Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[Sonshyne 2]

and he never will until he realized he messed up you just have to know and believe you didnt do nothing wrong

Nelly that is true..

Thank you all for the prayers

I wish you all the best

Edited February 5, 2009 by Sonshyne

[Shemmy 4]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

I would post my story as well.

[Tosh Love 77]

So here is another topic to consider.....

Hanging with the fellas...How often do you think a man should hang with his friends after he has left JA?

Wakey/Jgay..if it's a"problem" now maybe it will always be a problem..do not put things on the back burner and find excuses to justify a behavior. U have to teach ur husbands what is acceptable and what is not..u have to be realistic..some behaviors don't go away when they find jobs they sometimes can get worse..they can find other things to occupy their time...

I wish 1 person on here would share her story...

Kimmy and Lawny I hear you...

Ok Ladies... I read this yeaturday and to be truthful, my heart just sank.. I wanted to respond to this post so bad but really didn't have the heart to. I didn't want to bring any doubts or worries to ANYONE here. I decided that maybe I will share my story.. I'll keep it short as possible

Wakey the tooic you chose last night is one that I know all too well... Lived it everyday for about the last year or so. My husband was one to hang with his friends more than hie did with his wife... As he met friends that where here from JA also he began to hang out, with was ok because we all need some "me time". I was happy for him because I knew it helped him to adjust being that he had someone from home to relate to.

As time went on his hanging out became a problem to our marriage to where there would be arguements which usually ended up with me being vexed to the max, and most time... him still gone anyway... He thought it was ok to hang out with them until 3-330 in the morning on friday and sat pretty much every weekend. Ok to hang out with them pretty much everyday after work. Even on quite a few big Holidays..

He would always say yuh fuss suh much!! Mi nuh do nuting wrong mi come home tuh mi yaad to yuh everynight... So I figured I would try and easy up myself give him a little more room and try not to say much... You know "COMPARMISE". But he never tried to make things any better. He felt he wasn't wrong. My husband was a good provider for me, he gave me any and everything I wanted and then some, all except one thing.. His time. He gave about 80% of his free time to his friends.. The other 20% or less went to me. He felt that he gave me money all the time along with other things and that I shouldn't have a reason to complain.. He didn't understand that I MARRIED him for him and not his money.

Well the end result to this is... I came home from work last month to find him and all his things gone. He moved out.

I don't know what to say to that because I am outdone! I am so sorry about that sweetheart. I hope this does not close your heart to love. Don't ever regret anything you have done out of love. Keep living, loving and laughing!

[JAPrincess 27]

I am so high on my cloud of love... I ain't even filed one paper, and your story brings tears to my eyes...

That is so low... after everything you did to get him here...

The least you deserve is a "good bye"

my heart breaks for you. truly.

That is why I didn't want to bring my story to the board..

Stay on cloud of love JA.. It's a wonderful plce to be.

Girl listen, I have been on other message boards, I have heard PLENTY of horror stories...

I am still in love, and nobody can change that but him.

I just feel so crushed for the way your Mr. went about it...

People MUST know when they get into this, that these things do happen.

For that I applaud you.

Edited February 5, 2009 by JAPrincess

[Islandwoman 0]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

It really is therapy!!

You need to talk about these

things in order to be able to

heal and get pass it.

You do Sonny - and it is much better to talk about it with people who understand your situation. You can call upon us anytime you need a shoulder, a pick me up, or most times a laugh.

[MSNELLY 0]

and he never will until he realized he messed up you just have to know and believe you didnt do nothing wrong

Nelly that is true..

yes it is took my ex a long to see that the grass on the other side is not that green but on well to damn late player

[wakeywakeup 1]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

It really is therapy!!

You need to talk about these

things in order to be able to

heal and get pass it.

Absolutely!!!

[Islandwoman 0]

Girl listen, I have been on other message boards, I have heard PLENTY of horror stories...

I am still in love, and nobody can change that but him.

I just feel so crushed for the way your Mr. went about it...

People MUST know when the get into this, that these things do happen.

For that I applaud you.

Love the new avatar Japrincess.

[MSNELLY 0]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

I would post my story as well.

you know Shemmy, at first i didnt want to put my story out afraid of what people will say, and i believe thats why some people dont put there out.. but i realize i didnt do anything wrong so why am i afriad to tell my story and only GOD can judge me

Edited February 5, 2009 by BELIEVE IT BABY!!

[JAPrincess 27]

Girl listen, I have been on other message boards, I have heard PLENTY of horror stories...

I am still in love, and nobody can change that but him.

I just feel so crushed for the way your Mr. went about it...

People MUST know when the get into this, that these things do happen.

For that I applaud you.

Love the new avatar Japrincess.

Thanks Island

My song dat!

[JAPrincess 27]

I am off peeps, have to take care of things...

My thoughts any prayers are with you (((SonShyne)))

[wakeywakeup 1]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

I would post my story as well.

you know Shemmy, at first i didnt want to put my story out afraid of what people will say, and i believe thats why some people dont put there out.. but i realize i didnt do anything wrong so why am i afriad to tell my story and only GOD can judge me

Don't you feel better though? Imagine the people that go around with all this stuff and never talk it out with anyone. It works for some and others not so much. I love to hear life stories even when they are perfect they help you grow and ask the right questions.

So newbies, I would say it is sooo important to add this topic to your hypotheticals with your SO. I wish I had.

[MSNELLY 0]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

I would post my story as well.

you know Shemmy, at first i didnt want to put my story out afraid of what people will say, and i believe thats why some people dont put there out.. but i realize i didnt do anything wrong so why am i afriad to tell my story and only GOD can judge me

Don't you feel better though? Imagine the people that go around with all this stuff and never talk it out with anyone. It works for some and others not so much. I love to hear life stories even when they are perfect they help you grow and ask the right questions.

So newbies, I would say it is sooo important to add this topic to your hypotheticals with your SO. I wish I had.

Much better and i thank everyone that reach out to

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I am so high on my cloud of love... I ain't even filed one paper, and your story brings tears to my eyes...

That is so low... after everything you did to get him here...

The least you deserve is a "good bye"

my heart breaks for you. truly.

That is why I didn't want to bring my story to the board..

Stay on cloud of love JA.. It's a wonderful plce to be.

Girl listen, I have been on other message boards, I have heard PLENTY of horror stories...

I am still in love, and nobody can change that but him.

I just feel so crushed for the way your Mr. went about it...

People MUST know when they get into this, that these things do happen.

For that I applaud you.

I'm sure everyone else who shared horro stories felt the same way too...I wish everyone here the best BUT i give my HONEST opinion STRAIGHT ! could be nicer...mi no tink mi ave it in mi....mi cyaa bodda wid di go round go round ting...

all Sonny a seh is keep yuh eye opened..there is no crime is trying to protect UR heart while finding love..

[Sonshyne 2]

As sad and hurtful as all this sounds... I am a strong independent woman... And this too Shall Pass..

I still very much love my husband.. But he still has some growing to do, and he needs to do it without me.

Ok time for a group (((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))

Ok I'm done with this topic on the board, but if anyone has the need to address or ask any questions... Please do so I will answer