Stopped cooking for my husband!

[teenutty 0]

When my husband got a job, I suggest we open a joint household account in which both of us contribute X amount of dollars to pay the rent, electric, telephone, internet and food. My husband said no. He prefered both of us to buy food and put all receipts in a jar. After a month, we would tally the amount both us spent and one would pay the other according to who spent more (to make it 50/50).

I did not like this idea. It was more like college room-mates than how a husband and wife should be. I told him so. However, I went along with his method.

Low and behold, a few weeks ago, we tallied up the receipts (for 6 weeks or so of food). I spent $350.00 and he spent $190.00. So he owed me money for the difference. He then said, "I can not participate in this because I have a bad ecomony." This is because he just bought a truck and PREFERED to pay TO LARGE LUMP SUMS OF CASH rather than a longer, less burdensome 6-8 month payment plan.

This really irked me. The reason my food bill is higher is because when I shop for food, I buy basic ingrediants to cook home-cooked meals, usually 4 or 5 servings worth (FOR HIS BENEFIT). Cheaper cuts of meat, like pot roast, value pack chicken thighs, herbs, stock veggies, etc. (make tarragon mushroom chicken soup, beef stew, pot pies) I am also the one who does 90% of the heavy cleaning. So I know when we need dish soap, cloth detergent, A-jax, sponges, etc. Whenever he goes shopping he buys (milk, cereal, dates, eggs, cup of noodles -THAT'S IT!).

Well, I decided if he can't "participate" because of "his economy," neither could I. So I stopped all shopping and cooking. I refuse to even eat with him. And I will eat the food he brings home. So I have been living on cereal and cup of noodles off and on. But mostly eating at work.

He finally asked me, "aren't you going to cook anymore or eat anymore?"

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[MrsAmera 41]

[Nothing1234 2]

good girl!

[morocco4ever 63]

Have a talk with him about the "hungry man dinners".

[bhajishah 4]

Me too , I only cook what the man brings home. make a list and go shopping together he buys. there you go. hope husband training goes well. at least will shed a few extra pounds eh

[merijan 0]

why dont u have a join account u each keep out the same amount for ur own spending money and the rest u put together for bills and all expenses. and saveing.??????

[MrsAmera 41]

He shot down that idea she had said....

[Nothing1234 2]

I think your plan is great. Stick by it...

I can't imagine living in those conditions...I'm sorry you're going thru that.

[Sandrila 1]

ok Peanut...i am sure it is not easy to do something like that

#1 for upsetting hubster and #2 you gotta eat too!

BUT what a fine response to his contribution or lack thereof

i think his plan was wacked from the get go, didnt sound fair to me

and you sound like an awesome cook

i agree that cooking good, healthy and ethnic foods do come at a price

i am sure he will get tired of it but in the meantime sit back and enjoy the extra time and money you got on your hands

PROPS GIRL!

[NOandJO 0]

WOW that's crazy....

[Y's_habibitk 2]

his economy! this made me chuckle, in a bad way...sorry nutty

the plan?

and next time he asks if you are going to cook, tell him due to your economy..you will be eating economy class foods! heh

[morocco4ever 63]

his economy! this made me chuckle, in a bad way...sorry nutty

the plan?

and next time he asks if you are going to cook, tell him due to your economy..you will be eating economy class foods! heh

[sereia 0]

*sigh* a very sad situation indeed.

[amal 4]

his economy! this made me chuckle, in a bad way...sorry nutty

the plan?

and next time he asks if you are going to cook, tell him due to your economy..you will be eating economy class foods! heh

totally appropriate answer girl! I think what you're doing is just what you should. IF it is working, that is. My husband would turn around and say "oh you are punishing me because you had to pay more and I had to pay my bills...this is not how a wife should act"... or something similar to that soooooooooooo this strategy wouldn't work for me.

As a matter of fact, mine has his own work account and that's where he keeps his money. in that account and in his wallet. My money gets put into the joint account. NOW...before any haters come and tell me how horrible of me to accept that....he did put money into the account so we could buy the house...... now you can proceed to talk un-nicely... I totally understand coz its stuff i may have on the brain but am not able to speak outwardly..if u catch my drift