why are K1 being approved

[rebeccajo 14]

Ok, I get this cultural difference thing and it's a valid point. Seriously.

So, if that is the real reason a couple decides to do K3, then it's a decision they are making because the cultural value is more important than the immigration 'benefit'.

I know I have made decisions based on that kind of reasoning - when something had more of a value to me than the other option. Whenever I have made those kind of choices, I have also decided that I was going to live with my decision.......

Do you see what I am saying?

[daboyz 36]

Lisa -

Ok.

Perhaps you don't interpret what you wrote as others do.

There's no need for us to argue about it.

I've been reading VJ a pretty long while. The topic of this thread has been raised a lot - why do K1's take precedence over already married, committed couples. And your comment - no matter how you meant it or how we are reading it - has been stated often. The ensuing discussion usually doesn't turn out well.

But.........because the topic has been discussed so much, there's something I've gotten really curious about. And I'm going to put it out there. I hope we can have a good discussion about it.

If SPEED of reunification is/was so important, why didn't you (not you personally, Lisa, but collectively 'you' - K3 applicants) decide to do a K3 rather than a K1? It's been known for a long time that the spousal visas take longer. Why did you elect to marry rather than file a fiance' visa?

I brought this up before as well. I'll say it again. I married my wife because I loved her. We were living overseas, and had no plans at the time to move to the US. I didn't base the most important decision of my life based on some immigration benefit.

People should not be punished for being married. Bottom line, they are punished by this system for already being married.

[rebeccajo 14]

I brought this up before as well. I'll say it again. I married my wife because I loved her. We were living overseas, and had no plans at the time to move to the US. I didn't base the most important decision of my life based on some immigration benefit.

People should not be punished for being married. Bottom line, they are punished by this system for already being married.

Well, frankly the whole system is some weird form of punishment. VJ exists because all of us here are trying to manage our way through the multiple land-mines that exist with the process.

And I think what you say about marrying your wife for love and not a benefit is good and for a couple of reasons. As in your case, you say you had no plans to move here. Lots of people just marry and then decide to come to the US and for them - the system is the system and you just have to deal with it. Also, I've read posts before where parties chose to marry because they thought a married couple stood a better chance for approval than an engaged couple. I really don't think that's a good reason to get married either.

We were K1 and now that we are this far down the path, I've all sorts of mixed emotions about whether or not we did it the right way. Yes we were reunited faster but we've had a lot of ####### to deal with stateside that we might have avoided if we had opted for CR1. And yeah I know 'being together' is the most important thing, but it's hard to explain how being a blended international couple in America can complicate the marriage until you've traveled further down the road. But I don't want to lecture ...... so I'll just leave it at that.

[daboyz 36]

I brought this up before as well. I'll say it again. I married my wife because I loved her. We were living overseas, and had no plans at the time to move to the US. I didn't base the most important decision of my life based on some immigration benefit.

People should not be punished for being married. Bottom line, they are punished by this system for already being married.

Well, frankly the whole system is some weird form of punishment. VJ exists because all of us here are trying to manage our way through the multiple land-mines that exist with the process.

And I think what you say about marrying your wife for love and not a benefit is good and for a couple of reasons. As in your case, you say you had no plans to move here. Lots of people just marry and then decide to come to the US and for them - the system is the system and you just have to deal with it. Also, I've read posts before where parties chose to marry because they thought a married couple stood a better chance for approval than an engaged couple. I really don't think that's a good reason to get married either.

We were K1 and now that we are this far down the path, I've all sorts of mixed emotions about whether or not we did it the right way. Yes we were reunited faster but we've had a lot of ####### to deal with stateside that we might have avoided if we had opted for CR1. And yeah I know 'being together' is the most important thing, but it's hard to explain how being a blended international couple in America can complicate the marriage until you've traveled further down the road. But I don't want to lecture ...... so I'll just leave it at that.

I guess I was naive. Alot of people seriously think you can get married, and go buy a plane ticket. I wasn't that bad, but I did think it was going to be a much quicker and easier process than it turned out to be. I coulda went DCF, but of course I didn't know that at the time.

Once again, not to be repetitive, but they should try to make this process take about the same amount of time, whether it be k-3 vs. k-1, or VSC vs. CSC. I think the disparity in the service center processing times is what really gets people wound up.

As it states in my signature, I went IR-1. I do not want to deal with all this again for quite awhile. I have seen my wife once in the last 22 months since she is on the other side of the world. I could've been with my wife a couple months ago by going K-3, but when she goes through POE, I want to be done with USCIS for a long time.

A word to the new people coming to VJ that plan on getting married either here, or in a foreign country. READ UP!!! I wish I had.

As for the $1800 I wasted with the lawyer, and the 3 months of delays they caused me..... That's another topic for another time.

[rebeccajo 14]

As it states in my signature, I went IR-1. I do not want to deal with all this again for quite awhile. I have seen my wife once in the last 22 months since she is on the other side of the world. I could've been with my wife a couple months ago by going K-3, but when she goes through POE, I want to be done with USCIS for a long time.

That's good thinking, IMO.

I couldn't tell you the heartache we went through with AOS. Now we are lifting conditions, and that's already got its complications. If the namecheck nightmare raises it head again, I might have to be committed. When you have your background check done by the State Department at the consulate, it always seems to go more smoothly than it gets done by USCIS.

You've made a wise choice.