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Old Dominion   26

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The OP isn't ready to settle down, by every indication. Nothing wrong with her admitting that, doing what is necessary with USCIS to drop the petition, and letting these guys get on with their lives.

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KandD   1

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I think you have alot of soul searching to do. You need to distance yourself from both men for a while and decide what you really want. It may be that you may need to be alone for a while and cancel the visa for now. It's not really fair to you or these men involved unless your heart is in the right place.

Good luck on your decision

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11/18/2007--------I-129F Petition mailed to CSC

11/29/2007--------NOA1

04/02/2008 --------NOA2 Approved (On my B-Day)

05/08/2008---------Forwarded to ISL

05/12/2008---------Consulate Received

05/22/2008---------Packet 3.5 Received by my Fiance

06/06/2008---------Packet 3.5 Returned to Embassy

06/19/2008---------Recieved Packet 4

06/25/2008---------Medical

07/08/2008---------Interview

03/06/2009---------Visa in Hand

03/23/2009---------POE Chicago

03/24/2009---------Marriage

08/05/2009---------GC in Mail

09/13/2009---------First Job in US

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Ju&Ja   1

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Wow. I say don't do anything drastic for now, keep seeing a therapist faithfully, and see what happens. Its easy for us here on VJ to say dump them both! But we aren't in your shoes. I always wondered what happens to people who go to Cuba illegally and then want to file to bring their new SO here??!? Hmmm...

What means "going to Cuba illegally" ? Sorry if it seems a stupid question but I don't know US' laws about Cuba, or Cuba's laws about the US

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Y's_habibitk   2

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Wow. I say don't do anything drastic for now, keep seeing a therapist faithfully, and see what happens. Its easy for us here on VJ to say dump them both! But we aren't in your shoes. I always wondered what happens to people who go to Cuba illegally and then want to file to bring their new SO here??!? Hmmm...

What means "going to Cuba illegally" ? Sorry if it seems a stupid question but I don't know US' laws about Cuba, or Cuba's laws about the US

We(americans) are not supposed to visit Cuba. The oversimplified answer is, we are not to spend our money there.

You can enter through another country, but you cant go to a travel agent and say "i want a flight from louisville to Cuba" you have to make a pit stop in another country. thats my understanding :unsure:

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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JSVP08   3

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My question is THIS:

IF you knew it was not going to work..( dont care if you were in *love or not) and you had problems from the start. WHY DID YOU GET MARRIED. Now your in a huge pickle of a mess. Sorry girl but WOW you REALLY dug a hole. The first rule of thumb. DO NOT ever look to the backyard of another till YOUR messy yard is fully cleaned

I agree may I have some popcorn??

love this :thumbs:

to the OP: hope everything works for the best.

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K1 Visa

01-31-2009 I-129F to USCIS-CSC

02-19-2009 NOA1

03-24-2009 NOA2

06-21-2009 Medical(The Polyclinic, Dubai UAE)

06-28-2009 Interview @ USE AD (approved)

07-01-2009 Visa ready for pick up @ USE AD

07-07-2009 went to pick up my visa (ready 2 fly)

=

09-11-2009 POE-SFO(no questions asked,just a reminder 2 get marry within 90 days)

=

09-28-2009 applied for SSN at Sac., Ca(no hassle)

10-05-2009 received SSN card on mail

11-04-2009 applied for marriage license @ Sacramento County, Ca

11-18-2009 married (marriage certificate on hand-same day)

11-25-2009 I-693 signed by CS(MMR-$70, Vericella-$70, I-693 Form- $15)

=

12-23-2009 mailed AOS to USCIS, Chicago Lockbox (FedEx)

12-28-2009 recvd by USCIS

01-04-2010 check cashed by USCIS

01-08-2010 received NOA1 (I-797C) for I-485, I-765 and I-131

01-11-2010 recvd ASC Appointment Notice for Biometrics

01-25-2010 Biometrics Appointment- West Sac, CA

**alls well @ Biometrics-less than 20 mins.

03-04-2010 recvd notice for AOS interview date

03-04-2010 EAD card production ordered (online notice)

03-08-2010 AP (I-512L) approved-recvd in mail (dated 3/2/10)

03-11-2010 EAD recvd on mail

04-06-2010 AOS interview, APPROVED! Bye USCIS til 2012- Sac, CA

04-15-2010 GC Welcome letter received fr mail

04-16-2010 GC recvd on the mail (Yiihaa!!!)

=

03-08-2012 ROC I-751 mailed to CSC via USPS Priority Mail

03-12-2012 ROC recvd by CSC

03-12-2012 NOA1 (revd on mail 03/19/12)

03-15-2012 ROC check cashed

"Thank you to God and to VJ"

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JSVP08   3

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Wait a sec... do you have a child with your current husband? Who's the boy in your pictures?

I am not marry, no I don't have a child with my boyfriend. The boy in the picture is my son. Why are you asking about him???

NM.. i think i'm confused..

I don't understand why are you confused. ask, I will answer you :thumbs:

Mistaken identity.. I got confused and thought you were the OP NM :)

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K1 Visa

01-31-2009 I-129F to USCIS-CSC

02-19-2009 NOA1

03-24-2009 NOA2

06-21-2009 Medical(The Polyclinic, Dubai UAE)

06-28-2009 Interview @ USE AD (approved)

07-01-2009 Visa ready for pick up @ USE AD

07-07-2009 went to pick up my visa (ready 2 fly)

=

09-11-2009 POE-SFO(no questions asked,just a reminder 2 get marry within 90 days)

=

09-28-2009 applied for SSN at Sac., Ca(no hassle)

10-05-2009 received SSN card on mail

11-04-2009 applied for marriage license @ Sacramento County, Ca

11-18-2009 married (marriage certificate on hand-same day)

11-25-2009 I-693 signed by CS(MMR-$70, Vericella-$70, I-693 Form- $15)

=

12-23-2009 mailed AOS to USCIS, Chicago Lockbox (FedEx)

12-28-2009 recvd by USCIS

01-04-2010 check cashed by USCIS

01-08-2010 received NOA1 (I-797C) for I-485, I-765 and I-131

01-11-2010 recvd ASC Appointment Notice for Biometrics

01-25-2010 Biometrics Appointment- West Sac, CA

**alls well @ Biometrics-less than 20 mins.

03-04-2010 recvd notice for AOS interview date

03-04-2010 EAD card production ordered (online notice)

03-08-2010 AP (I-512L) approved-recvd in mail (dated 3/2/10)

03-11-2010 EAD recvd on mail

04-06-2010 AOS interview, APPROVED! Bye USCIS til 2012- Sac, CA

04-15-2010 GC Welcome letter received fr mail

04-16-2010 GC recvd on the mail (Yiihaa!!!)

=

03-08-2012 ROC I-751 mailed to CSC via USPS Priority Mail

03-12-2012 ROC recvd by CSC

03-12-2012 NOA1 (revd on mail 03/19/12)

03-15-2012 ROC check cashed

"Thank you to God and to VJ"

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daboyz   36

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Wow. I say don't do anything drastic for now, keep seeing a therapist faithfully, and see what happens. Its easy for us here on VJ to say dump them both! But we aren't in your shoes. I always wondered what happens to people who go to Cuba illegally and then want to file to bring their new SO here??!? Hmmm...

What means "going to Cuba illegally" ? Sorry if it seems a stupid question but I don't know US' laws about Cuba, or Cuba's laws about the US

We(americans) are not supposed to visit Cuba. The oversimplified answer is, we are not to spend our money there.

You can enter through another country, but you cant go to a travel agent and say "i want a flight from louisville to Cuba" you have to make a pit stop in another country. thats my understanding :unsure:

Lisa, you are absolutely correct. When I lived in Canada people would go there on vacation directly from Montreal. At the time, I think the fine was $750 for an American going there. I have never been myself, but I heard they don't stamp your passport if you are an American to avoid the fine.

One odd thing I noticed last year. I was at the airport in Miami at 5 am, and there was this huge line. It was American Airlines charter flight to Cuba. It didn't show up on the monitors as a flight. Not really sure what that was about. All the people had like 8 pieces of luggage each.

Service Center : Vermont Service Center

Consulate : Bangkok, Thailand

Marriage : 2006-11-08

I-130 Sent : 2008-02-22

I-130 NOA1 : 2008-03-10

I-129F Sent : 2008-04-08

I-129F NOA1 : 2008-04-14

I-129F touched: 2008-05-06

I-130 touched: 2008-05-09

I-129F approved 2008-09-05

I-130 approved 2008-09-05

NVC received 2008-09-12

Pay I-864 2008-10-08

Pay IV bill 2008-10-08

Receive Instruction 2008-11-05

Case Complete 2008-11-18

Medical 2009-01-19/20 passed

Receive Pkt 4 2009-01-30

Interview 221g 2009-02-23

Second interview 2009-03-02 Approved

POE DFW 2009-03-07

Received SS card 2009-03-17

Received GC 2009-04-01

Done for 3 years or 10 years. Haven't decided yet.

(I'm going for the IR-1 and blowing off the K-3. Even if it takes an extra couple months, it's worth it to not have to deal with USCIS again)

"Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door!"

Note:

Please fill out I-130, wait 6 months for approval, then 3 more months for an interview. (Unless of course we've bombed your country into the stone age, then you qualify for expedited processing.)

Welcome to the USA!!!

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Ju&Ja   1

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Wow. I say don't do anything drastic for now, keep seeing a therapist faithfully, and see what happens. Its easy for us here on VJ to say dump them both! But we aren't in your shoes. I always wondered what happens to people who go to Cuba illegally and then want to file to bring their new SO here??!? Hmmm...

What means "going to Cuba illegally" ? Sorry if it seems a stupid question but I don't know US' laws about Cuba, or Cuba's laws about the US

We(americans) are not supposed to visit Cuba. The oversimplified answer is, we are not to spend our money there.

You can enter through another country, but you cant go to a travel agent and say "i want a flight from louisville to Cuba" you have to make a pit stop in another country. thats my understanding :unsure:

Wow ! It is not what I call freedom !

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Cherry&Ed   4

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My question is THIS:

IF you knew it was not going to work..( dont care if you were in *love or not) and you had problems from the start. WHY DID YOU GET MARRIED. Now your in a huge pickle of a mess. Sorry girl but WOW you REALLY dug a hole. The first rule of thumb. DO NOT ever look to the backyard of another till YOUR messy yard is fully cleaned

I agree may I have some popcorn??

Is that the reason why Cuban cigars are banned in the United States?

Pass the popcorn to me... :pop:

VIEW MY TIMELINE

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"Marriage is not like a really hot spoonful of rice that you'll just spit out when you got burned."
-Filipino saying


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AUGUST 7, 2012 - N-400 Sent

DECEMBER 12, 2012 - Interview (Chicago, IL)

DECEMBER 14, 2012 - Oath Taking (Chicago, IL)

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Sprailenes   47

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Wow. I say don't do anything drastic for now, keep seeing a therapist faithfully, and see what happens. Its easy for us here on VJ to say dump them both! But we aren't in your shoes. I always wondered what happens to people who go to Cuba illegally and then want to file to bring their new SO here??!? Hmmm...

What means "going to Cuba illegally" ? Sorry if it seems a stupid question but I don't know US' laws about Cuba, or Cuba's laws about the US

We(americans) are not supposed to visit Cuba. The oversimplified answer is, we are not to spend our money there.

You can enter through another country, but you cant go to a travel agent and say "i want a flight from louisville to Cuba" you have to make a pit stop in another country. thats my understanding :unsure:

Wow ! It is not what I call freedom !

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuban_Missile_Crisis

Here is some reading for you. :yes:

Donne moi une poptart!

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anitacastillo   0

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I don't think she is immature, you have never been together to a Dominican man, it is the hell.

One of the reasons why I decided to look other places is because they are really bad.

Not all Dominican men are hell --- some deserve the bad reputation and some do not.

OP -- good to hear you are speaking with a therapist. Please don't jump from one LDR to another. It's tough -- on so many levels.

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Quarismo   0

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I don't think she is immature, you have never been together to a Dominican man, it is the hell.

One of the reasons why I decided to look other places is because they are really bad.

Not all Dominican men are hell --- some deserve the bad reputation and some do not.

OP -- good to hear you are speaking with a therapist. Please don't jump from one LDR to another. It's tough -- on so many levels.

i am Network Engineer , earning 7500 $ per month , i am young , i am only 26 years old , i am hot , and i know this for the fact , and yeah i am permanent resident you don't need to travel to Cuba or Guantanamo , you need to travel to my state or i will come , dont worry , its worth trying it , opportunity comes once in a life time :dance:

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Sprailenes   47

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I don't think she is immature, you have never been together to a Dominican man, it is the hell.

One of the reasons why I decided to look other places is because they are really bad.

Not all Dominican men are hell --- some deserve the bad reputation and some do not.

OP -- good to hear you are speaking with a therapist. Please don't jump from one LDR to another. It's tough -- on so many levels.

i am Network Engineer , earning 7500 $ per month , i am young , i am only 26 years old , i am hot , and i know this for the fact , and yeah i am permanent resident you don't need to travel to Cuba or Guantanamo , you need to travel to my state or i will come , dont worry , its worth trying it , opportunity comes once in a life time :dance:

:rofl:

:mellow:

:rofl:

Donne moi une poptart!

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