Is it possible to keep the K-1 process a secret from my parents while I'm living with them?

[GJen 9]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Edited January 31, 2009 by GJen

[Kirsten UK 2]

Well, they will find out sooner or later...why not be upfront about it? They may be more hurt that you kept it a secret than they will be once they find out you're leaving

[GJen 9]

Well, they will find out sooner or later...why not be upfront about it? They may be more hurt that you kept it a secret than they will be once they find out you're leaving

Well!! My dad is expecting me to get come back married when I go visit my boyfriend for a week in April as it is. (Though I've assured him that is not going to happen.) They have no respect for our relationship and claim I'm living in a "fantasy wolrd" and accuse me of "rushing into things" though we've been exclusive for over 3 and a half years. Which is why I would like to go ahead with the process and have him come over here and make the announcement to them (both my fiance and I) in person and lay out our very real, very "non-fantasy" plans for the future.

Believe me, I want so bad to tell them. But I don't feel like hearing how I'm just living in a fantasy world and nothing is ever going to come of something I've built my future on.

~Jen,USC

[johndecka 0]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Take the mail key from ur parents.

Make sure u the only one who checks the mailpox all the time.

Hope this gave u some idea.

[GJen 9]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Take the mail key from ur parents.

Make sure u the only one who checks the mailpox all the time.

Hope this gave u some idea.

Well there isn't a key, just the mailbox. I was wondering if it was possible for me to use a P.O. box and if so, how would I make sure nothing was sent to this address?

~Jen, USC

[pushbrk 13,174]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Get a mailing address at "The UPS Store". Mail will come to the mailing address you give them.

[GJen 9]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Get a mailing address at "The UPS Store". Mail will come to the mailing address you give them.

How exactly does that work? By "them" do you mean USCIS or UPS?

Thanks so much for your !

[Yader&Sarah 0]

I'm not sure that I have direct answer for you original quesion and I apologize in advance for the indirect response

...but I can tell you, being a 'crazy person' myself, I had planned to not officially tell anyone that we were engaged until he got here (aside from my parents and some close friends---i REALLY needed/need their support), and it just didn't happen.

Why? Because, although I know I was the favorite topic of family gatherings and high school friend reunions for a loong time, now, that we are within a couple weeks of him finally! getting here (interview Feb 13), after nearly 2 years, people are finally used to the idea and somewhat ready for it. Whereas, if I had just been like 'surprise here he is, and we are getting married in 3 months!' I think that would have been much harder. Just because in that case, I would have been bringing him into a situation that he would not feel welcome, along with the culture shock, missing his family, and language barriers he is already gauranteed to experience.

I'm not saying that everything will be perfect, but as it is, my skeptical family and friends have had over a year to 'get used to the idea' and have witnessed our dedication as they watch us struggle through this K-1 process (I've been giving milestone updates). This has given them the chance accept our relationship as valid on their own terms. Obviously, it is not about them, but they are a part of my life and I would love for them to be a part of my fiance's life as well.

As I said, this does not answer your question. I just thought I would share my own experience of 'deciding to tell or not, ' well, this process makes you feel alone and alienated as it is, and in end when it came to included those who were skeptical (although it was hard), I'm glad I did.

Edited January 31, 2009 by Yader&Sarah

[pushbrk 13,174]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Get a mailing address at "The UPS Store". Mail will come to the mailing address you give them.

How exactly does that work? By "them" do you mean USCIS or UPS?

Thanks so much for your !

USCIS sends mail to the address you give USCIS. Contact your local UPS store to set up a private mailbox. These used to be called "Mailboxes Etc." There are other similar private mailbox services available as well.

[GJen 9]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Get a mailing address at "The UPS Store". Mail will come to the mailing address you give them.

How exactly does that work? By "them" do you mean USCIS or UPS?

Thanks so much for your !

USCIS sends mail to the address you give USCIS. Contact your local UPS store to set up a private mailbox. These used to be called "Mailboxes Etc." There are other similar private mailbox services available as well.

Does USCIS send mail to my residential address written on the I-129F?

Would it be possible for me to have only mail with my name sent to "Mailboxes Etc." or would that mean all mail sent to my current address(even if it were addressed to my parents) be sent to that private mailbox?

Thanks

[pushbrk 13,174]

What can I(Jen, USC) do to make sure nothing would be sent to my current address so as not to risk them finding out before I tell them?

Get a mailing address at "The UPS Store". Mail will come to the mailing address you give them.

How exactly does that work? By "them" do you mean USCIS or UPS?

Thanks so much for your !

USCIS sends mail to the address you give USCIS. Contact your local UPS store to set up a private mailbox. These used to be called "Mailboxes Etc." There are other similar private mailbox services available as well.

Does USCIS send mail to my residential address written on the I-129F?

Would it be possible for me to have only mail with my name sent to "Mailboxes Etc." or would that mean all mail sent to my current address(even if it were addressed to my parents) be sent to that private mailbox?

Thanks

It's not a "change of address". Mail goes to the address on the envelope. USCIS will mail to the address you give them. It's up to you who has the new private mailbox address and who doesn't but it's "your" private address. Mail addressed to your house will go to your house.

[GJen 9]

It's not a "change of address". Mail goes to the address on the envelope. USCIS will mail to the address you give them. It's up to you who has the new private mailbox address and who doesn't but it's "your" private address. Mail addressed to your house will go to your house.

Great! I called my local UPS store and it seems like that may work out. Just.. a couple more questions!! Because there are several different places that the address is needed for different forms.

I-129F: Part A, #2 Address (Number and street)

I-129F: Part B, #14 Address in the United States where your fiance plans to live

G-325A: Applicants residence for last 5 years

Should I list my UPS Mailbox address on Part A, #2 of the I-129F in order to have all coorespondence from USCIS be sent to my UPS mailbox?

Should I list my current residence (though my boyfriend and I will move into an apartment after getting married) for Part B, #14 of the I-129F form?

Thanks for all your help!! We really do appreciate it!

[pushbrk 13,174]

It's not a "change of address". Mail goes to the address on the envelope. USCIS will mail to the address you give them. It's up to you who has the new private mailbox address and who doesn't but it's "your" private address. Mail addressed to your house will go to your house.

Great! I called my local UPS store and it seems like that may work out. Just.. a couple more questions!! Because there are several different places that the address is needed for different forms.

I-129F: Part A, #2 Address (Number and street)

I-129F: Part B, #14 Address in the United States where your fiance plans to live

G-325A: Applicants residence for last 5 years

Should I list my UPS Mailbox address on Part A, #2 of the I-129F in order to have all coorespondence from USCIS be sent to my UPS mailbox?

Should I list my current residence (though my boyfriend and I will move into an apartment after getting married) for Part B, #14 of the I-129F form?

Thanks for all your help!! We really do appreciate it!

B #14 can be "to be determined, City"

G-325a, I would use it as your current address. It's just biographical, not an interrogation.

[GJen 9]

It's not a "change of address". Mail goes to the address on the envelope. USCIS will mail to the address you give them. It's up to you who has the new private mailbox address and who doesn't but it's "your" private address. Mail addressed to your house will go to your house.

Great! I called my local UPS store and it seems like that may work out. Just.. a couple more questions!! Because there are several different places that the address is needed for different forms.

I-129F: Part A, #2 Address (Number and street)

I-129F: Part B, #14 Address in the United States where your fiance plans to live

G-325A: Applicants residence for last 5 years

Should I list my UPS Mailbox address on Part A, #2 of the I-129F in order to have all coorespondence from USCIS be sent to my UPS mailbox?

Should I list my current residence (though my boyfriend and I will move into an apartment after getting married) for Part B, #14 of the I-129F form?

Thanks for all your help!! We really do appreciate it!

B #14 can be "to be determined, City"

G-325a, I would use it as your current address. It's just biographical, not an interrogation.

Okay, so then Part A #2 would be my UPS Mailbox? And then all corespondence from USCIS would be sent there?

[pushbrk 13,174]

It's not a "change of address". Mail goes to the address on the envelope. USCIS will mail to the address you give them. It's up to you who has the new private mailbox address and who doesn't but it's "your" private address. Mail addressed to your house will go to your house.

Great! I called my local UPS store and it seems like that may work out. Just.. a couple more questions!! Because there are several different places that the address is needed for different forms.

I-129F: Part A, #2 Address (Number and street)

I-129F: Part B, #14 Address in the United States where your fiance plans to live

G-325A: Applicants residence for last 5 years

Should I list my UPS Mailbox address on Part A, #2 of the I-129F in order to have all coorespondence from USCIS be sent to my UPS mailbox?

Should I list my current residence (though my boyfriend and I will move into an apartment after getting married) for Part B, #14 of the I-129F form?

Thanks for all your help!! We really do appreciate it!

B #14 can be "to be determined, City"

G-325a, I would use it as your current address. It's just biographical, not an interrogation.

Okay, so then Part A #2 would be my UPS Mailbox? And then all corespondence from USCIS would be sent there?

Yes