Yardies at home and Farrin (part13)

[^KK^ 3]

Good luck Ms. Nikki...I wish you a quick NO2!!!

[dancehallquana 5]

Hey Ells,

What stage are you and SO in for the K-1 process?

We received our NOA2 last month and now he's going to drop off his DS-230 & get his police cert on the 31st. After that I guess it's just waiting for an interview date & him getting his medical exam done. I know everyone wants this to happen as fast as possible, but I want this all to happen AFTER this semester is over so I can focus on getting a good grade in the meantime.

i like ur focus ells!! keep up the good work, everything will happen in the right time..

[*HeavenSent* 0]

Good luck Ms. Nikki...I wish you a quick NO2!!!

thanks KK ..im wishing for one too..

[dancehallquana 5]

i'm so upset i havent even started my k-1 yet..i just send my SO the forms to fill out and send back to me ...i already have everything else i need for the package..so hopefully i will have it sent out by next month..

same thing i told ells nikki girl.. don't think u are going too slow.. Gods timing is divine.. of course that don't mean drag our feet, but don't be discouraged if things don't happen as fast as others..

i haven't filed yet, not quite ready, but i get to thinking MAN, by the time i do file, i could have went through the process 2 times or more.. or he could have been here and working by now..

these thoughts will make us go crazy... enjoy where u are now, now matter how frustrating LOL

ELLS : i dont think your being unreasonable..becuz i go to school full time and wrk part time ..and my expenses swollow my paychecks..so i can understand being on a tight budget and having a SO in JA doesnt make it any easier ..but my SO knows my situation and i know his..he runs taxi so his income varies day to day week to week..the only time i send him money is for the digicel minutes but we alternate every month...one month he'll top up the card and the next i will ..just to make things fair..or if i have extra cash i'll send him an extra $20 so he can save it for the next month or whenever....but either way we both make sacrifices to make our communication wrk...and if my SO doesnt have the money to get the mins he would never ask me for it he will go withought eating just to save the little money he can..which i dont mind sending it if he doesnt have it but he wont except it from me..and as for using up the mins so fast my SO and i have been very disciplined ..we usually talk evey night for about an hour or he calls me every other day and we speak for like and hour and a 1/2 and that works out good for us becuz during the day i'm at school and he's on the road so we dont have time to talk..but i hope everything wrks out.. just remember that relationships go both ways..

good advice.. rg and i too have tried to discipline ourselves when it comes to talk time..

alright ladies, im leaving early today, just cuz i can LOL.. had some scheduled leave, then i will be mad when i don't have enough leave and I REALLY need to do something OH WELL carpe diem lol bout to go enjoy the day..

[*HeavenSent* 0]

i'm so upset i havent even started my k-1 yet..i just send my SO the forms to fill out and send back to me ...i already have everything else i need for the package..so hopefully i will have it sent out by next month..

same thing i told ells nikki girl.. don't think u are going too slow.. Gods timing is divine.. of course that don't mean drag our feet, but don't be discouraged if things don't happen as fast as others..

i haven't filed yet, not quite ready, but i get to thinking MAN, by the time i do file, i could have went through the process 2 times or more.. or he could have been here and working by now..

these thoughts will make us go crazy... enjoy where u are now, now matter how frustrating LOL

ELLS : i dont think your being unreasonable..becuz i go to school full time and wrk part time ..and my expenses swollow my paychecks..so i can understand being on a tight budget and having a SO in JA doesnt make it any easier ..but my SO knows my situation and i know his..he runs taxi so his income varies day to day week to week..the only time i send him money is for the digicel minutes but we alternate every month...one month he'll top up the card and the next i will ..just to make things fair..or if i have extra cash i'll send him an extra $20 so he can save it for the next month or whenever....but either way we both make sacrifices to make our communication wrk...and if my SO doesnt have the money to get the mins he would never ask me for it he will go withought eating just to save the little money he can..which i dont mind sending it if he doesnt have it but he wont except it from me..and as for using up the mins so fast my SO and i have been very disciplined ..we usually talk evey night for about an hour or he calls me every other day and we speak for like and hour and a 1/2 and that works out good for us becuz during the day i'm at school and he's on the road so we dont have time to talk..but i hope everything wrks out.. just remember that relationships go both ways..

good advice.. rg and i too have tried to discipline ourselves when it comes to talk time..

alright ladies, im leaving early today, just cuz i can LOL.. had some scheduled leave, then i will be mad when i don't have enough leave and I REALLY need to do something OH WELL carpe diem lol bout to go enjoy the day..

QUANA : awww..thanks or the advice..yea i do believe that nothing happens before its time so all i can do is be patient..i'm no stressing myself though becuz i know everything will fall in place !! : )

[Ellsinlove 2]

Well I have some time plus I'm in BOOMTOWN (Bored Outta Of My Mind) so I'll share. Although I wish my story was all juicy and romantic like the others but here goes:

I have known my SO since the beginning of time. His family and my family were really close. My mom was actually married to his uncle. Ha! Some of my friends say that I'm marrying my cousin but Lord he is not that. My mom and his uncle have been divorced for a long time now but still remain friends. Anyhoo, my sister moved to Jamaica when she was little to be closer to her dad's people; and so I would visit when I was outta school and breaks, etc. By this time the divorce between my mom and his uncle had been done and over with and me and SO would sometimes hang out and go out together. He was a major starer and would always be looking at me even when I wasn't talking. After sometime I could feel like he liked me but he would never tell me really. He is so shy!! Well we started talking on the phone and I started to visit just him. Forget the family! LOL. We both wanted to start a more serious relationship but we knew it would be really hard; both because we were really young at the time and the distance was a killer. Some years passed by and I was still just visiting him and on one trip we decided that we both loved each other and wanted to make this more of relationship. So I filed and he is here now. I love being with him, his eyes, his swag, his smell and overrall just him. He is so patient, kind and sincere. Now almost 6 years, one daughter and another on the way; our love is growing stronger and we know God has a plan for us.

Was reading the 'how'd you meet your SO' thread and realized you'd just gone through this K-1 so I looked at your timeline. Did us VJers already know you got married on Saturday?? I'm spacey at times so if I already congratulated you, well, let me just do it again.

CONGRATS on your wedding Nette!

[mrsladyd 0]

Thanks ladies for the advice! I'm taking this all into consideration. But I do agree w/you Quana wanting a man who can prioritize & that if someone wants something bad enough, they'll go the extra mile for it. This may be the next big thing we need to discuss....my expectations and his willingness (or lack of) to work his butt off when he gets here cause that's what it's going to take for us to survive.

EXACTLY.. we can't take care of everything and then when he get here EXPECT for him to START taking on some of the responsibility we had harbored all throughout the romance.. that expectation has to be established from the start.. when i first met RG i used to intentionally not take my wallet (heck i did that w/ guys here, cuz don't know if ya'll noticed alot of men are becoming SORRY!!!!!!! another subject) so if he couldnt pay for it then WE don't need it..

so anyway, now that i know he is an upstanding guy and is not out to spend up all my money, i don't mind sharing in expenses, we are working together for a set goal.

God forbid me get wid a man that only identifies w/ his own struggle.. i knew this dude that was quick to tell me when he didn't have no gas money, but when i started trying to talk about my finanical woes, he came back w/ but quana u have a good job and u don't know how it is not to eat but once a day not cuz u choose to but cuz u have to .. i knew right then and there, he was not the one for me!!!

Oh Quana......you just spoke the words in my mind girl!!!!! I knew I wasn't the only 1 that thought that! Thanks mi gyal...you just made my day!

[mrsladyd 0]

Hey Ells.......my only advice is to NOT sweep anything under the rug! Pay attention to your gut instinct and proceed with eyes WIDE open! Good luck, I feel your frustration all too well!

[Ellsinlove 2]

Hey Ells.......my only advice is to NOT sweep anything under the rug! Pay attention to your gut instinct and proceed with eyes WIDE open! Good luck, I feel your frustration all too well!

Thanks ladyd! Believe me, every issue that comes up gets hashed out every time so we each know where the other stands. Sometimes though I tell ya....

How are you doing?

[mrsladyd 0]

Hey Ells.......my only advice is to NOT sweep anything under the rug! Pay attention to your gut instinct and proceed with eyes WIDE open! Good luck, I feel your frustration all too well!

Thanks ladyd! Believe me, every issue that comes up gets hashed out every time so we each know where the other stands. Sometimes though I tell ya....

How are you doing?

I'm ok. Getting through nursing school much easier now! Things are still up in the air........I'm not going back to Jamaica until June with the kids and my parents. I can't wait!

How bout you? Get your paper finished last week?

[Ellsinlove 2]

Yeah, finished it on time but of course at the very last minute. Now I can relax for a minute! As for the rest I'm pretty good....happy we're starting to see spring.

Well June isn't too far away now. Where are all of you going to stay? Are they excited to meet the SO?

[mrsladyd 0]

Yeah, finished it on time but of course at the very last minute. Now I can relax for a minute! As for the rest I'm pretty good....happy we're starting to see spring.

Well June isn't too far away now. Where are all of you going to stay? Are they excited to meet the SO?

We are going to stay at Hidden Paradise....I'm a serious creature of habit and that is home base for me! I'm not sure there will be a "meeting" since it's up in the air right now! I'm just going because I'm excited to share it with my kids!

[sus 70]

EXACTLY.. we can't take care of everything and then when he get here EXPECT for him to START taking on some of the responsibility we had harbored all throughout the romance.. that expectation has to be established from the start.. when i first met RG i used to intentionally not take my wallet (heck i did that w/ guys here, cuz don't know if ya'll noticed alot of men are becoming SORRY!!!!!!! another subject) so if he couldnt pay for it then WE don't need it..

so anyway, now that i know he is an upstanding guy and is not out to spend up all my money, i don't mind sharing in expenses, we are working together for a set goal.

God forbid me get wid a man that only identifies w/ his own struggle.. i knew this dude that was quick to tell me when he didn't have no gas money, but when i started trying to talk about my finanical woes, he came back w/ but quana u have a good job and u don't know how it is not to eat but once a day not cuz u choose to but cuz u have to .. i knew right then and there, he was not the one for me!!!

LOL, Quana you and I are a lot alike - I do that with DJ too - We hold each other down - there are times when he hasn't had money bc of the accident & stuff - and I don't mind picking up the ball then - but when he does have $, I never bring my wallet when we go out - In Jan. when we were in Mo Bay, we went for a late dinner, then we were going to MVille - after dinner, he went to the bathroom - I sat there, the waitress brought the check, he came back and asked if we were set - I said no - pay the bill - He was shocked that I hadn't paid it - I told him I didn't bring money with me - He paid, we left the restaurant - flew past MVille and he pulled into the hotel - I was confused - He had put enough money in his pocket for us to go out, and had to go back and get more money, lol

i'm so upset i havent even started my k-1 yet..i just send my SO the forms to fill out and send back to me ...i already have everything else i need for the package..so hopefully i will have it sent out by next month..

same thing i told ells nikki girl.. don't think u are going too slow.. Gods timing is divine.. of course that don't mean drag our feet, but don't be discouraged if things don't happen as fast as others..

i haven't filed yet, not quite ready, but i get to thinking MAN, by the time i do file, i could have went through the process 2 times or more.. or he could have been here and working by now..

these thoughts will make us go crazy... enjoy where u are now, now matter how frustrating LOL

good advice.. rg and i too have tried to discipline ourselves when it comes to talk time..

alright ladies, im leaving early today, just cuz i can LOL.. had some scheduled leave, then i will be mad when i don't have enough leave and I REALLY need to do something OH WELL carpe diem lol bout to go enjoy the day..

Enjoy your night, Quana!

Quana you are on the money today - Heaven, everything happens in its time - I know how frustrating it is - But when I look back now, I am grateful for the delays that DJ and I have had - because we truly have been through a lot together, spent a lot of time together, and that time has only made us stronger in us - it was worth it in the end. Of course now, if the BLOODCLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT IDIOT doesn't get his decree this week, I might be in jail in JA for murder instead of my wedding, lol

Jengles, sorry you are having a bad day!

Ryon - hope your dad is feeling better, I know how hard that is.

[Ellsinlove 2]

We are going to stay at Hidden Paradise....I'm a serious creature of habit and that is home base for me! I'm not sure there will be a "meeting" since it's up in the air right now! I'm just going because I'm excited to share it with my kids!

I'm that way too. If I were going to stay in a hotel it would probably be the Bar B Barn cause it's what I know. Sorry to hear about the uncertainty of your situation. I hope everything works out the best for you though. You mean the kids haven't been to JA before? I remember seeing your pic on that 'other' board & it even looked like one of the waterfalls there.

[mrsladyd 0]

We are going to stay at Hidden Paradise....I'm a serious creature of habit and that is home base for me! I'm not sure there will be a "meeting" since it's up in the air right now! I'm just going because I'm excited to share it with my kids!

I'm that way too. If I were going to stay in a hotel it would probably be the Bar B Barn cause it's what I know. Sorry to hear about the uncertainty of your situation. I hope everything works out the best for you though. You mean the kids haven't been to JA before? I remember seeing your pic on that 'other' board & it even looked like one of the waterfalls there.

Nope they haven't been. That was Multnomah Falls in Oregon, near Portland! Beautiful there too! This will be their first trip out of the states! The "situation" is what it is and I'm better with it since its been some time now! I believe everything happens for a reason even if we don't know why! And that time tells everything........so we will see! Maybe he will step it up and maybe he won't! I'm not counting on anything anymore! But don't get me wrong, we still talk and he knows we are coming.

I'm just dying to be in Jamaica.....I LOVVVVVE that place regardless!