Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[wakeywakeup 1]

Hey ladies I just got caught up on the last few pages...

It seems to have gotten a little heated in here

I am almost sorry I posted my story.

But these are things that can and sometimes do happen

I didn't want it to cause confusion or a fuss...

I am glad to see things clamed down.

I didn't read heat in the post.. Lost of passion yes but that is a given when discussing those we love. Don't feel bad..I'm glad we discussed the issues.

I meant to say didn't - too much coffee

So, wakey since a jus u an me one here...what's for dinner

You want some of my chicken foot soup?

HE#$ NAW GIRL. We have a bag of them things in the freezer. I keep rehiding the bag way in the back. I hate hate hate them..

[Shemmy 4]

I am totally down for discussion, anything but eveything, I am like an open book...... Also I am not trying by any means at all to discourage anyone in this thread, but it is dog e dog wworld out there, and we all need a sounding board, and for all the talking that is done... I would like for more people to open there selves up , and ask the questions that they have hesitated to ask before..... I know I wished I had asked a few things, and had some experiences to reflect on before my journey began

Should we discuss in the thread Marlita started? If so, I'll bump it.

I love this idea..What thread?

This just had me in tears:

http://www.negril.com/discus/messages/103/...html?1233860971

OMG..is this a fellow yardie that was killed??

Wakey - the thread is called Adjustment to the States by Marlita. It's below with the other threads.

Hey ladies I just got caught up on the last few pages...

It seems to have gotten a little heated in here

I am almost sorry I posted my story.

But these are things that can and sometimes do happen

I didn't want it to cause confusion or a fuss...

I am glad to see things clamed down.

Shyne, don't make me fly over there. You don't have to be sorry about anything. I'm glad you shared your story, you have helped many.

I agree

Edited February 5, 2009 by Shemmy

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Wakey, put down the coffee cup, I gave up coffee for 40 days, I miss it A LOT, but I'm managing.

[wakeywakeup 1]

Wakey, put down the coffee cup, I gave up coffee for 40 days, I miss it A LOT, but I'm managing.

I'm done with the coffee but I have like 2-3 more hours of work and I'm debating if I should take it home. I think tonight the laptop will get left..

[Shemmy 4]

I've noticed we always talk about the adjustment of the SO but never really discussed the adjustment of the US citizen. Since "we" are sharing experiences, I'll share mine. I actually had no issues with my husband while he was in Jamaica. He barely went out and we made a clear understanding that we would not use indecent language to each other (totally his idea). 7 years strong. He came up and there hasn't been an adjustment problems on his behalf. The adjustments issues are more of my own. Here I was, young, educate, independent, homeowner, own car, career goals outlined, which leads to me having a selfish attitude. Let me make it clear...not selfish in a MONEY sense. We have no issues with control money. He loves every bit of me..and all of my traits. I was so use to it being just me and not having to worry or think about anyone else. I would do little things like lock the door and forget he is outside. It's been the little things that I would do, like leave my towel from the shower on the bed in the morning. I just had to get use to living with someone in the same room sharing the same bed. One selfless act was me giving up my side of the bed. I now was in the position where I had to put my foot down at work and make sure I get home at a decent hour at least half the week. I stop going home from work and working. I had to re-assess what I wanted in my career and fit my family life in it.

I'm very happy right now. I'm as in love as I was 7 years ago. I read all of the stories on here and I'm in disbelief or sadness because I'm an optimist and always want thing to work for the good. But I'm really posting this to see how many of us has looked at OUR adjustment?

KK - this has been a HUGE adjustment for me. I'm an only child who lived who my own since 16.....super spoiled and stuck in my ways...I try to work on it everyday . Damien's adjustment to the States and has been easier than me adjusting to marriage life. Or sometimes I worried about him so much..I lost myself. Finding balance is the key.

We've been together for almost 6 years and happily married for 4...we fight hard but love harder. The issues we have today we didn't have last year or the year before...we're learning more and more everyday.

[wakeywakeup 1]

Good night ya'll hubby is outside to pick me up... Did I tell ya'll he got his DL??!! Well he is straight marching proud. He will start work on Monday!

Glory to God!!

[sus 70]

Hey ladies I just got caught up on the last few pages...

It seems to have gotten a little heated in here

I am almost sorry I posted my story.

But these are things that can and sometimes do happen

I didn't want it to cause confusion or a fuss...

I am glad to see things clamed down.

Son, your story was not what started the conversation in here today - and never be sorry for posting your story - We are all here to help each other and if more people share their stories, then maybe someone else can learn something -

OMG..is this a fellow yardie that was killed??

No, not a yardie - just a horrendous tragedy - The driver of the car apparently comes from a family with money and connections, and the talk that I have heard is that they think he will just walk - The more that this story can be spread around the better, because people need to band together and try to bring about a change.

[Shemmy 4]

Good night ya'll hubby is outside to pick me up... Did I tell ya'll he got his DL??!! Well he is straight marching proud. He will start work on Monday!

Glory to God!!

That's great news Wakey

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Shem,

I think Damien is your balance and him yours...that's what I feel when I'm around you two. Ya'll crack me up.

[Shemmy 4]

Shem,

I think Damien is your balance and him yours...that's what I feel when I'm around you two. Ya'll crack me up.

Thanks Lawny. We all need to hang out again. I would like to see Auri. Today I feel like this and tomorrow Marriage is

How's Marcel?

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Shem,

I think Damien is your balance and him yours...that's what I feel when I'm around you two. Ya'll crack me up.

Thanks Lawny. We all need to hang out again. I would like to see Auri. Today I feel like this and tomorrow Marriage is

How's Marcel?

He just answered...he says what's up and tell her I'm doing on very well. Auri, is a hand full. Marcel can't wait for Madea goes to jail to come out in the theaters, I saw the play and it was funny.

[Shemmy 4]

Shem,

I think Damien is your balance and him yours...that's what I feel when I'm around you two. Ya'll crack me up.

Thanks Lawny. We all need to hang out again. I would like to see Auri. Today I feel like this and tomorrow Marriage is

How's Marcel?

He just answered...he says what's up and tell her I'm doing on very well. Auri, is a hand full. Marcel can't wait for Madea goes to jail to come out in the theaters, I saw the play and it was funny.

That's great. I was thinking about taking Damien to a play next month but can't think of the name of it .

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Okay, ladies, it's that time again...good night.

[MrsBuggy 0]

Wow!! Great conversation last night!! Sorry I missed out... but I caught up now.

Sonshyne... sorry to hear your story... Keep your head up. I know w/ time and w/ God, things will get better!

Thanks to everyone who posted last night.

As a newbie, married to a younger man, and me being spoiled cuz I'm an only child with no kids and never been married, my hubby has a 3y.o. son, I fell in love and got married, I am grateful that I have found this site. Ya'll have given me insight upon insight on things that may or may not happen in my relationship. I in turn have all types of conversations w/ the hubby because of you guys. For now, we have good communication. He has helped me w/ it cuz I am quick to get an attitude and pout and shut myself off. I know... that comes from my "only-child syndrome". But I KNOW the true test is when he gets here. And although I am sooooo looking forward to starting our life together, I am nervous as hell.

So again... Yaardies, I THANK YOU!!

[Shemmy 4]

Wow!! Great conversation last night!! Sorry I missed out... but I caught up now.

Sonshyne... sorry to hear your story... Keep your head up. I know w/ time and w/ God, things will get better!

Thanks to everyone who posted last night.

As a newbie, married to a younger man, and me being spoiled cuz I'm an only child with no kids and never been married, my hubby has a 3y.o. son, I fell in love and got married, I am grateful that I have found this site. Ya'll have given me insight upon insight on things that may or may not happen in my relationship. I in turn have all types of conversations w/ the hubby because of you guys. For now, we have good communication. He has helped me w/ it cuz I am quick to get an attitude and pout and shut myself off. I know... that comes from my "only-child syndrome". But I KNOW the true test is when he gets here. And although I am sooooo looking forward to starting our life together, I am nervous as hell.

So again... Yaardies, I THANK YOU!!

No problem Mrs. Buggy. There was no yardie thread and only few other JA/US couples when I joined VJ...that's why these discussions are important.

Edited February 6, 2009 by Shemmy