February 09 - VSC

[Maire 1]

she is like a tornado...and this have been going on for like 10 years...she disappears..then 7 months later she appears and i have taken her back....then disappears and appears disappears and appears....when I saw my SO again I completely fell in love with him..and I wanted to see her to let her know she cant messed up my life again...but something I think went wrong..my main purpose was basically to face a fear and let her know that I was over her completely...I have not thought about her for 1 1/2 years ..but when I see her is like everything comes back...and is not fair to my baby and is not fair to me...My life was so perfect without her...when she is around I cant find peace

Ok, so there is a part of you that thinks it could want something to happen. Wanting and choosing to act are two different things. What is it you really want? I am pretty sure you know. It seems like this girl is one of those who is a blast and amazing to be with... 5% of the time, then the horror starts. Is that what you want? Choosing this over your SO? I am guessing not. I would get her out of your house, tell her to go figure out her life, and CHOOSE to keep your own life where you want it.

wow it seems like u know her..she just called me asking me for money so that she can get her place....i want to lend her the money....but at the same time she doesnt deserve ######...she did the most horrible things to be that u can ever imagine....

[lee b 2]

she is like a tornado...and this have been going on for like 10 years...she disappears..then 7 months later she appears and i have taken her back....then disappears and appears disappears and appears....when I saw my SO again I completely fell in love with him..and I wanted to see her to let her know she cant messed up my life again...but something I think went wrong..my main purpose was basically to face a fear and let her know that I was over her completely...I have not thought about her for 1 1/2 years ..but when I see her is like everything comes back...and is not fair to my baby and is not fair to me...My life was so perfect without her...when she is around I cant find peace

Ok, so there is a part of you that thinks it could want something to happen. Wanting and choosing to act are two different things. What is it you really want? I am pretty sure you know. It seems like this girl is one of those who is a blast and amazing to be with... 5% of the time, then the horror starts. Is that what you want? Choosing this over your SO? I am guessing not. I would get her out of your house, tell her to go figure out her life, and CHOOSE to keep your own life where you want it.

wow it seems like u know her..she just called me asking me for money so that she can get her place....i want to lend her the money....but at the same time she doesnt deserve ######...she did the most horrible things to be that u can ever imagine....

You have just got to say no to her. Otherwise she will just drain you financially, physically and emotionally. Those types of people are hard to stay away from, but you just have to be strong and say no to her.

[D_n_M 0]

Just say NO! You can do it. Maire you are strong and you have a full life ahead of you. Decisions you make now are going to shape tomorrow. You have a support group here to talk to anytime you need!

[Rich and Bey 1]

Derek is right. we are all here for you so please talk to us about it. you have a great life ahead of you so think about that.

[Rich and Bey 1]

Derek is right. we are all here for you so please talk to us about it. you have a great life ahead of you so think about that.

[lee b 2]

Not a single approval. That is a bit disheartening. I was really hoping some more Feb. people would get theirs today.

[al-Hubb jameel 0]

Not a single approval. That is a bit disheartening. I was really hoping some more Feb. people would get theirs today.

Thanks for the encouragment, and yes it is disapointing. Do you think USCIS is closed tomorrow?

[biggestchallenge 0]

ohh god tommorow i will finally reach my 1st day of estimated adjuncuation on this site since feb 27 :), hopefully tommorow will be my day

[AG83 0]

Not a single approval. That is a bit disheartening. I was really hoping some more Feb. people would get theirs today.

yeah i was hoping for today but nothing yet lets see tomorrow

[Dave & Jenny 0]

she is like a tornado...and this have been going on for like 10 years...she disappears..then 7 months later she appears and i have taken her back....then disappears and appears disappears and appears....when I saw my SO again I completely fell in love with him..and I wanted to see her to let her know she cant messed up my life again...but something I think went wrong..my main purpose was basically to face a fear and let her know that I was over her completely...I have not thought about her for 1 1/2 years ..but when I see her is like everything comes back...and is not fair to my baby and is not fair to me...My life was so perfect without her...when she is around I cant find peace

Ok, so there is a part of you that thinks it could want something to happen. Wanting and choosing to act are two different things. What is it you really want? I am pretty sure you know. It seems like this girl is one of those who is a blast and amazing to be with... 5% of the time, then the horror starts. Is that what you want? Choosing this over your SO? I am guessing not. I would get her out of your house, tell her to go figure out her life, and CHOOSE to keep your own life where you want it.

wow it seems like u know her..she just called me asking me for money so that she can get her place....i want to lend her the money....but at the same time she doesnt deserve ######...she did the most horrible things to be that u can ever imagine....

Ok, so you feel sorry for her... no problem... So what would happen if you DID give her money? Anything good? I am betting NOT. Let her ask her current gf for money. You have been there and done that, you know what ####### will happen... Give her an inch and she will take a mile. Again, what do you want? If it isn't her, just block her number, don't answer when she calls, tell her you are happy and will NOT get wrapped up in her #######.

[Rich and Bey 1]

Good Morning Everyone!!!!!!!!!

[lee b 2]

Good morning Rich. I hate not being able to sleep in. I am going to try it for the rest of the morning.

[Roman&Marina 0]

Morning Everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wonder what happened with Maire's situation yesterday. I hope she told that girl no and to stay away from her. On a personal note, going shopping today for a TV, new dvd player, frindge, etc. FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JeremySusan 0]

Morning Everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wonder what happened with Maire's situation yesterday. I hope she told that girl no and to stay away from her. On a personal note, going shopping today for a TV, new dvd player, frindge, etc. FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

that sounds like the best day ever.........but i guess thats from a female perspective.

happy shopping

[Roman&Marina 0]

Morning Everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wonder what happened with Maire's situation yesterday. I hope she told that girl no and to stay away from her. On a personal note, going shopping today for a TV, new dvd player, frindge, etc. FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

that sounds like the best day ever.........but i guess thats from a female perspective.

happy shopping

You are correct that would be a female perspective. Besides buying a TV, everything else is a drag.