together for a set goal.

God forbid me get wid a man that only identifies w/ his own struggle.. i knew this dude that was quick to tell me when he didn't have no gas money, but when i started trying to talk about my finanical woes, he came back w/ but quana u have a good job and u don't know how it is not to eat but once a day not cuz u choose to but cuz u have to .. i knew right then and there, he was not the one for me!!!

LOL, Quana you and I are a lot alike - I do that with DJ too - We hold each other down - there are times when he hasn't had money bc of the accident & stuff - and I don't mind picking up the ball then - but when he does have $, I never bring my wallet when we go out - In Jan. when we were in Mo Bay, we went for a late dinner, then we were going to MVille - after dinner, he went to the bathroom - I sat there, the waitress brought the check, he came back and asked if we were set - I said no - pay the bill - He was shocked that I hadn't paid it - I told him I didn't bring money with me - He paid, we left the restaurant - flew past MVille and he pulled into the hotel - I was confused - He had put enough money in his pocket for us to go out, and had to go back and get more money, lol

i'm so upset i havent even started my k-1 yet..i just send my SO the forms to fill out and send back to me ...i already have everything else i need for the package..so hopefully i will have it sent out by next month..

same thing i told ells nikki girl.. don't think u are going too slow.. Gods timing is divine.. of course that don't mean drag our feet, but don't be discouraged if things don't happen as fast as others..

i haven't filed yet, not quite ready, but i get to thinking MAN, by the time i do file, i could have went through the process 2 times or more.. or he could have been here and working by now..

these thoughts will make us go crazy... enjoy where u are now, now matter how frustrating LOL

good advice.. rg and i too have tried to discipline ourselves when it comes to talk time..

alright ladies, im leaving early today, just cuz i can LOL.. had some scheduled leave, then i will be mad when i don't have enough leave and I REALLY need to do something OH WELL carpe diem lol bout to go enjoy the day..

Enjoy your night, Quana!

Quana you are on the money today - Heaven, everything happens in its time - I know how frustrating it is - But when I look back now, I am grateful for the delays that DJ and I have had - because we truly have been through a lot together, spent a lot of time together, and that time has only made us stronger in us - it was worth it in the end. Of course now, if the BLOODCLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT IDIOT doesn't get his decree this week, I might be in jail in JA for murder instead of my wedding, lol

Jengles, sorry you are having a bad day!

Ryon - hope your dad is feeling better, I know how hard that is.

Sus - you're off the chain!!

Nope they haven't been. That was Multnomah Falls in Oregon, near Portland! Beautiful there too! This will be their first trip out of the states! The "situation" is what it is and I'm better with it since its been some time now! I believe everything happens for a reason even if we don't know why! And that time tells everything........so we will see! Maybe he will step it up and maybe he won't! I'm not counting on anything anymore! But don't get me wrong, we still talk and he knows we are coming.

I'm just dying to be in Jamaica.....I LOVVVVVE that place regardless!

Sounds like you're in a good spot. I been thinking about you.

Awww thanks Island......I appreciate that. And the "talk" we had too! It's hard....everything about LDR's and the stereotyping about bringing someone here.

[mrsladyd 0]

We are going to stay at Hidden Paradise....I'm a serious creature of habit and that is home base for me! I'm not sure there will be a "meeting" since it's up in the air right now! I'm just going because I'm excited to share it with my kids!

I'm that way too. If I were going to stay in a hotel it would probably be the Bar B Barn cause it's what I know. Sorry to hear about the uncertainty of your situation. I hope everything works out the best for you though. You mean the kids haven't been to JA before? I remember seeing your pic on that 'other' board & it even looked like one of the waterfalls there.

Nope they haven't been. That was Multnomah Falls in Oregon, near Portland! Beautiful there too! This will be their first trip out of the states! The "situation" is what it is and I'm better with it since its been some time now! I believe everything happens for a reason even if we don't know why! And that time tells everything........so we will see! Maybe he will step it up and maybe he won't! I'm not counting on anything anymore! But don't get me wrong, we still talk and he knows we are coming.

I'm just dying to be in Jamaica.....I LOVVVVVE that place regardless!

Hey....you were in my backyard!! Come here often???

My kids and I go there at least once a year. My best friend lives in Gresham. I would pick up and move there if I could take everyone that I love here in California with me!!

[jamerican 2]

Philli....thanks for the info, I will pass it on to my friend

Mrslady....next time you pass through drop me a line....maybe we can link up

[MSNELLY 0]

Hey ladies... whats going on tonight..

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Ells,

DOn't bee foolish...keep ur eyes opened..i'm not saying this is a redflag or he's using u..BUT he needs to be showing an effort! It seems he's buying the $100 credits to satisfy his calling to u for the moment..do not feel it necessary to be the one keeping communication opened both ways..if u can call and it's cheaper..u do just that..call when u can...he always new he made little money..that's not new..how was he surviving before? How long have u known him Ells?

[JOURNEE1125 0]

Ells,

DOn't bee foolish...keep ur eyes opened..i'm not saying this is a redflag or he's using u..BUT he needs to be showing an effort! It seems he's buying the $100 credits to satisfy his calling to u for the moment..do not feel it necessary to be the one keeping communication opened both ways..if u can call and it's cheaper..u do just that..call when u can...he always new he made little money..that's not new..how was he surviving before? How long have u known him Ells?

Speak Preacher!! Ells, basically what she is saying is use the same common sense with a long distance relationship with a Jamaican man as you would with an American Man! If you take away the accent, the beach and the curry chicken . THEY ALL THE SAME MEN!!! LMAO

Hi guys, Just doing my weekly "catch up" take care!

Jai

[clairern 0]

Got a question that has nothing to do with this wonderful journey......

---I have a friend who is being harrassed by an x-boyfriend via internet. He has made threats to harm her so she has a restraining order against him but he now is harrassing her and her friends (me included). Has even created false profiles to send false complaints to her employer. Has anyone ever had any history of dealing with a situation like this? She is at her wits end and causing her to seek mental help for his crazy crazy attacks and constant harrassment. Every day she awaits a call from someone else saying he has contacted them. He has concocted a story about her current boyfriend...making a fake woman and claiming that she is ingaged to him(confusing huh). He leaves multiple long drawn out messages on her voicemail and now causing her to change her number which is also her private business number. I am in the process of wanting to write to Oprah because I bet there are many women/men who have dealt with similar crazy x-lovers. Any advise???

I would make out a police report and have them advise. Harassment is harassment no matter how it comes to you. They have divisions for computer crimes. Keep all records.

Yeah that is what she is doing...it is amazing how quickly your life can be turned upside down by someone from your past.....Its a good thing he moved to another state because I would be the one going to jail....I'd have to seriously hurt him (and thats being nice).

Every profile that is fake, report it to the site (myspace, FB, etc...) - For emails - report them to their ISP provider as harassment - file a police report definitely - save the vm, play them for the police - the key is document, document, document -

Totally agree, Know of someone who had problems at home but never documented anything. Her co-worker who she opened up to documented everything even her daying if she does not show up to work ..yada, yada yada. this was used to convict the husband...her co-worker's documentation.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Ells,

DOn't bee foolish...keep ur eyes opened..i'm not saying this is a redflag or he's using u..BUT he needs to be showing an effort! It seems he's buying the $100 credits to satisfy his calling to u for the moment..do not feel it necessary to be the one keeping communication opened both ways..if u can call and it's cheaper..u do just that..call when u can...he always new he made little money..that's not new..how was he surviving before? How long have u known him Ells?

Speak Preacher!! Ells, basically what she is saying is use the same common sense with a long distance relationship with a Jamaican man as you would with an American Man! If you take away the accent, the beach and the curry chicken . THEY ALL THE SAME MEN!!! LMAO

Hi guys, Just doing my weekly "catch up" take care!

Jai

exactly Jai...how r u?

many ppl on here fail to see what is infront of the..as if this man is some how "better", "more honest" etc, than the ones infront of us..OPEN UR EYES...asking for money never starts right away!