Anyone do a prenuptial?

[joej 0]

Well, with internet relationships and long distance relationships being difficult to always accurately assess, I thought I had to ask. I know I know, where is the trust? Anyway, we did not have one and I was thinking it may have been a good idea all around. For those who are still waiting for their SO and are not yet married, have you thought about getting one? I know I never did. Now I wish I would have at least thought about it, or mentioned it to my husband.

Edited June 12, 2006 by joej

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Didn't do it, wouldn't do it and never felt sorry that I hadn't considered it. But that's just me.

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Didn't do it, wouldn't do it and never felt sorry that I hadn't considered it. But that's just me.

Ditto.

[sweetee 0]

No, we didn't have a prenup done either. Besides our law(LA) states that anything acquired b4 marriage is not considered community property. LA is a community property state and only what we have acquired together as husband and wife can be shared in the unlikely event of divorce. Now to be honest with you, Im pretty "scared" about that part b/c we have invested so much together as of right now, and not to mention we still are. We are starting the process of looking for our own home to buy or possibly even building and that my dear, is a scary thing to me. Especially, because we both have heirs(he has a daughter) and I don't want that to become a problem somewhere down the line. Also the cultural differences kinda get me to thinking b/c according to their culture, if Iyke passes away, you know the family is expecting me to give them some type of share b/c that is their brother. We have talked about it and he said they don't really practice that much there but if I wanted to, I could do it as a nice gesture anyway. I think otherwise cos I know my in-laws. The only person that will get anything if that did happen would be his daughter, no one else. However they know me also, and Im sure they can just about guess that I will not even play like that w/them.LOL

Sweetee

[ForeverAmen 0]

Yes! I own and operate a succesful business that I've worked hard to get started. In addition, I own real estate and stock. For me, the prenupital would have been something I would mandate regardless of whether he was a USC or not.

[raymaga 25]

We didn't do one because we had both been married before, and we had both been very fair to our ex's after our divorces, so we felt that we would both be the same this time and if anything were to go wrong in our marriage, everything would be divided equally.

[AfricanQueen 0]

If you have to take extra precautions prior to getting in a relationship, perhaps you need to wonder if you need to be in that relationship in the first place.

It's all about trust and knowing the person who you are dealing with, having a pre-nup gives the appearance that there is a lack of trust or lack of lifetime commitment to one another. Of course in life there are no guarantees, and some things don't have happy endings, and often time’s people can mis-represent themselves, especially if you initially met through a virtual means.

However, I believe having a pre-nup is like going into a marriage planning the divorce. The reason why so many marriages fail today, is because people go into them thinking "well if it doesn't work, we can just get divorce'. Marriage is hard enough without such low expectations.

We all came into this world naked and that's how you will return. You cannot take your assets with you, regardless who you are or what you may become. There is really no such thing as protection in life. If materials are your first concern, it really says a lot about you.

Perhaps the rich should marry the rich, and the poor the poor.

I am successful and had many assets prior to marriage, but I don’t believe you should begin a marriage or anything based on the grounds of failure. When doing anything do it with confidence, if you don’t believe it in, then what is the point of doing it.

AQ

[ForeverAmen 0]

To each its own ................

[joej 0]

The replies are great. It is nice to see so much honesty. Although I agree that a relationship should have a strong foundation of trust, I would hate to be broken hearted and peniless at the same time. Which makes me wonder how many of our SO's would change their tune at the mere mention of a prenup. Also, I'm sure there is a difference in opinion based on how much one has to loose/gain financially.

Hmmm verry interesting Sweetee about the inheritance stuff. That had not even crossed my mind. It is definately something to think about, especially for those of us with children.

[anca 0]

we had a prenuptial agrement before we got married, it was verbal:

if one of us gets very fat, the other one can ask for a divorce, and the first one has to agree with the divorce, no matter what.

no seriosly, this is real

[ForeverAmen 0]

LOL That's funny!

[babybunny 2]

Didn't do it, wouldn't do it and never felt sorry that I hadn't considered it. But that's just me.

Ditto.

DID NOT DO IT, WOULD NEVER CONSIDER IT. -TURNING THE PAGE NOW..

[rodney22 0]

No prenup, asked her if I needed one, and she was willing to do one. So I never brought it up again. Her willingness took the air out of me.

[jms 0]

I think it is always a good idea especially for people like me who are older and more established, and especially due to the divorce rules in my state. It just makes good sense. However, I imagine that explaining it to my Nigerian man may be difficult as everything is so different and new from what goes on in their country and here! I plan to do so though!!

[wvnurse 1]

we had a prenuptial agrement before we got married, it was verbal:

if one of us gets very fat, the other one can ask for a divorce, and the first one has to agree with the divorce, no matter what.

no seriosly, this is real

WOW..LOL... My husband is from Kenya, and he loves big women... I think he would ask me for a divorce if I got skinny!!! He says.."skinny legs turn me off..."But to each their own for that as well.

Chris