I've filed for a K-3 visa for my Husband but...

[KeyserandMe 0]

It's probably not the correct forum to write about this but o well.

Now I know that it probably sounds like something crazy but I just don't feel like waiting until who knows when to be with my husband. I never thought this would turn out to be SOOO hard.

Now I know that in order to get him over here I need to show proof that I'm working here but I just don't feel like going through this whole process.

They will most probably drop / deny our case when they get to it, huh? Unless through some miracle with a good affidavit they approve it.

Your feedback, encouragements and comments will be greatly appreciated.

[Lindsay G 0]

It's probably not the correct forum to write about this but o well.

Now I know that it probably sounds like something crazy but I just don't feel like waiting until who knows when to be with my husband. I never thought this would turn out to be SOOO hard.

Now I know that in order to get him over here I need to show proof that I'm working here but I just don't feel like going through this whole process.

They will most probably drop / deny our case when they get to it, huh? Unless through some miracle with a good affidavit they approve it.

Your feedback, encouragements and comments will be greatly appreciated.

It's horrible to be away... it's been almost 8 months for my husband and I, and we've only seen each other 1 week this time when I was finally able to take a few days off of my new job.... I hit rock bottom about 2 months being away.... it gets easier. I think it just becomes more routine to feel like your life is on hold and feel crummy most of the time apart. Now.. his interview is in 1 week (!!!!!!!!!!!), and we hope so much that he will be here in2 weeks.... we'll move into a new apartment I just found... finally get on with our lives together!!!

Only you can decide what is best for your family. Will staying in US, working, possibly saving money... will this be better for you both in the long-run? Would it be just as easy to live in the Dominican for a while and do DCF when able?

Spend some time on visajourney thoughout the process... it's helpful to be connected (even if you don't write anything!) to others going through it and who understand what this feels like. It will be over someday, and I actually believe that it may help the relationship in the long-run.

[KeyserandMe 0]

It's probably not the correct forum to write about this but o well.

Now I know that it probably sounds like something crazy but I just don't feel like waiting until who knows when to be with my husband. I never thought this would turn out to be SOOO hard.

Now I know that in order to get him over here I need to show proof that I'm working here but I just don't feel like going through this whole process.

They will most probably drop / deny our case when they get to it, huh? Unless through some miracle with a good affidavit they approve it.

Your feedback, encouragements and comments will be greatly appreciated.

It's horrible to be away... it's been almost 8 months for my husband and I, and we've only seen each other 1 week this time when I was finally able to take a few days off of my new job.... I hit rock bottom about 2 months being away.... it gets easier. I think it just becomes more routine to feel like your life is on hold and feel crummy most of the time apart. Now.. his interview is in 1 week (!!!!!!!!!!!), and we hope so much that he will be here in2 weeks.... we'll move into a new apartment I just found... finally get on with our lives together!!!

Only you can decide what is best for your family. Will staying in US, working, possibly saving money... will this be better for you both in the long-run? Would it be just as easy to live in the Dominican for a while and do DCF when able?

Spend some time on visajourney thoughout the process... it's helpful to be connected (even if you don't write anything!) to others going through it and who understand what this feels like. It will be over someday, and I actually believe that it may help the relationship in the long-run.

I know, many people have told me that ithis can be looked at as sort of a test to our love. To see how strong it is and how much it can take. And in a way it's true but to be totoally honest I care to find out. I just got married and I would really like to build a good foundation for us to have a family on. And to think that I have to wait til who know when to do that to then have a family. I mean I don't want to have a child when I'm like 30, lol, but i would like to enjoy my marriage before I have a baby. and this way it's just going to take so much longer.

I just get mad at the fact that people have to put their hopes and dreams basically on hold until USCIS and who ever else decides to aprove a piece of paper so one can be with their loved one. I just don't feel like I want to do that.

Sorry, I'm just venting over here. LOL.

[Lindsay G 0]

It's probably not the correct forum to write about this but o well.

Now I know that it probably sounds like something crazy but I just don't feel like waiting until who knows when to be with my husband. I never thought this would turn out to be SOOO hard.

Now I know that in order to get him over here I need to show proof that I'm working here but I just don't feel like going through this whole process.

They will most probably drop / deny our case when they get to it, huh? Unless through some miracle with a good affidavit they approve it.

Your feedback, encouragements and comments will be greatly appreciated.

It's horrible to be away... it's been almost 8 months for my husband and I, and we've only seen each other 1 week this time when I was finally able to take a few days off of my new job.... I hit rock bottom about 2 months being away.... it gets easier. I think it just becomes more routine to feel like your life is on hold and feel crummy most of the time apart. Now.. his interview is in 1 week (!!!!!!!!!!!), and we hope so much that he will be here in2 weeks.... we'll move into a new apartment I just found... finally get on with our lives together!!!

Only you can decide what is best for your family. Will staying in US, working, possibly saving money... will this be better for you both in the long-run? Would it be just as easy to live in the Dominican for a while and do DCF when able?

Spend some time on visajourney thoughout the process... it's helpful to be connected (even if you don't write anything!) to others going through it and who understand what this feels like. It will be over someday, and I actually believe that it may help the relationship in the long-run.

I know, many people have told me that ithis can be looked at as sort of a test to our love. To see how strong it is and how much it can take. And in a way it's true but to be totoally honest I care to find out. I just got married and I would really like to build a good foundation for us to have a family on. And to think that I have to wait til who know when to do that to then have a family. I mean I don't want to have a child when I'm like 30, lol, but i would like to enjoy my marriage before I have a baby. and this way it's just going to take so much longer.

I just get mad at the fact that people have to put their hopes and dreams basically on hold until USCIS and who ever else decides to aprove a piece of paper so one can be with their loved one. I just don't feel like I want to do that.

Sorry, I'm just venting over here. LOL.

Noone wants to do this. If moving there is a solid option for you, and only you two can determine that, then do what you need to do. Make sure to learn everything that would be involved (i.e. DCF) before you make the decision.

The system does take too long, but this is the system we have to work with... the sooner you deal with this anger the better- you can't let it eat at you. When I'm totally irritated, I try to remember that I choose this- we fell in love and had to be together, but I choose to marry him and begin the immigration process. And there are good reasons WHY it takes so long... but if you complete everything correct the first time around, respond quickly, particularly at NVC, it will move along. Waiting for the NOA2 is the worst.

If you choose to stay in the states, plan a trip that you can look forward to. Talk as much as possible. Maintain your hope by never forgetting to envision the wonderful future.

I would guess almost everyone on here has felt or feels like you do; I know I do. But I just keep thinking about him walking off that plane.....

It'll happen.

[gogo 6]

this is a test of your love for one another.. is she worth it?? Life is so short and finding someone you love is good.. Also, your relationship later on will be much better because both of you went through this hard journey together.. so you will appreciate it much more than an "average" person.. and you wonder why the divorce rate is so high here..

for my case, I waited all this time for her through so-called "security checks" - case got transferred to the local office.. and I also attended an interview with my parents, and they said everything would be ok.. you will get approved within 2-3 weeks (that was in February 2008)... (written hundreds of letters to senators, congressmen, white house, obama, hilary, FBI).. received a letter to my house from FBI Records Management Chief stating no "security checks" on my case, .. then I did a lawsuit against them too.. and that finally paid off for an approval.. in it because there is nothing wrong with my case compared to others.. and I will continue to fight and bother them until we are together here in America.. it's not over until USCIS sings.. and I'll sit on them until then.. we have been waiting over 2 years now for our case to go through the whole journey.. so just believe and fight for what you believe in.. if I'm going down, I'm taking them down with me.. like people say, it's on like Donkey Kong!

Edited January 27, 2009 by gogo

[gogo 6]

people who didn't go through this hard journey (or any hard journey) together doesn't understand the true meaning of marriage and sticking with each other through troubled times.. a lot of people say this and that (to protect their loved ones), but when the time comes, they chicken out.. I'm going to continue fighting for my baby and for us to have a good family together.. a lot of people here take it for granted for having a life here..

[miss g 1]

i hear ya, we have all been at that low when we just cant handle it.. but if you keep on you get new hope.. if you cant survive this what can your relationship survive... if you can conquer such a difficult thing like this whole process, you know that your marriage is going to be built on solid foundations..