His family is forcing him into wedding annulment, before AOS interview.

[forced-divorce 0]

man, all this made me think now - if a couple is together, and they decide to get married so the foreign person can stay and they can stay together - is that considered a fraud? is that GC fraud?

I always thought GC fraud was when people who don't have a relationship get married.

[Old Dominion 26]

Going to the interview as if you guys were happily married is, of course, committing fraud. People do it all the time, I'm sure. But without evidence of joint marital assets and other such items, the interviewer will have lots of questions about your mutual sincerity. These folks are usually good at spotting insincerity and half-truths. Unless a competent attorney can advise you otherwise, you don't have much of a chance of getting the AOS.

[forced-divorce 0]

Thanks. I understand what you are saying.

We were going to start to gather evidence this week. Dumb me. I thought we would have time.

But now all this happened.

See, the man I loved was taken away from me, and now I also have to leave the country I have been living for almost 3 years.

I don't want to be me now.

So, there's no way if it isn't by the interview, or by the the VAWA, to get to stay, correct?

Also, I don't have much money left to restart my life, after waiting for this AOS without working. Oh, man.

I don't deserve all this

Going to the interview as if you guys were happily married is, of course, committing fraud. People do it all the time, I'm sure. But without evidence of joint marital assets and other such items, the interviewer will have lots of questions about your mutual sincerity. These folks are usually good at spotting insincerity and half-truths. Unless a competent attorney can advise you otherwise, you don't have much of a chance of getting the AOS.

[Old Dominion 26]

Thanks. I understand what you are saying.

We were going to start to gather evidence this week. Dumb me. I thought we would have time.

But now all this happened.

See, the man I loved was taken away from me, and now I also have to leave the country I have been living for almost 3 years.

I don't want to be me now.

So, there's no way if it isn't by the interview, or by the the VAWA, to get to stay, correct?

Also, I don't have much money left to restart my life, after waiting for this AOS without working. Oh, man.

I don't deserve all this

Going to the interview as if you guys were happily married is, of course, committing fraud. People do it all the time, I'm sure. But without evidence of joint marital assets and other such items, the interviewer will have lots of questions about your mutual sincerity. These folks are usually good at spotting insincerity and half-truths. Unless a competent attorney can advise you otherwise, you don't have much of a chance of getting the AOS.

It is a sad situation, for sure. It would be best to consult an attorney and if you can't afford that, there are non-profit agencies (such as the Catholic Charities) that may be able to provide advice. I take it that extending your work visa is out of the question.

[forced-divorce 0]

Thanks Old Dominion, you are gentle and kind and non-judgemental, as were the others who answered here.

Thank a lot guys, I appreciate.

When I lost my job, I tried to get another one, but with this economy... I didn't manage to find another employer to transfer my visa.

That's one of the reasons we did it so I could stay.

Thanks. I understand what you are saying.

We were going to start to gather evidence this week. Dumb me. I thought we would have time.

But now all this happened.

See, the man I loved was taken away from me, and now I also have to leave the country I have been living for almost 3 years.

I don't want to be me now.

So, there's no way if it isn't by the interview, or by the the VAWA, to get to stay, correct?

Also, I don't have much money left to restart my life, after waiting for this AOS without working. Oh, man.

I don't deserve all this

Going to the interview as if you guys were happily married is, of course, committing fraud. People do it all the time, I'm sure. But without evidence of joint marital assets and other such items, the interviewer will have lots of questions about your mutual sincerity. These folks are usually good at spotting insincerity and half-truths. Unless a competent attorney can advise you otherwise, you don't have much of a chance of getting the AOS.

It is a sad situation, for sure. It would be best to consult an attorney and if you can't afford that, there are non-profit agencies (such as the Catholic Charities) that may be able to provide advice. I take it that extending your work visa is out of the question.

Edited February 9, 2009 by forced-divorce

[desert_fox 32]

Parents?? what the hell do they have to do with it. He is a grown adult. The parents have no standing to file such an action.;..cant be done unless he is something like 12 years old. Any divorce/annulment action woulkod have to be filed by your husband.

[forced-divorce 0]

I know, desert fox, thank you.

When I say "they" want to file, is because now that he bought into their idea, they are deciding together what to do. Of course he will be the one who files. But after discussing the options with them...

Just so you have an idea, he is the only son. They are probably over protective because of that.

I know we have a big age difference, but it hurts too much that they were able to convince him to leave me. And it hurts that they didn't even wanted to try to accept me. And even more that the man I trusted and loved did it, in a cold way like this.

I never thought I would be posting here.

Parents?? what the hell do they have to do with it. He is a grown adult. The parents have no standing to file such an action.;..cant be done unless he is something like 12 years old. Any divorce/annulment action woulkod have to be filed by your husband.

Edited February 10, 2009 by forced-divorce

[desert_fox 32]

Prob some day in retrospec...it will be the best thing that ever happened to you. You dont need a little boy controlled by his parents. Hurts now....but good ridence.

[pushbrk 13,116]

Going to the interview as if you guys were happily married is, of course, committing fraud. People do it all the time, I'm sure. But without evidence of joint marital assets and other such items, the interviewer will have lots of questions about your mutual sincerity. These folks are usually good at spotting insincerity and half-truths. Unless a competent attorney can advise you otherwise, you don't have much of a chance of getting the AOS.

What you are saying is that if you had any other way to stay in the USA, you wouldn't be married. You weren't ready to marry. He didn't tell his parents and you didn't cohabitate after marriage. Based on your own statements, at the moment you don't have a bona fide marriage relationship. I'm not being judgmental. You asked for advice and I'm giving your my opinion about what the outcome of an AOS interview would be under your circumstances and warning you there's a possibility of a very bad result for you. You're in a very tight spot. Get legal advice to protect your future ability to enter the US, if possible.

Edited February 10, 2009 by pushbrk

[GJen 9]

What should I do? I don't want to leave the US. I married him because I loved him and wanted to be with him, not to get the green card!

Is there any way to still be able to get the green card if he is not willing to go to AOS interview with me?

You say you married him because you love him, yet you seem more worried about staying in the U.S. than you do working on your relationship with your husband and your in-laws. I'm not trying to be mean, but with those two sentences back to back it just seems a little strange.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

You have gotten some sound advise. I think the bottom line is you need a good lawyer.

I hope the annulment ends well for you both.

[MihaelaNYS 10]

Good luck in finding a good lawyer who doesn't cost you 2 arms and 2 legs....

If he filed for annulment you will have a limited time to respond (usually 20 days or so) then you need a divorce lawyer.

Before anything, get in contact with an experienced immigration lawyer to tell you what options you have.

I seriously doubt you will get a GC based on this marriage.

Why an annulment and not an uncontested divorce????

Ask him then try to have a meeting with his parents and have the conversations recorded without their knowledge!

(Get the inormation of why they act like this. Pretend that you don't have any idea, let them spill it out).

If they want to annul the marriage because they don't want you out of the country then is an act of abuse on their part.

The idea is that if you proof that you had marital relations after the wedding day, they won't be able to annul the marriage that easily without hard proof of your "fraud".

Try to get evidence of the fact that your intentions to be in this marriage and maintain it are based on love, nothing else and he / they are the one/ones that are pulling away and destroy the union.

Best of luck and

play smart.

[Old Dominion 26]

Most places in the US have a Legal Aid Society or its equivalent. If your finances qualify you for free legal representation, that's the place to turn. It's good, in your case, to get started right away. Forget anyone advising you to trap the parents or do something otherwise unlawful.

[MihaelaNYS 10]

Forget anyone advising you to trap the parents or do something otherwise unlawful.

- in NY is lawful (I been there, done that - my lawyer's advice)

and in the worst case scenario she can prove what where the reasons that brought her in front of a judge

[forced-divorce 0]

Prob some day in retrospec...it will be the best thing that ever happened to you. You dont need a little boy controlled by his parents. Hurts now....but good ridence.

I like to believe this too. I just wish I could do a fast forward, cause right now I am too hurt and it's almost unbearable.