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[Maire 1]

Well my take on it....first yeah I'd be seriously annoyed. Your SO should have told you about it and not hear it from someone else. As for the mother in law....well she's in a difficult position as well. Its her best friend's daughter...really what is she supposed to do? Tell her best friend..."I'm sorry but since your daughter slept with my son X number of years ago and he's now getting married she can't come over to my house anymore"

As for the person who "HAD" to tell you....seriously...####### is their problem? Like your SO said...its the past...why bring it up and toss it in your face like that.

Your mother in law probably assumed that it was the past and that you'd never know so it would never hurt you.

well our town in Cuba is so small...that everyone knows everyone...and I guess they told me since this girl is going over there this summer and there were rumors that she is going to see him...

I just pray for this process to be over...cus the drama is putting so much pressure on me..I had to set aside that incident on my first day in Cuba and try to take advantage of my time with him as much as possible....and this is tough...cus in one side is the pain of this and on the other 10days to try to be happy....I had to forget it and pretend like I didnt care cus I had missed him so much...

[Dave & Jenny 0]

I think she would since your SO has already confirmed it and you confronted the girl. Who knows people choose to lie about the strangest things sometimes.

i confronted my mother-in-law not the girl....but since I did Iam sure she will tell the girl pretty soon if she didnt last night already...and Iam sure the girl will think she is a threat to me cus Iam upset..but w.e Im just upset that if we are engaged she has no business in my in-laws house..but that boundary should be set by my in-laws themselves out of respect for me...at least thats my thought...but again iam very old fashion when it comes to respect and relationships....

So are you saying that for our VJ reunion, I should be packing???? Myself and the 2 Richards will take care of the situation. We will not let this chick mess with our Maire!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

glad to know u got my back!!!!!

BTW, damn straight we have your back!!! If you want, we can all have a sit down with this other chick when we come down for the party!

[lee b 2]

Where is Richard today? Happy birthday my friend.

[Maire 1]

I think she would since your SO has already confirmed it and you confronted the girl. Who knows people choose to lie about the strangest things sometimes.

i confronted my mother-in-law not the girl....but since I did Iam sure she will tell the girl pretty soon if she didnt last night already...and Iam sure the girl will think she is a threat to me cus Iam upset..but w.e Im just upset that if we are engaged she has no business in my in-laws house..but that boundary should be set by my in-laws themselves out of respect for me...at least thats my thought...but again iam very old fashion when it comes to respect and relationships....

So are you saying that for our VJ reunion, I should be packing???? Myself and the 2 Richards will take care of the situation. We will not let this chick mess with our Maire!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

glad to know u got my back!!!!!

Of course!!!!! Plus I love MOJITOS!!!!!!!!! And I will not let some random chick, spoil my trip to Miami and February VJ reunion.

yeayyyy parrrtyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I make the best Cuban food u can ever eat!!!!!

[LiLMermaid 2]

I think she would since your SO has already confirmed it and you confronted the girl. Who knows people choose to lie about the strangest things sometimes.

i confronted my mother-in-law not the girl....but since I did Iam sure she will tell the girl pretty soon if she didnt last night already...and Iam sure the girl will think she is a threat to me cus Iam upset..but w.e Im just upset that if we are engaged she has no business in my in-laws house..but that boundary should be set by my in-laws themselves out of respect for me...at least thats my thought...but again iam very old fashion when it comes to respect and relationships....

So are you saying that for our VJ reunion, I should be packing???? Myself and the 2 Richards will take care of the situation. We will not let this chick mess with our Maire!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

glad to know u got my back!!!!!

Of course!!!!! Plus I love MOJITOS!!!!!!!!! And I will not let some random chick, spoil my trip to Miami and February VJ reunion.

mmmmmmm mojitos.......better make that a late reunion....I don't get my visa till way after you guys! lol Then again....I'll be in Tampa and you're in NY..I still may beat you to Miami. lol

[Maire 1]

ohhh really???my flightless bird is getting old!!!!!!!!happy burrdayy

[Roman&Marina 0]

I think she would since your SO has already confirmed it and you confronted the girl. Who knows people choose to lie about the strangest things sometimes.

i confronted my mother-in-law not the girl....but since I did Iam sure she will tell the girl pretty soon if she didnt last night already...and Iam sure the girl will think she is a threat to me cus Iam upset..but w.e Im just upset that if we are engaged she has no business in my in-laws house..but that boundary should be set by my in-laws themselves out of respect for me...at least thats my thought...but again iam very old fashion when it comes to respect and relationships....

So are you saying that for our VJ reunion, I should be packing???? Myself and the 2 Richards will take care of the situation. We will not let this chick mess with our Maire!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

glad to know u got my back!!!!!

Of course!!!!! Plus I love MOJITOS!!!!!!!!! And I will not let some random chick, spoil my trip to Miami and February VJ reunion.

mmmmmmm mojitos.......better make that a late reunion....I don't get my visa till way after you guys! lol Then again....I'll be in Tampa and you're in NY..I still may beat you to Miami. lol

Not the way I drive!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

[Roman&Marina 0]

I think she would since your SO has already confirmed it and you confronted the girl. Who knows people choose to lie about the strangest things sometimes.

i confronted my mother-in-law not the girl....but since I did Iam sure she will tell the girl pretty soon if she didnt last night already...and Iam sure the girl will think she is a threat to me cus Iam upset..but w.e Im just upset that if we are engaged she has no business in my in-laws house..but that boundary should be set by my in-laws themselves out of respect for me...at least thats my thought...but again iam very old fashion when it comes to respect and relationships....

So are you saying that for our VJ reunion, I should be packing???? Myself and the 2 Richards will take care of the situation. We will not let this chick mess with our Maire!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

glad to know u got my back!!!!!

Of course!!!!! Plus I love MOJITOS!!!!!!!!! And I will not let some random chick, spoil my trip to Miami and February VJ reunion.

yeayyyy parrrtyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I make the best Cuban food u can ever eat!!!!!

And I make amazing shish kebabs (Ukrainian style baby)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy Birthday Rich!!!!!!!!!!! We going down to Miami for a reunion party and kick some chick's butt. You in????

[Maire 1]

I think she would since your SO has already confirmed it and you confronted the girl. Who knows people choose to lie about the strangest things sometimes.

i confronted my mother-in-law not the girl....but since I did Iam sure she will tell the girl pretty soon if she didnt last night already...and Iam sure the girl will think she is a threat to me cus Iam upset..but w.e Im just upset that if we are engaged she has no business in my in-laws house..but that boundary should be set by my in-laws themselves out of respect for me...at least thats my thought...but again iam very old fashion when it comes to respect and relationships....

So are you saying that for our VJ reunion, I should be packing???? Myself and the 2 Richards will take care of the situation. We will not let this chick mess with our Maire!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

glad to know u got my back!!!!!

Of course!!!!! Plus I love MOJITOS!!!!!!!!! And I will not let some random chick, spoil my trip to Miami and February VJ reunion.

mmmmmmm mojitos.......better make that a late reunion....I don't get my visa till way after you guys! lol Then again....I'll be in Tampa and you're in NY..I still may beat you to Miami. lol

Dont worry well wait...

wow what a melting pot that will be!!!! food from all over the world LMAO....yummy

[LiLMermaid 2]

Well my take on it....first yeah I'd be seriously annoyed. Your SO should have told you about it and not hear it from someone else. As for the mother in law....well she's in a difficult position as well. Its her best friend's daughter...really what is she supposed to do? Tell her best friend..."I'm sorry but since your daughter slept with my son X number of years ago and he's now getting married she can't come over to my house anymore"

As for the person who "HAD" to tell you....seriously...####### is their problem? Like your SO said...its the past...why bring it up and toss it in your face like that.

Your mother in law probably assumed that it was the past and that you'd never know so it would never hurt you.

well our town in Cuba is so small...that everyone knows everyone...and I guess they told me since this girl is going over there this summer and there were rumors that she is going to see him...

I just pray for this process to be over...cus the drama is putting so much pressure on me..I had to set aside that incident on my first day in Cuba and try to take advantage of my time with him as much as possible....and this is tough...cus in one side is the pain of this and on the other 10days to try to be happy....I had to forget it and pretend like I didnt care cus I had missed him so much...

rumors that she's going to see him? Yeah that needs to be nipped in the bud. You don't need that kind of ####### right now. I still stand by the person that told you is an idiot. What you said is exactly what I was thinking...you go all the way there to see your man and have to deal with that BS? GRRRRRRRRRR that makes me so mad. You need to step back and take a look at the whole picture though. Do you feel she is a threat in anyway? Do you feel your mother in law is deliberately trying to be disrespectful? Do you feel your SO was trying to hide this from you or do you believe he figured it was insignificant and didn't tell you as it would just upset you for no reason. If you feel she isn't a threat, your mother in law was just pretending it never happened and your SO felt it was insignificant.....then I'd just let it go. Unless of course she's hitting on your man then its time to kick some a$$

Edited June 3, 2009 by LiLMermaid

[Maire 1]

Well my take on it....first yeah I'd be seriously annoyed. Your SO should have told you about it and not hear it from someone else. As for the mother in law....well she's in a difficult position as well. Its her best friend's daughter...really what is she supposed to do? Tell her best friend..."I'm sorry but since your daughter slept with my son X number of years ago and he's now getting married she can't come over to my house anymore"

As for the person who "HAD" to tell you....seriously...####### is their problem? Like your SO said...its the past...why bring it up and toss it in your face like that.

Your mother in law probably assumed that it was the past and that you'd never know so it would never hurt you.

well our town in Cuba is so small...that everyone knows everyone...and I guess they told me since this girl is going over there this summer and there were rumors that she is going to see him...

I just pray for this process to be over...cus the drama is putting so much pressure on me..I had to set aside that incident on my first day in Cuba and try to take advantage of my time with him as much as possible....and this is tough...cus in one side is the pain of this and on the other 10days to try to be happy....I had to forget it and pretend like I didnt care cus I had missed him so much...

rumors that she's going to see him? Yeah that needs to be nipped in the bud. You don't need that kind of ####### right now. I still stand by the person that told you is an idiot. What you said is exactly what I was thinking...you go all the way there to see your man and have to deal with that BS? GRRRRRRRRRR that makes me so mad. You need to step back and take a look at the whole picture though. Do you feel she is a threat in anyway? Do you feel your mother in law is deliberately trying to be disrespectful? Do you feel your SO was trying to hide this from you or do you believe he figured it was insignificant and didn't tell you as it would just upset you for no reason. If you feel she isn't a threat, your mother in law was just pretending it never happened and your SO felt it was insignificant.....then I'd just let it go. Unless of course she's hitting on your man then its time to kick some a$$

i wouldnt say it better myself...he didnt tell me cus he thought I knew and because it was before "us", my mother in law didnt tell me because she didnt want to worry me with something that was insignificant (according to her), the chick is not a threat to me. She is a 20year old that doesnt work ,doesnt drive, doesnt do anything because her parents have lots of money. However, she is a female and very pretty and I still cant believe my SO went to low grrrrrrrrrrr.....I trust him..but I donttt trust women...I just hope I get my NO2 before she goes there(she is going for a 1month apparently) and knowing myself I would go nuts here knowing she is there....

Edited June 3, 2009 by Maire

[LiLMermaid 2]

Well my take on it....first yeah I'd be seriously annoyed. Your SO should have told you about it and not hear it from someone else. As for the mother in law....well she's in a difficult position as well. Its her best friend's daughter...really what is she supposed to do? Tell her best friend..."I'm sorry but since your daughter slept with my son X number of years ago and he's now getting married she can't come over to my house anymore"

As for the person who "HAD" to tell you....seriously...####### is their problem? Like your SO said...its the past...why bring it up and toss it in your face like that.

Your mother in law probably assumed that it was the past and that you'd never know so it would never hurt you.

well our town in Cuba is so small...that everyone knows everyone...and I guess they told me since this girl is going over there this summer and there were rumors that she is going to see him...

I just pray for this process to be over...cus the drama is putting so much pressure on me..I had to set aside that incident on my first day in Cuba and try to take advantage of my time with him as much as possible....and this is tough...cus in one side is the pain of this and on the other 10days to try to be happy....I had to forget it and pretend like I didnt care cus I had missed him so much...

rumors that she's going to see him? Yeah that needs to be nipped in the bud. You don't need that kind of ####### right now. I still stand by the person that told you is an idiot. What you said is exactly what I was thinking...you go all the way there to see your man and have to deal with that BS? GRRRRRRRRRR that makes me so mad. You need to step back and take a look at the whole picture though. Do you feel she is a threat in anyway? Do you feel your mother in law is deliberately trying to be disrespectful? Do you feel your SO was trying to hide this from you or do you believe he figured it was insignificant and didn't tell you as it would just upset you for no reason. If you feel she isn't a threat, your mother in law was just pretending it never happened and your SO felt it was insignificant.....then I'd just let it go. Unless of course she's hitting on your man then its time to kick some a$$

i wouldnt say it better myself...he didnt tell me cus he thought I knew and because it was before "us", my mother in law didnt tell me because she didnt want to worry me with something that was insignificant (according to her), the chick is not a threat to me. She is a 20year old that doesnt work ,doesnt drive, doesnt do anything because her parents have lots of money. However, she is a female and very pretty and I still cant believe my SO went to low grrrrrrrrrrr.....I trust him..but I donttt trust women...I just hope I get my NO2 before she goes there(she is going for a 1month apparently) and knowing myself I would go nuts here knowing she is there....

Yeah I wouldn't want her there when you aren't either. That would drive me nuts too...this process is hard enough without dealing with the rumor mill.

[Roman&Marina 0]

Well my take on it....first yeah I'd be seriously annoyed. Your SO should have told you about it and not hear it from someone else. As for the mother in law....well she's in a difficult position as well. Its her best friend's daughter...really what is she supposed to do? Tell her best friend..."I'm sorry but since your daughter slept with my son X number of years ago and he's now getting married she can't come over to my house anymore"

As for the person who "HAD" to tell you....seriously...####### is their problem? Like your SO said...its the past...why bring it up and toss it in your face like that.

Your mother in law probably assumed that it was the past and that you'd never know so it would never hurt you.

well our town in Cuba is so small...that everyone knows everyone...and I guess they told me since this girl is going over there this summer and there were rumors that she is going to see him...

I just pray for this process to be over...cus the drama is putting so much pressure on me..I had to set aside that incident on my first day in Cuba and try to take advantage of my time with him as much as possible....and this is tough...cus in one side is the pain of this and on the other 10days to try to be happy....I had to forget it and pretend like I didnt care cus I had missed him so much...

rumors that she's going to see him? Yeah that needs to be nipped in the bud. You don't need that kind of ####### right now. I still stand by the person that told you is an idiot. What you said is exactly what I was thinking...you go all the way there to see your man and have to deal with that BS? GRRRRRRRRRR that makes me so mad. You need to step back and take a look at the whole picture though. Do you feel she is a threat in anyway? Do you feel your mother in law is deliberately trying to be disrespectful? Do you feel your SO was trying to hide this from you or do you believe he figured it was insignificant and didn't tell you as it would just upset you for no reason. If you feel she isn't a threat, your mother in law was just pretending it never happened and your SO felt it was insignificant.....then I'd just let it go. Unless of course she's hitting on your man then its time to kick some a$$

i wouldnt say it better myself...he didnt tell me cus he thought I knew and because it was before "us", my mother in law didnt tell me because she didnt want to worry me with something that was insignificant (according to her), the chick is not a threat to me. She is a 20year old that doesnt work ,doesnt drive, doesnt do anything because her parents have lots of money. However, she is a female and very pretty and I still cant believe my SO went to low grrrrrrrrrrr.....I trust him..but I donttt trust women...I just hope I get my NO2 before she goes there(she is going for a 1month apparently) and knowing myself I would go nuts here knowing she is there....

I call for an emergency meeting of the troops (VJ February battalion) in Havana to discuss this situation aaaand of course MOJITOOOOOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited June 3, 2009 by Roman&Marina

[Maire 1]

I agree...and that town consits of around 150 people imagine!

Well my take on it....first yeah I'd be seriously annoyed. Your SO should have told you about it and not hear it from someone else. As for the mother in law....well she's in a difficult position as well. Its her best friend's daughter...really what is she supposed to do? Tell her best friend..."I'm sorry but since your daughter slept with my son X number of years ago and he's now getting married she can't come over to my house anymore"

As for the person who "HAD" to tell you....seriously...####### is their problem? Like your SO said...its the past...why bring it up and toss it in your face like that.

Your mother in law probably assumed that it was the past and that you'd never know so it would never hurt you.

well our town in Cuba is so small...that everyone knows everyone...and I guess they told me since this girl is going over there this summer and there were rumors that she is going to see him...

I just pray for this process to be over...cus the drama is putting so much pressure on me..I had to set aside that incident on my first day in Cuba and try to take advantage of my time with him as much as possible....and this is tough...cus in one side is the pain of this and on the other 10days to try to be happy....I had to forget it and pretend like I didnt care cus I had missed him so much...

rumors that she's going to see him? Yeah that needs to be nipped in the bud. You don't need that kind of ####### right now. I still stand by the person that told you is an idiot. What you said is exactly what I was thinking...you go all the way there to see your man and have to deal with that BS? GRRRRRRRRRR that makes me so mad. You need to step back and take a look at the whole picture though. Do you feel she is a threat in anyway? Do you feel your mother in law is deliberately trying to be disrespectful? Do you feel your SO was trying to hide this from you or do you believe he figured it was insignificant and didn't tell you as it would just upset you for no reason. If you feel she isn't a threat, your mother in law was just pretending it never happened and your SO felt it was insignificant.....then I'd just let it go. Unless of course she's hitting on your man then its time to kick some a$$

i wouldnt say it better myself...he didnt tell me cus he thought I knew and because it was before "us", my mother in law didnt tell me because she didnt want to worry me with something that was insignificant (according to her), the chick is not a threat to me. She is a 20year old that doesnt work ,doesnt drive, doesnt do anything because her parents have lots of money. However, she is a female and very pretty and I still cant believe my SO went to low grrrrrrrrrrr.....I trust him..but I donttt trust women...I just hope I get my NO2 before she goes there(she is going for a 1month apparently) and knowing myself I would go nuts here knowing she is there....

I call for an emergency meeting in Havana to discuss this situation aaaand of course MOJITOOOOOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO may be this situation is a reason for an expedited visa???? *wishful thinking*

[D_n_M 0]

That's BS about the Ex hanging at the in-laws! It's disrespectful and you are correct in your thinking about it. I agree whole heartedly that she should not be around at all considering the circumstances. IMHO...