Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[SupportOAFJF 0]

As sad and hurtful as all this sounds... I am a strong independent woman... And this too Shall Pass..

I still very much love my husband.. But he still has some growing to do, and he needs to do it without me.

Ok time for a group (((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))

Ok I'm done with this topic on the board, but if anyone has the need to address or ask any questions... Please do so I will answer

Amen !! all most know fi do a run..Sonny mi an yuh chat an yuh done know aready !

[Sonshyne 2]

As sad and hurtful as all this sounds... I am a strong independent woman... And this too Shall Pass..

I still very much love my husband.. But he still has some growing to do, and he needs to do it without me.

Ok time for a group (((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))

Ok I'm done with this topic on the board, but if anyone has the need to address or ask any questions... Please do so I will answer

Amen !! all most know fi do a run..Sonny mi an yuh chat an yuh done know aready !

I thank you for prompting me to post about it

That is so true.. When sh*t got to be to much... Thats what he did.

[MSNELLY 0]

well ladies its time for me to call it a nite later

[Sonshyne 2]

Good morning Yardies

[sus 70]

Morning all - Wow, y'all were a chatting crew last night - haven't woken up to a morning like this in a while - Even the duppy Kimmy came to light again!

Jawi, I am so sorry to hear, my prayers are with you and your friend's family. Losing a child is something that is just unimaginable, and nothing any mother should ever have to face. This book helped me a lot, you might want to pick it up for your friend: http://www.amazon.com/After-Death-Child-Li...h/dp/080185914X

Love i can honestly say alot of it i just let slide, i like my job and my clients, its my coworkers i cant stand and trust me at least once a year every year for the past 5 years i start looking for another job and then i realize i dont feel like putting in all the effort , dont want to lose seniority, accrued vacation, blah blah blah, so i just deal but i can say the newest comments made about me being a drug mule and my drug dealer man, i was like SERIOUSLY, your gonna start with some more #######... so yeah its getting old and wearing thin.

Honey - DO NOT LET IT SLIDE - that is discrimination and harassment - if your employer doesn't address it, they are fostering a hostile work environment and there is big big money in that type of case = Plus, once you file a formal complaint with your employer, you put yourself into a different class of employee - They can't just randomly terminate, because then you have a suit based on that - don't just deal with it in silence - bring it up and address it, under law, they have to.

thank u Sonny..ur a very brave soul..Wakey scroll up or down..ur welcome anytime..

You called me out...

That topic had my name all over it. Just couldn't bring myself to respond although it needed to be done

Hugs, Sonshyne = I am so sorry to hear that, and it is definitely his loss - which he will realize sooner or later, they always do = I can't tell you how many calls / emails I have gotten from my ex telling me how sorry he is and how he f*****D up and made a mistake - He's right about one thing, he is sorry - although I think we have different meanings for that word! What goes around comes around -

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

I would post my story as well.

There is nothing to be ashamed about in posting the story - I shared mine from my past - if one person can learn from it, or read something that will clue them in to a sign or something they should pay attention to in their own relationship, or help in any way - then it's worth it.

[MSNELLY 0]

Morning ladies have a good day......

[Islandwoman 0]

Morning ladies have a good day......

Mornin MsNelly - you are out and about early this morning. I wish I had some of that sunshine that is pouring into your car in your avatar....

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Morning ladies have a good day......

Mornin MsNelly - you are out and about early this morning. I wish I had some of that sunshine that is pouring into your car in your avatar....

I need some SUNSHINE too when I went to this gym this morning at 5am it was 12 degrees.

[MSNELLY 0]

Morning ladies have a good day......

Mornin MsNelly - you are out and about early this morning. I wish I had some of that sunshine that is pouring into your car in your avatar....

Islandwoman i am still at home about to least have a meeting with the big boss , and that pic was taken on christmas girl, and you the sun will trick you all the time lol

[*JG* 2]

Hi Everyone.

I just received this email from the embassy

Good morning:

I have good news for you this morning. Mr. Davis' visa was printed and I personally delivered it to the DHL representative this morning. He advised that Mr. Davis can contact the DHL office in Montego Bay at about 9:00 a.m. tomorrow morning. I contacted Mr. Davis by telephone and gave him the above information.

Wishing you all the best in your life together.

Regards,

Visa Unit

Embassy of the United States of America

Kingston, Jamaica

I will believe it when I see it.

Good news, SG!

[*JG* 2]

So here is another topic to consider.....

Hanging with the fellas...How often do you think a man should hang with his friends after he has left JA?

Wakey/Jgay..if it's a"problem" now maybe it will always be a problem..do not put things on the back burner and find excuses to justify a behavior. U have to teach ur husbands what is acceptable and what is not..u have to be realistic..some behaviors don't go away when they find jobs they sometimes can get worse..they can find other things to occupy their time...

I wish 1 person on here would share her story...

Kimmy and Lawny I hear you...

Ok Ladies... I read this yeaturday and to be truthful, my heart just sank.. I wanted to respond to this post so bad but really didn't have the heart to. I didn't want to bring any doubts or worries to ANYONE here. I decided that maybe I will share my story.. I'll keep it short as possible

Wakey the tooic you chose last night is one that I know all too well... Lived it everyday for about the last year or so. My husband was one to hang with his friends more than hie did with his wife... As he met friends that where here from JA also he began to hang out, with was ok because we all need some "me time". I was happy for him because I knew it helped him to adjust being that he had someone from home to relate to.

As time went on his hanging out became a problem to our marriage to where there would be arguements which usually ended up with me being vexed to the max, and most time... him still gone anyway... He thought it was ok to hang out with them until 3-330 in the morning on friday and sat pretty much every weekend. Ok to hang out with them pretty much everyday after work. Even on quite a few big Holidays..

He would always say yuh fuss suh much!! Mi nuh do nuting wrong mi come home tuh mi yaad to yuh everynight... So I figured I would try and easy up myself give him a little more room and try not to say much... You know "COMPARMISE". But he never tried to make things any better. He felt he wasn't wrong. My husband was a good provider for me, he gave me any and everything I wanted and then some, all except one thing.. His time. He gave about 80% of his free time to his friends.. The other 20% or less went to me. He felt that he gave me money all the time along with other things and that I shouldn't have a reason to complain.. He didn't understand that I MARRIED him for him and not his money.

Well the end result to this is... I came home from work last month to find him and all his things gone. He moved out.

I'm so sorry, Sonny.

[JAPrincess 27]

Morning peeps

I put down one piece of bawling on the man this morning

(((SonShyne)))

I could use some happy stories today VJ

Anybody care to share?

I'm off to work now, will check in once I reach....

[sus 70]

Will have to think of some happy stories, JAPrincess - I am in a pissy mood this am, lol -

Here is a pic from when Mikey Spice showed up and hung out with us a while back - He put on some serious weight:

[*JG* 2]

So here is another topic to consider.....

Hanging with the fellas...How often do you think a man should hang with his friends after he has left JA?

Wakey/Jgay..if it's a"problem" now maybe it will always be a problem..do not put things on the back burner and find excuses to justify a behavior. U have to teach ur husbands what is acceptable and what is not..u have to be realistic..some behaviors don't go away when they find jobs they sometimes can get worse..they can find other things to occupy their time...

I wish 1 person on here would share her story...

Kimmy and Lawny I hear you...

Ok Ladies... I read this yeaturday and to be truthful, my heart just sank.. I wanted to respond to this post so bad but really didn't have the heart to. I didn't want to bring any doubts or worries to ANYONE here. I decided that maybe I will share my story.. I'll keep it short as possible

Wakey the tooic you chose last night is one that I know all too well... Lived it everyday for about the last year or so. My husband was one to hang with his friends more than hie did with his wife... As he met friends that where here from JA also he began to hang out, with was ok because we all need some "me time". I was happy for him because I knew it helped him to adjust being that he had someone from home to relate to.

As time went on his hanging out became a problem to our marriage to where there would be arguements which usually ended up with me being vexed to the max, and most time... him still gone anyway... He thought it was ok to hang out with them until 3-330 in the morning on friday and sat pretty much every weekend. Ok to hang out with them pretty much everyday after work. Even on quite a few big Holidays..

He would always say yuh fuss suh much!! Mi nuh do nuting wrong mi come home tuh mi yaad to yuh everynight... So I figured I would try and easy up myself give him a little more room and try not to say much... You know "COMPARMISE". But he never tried to make things any better. He felt he wasn't wrong. My husband was a good provider for me, he gave me any and everything I wanted and then some, all except one thing.. His time. He gave about 80% of his free time to his friends.. The other 20% or less went to me. He felt that he gave me money all the time along with other things and that I shouldn't have a reason to complain.. He didn't understand that I MARRIED him for him and not his money.

Well the end result to this is... I came home from work last month to find him and all his things gone. He moved out.

WHAAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTT????!!!! OMG I'm so sorry to hear this.

In all honesty, I don't know what direction I will take if we don't come to an agreement about it. Never thought it would be an issue but it is. When we started talking about 2 times per month he said I wasn't being fair..and now he believes 2 times per week is a fair compromise. He gets home about 1130 if during the week but on the weekend we fight over 2 - 4 am. He is always reminding me that when he was in JA and I would come for vacation I hung out to the sun came up with him. He says why is it different because you aren't on vacation? He says that was my life and you accepted it and now you don't.

I only pray we can work it out for us but believe me my head is not in the sand..

Don't let him use that BS statement on you. Ja is a completely different animal then the US. If you are out roaming in JA in the wee hours, it's a common thing. Not always the case in the US.

[Islandwoman 0]

Will have to think of some happy stories, JAPrincess - I am in a pissy mood this am, lol -

Here is a pic from when Mikey Spice showed up and hung out with us a while back - He put on some serious weight:

Happens to the best of us.....

I don't have any happy stories for JaPrincess.

My baby girl turns 7 today - I remember very well the pain I was in right now seven years ago!!