On the flip side

[crazyinEgypt 0]

From being here a while and reading stories, we tend to hear about all the bad apples so to speak with MENA men. Now while I do agree there are many men that do use women for greencards, we don't hear many stories about all the "bad apple" women that treat their MENA spouses like #######. I've known a few here and just want to make a voice about it.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Ya, my husband has told me about all of the "warnings" the guys there give to eachother.

It TOTALLY happens. Being an a-hole isnt inclusive only to men

I just wanted to add, the main one I would be fearful of if I was the immigrant is the "i got you here,took care of you when you couldnt work" card being constantly played.

my two cents

Edited January 21, 2009 by Y_habibitk

[Aymsgirl 0]

This would be an interesting thread but there's not too many of those guys that probably hang around. I've heard of men coming here and finding out there SO has another man on the side. Then I've heard of territorial stands that women and men have taken.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

This would be an interesting thread but there's not too many of those guys that probably hang around. I've heard of men coming here and finding out there SO has another man on the side. Then I've heard of territorial stands that women and men have taken.

what do you mean by this? my comprehension skills are not working today

[Aymsgirl 0]

This would be an interesting thread but there's not too many of those guys that probably hang around. I've heard of men coming here and finding out there SO has another man on the side. Then I've heard of territorial stands that women and men have taken.

what do you mean by this? my comprehension skills are not working today

Sorry, you know like this is my house, my car, mine, mine mine....very territorial with their belongings. Which in fact it is the truth most of the time but I can see where it can make a person feel like they have nothing. Heck my hubster and I had an argument once when I slipped and said give me my son.....he got so ticked off and said I have nothing here but our son. I said oops, I didn't mean a thing by it!

Edited January 21, 2009 by Aymsgirl

[SAT 9,609]

From being here a while and reading stories, we tend to hear about all the bad apples so to speak with MENA men. Now while I do agree there are many men that do use women for greencards, we don't hear many stories about all the "bad apple" women that treat their MENA spouses like #######. I've known a few here and just want to make a voice about it.

Is MENA and NAMBLA the same thing?

[JeanneVictoria 55]

MENA- Middle East/North Africa

[crazyinEgypt 0]

Let me tell you about the situation I know. Of course my husband knows a few egyptians in our area. One in particular I wish I had a hide out for! His wife won't let him go anywhere by himself. I'm shocked he can even go to the bathroom alone! This is also the same woman that will go out for 5-8 hours at any hour of the day or night and when she's asked where she was her reply is "none of your business!" She claims never to have money, however she does have a well paying job. She steals money from her husband and won't even get him the daily necessities a person needs. My husband as well as others have gave this poor man money so he can just get what he needs. He wants out and wants out bad, but he doesn't want people to yell "greencard" like his wife already claims he's doing. I could go on and on about the stories! What's the poor guy to do? I've debated on having him stay with us, but I don't want the whack job knowing where he's at. Suggestion?

[Jenn! 918]

All I know is that there are two sides to every story, and then the truth.

[Nagishkaw 510]

That would make it 3 sides then.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

This would be an interesting thread but there's not too many of those guys that probably hang around. I've heard of men coming here and finding out there SO has another man on the side. Then I've heard of territorial stands that women and men have taken.

what do you mean by this? my comprehension skills are not working today

Sorry, you know like this is my house, my car, mine, mine mine....very territorial with their belongings. Which in fact it is the truth most of the time but I can see where it can make a person feel like they have nothing. Heck my hubster and I had an argument once when I slipped and said give me my son.....he got so ticked off and said I have nothing here but our son. I said oops, I didn't mean a thing by it!

aha, yep.

I guess that could be hard for any newly married couple where one is moving into the others house.

[Sandrila 1]

I think it is very rare to see a woman behave that way.

It is a shame for any person to be treated so.

I wanted to add as far as being territorial....i am more than giving but i do need a little space and respect for "my" things. As awful as that sounds. It has been an adjustment.

[Ihavequestions 419]

Let me tell you about the situation I know. Of course my husband knows a few egyptians in our area. One in particular I wish I had a hide out for! His wife won't let him go anywhere by himself. I'm shocked he can even go to the bathroom alone! This is also the same woman that will go out for 5-8 hours at any hour of the day or night and when she's asked where she was her reply is "none of your business!" She claims never to have money, however she does have a well paying job. She steals money from her husband and won't even get him the daily necessities a person needs. My husband as well as others have gave this poor man money so he can just get what he needs. He wants out and wants out bad, but he doesn't want people to yell "greencard" like his wife already claims he's doing. I could go on and on about the stories! What's the poor guy to do? I've debated on having him stay with us, but I don't want the whack job knowing where he's at. Suggestion?

Oh my God! This is hysterical! Listen, I know of many, many, many women who live under these very same circumstances. It's their EGYPTIAN husbands who do this to them. In fact, it's pretty much standard procedure here, in Egypt.

They either aren't allowed to leave the house or, if they are allowed, they have to be accompanied by someone who their husband approves of.

Their husbands come and go as they please and there is NEVER any asking where he's been.

If she's ALLOWED to work, she will 1.) hand her money over to him, 2.) he will take her pay, or 3.) she HAS to help support the household.

My own EGYPTIAN husband tried to keep me in the house, telling me I wasn't allowed to leave the flat and, under no circumstances was I allowed to talk to "anybody" (I still remember his face when he said the word "anybody"). That edict stood until I realized he wasn't joking and he meant it. I took my freedom back instead of joining the "locked up" club.

No, I bet there's much more to this story. You asked for advice and here's mine: Let them lie in their own mess.

[SAT 9,609]

Let me tell you about the situation I know. Of course my husband knows a few egyptians in our area. One in particular I wish I had a hide out for! His wife won't let him go anywhere by himself. I'm shocked he can even go to the bathroom alone! This is also the same woman that will go out for 5-8 hours at any hour of the day or night and when she's asked where she was her reply is "none of your business!" She claims never to have money, however she does have a well paying job. She steals money from her husband and won't even get him the daily necessities a person needs. My husband as well as others have gave this poor man money so he can just get what he needs. He wants out and wants out bad, but he doesn't want people to yell "greencard" like his wife already claims he's doing. I could go on and on about the stories! What's the poor guy to do? I've debated on having him stay with us, but I don't want the whack job knowing where he's at. Suggestion?

Oh my God! This is hysterical! Listen, I know of many, many, many women who live under these very same circumstances. It's their EGYPTIAN husbands who do this to them. In fact, it's pretty much standard procedure here, in Egypt.

They either aren't allowed to leave the house or, if they are allowed, they have to be accompanied by someone who their husband approves of.

Their husbands come and go as they please and there is NEVER any asking where he's been.

If she's ALLOWED to work, she will 1.) hand her money over to him, 2.) he will take her pay, or 3.) she HAS to help support the household.

My own EGYPTIAN husband tried to keep me in the house, telling me I wasn't allowed to leave the flat and, under no circumstances was I allowed to talk to "anybody" (I still remember his face when he said the word "anybody"). That edict stood until I realized he wasn't joking and he meant it. I took my freedom back instead of joining the "locked up" club.

No, I bet there's much more to this story. You asked for advice and here's mine: Let them lie in their own mess.

This is how I prevent my wife from leaving the house........

I tie her up with velvety ropes and put one of the gag-balls in her mouth......

But she can leave after sex

[doodlebugg 10]

From being here a while and reading stories, we tend to hear about all the bad apples so to speak with MENA men. Now while I do agree there are many men that do use women for greencards, we don't hear many stories about all the "bad apple" women that treat their MENA spouses like #######. I've known a few here and just want to make a voice about it.

Is MENA and NAMBLA the same thing?