Trouble in love life

[ozone_1974 1]

To OP ... seriously ?

You definitely need some time alone and clean your life.

First of all, if you are not happy with yourself and can't live by yourself for a while, you will not be happy with anyone else. You have to be comfortable and happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else.

Second of all, trust me, when you will truly fall in love you will just know that this person is the one you want to share your life with, you will NOT look at some other guys and wonder how it could be.

Third of all, filing to bring someone in the US is a serious thing, you can not just file every time you meet someone ! well yes you can, but the results of such actions will certainly have repercussions on all future, truly in love and sincere petitioners. Think about it !

Now, to another poster (forgive me but I forgot your name) .. The term "looking for love" is definitely disturbing me. Love is not something you search or shop for.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

To OP ... seriously ?

Second of all, trust me, when you will truly fall in love you will just know that this person is the one you want to share your life with, you will NOT look at some other guys and wonder how it could be.

[William33 110]

I don't think she is immature, you have never been together to a Dominican man, it is the hell.

One of the reasons why I decided to look other places is because they are really bad.

Not all Dominican men are hell --- some deserve the bad reputation and some do not.

OP -- good to hear you are speaking with a therapist. Please don't jump from one LDR to another. It's tough -- on so many levels.

i am Network Engineer , earning 7500 $ per month , i am young , i am only 26 years old , i am hot , and i know this for the fact , and yeah i am permanent resident you don't need to travel to Cuba or Guantanamo , you need to travel to my state or i will come , dont worry , its worth trying it , opportunity comes once in a life time

Can you add some qualifications to this statement?

[daboyz 36]

I don't think she is immature, you have never been together to a Dominican man, it is the hell.

One of the reasons why I decided to look other places is because they are really bad.

Not all Dominican men are hell --- some deserve the bad reputation and some do not.

OP -- good to hear you are speaking with a therapist. Please don't jump from one LDR to another. It's tough -- on so many levels.

i am Network Engineer , earning 7500 $ per month , i am young , i am only 26 years old , i am hot , and i know this for the fact , and yeah i am permanent resident you don't need to travel to Cuba or Guantanamo , you need to travel to my state or i will come , dont worry , its worth trying it , opportunity comes once in a life time

? I hope someone loves you as much as you do.

[Terca 6]

wow YMR slow down there!

Don't generalize, there are immature men and women everywhere!

about the topic , you are not sure what you want so why drag someone else into the mess so soon? Therapy is the best advice, not fair for the Cuban to be brought into all this confusion yet.

[jrolle21 0]

um here is what I say. Before you get anyfurther in the immigration process for your husband you need to decide right here and now whether or not you wanna be with him. it makes no sense to go half way through the process and then divorce him.

The thing with the cuban. First off your not suppose to go to cuba so how do you explain your meeting him. Next the cuban government doesnt allow cuband to leave cuba so how does he come to the usa, other than going by boat. if he went by boat you dont need to go through the immigration process becuase of the wet foot dry foot law.

also many many Cubans really just wanna move to miami with the rest of their family, so I would be careful not to get my heartbroke

[Aussielad 37]

Maybe because he doesn't cook good "mangu"??? lol....

Well.....que baiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiina!~

[R de la R 2]

Now, to another poster (forgive me but I forgot your name) .. The term "looking for love" is definitely disturbing me. Love is not something you search or shop for.

Yes, true. Love is not something you search or shop for but when you try to find love in you country and you can´t then you try to find love with somebody living in other country.

[meowmeowmeow 1]

money doesn't buy class.

[CaptainRubyHeart 1]

I don't know your circumstances and can't pass judgement either way.

I just read this and thought about this thread:

http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/front/6371484.html

[headoverheels 0]

I don't know your circumstances and can't pass judgement either way.

I just read this and thought about this thread:

http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/front/6371484.html

If you are not happy with your current husband..then let go...do not prolong the agony. But don't jump to another person just yet. When you find love , you'll feel it. Marriage is not a trial and Error. You have to be certain!!

[KnightAndMagpie 7]

And they called it puppy lurrr-huur-hurr-huurve...

Now, in all seriousness...the OP needs to sort out what she wants in her own head before chasing gents that seem to offer what she believes they offer (as opposed to what they've actually got to offer). Love and marriage are meant to be lasting things, dont'cha know. A friend of mine actually went through something similar where his (now ex) girlfriend got with him because she had fabricated some kinda fairytale around the guy. When the fairytale didn't seem to be coming into realisation, she got moody, accused him of using her, said he had no ambitions...she wanted to move somewhere else that he had no intention of moving to, and when he was reluctant, she threw a tantrum. He wasn't meeting her precise expectations and she didn't like that. He's an awesome guy but not apparently enough for her. She then gave every indication of wanting to leave him without actually doing so, so he did what she was unable to do because she can't stand to be alone. Immediately after the break-up she want and informed his best friend...you get the picture.

She was too immature for marriage, and was with someone for the sake of being with someone -- and because she was trying to construct her ideal guy (without accepting that perfection lies in someone's merits AND flaws), a prince charming, to make up for her last relationship (which was a disaster in of itself).

So girly sort your head and heart out before making any long-term plans with guys.

O.o So. Anybody gonna toss that popcorn my way?

Magpie.

[Giskat09 2]

Marriage is a commitment... if you love two guys - thats a different story. You are making your husband's life MISERABLE... Do u think he deserves this?

You better decide.... But don't forget - KARMA is just around the corner...

Edited May 7, 2009 by jiskat08

[luckymom 0]

Better be alone and focus on YOURSELF first. Start fresh and do not rush in another relationship. I can't see any good thing with having a troublesome relationship in it's very early stage. And starting a new one isn't a good option. Love yourself before loving another person and you will be happy I'm sure.