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[D_n_M 0]

I would not go out with her anymore. Tell her it is not right for you to go with her. She is playing you...who is scared to go apartment shopping? That's a trick to get some time with you. Cut it off before it goes too far!

[Maire 1]

anyways I just wanted to vent a bit...

[Rich and Bey 1]

Ok Maire after you saw her again how did you feel? Did you have old feelings come back or did you think about your current bf the whole time? this information is important to determine what you should do? did you feel like being with her again? how did you feel after she told you she wanted you back?

[Roman&Marina 0]

Wait Maire i am curious.. You dated a female 1 1/2 years ago correct? she asked you to go out again and you went? do you want something to happen between you and her and does your current bf know anything about the ex gf?

He knows that I were gay all my life and he has been the only man in my life..but he doesnt know about this..this just happened last night...I didnt want anything to happen with her..but I gotta admit that I was curious to see her...and yes she did tell me she wants me back...and I told her that now my life is different and that I am in love with my SO...I am even thinking that she had all this planned out..cus she knows that I cant see people struggle and would help her find a place and stuff...she even called me today to see if I can go with her to see an apartment because she is scared to go alone...and i feel like everything is starting like dating or something...dunno if u guys know what I mean....but I dont know how to get out of this and I feel already guilty as it is that I voluntarily put myself in that situation...

Are you planning to tell him about this anytime soon?????

i dunno..i feel bad and all this happens when Iam soo close to being with my baby!!!

Like Lee said (how he would react) if your So finds out later, he might react in a very bad way. But you know him better than I do. So it's your call.

[Maire 1]

Ok Maire after you saw her again how did you feel? Did you have old feelings come back or did you think about your current bf the whole time? this information is important to determine what you should do? did you feel like being with her again? how did you feel after she told you she wanted you back?

I dunno....

[Rich and Bey 1]

So you are saying that you are confused then? She brought up old feelings.

[Roman&Marina 0]

Ok Maire after you saw her again how did you feel? Did you have old feelings come back or did you think about your current bf the whole time? this information is important to determine what you should do? did you feel like being with her again? how did you feel after she told you she wanted you back?

I dunno....

That's not a good answer. It's either you want to be with her or him. There is no grey area here.

[Rich and Bey 1]

That is what i am trying to get out Roman. Because when she approached this subject there was something that jumped out at me which was she asked if we would do something that would jeopardize our relationship with the SO and would we be in a freaky situation. that tells me that she is thinking about it.

[lee b 2]

Either way Maire you need to really figure out what it is you want. Otherwise there are going to be three people who could get hurt. It sucks for everyone involved, but if you're having these feelings now its not fair to your SO or your ex to string them along. Take some time and really think about what you want.

[al-Hubb jameel 0]

Ok Maire after you saw her again how did you feel? Did you have old feelings come back or did you think about your current bf the whole time? this information is important to determine what you should do? did you feel like being with her again? how did you feel after she told you she wanted you back?

I dunno....

Ooohhhh I agree with everyone else now Maire. Don't see her again...seems like she is doing whatever it takes to get you back and preying on the fact that you are nice. DANGER DANGER DANGER.

[Dave & Jenny 0]

A place where we can stay together in the same hotell......i live in a 2 bedroom home....lol

<------is trying to make them forget about "maire's place"

That is a great plan Maire (that is "plan", not "plane" or "plain")...

We stay at the same hotel, and have the wild party at Maire's Place...

[al-Hubb jameel 0]

Either way Maire you need to really figure out what it is you want. Otherwise there are going to be three people who could get hurt. It sucks for everyone involved, but if you're having these feelings now its not fair to your SO or your ex to string them along. Take some time and really think about what you want.

[Roman&Marina 0]

Fellas is it me or do you guys also think that we should quit our jobs, rent out an office and become psychotherapists.

[lee b 2]

Fellas is it me or do you guys also think that we should quit our jobs, rent out an office and become psychotherapists.

I'm in.

[Maire 1]

she is like a tornado...and this have been going on for like 10 years...she disappears..then 7 months later she appears and i have taken her back....then disappears and appears disappears and appears....when I saw my SO again I completely fell in love with him..and I wanted to see her to let her know she cant messed up my life again...but something I think went wrong..my main purpose was basically to face a fear and let her know that I was over her completely...I have not thought about her for 1 1/2 years ..but when I see her is like everything comes back...and is not fair to my baby and is not fair to me...My life was so perfect without her...when she is around I cant find peace

Edited July 2, 2009 by Maire