Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for your positive vibes and prayers on Friday I could really feel them!

Thanks you to everyone who has helped keep me calm and patient through this so far. I know it is long from over but THANK YOU!

so, DILLON, was I right?

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for your positive vibes and prayers on Friday I could really feel them!

Thanks you to everyone who has helped keep me calm and patient through this so far. I know it is long from over but THANK YOU!

so, DILLON, was I right?

dillon, the white guy with the afro was the same guy that we got, until the called the lady to question me...he's very nice.

[dillon 6]

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for your positive vibes and prayers on Friday I could really feel them!

Thanks you to everyone who has helped keep me calm and patient through this so far. I know it is long from over but THANK YOU!

so, DILLON, was I right?

YES!!! It is not big deal and nothing to be nervous about.

[Islandwoman 0]

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for your positive vibes and prayers on Friday I could really feel them!

Thanks you to everyone who has helped keep me calm and patient through this so far. I know it is long from over but THANK YOU!

Ahhh....Congrats, again!!! How did you remember all those questions?

[jamerican 2]

Got a question that has nothing to do with this wonderful journey......

---I have a friend who is being harrassed by an x-boyfriend via internet. He has made threats to harm her so she has a restraining order against him but he now is harrassing her and her friends (me included). Has even created false profiles to send false complaints to her employer. Has anyone ever had any history of dealing with a situation like this? She is at her wits end and causing her to seek mental help for his crazy crazy attacks and constant harrassment. Every day she awaits a call from someone else saying he has contacted them. He has concocted a story about her current boyfriend...making a fake woman and claiming that she is ingaged to him(confusing huh). He leaves multiple long drawn out messages on her voicemail and now causing her to change her number which is also her private business number. I am in the process of wanting to write to Oprah because I bet there are many women/men who have dealt with similar crazy x-lovers. Any advise???

[*JG* 2]

Got a question that has nothing to do with this wonderful journey......

---I have a friend who is being harrassed by an x-boyfriend via internet. He has made threats to harm her so she has a restraining order against him but he now is harrassing her and her friends (me included). Has even created false profiles to send false complaints to her employer. Has anyone ever had any history of dealing with a situation like this? She is at her wits end and causing her to seek mental help for his crazy crazy attacks and constant harrassment. Every day she awaits a call from someone else saying he has contacted them. He has concocted a story about her current boyfriend...making a fake woman and claiming that she is ingaged to him(confusing huh). He leaves multiple long drawn out messages on her voicemail and now causing her to change her number which is also her private business number. I am in the process of wanting to write to Oprah because I bet there are many women/men who have dealt with similar crazy x-lovers. Any advise???

I would make out a police report and have them advise. Harassment is harassment no matter how it comes to you. They have divisions for computer crimes. Keep all records.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Morning ladies, i am in a mood today...PMS is kicking my azz all over the place this last two weeks or so, my coworker is out of the office on vacation to Florida which is good , cause im in our shared office listening to DANCEHALL right now, some kind of dancehall remix of SNoop Doggs sensual seduction.... its all i can do to not holler out Bullet, bullet...LOL

anyway im about to run group therapy in fifteen minutes or so and i swear i could give a rats flip about anyone elses problems today, i know i will be sitting there like

Dillon, congrats to you again, i am very happy for you and wish you the best, are you still getting married up here and do you still need me to scope out wedding chapels in the area?

Hey JAHoney sorry to hear you are having a bad day I hope it perks up for you

[jamerican 2]

Got a question that has nothing to do with this wonderful journey......

---I have a friend who is being harrassed by an x-boyfriend via internet. He has made threats to harm her so she has a restraining order against him but he now is harrassing her and her friends (me included). Has even created false profiles to send false complaints to her employer. Has anyone ever had any history of dealing with a situation like this? She is at her wits end and causing her to seek mental help for his crazy crazy attacks and constant harrassment. Every day she awaits a call from someone else saying he has contacted them. He has concocted a story about her current boyfriend...making a fake woman and claiming that she is ingaged to him(confusing huh). He leaves multiple long drawn out messages on her voicemail and now causing her to change her number which is also her private business number. I am in the process of wanting to write to Oprah because I bet there are many women/men who have dealt with similar crazy x-lovers. Any advise???

I would make out a police report and have them advise. Harassment is harassment no matter how it comes to you. They have divisions for computer crimes. Keep all records.

Yeah that is what she is doing...it is amazing how quickly your life can be turned upside down by someone from your past.....Its a good thing he moved to another state because I would be the one going to jail....I'd have to seriously hurt him (and thats being nice).

[sus 70]

Got a question that has nothing to do with this wonderful journey......

---I have a friend who is being harrassed by an x-boyfriend via internet. He has made threats to harm her so she has a restraining order against him but he now is harrassing her and her friends (me included). Has even created false profiles to send false complaints to her employer. Has anyone ever had any history of dealing with a situation like this? She is at her wits end and causing her to seek mental help for his crazy crazy attacks and constant harrassment. Every day she awaits a call from someone else saying he has contacted them. He has concocted a story about her current boyfriend...making a fake woman and claiming that she is ingaged to him(confusing huh). He leaves multiple long drawn out messages on her voicemail and now causing her to change her number which is also her private business number. I am in the process of wanting to write to Oprah because I bet there are many women/men who have dealt with similar crazy x-lovers. Any advise???

I would make out a police report and have them advise. Harassment is harassment no matter how it comes to you. They have divisions for computer crimes. Keep all records.

Yeah that is what she is doing...it is amazing how quickly your life can be turned upside down by someone from your past.....Its a good thing he moved to another state because I would be the one going to jail....I'd have to seriously hurt him (and thats being nice).

Every profile that is fake, report it to the site (myspace, FB, etc...) - For emails - report them to their ISP provider as harassment - file a police report definitely - save the vm, play them for the police - the key is document, document, document -

[Thompson2 1]

Congrats Dillion!! Thanks for sharing your experience!

I got into Mobay on Thursday the 19th. It took about 2 hours to go through immigration and customs so I didn't get out of the airport until 3:00. We were planning on paying the visa fee once I got out of the airport but by the time we got to the NCB it was 3:30 and they closed at 2:30! I was shocked that they close so early.

So we just started our drive to Kington and he had to stop at him first because he forgot the shoes he wanted to wear. We drove to Kington through Stoney Hill and not the flat bridge route. That night we stayed at Mikouzi Guest house. The woman was VERY nice and even helped us find it. It isn't anything fancy but we had a one bedroom. It had a kitchen, sitting area, bathroom and a bedroom with a queen bed and a TV. The water pressure was good and there was hot water although it took a minute to come out. The grounds are very lush and a nice place to stay.

Friday we woke up early because we wanted to be at the NCB by 8:30 when it opened and we still didn't know where it was. There is one accross the street and from the embassy so you don't have to go far. You can walk there. We were in line by about 8:10 I would say. We paid the fee and then went over to the embassy.

We went right up to the front of the line the woman checked our paper work and put it in order and in we went through the metal detectors. When we were in the courtyard there is another woman who gives you the yellow piece of paper that you write your passport number on for DHL.

We go in check in and get out number A151 so we go into section A and it is crowded we go and stand along the wall with the counter and just check out what is going on for a while. Then we started to play hangman. People are getting called up and seats start opening up so we sit down. Finally our number is called and we go to window 6. The lady takes all our paperwork and tells me that I am very organized and I responded well I have been waiting for this day for along time. We go and sit back down and wait for our interview.

We get called up around noon and we get this white guy with an afro, window 8. He was very nice and we have been listening to him all day. He pretty much approved everyone if they had all their paperwork there, those that didn't he gave a blue slip too. I think there were only 2 or 3 fiance visa's in that section that day the rest were family based visa's.

So we go up and he asks for our passports and then goes around the corner to look at them. Thought that was a bit strange. He comes back and tells us raise our right hands and says do you swear to tell the truth and then the questions start:

When we met?

Where we met?

How many times have I been to Jamaica?

Have I seen him on every trip?

When did you start dating?

When did you get engaged?

I answered all those questions.

He then asks Conmar to go sit at the back of the room and for me to pick up the phone.

I pick up the phone and then the questions just start pouring in:

When did I get there?

Where did we stay the night before?

Was it just the two of us there?

When am I going back home?

Have I met anyone in his family?

What are their names?

Has he met anyone in my family?

What is her name?

Do I live with anyone?

Does Conmar live alone?

Do I live in a house or an apartment?

Do we talk about what I do at my job?

How often do we talk?

What do you guys talk about?

Where does his son live?

Who does his son live with?

Who is Conmar closest to in his family?

Does he know Marley’s Dad?

Is Marley’s Dad involved in her life?

There were more questions but I can’t remember what they are right now.

Then he tells me to send Conmar up and for him to pick up the phone.

He asked him:

Have you met anyone in her family?

Have you met Marley’s Dad?

Who are you closest to in your family?

And that was about it for Conmar…He said congratulations take this to DHL for them to arrange for your passport to be delivered to you.

We were both so excited and I don’t think that the smile has left our faces yet.

Afterwards we were starving because we didn’t eat anything in the morning so we went to KFC. He pulled into the wrong car park and we were going to the right one and he wasn’t paying attention and he hit a car that was coming down the little lane. Not just any car but a Land rover!!!! Amazingly enough their car didn’t get one scratch, thank GOD, but on his front bumper there was some damage.

Sorry about the novel but I thought that it would help the others that are waiting for their interviews.

[NatPatBen 3]

Good morning all!!

Nat...what kind of work do you do?

I have a pretty long commute so I've just decided to get into when I can. Somedays it's early and some days it's later but before 10am. It's very flexible considering I usually work long hours during the busy times. I've gone through a couple of jobs in the last two years and I'm really enjoying this one. I can see myself here for much longer. But it's really all up to God!!!

...

I'm a security & controls advisor for our company's Server Operations department. My team lead is in Ecuador, and my 3 teammates are in Canada, Brazil, and Malaysia... so there is no time that we are all in the office at the same time anyway. My boss never TOLD me I needed to be here at a certain time, so I take that as complete flexibility.

Sorry about the novel but I thought that it would help the others that are waiting for their interviews.

No need to be sorry. Thanks for sharing!

[sus 70]

Here's one of my friend's blogs about his cultural center he's building in St Elizabeth -

http://www.mysticbowieculturalcenter.blogspot.com/

[phillyfashionista 8]

Morning all,

Congrats Portland on the NOA1

Still trying to catch up, between VJ and FB and do my work LOL. My Boss who looks like the Crypt Keeper keeps running back here so its darn near impossible. LOL

Me too....now we have to keep up with Sparkpeople

Hi everybody.

LOL I have to do my updates today for Sparkpeople

You know I couldn't hang and fell asleep on Rupaul but I know our girl won! YEAH BEBE ZAHARA BENET put some base in your walk LOL I'll watch tonight......

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for your positive vibes and prayers on Friday I could really feel them!

Thanks you to everyone who has helped keep me calm and patient through this so far. I know it is long from over but THANK YOU!

so, DILLON, was I right?

YES!!! It is not big deal and nothing to be nervous about.

LAWD I am starting to be a ball of nerves and my Hubby too. People are telling him horror embassy stories and he is freaked. I told him to calm down because I am the one who is normally stressing about everything, we can't both be stressed at the same time

Got a question that has nothing to do with this wonderful journey......

---I have a friend who is being harrassed by an x-boyfriend via internet. He has made threats to harm her so she has a restraining order against him but he now is harrassing her and her friends (me included). Has even created false profiles to send false complaints to her employer. Has anyone ever had any history of dealing with a situation like this? She is at her wits end and causing her to seek mental help for his crazy crazy attacks and constant harrassment. Every day she awaits a call from someone else saying he has contacted them. He has concocted a story about her current boyfriend...making a fake woman and claiming that she is ingaged to him(confusing huh). He leaves multiple long drawn out messages on her voicemail and now causing her to change her number which is also her private business number. I am in the process of wanting to write to Oprah because I bet there are many women/men who have dealt with similar crazy x-lovers. Any advise???

Hey Jamerican

That is a form of stalking and harassment called CYBERSTALKING and it's taken seriously. Your friend should definitely file a complaint and get his crazy azz!

3. What can I do if I am being harassed or stalked on the Net?

You should report the incident to the system administrator (aka "sysadmin") of both your Internet Service Provider (ISP) and the ISP of the stalker or harasser. Be aware that sometimes stalkers/harassers try to conceal their tracks by forging (aka "spoofing") their e-mail headers. If you receive abusive e-mail, you might want to visit SpamCop. This free (with voluntary subscription) service will analyze your unwanted e-mail to determine its point of origin, and can generate a report that will be e-mailed to the appropriate sysadmin. You can also visit CyberSnitch to report Internet abuse and have a report sent to the appropriate law enforcement agency.

Check with your own ISP to learn about their abuse policy; this is usually outlined in the customer service agreement. Generally complaints of abuse are sent to the postmaster or the abuse department, and the addresses will be something like "postmaster@yourisp.com" or "abuse@yourisp.com." Many ISPs use both addresses. Go to your ISP's web site for more detailed, official information. Be sure to forward a complete copy of the mail, including the headers, to the sysadmin. Most sysadmins will not hesitate to cancel the account of anyone using their ISP to send abusive mail, and will cooperate with other sysadmins to prevent future occurences. If your sysadmin does not take your complaint seriously, that may be a good reason to change ISPs.

For legal questions about cyberstalking, visit http://cyber.findlaw.com/criminal/cyberstalk.html, a collection of articles on the subject. U.S. laws on cyberstalking vary from state to state, but if you have been threatened in e-mail, you may wish to ask an attorney about the Federal statute 18 U.S.C. 875©. Under that statute, "transmission in interstate or foreign commerce of a communication containing any threat to kidnap any person or any threat to injure the person of another," is a federal felony, carrying a maximum sentence of 5 years in prison and a fine of $250,000.

[JaHoney 3]

Thanks philly for commiserating with me... i took my azz to Dairy Queen and now im sitting here stuffing my face, hopefully i will feel better, may be a tad gassy but definitely will feel better for the time being...LOL

[dillon 6]

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for your positive vibes and prayers on Friday I could really feel them!

Thanks you to everyone who has helped keep me calm and patient through this so far. I know it is long from over but THANK YOU!

Ahhh....Congrats, again!!! How did you remember all those questions?

Believe me there are more that I am forgetting. LOL!