lucky FEBRUARY 2009 FILERS

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

10th pregnancy??? whoa whidbey.........that's....brave! With the experience you have now you should become a midwife/doula! Seriously.....if only you lived nearer I'm looking for one right now.....it would be fun if t could be you .

Well lost 5 of them in first trimester - always in October/November, so if we get pg it won't be while 1st trimester is in those months. I read a study and they have actually found that more women in the US miscarry Oct-Dec than any other time of the year. They speculated it had to do with lack of sun those months and also high stress levels with holidays & such.

Have never thought of being a doula before. I had one my last pgcy mainly because my ex wasn't around.

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

Page 4 all, had to bump us up.

How is everyone?

[MumtazG38 1]

well don't know about "everyone" else as I haven't heard from the others in ages but.....I'm doing pretty good....we're leaving Paki on the 27th...it's a 24 hour flight w/ two stops. 1 in Bahrain and the other in London and final destination is JFK..NY. Though I'll be traveling to michigan (where my parents are) only a couple of days afterwards leaving haseeb on his own working his butt off while I chill it out at my parents place lol......looooong a$$ trip that I wish I could avoid but seeing as there is no way around it....ah well. We will be traveling by Gulf Air.

Am pretty excited.... Wish us luck.

Edited November 23, 2009 by MumtazG38

[HisGirl 0]

Still waiting for an interview

[vareska 3]

Counting 16 days until Kenan's arrival, working my #### off, decorating our apartment ... loving every minute of it!

I wish that all of you still waiting will be reunited with your loved ones before the end of this year

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

hubby wants to go back home says he'll give me his GC, SSN & ID card

[nurse1967 287]

Whidbey are you serious?????

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

Whidbey are you serious?????

Unfortunately yes.

He just started working and got first paycheck. He wanted to help out with the bills so I set up an excel spreadsheet that showed him what I paid each week where and then had it compute how much each us would contribute based on our take home pay. Even though I had been sending him emails weekly showing him where my money was going it never clicked with him how much it costs to live here. He was discouraged when after taking us all out to eat once he only had $77 dollars left for the week to put into savings. He refuses to accept that I have cut everything I possibly can out of the budget, he says we live in poverty and he doesn't want to live like this. I see nothing wrong with the way I live, yes I'd like to own a house, but we can't afford it and my parents have told me the house we live in is ours when they pass away so why would I want to try and buy another. Since he's started working our income has nearly doubled I'm in heaven!!! I've NEVER had money left over after pay day - NEVER, I'm actually going to be able to get the kids gifts myself this year for Christmas. I've asked him to give it a year. I don't know if he will or not. I've told him it's not just me he'll be hurting by leaving, my daughter has bonded so much with him, already calls him Daddy and my son finally has a mature, responsible man he looks up to. I can't force him to stay, so whatever God has in store I'll deal with.

I know this is all transition stuff, I warned him before he came but he was certain all would be fine, "Nigerians can make it anywhere." is what I've been told over and over. I know it's lack of sunshine, extremely small town compared to what he's used too, lack of compatriots, moving from a singleman household to a family of 6 with 3 teenage boys, not much job opportunity on an island forced him to take a job in construction which isn't where he wants to be, I'm a different person with life going on around me compared to when I visited him and was on vacation. I'm ready to face these things head on, I was ready before he came here, it's up to him if he's willing to stand with me.

[nurse1967 287]

WOW. Girl I am very very sorry. I really didn't expect that and I am sure you didn't either. God will take care of this for you Linda in the way he sees fit.

[sachinky 465]

Oh dear. I hope things work out for you. He definitely owes it to you, your kids and your marriage at least a year before making a stay-or-split decision. Good luck, dear!

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

I think he'd rather us move as a family but he would never ask me to move my children. If it were just me, I would consider, but not with my kids still in school.

Edited November 24, 2009 by WhidbeyGirl

[estrella 14]

Hey guys, just checking in to see how you are all doing, life for me has been great, I miss my family but is not that bad anymore, we won a trip to NY for december and then we are going to Mexico to spend the holidays there, I can't wait. I've been dealing with lots of paperwork and waiting lately, who knew that transferring credits from a foreign college would be like getting a Visa, crazy paperwork, but we felt like experts on the waiting game, collecting what was needed and sending it, finally is all done and it seems like my grades are good here as well, I was worried they wouldn't count all of the classes and grades, but it seems like most of them were included.

WhidbeyGirl, I'm really sorry that you have to go thru that, but just give it time, and ask your husband to give it sometime as well, I felt frustrated at the beginning too, having to make paperwork, and wait, wait for things that I wouldn't have to wait for in Mexico, I was supposed to finish college on december, but I obviously won't and since I need more credits here to graduate I probably won't graduate as soon as I wanted. Is frustrating for us because we are used to different things but with time I understood, and being here with my husband is worth it, so give him some time and he'll come around. I wish you the best, you deserve it.

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

All fixed and all better now.

[vareska 3]

All fixed and all better now.

Happy for you!

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

Congrats to HisGirl & Sam&Rasta on the upcoming January interviews!!! I believe there are just four left from our group waiting on interviews!!!

Edited December 4, 2009 by WhidbeyGirl