Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[MSNELLY 0]

HEY LADIES WHATS GOING ON

hey girl how you doing today?

I AM DOING GOOD JUST GOT IN FROM WORK HOW ARE YOU DOING TODAY

i am doing good too i am here getting my mind ready to get my driving test and all that done to be able to drive and get a car. my hubby is excited to go car shopping go figure

you know how many are with cars they be to excited, so do you know what kind of car you want

[jakeswife 0]

Whaa gwaan peeps? I just had an argument with the friend that has my other car...she is actually the one I posted about yesterday. She thinks that I should have someone drive me to her house to get my payment because she doesn't have any gas. Talking about my sister told her that I went back to work, so why can't I drive to her house.

I told her ummm...because you are driving my CAR. Every month I have to go through this with her. I am a nice person, but I feel like she is definitely trying to give it to me with no vaseline. I don't want to leave her or the kids stranded with no transportation, but she has not visited me once since I had the surgery. Nor, does she have any intent to, considering she wants me to ride to her house over 30 minutes away.

In November, I told her that I would give her until January 12th when her semester in class ends. I'm just having a hard time making myself be mean and take the car back. Suggestions please?

jawi the reason why you are so short with her now is because you stil have unresolve feelings aboout her insensitivity to your pain. i really think that you have the perfect opportunity now to let her know how you feel about what she did as a ""friends"""

you will not be able to patch things up her have a healthy relationship with the person unless or until you tell her how you truly feel. the action of taking back the vehicle will be a reaction to the treatment that she shown you and not talking about it letting her know that you do not approve of her behaviour gives her licience {SP} to continue the heartlless behaviour.

I have told her that I was hurt that she didn't come when I needed her the most. However, I told her when she first got the car that she could keep it for a couple of months back in August of 2007. Then, when I asked for the car back to give to my sister's husband, she had a sob story. So, I told her that I really needed to get the car back after she finished her current semester of classes (January 12th). She told me that she would purchase a car with income tax before that date. Now, she is telling me that she still doesn't have the funds to get a car. I have had to ask for the agreed upon $ EVERY single month, with her having excuse after excuse. I'm not taking the car because she did not show up.

I also wasn't short with her when I called. She told me that I would have to come and get the money because she had other stuff to do. Including going past my house to visit with her sister and brother. I think that is wrong, and I shouldn't have to hunt her down. I have told her how I feel without bringing the car into the equation at all.

But, how do I tell her to bring me the car without appearing heartless that she still doesn't have transportation? She has had the car for over a year now. She also had $6000 from taxes last year...but didn't feel the need to get a car because my car is hers now.

ok remember the saying ""you teach people how to treat you"" if you keep giving her slack then i guarantee it she is going to take it. a friendship is a give and take arrangement and you have done alot to show her how caring you are even when she doesn't deserve it. loosing her friendship is a plus for you cause having people like that around you will only bring you down. sorry if it seem harsh but you really have to put your foot down. she will just have to find another way to get by. do not allow her to get over on you.yes she do have kids but beyond being the friend that you have been they are not your responsiblity. so it's time to get her loose and give your friendship to someone who appreciate and respects it.

[MSNELLY 0]

Whaa gwaan peeps? I just had an argument with the friend that has my other car...she is actually the one I posted about yesterday. She thinks that I should have someone drive me to her house to get my payment because she doesn't have any gas. Talking about my sister told her that I went back to work, so why can't I drive to her house.

I told her ummm...because you are driving my CAR. Every month I have to go through this with her. I am a nice person, but I feel like she is definitely trying to give it to me with no vaseline. I don't want to leave her or the kids stranded with no transportation, but she has not visited me once since I had the surgery. Nor, does she have any intent to, considering she wants me to ride to her house over 30 minutes away.

In November, I told her that I would give her until January 12th when her semester in class ends. I'm just having a hard time making myself be mean and take the car back. Suggestions please?

jawi the reason why you are so short with her now is because you stil have unresolve feelings aboout her insensitivity to your pain. i really think that you have the perfect opportunity now to let her know how you feel about what she did as a ""friends"""

you will not be able to patch things up her have a healthy relationship with the person unless or until you tell her how you truly feel. the action of taking back the vehicle will be a reaction to the treatment that she shown you and not talking about it letting her know that you do not approve of her behaviour gives her licience {SP} to continue the heartlless behaviour.

I have told her that I was hurt that she didn't come when I needed her the most. However, I told her when she first got the car that she could keep it for a couple of months back in August of 2007. Then, when I asked for the car back to give to my sister's husband, she had a sob story. So, I told her that I really needed to get the car back after she finished her current semester of classes (January 12th). She told me that she would purchase a car with income tax before that date. Now, she is telling me that she still doesn't have the funds to get a car. I have had to ask for the agreed upon $ EVERY single month, with her having excuse after excuse. I'm not taking the car because she did not show up.

I also wasn't short with her when I called. She told me that I would have to come and get the money because she had other stuff to do. Including going past my house to visit with her sister and brother. I think that is wrong, and I shouldn't have to hunt her down. I have told her how I feel without bringing the car into the equation at all.

But, how do I tell her to bring me the car without appearing heartless that she still doesn't have transportation? She has had the car for over a year now. She also had $6000 from taxes last year...but didn't feel the need to get a car because my car is hers now.

ok remember the saying ""you teach people how to treat you"" if you keep giving her slack then i guarantee it she is going to take it. a friendship is a give and take arrangement and you have done alot to show her how caring you are even when she doesn't deserve it. loosing her friendship is a plus for you cause having people like that around you will only bring you down. sorry if it seem harsh but you really have to put your foot down. she will just have to find another way to get by. do not allow her to get over on you.yes she do have kids but beyond being the friend that you have been they are not your responsiblity. so it's time to get her loose and give your friendship to someone who appreciate and respects it.

X_________________________ sign my name right next to what jakeswife said Edited January 19, 2009 by BELIEVE IT BABY!!

[jawi876 2]

I know. I try to treat people right. I try to be there for people, and I really show that I value friends...but she has not been my friend for a long time. It is time to cut my losses. God will forgive me, and know that I tried to be there for her.

[Minfay 0]

Hi ladies. Hope all is well with everyone.

Question......has anyone ever bought anything from Courts on-line? They have an option of purchasing items and paying for it with your credit card -- then they contact the person in Jamaica who you bought it for and make the delivery arrangements.

You can cut out the Western Union service fee (by not sending cash) by doing this. Just wonder if anyone has tried it and what the outcome was.

[MSNELLY 0]

I know. I try to treat people right. I try to be there for people, and I really show that I value friends...but she has not been my friend for a long time. It is time to cut my losses. God will forgive me, and know that I tried to be there for her.

jawi please dont feel like you did nothing wrong it take 2 to make a friendship work.

[jakeswife 0]

HEY LADIES WHATS GOING ON

hey girl how you doing today?

I AM DOING GOOD JUST GOT IN FROM WORK HOW ARE YOU DOING TODAY

i am doing good too i am here getting my mind ready to get my driving test and all that done to be able to drive and get a car. my hubby is excited to go car shopping go figure

you know how many are with cars they be to excited, so do you know what kind of car you want

not yet but i am sure hubby will have strong imput but ultimately the style will be my decision

[MSNELLY 0]

HEY LADIES WHATS GOING ON

hey girl how you doing today?

I AM DOING GOOD JUST GOT IN FROM WORK HOW ARE YOU DOING TODAY

i am doing good too i am here getting my mind ready to get my driving test and all that done to be able to drive and get a car. my hubby is excited to go car shopping go figure

you know how many are with cars they be to excited, so do you know what kind of car you want

not yet but i am sure hubby will have strong imput but ultimately the style will be my decision

OK, MY DAUGHTER AND HER DAD IS AT ABOUT WHAT KIND OF CAR TO GET HER, SHE WANT A G6 HE WANT TO GET HER A HONDA CIVIC I TOLD TO PLEASE LEAVE ME OUT OF IT.

[JaHoney 3]

ok, yall i need suggestions.. i am taking the pinckney with me in April to meet D, one pinckney is 10 ( the hungry one) and one will be 16 next week ( lawd help me) i am trying to locate accomodations cheaply, and am having not much luck, i thought about doing an AI so they will be entertained , i wont need to babysit them and they can eat all they want( which would be the highlight of the trip for them) but it is expensive specially since that is spring break time, going after spring break isnt an option because i already have 5 days off from work that wont require me to use my vacation time bank, i am looking at villas around ochi and mammee bay, but then i will be spending more for food and cab fare, so i need some suggestions. If i can get under 1200.00- 1500.00 for a week, i would be in business,, but that may not be realistic.??????

[Marie876 0]

Honey...you only looking for something in Ochi?

Edited January 19, 2009 by Marie87

[JaHoney 3]

either ochi or mammee bay.

marie i dont really care where i stay but with my sons, i need as little stress as possible, the 10 yr old is a pain fi real...LOL....

[jakeswife 0]

I know. I try to treat people right. I try to be there for people, and I really show that I value friends...but she has not been my friend for a long time. It is time to cut my losses. God will forgive me, and know that I tried to be there for her.

you don't need forgiveness she does.she feels entitled and as a result is so depending on you to do for her.she is playing on your kindness cause she knows you will continue thinking about her kids and hope you only see things that way. but the truth is you have been more than a friend and she doesn't deserve your time and your friendship. if you are torn with the kids loosing the transportation then give her a time line but stick to it.

Edited January 19, 2009 by jakeswife

[jakeswife 0]

Hi ladies. Hope all is well with everyone.

Question......has anyone ever bought anything from Courts on-line? They have an option of purchasing items and paying for it with your credit card -- then they contact the person in Jamaica who you bought it for and make the delivery arrangements.

You can cut out the Western Union service fee (by not sending cash) by doing this. Just wonder if anyone has tried it and what the outcome was.

i have not tried it that way but i have purchased stuff at courts.

[Marie876 0]

Ok. Because skyauction has good deals. I won an auction for Starfish for only $60 per person, per night but Trelawny is a ways from Ochi

Can the kids stay with you at D's house?

Edited January 19, 2009 by Marie87

[JaHoney 3]

i will check out skyauction, i signed up with them but never used them..is there alot of hidden fees if you win the bid?