Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[wakeywakeup 1]

I pray you stay near the word and seek the Lord during this difficult time.

This is what has held me up..

I'm in prayer too. I truly appreciate you sharing your story.

[Shemmy 4]

I pray you stay near the word and seek the Lord during this difficult time.

This is what has held me up..

I'm in prayer too. I truly appreciate you sharing your story.

I do too Sonshyne. The same thing happened to a few ladies I met on here and they were too ashamed to share their stories. Again, thanks for sharing.

[Sonshyne 2]

Has he applogized for how he handled things?

WHHHAAATTTTTTTTTTT???

Gyal yuh mad?? Please all this is my fault let him tell it... Mi fuss and vex too much!!

He can't won't and don't acknowledge his part in this.

[MSNELLY 0]

Sonshyne my heart and prayer goes out to you, thatnks for sharing your story.

[JAPrincess 27]

I pray you stay near the word and seek the Lord during this difficult time.

This is what has held me up..

I'm in prayer too. I truly appreciate you sharing your story.

I do too Sonshyne. The same thing happened to a few ladies I met on here and they were too ashamed to share their stories. Again, thanks for sharing.

I was just thinking nuff people would just never come back here...

Bless you Sonshyne. You have my prayers too.

[MSNELLY 0]

Has he applogized for how he handled things?

WHHHAAATTTTTTTTTTT???

Gyal yuh mad?? Please all this is my fault let him tell it... Mi fuss and vex too much!!

He can't won't and don't acknowledge his part in this.

and he never will until he realized he messed up you just have to know and believe you didnt do nothing wrong

[wakeywakeup 1]

Has he applogized for how he handled things?

WHHHAAATTTTTTTTTTT???

Gyal yuh mad?? Please all this is my fault let him tell it... Mi fuss and vex too much!!

He can't won't and don't acknowledge his part in this.

I feel like screaming and cursing on your behalf but wa good ie do...him one big man decide fe lef him yard. Stay strong and PM me if you ever need a shoulder to on.

[Sonshyne 2]

I am so high on my cloud of love... I ain't even filed one paper, and your story brings tears to my eyes...

That is so low... after everything you did to get him here...

The least you deserve is a "good bye"

my heart breaks for you. truly.

That is why I didn't want to bring my story to the board..

Stay on cloud of love JA.. It's a wonderful plce to be.

[Islandwoman 0]

So here is another topic to consider.....

Hanging with the fellas...How often do you think a man should hang with his friends after he has left JA?

Wakey/Jgay..if it's a"problem" now maybe it will always be a problem..do not put things on the back burner and find excuses to justify a behavior. U have to teach ur husbands what is acceptable and what is not..u have to be realistic..some behaviors don't go away when they find jobs they sometimes can get worse..they can find other things to occupy their time...

I wish 1 person on here would share her story...

Kimmy and Lawny I hear you...

Ok Ladies... I read this yeaturday and to be truthful, my heart just sank.. I wanted to respond to this post so bad but really didn't have the heart to. I didn't want to bring any doubts or worries to ANYONE here. I decided that maybe I will share my story.. I'll keep it short as possible

Wakey the tooic you chose last night is one that I know all too well... Lived it everyday for about the last year or so. My husband was one to hang with his friends more than hie did with his wife... As he met friends that where here from JA also he began to hang out, with was ok because we all need some "me time". I was happy for him because I knew it helped him to adjust being that he had someone from home to relate to.

As time went on his hanging out became a problem to our marriage to where there would be arguements which usually ended up with me being vexed to the max, and most time... him still gone anyway... He thought it was ok to hang out with them until 3-330 in the morning on friday and sat pretty much every weekend. Ok to hang out with them pretty much everyday after work. Even on quite a few big Holidays..

He would always say yuh fuss suh much!! Mi nuh do nuting wrong mi come home tuh mi yaad to yuh everynight... So I figured I would try and easy up myself give him a little more room and try not to say much... You know "COMPARMISE". But he never tried to make things any better. He felt he wasn't wrong. My husband was a good provider for me, he gave me any and everything I wanted and then some, all except one thing.. His time. He gave about 80% of his free time to his friends.. The other 20% or less went to me. He felt that he gave me money all the time along with other things and that I shouldn't have a reason to complain.. He didn't understand that I MARRIED him for him and not his money.

Well the end result to this is... I came home from work last month to find him and all his things gone. He moved out.

Thanks for sharing with us Sonny - we need the good, the bad and the ugly on here. This is real life. Hugs to you Girl.

[Shemmy 4]

So here is another topic to consider.....

Hanging with the fellas...How often do you think a man should hang with his friends after he has left JA?

Wakey/Jgay..if it's a"problem" now maybe it will always be a problem..do not put things on the back burner and find excuses to justify a behavior. U have to teach ur husbands what is acceptable and what is not..u have to be realistic..some behaviors don't go away when they find jobs they sometimes can get worse..they can find other things to occupy their time...

I wish 1 person on here would share her story...

Kimmy and Lawny I hear you...

Ok Ladies... I read this yeaturday and to be truthful, my heart just sank.. I wanted to respond to this post so bad but really didn't have the heart to. I didn't want to bring any doubts or worries to ANYONE here. I decided that maybe I will share my story.. I'll keep it short as possible

Wakey the tooic you chose last night is one that I know all too well... Lived it everyday for about the last year or so. My husband was one to hang with his friends more than hie did with his wife... As he met friends that where here from JA also he began to hang out, with was ok because we all need some "me time". I was happy for him because I knew it helped him to adjust being that he had someone from home to relate to.

As time went on his hanging out became a problem to our marriage to where there would be arguements which usually ended up with me being vexed to the max, and most time... him still gone anyway... He thought it was ok to hang out with them until 3-330 in the morning on friday and sat pretty much every weekend. Ok to hang out with them pretty much everyday after work. Even on quite a few big Holidays..

He would always say yuh fuss suh much!! Mi nuh do nuting wrong mi come home tuh mi yaad to yuh everynight... So I figured I would try and easy up myself give him a little more room and try not to say much... You know "COMPARMISE". But he never tried to make things any better. He felt he wasn't wrong. My husband was a good provider for me, he gave me any and everything I wanted and then some, all except one thing.. His time. He gave about 80% of his free time to his friends.. The other 20% or less went to me. He felt that he gave me money all the time along with other things and that I shouldn't have a reason to complain.. He didn't understand that I MARRIED him for him and not his money.

Well the end result to this is... I came home from work last month to find him and all his things gone. He moved out.

Thanks for sharing with us Sonny - we need the good, the bad and the ugly on here. This is real life. Hugs to you Girl.

I agree, you won't believe how many newbies don't want to hear the bad or the ugly.

[Tosh Love 77]

Evening everyone..( waving)

All you human resource people shed a little light, cause i swear some of the stuff i deal with at work has got to be against some kind of H.R. policy ( i.e the guy who continually makes racial remarks, says i have a drug dealing jamaican man, im a drug mule, umm lets see what else... just all types of #######) and i know my spvrs is aware of it, cause his office is next door to mine and her office is across the hall and she sits over in her office and listens to everything and then laughs if she hears something funny!!!

Hi Jah. So sorry to hear about your workplace frustrations. Have you tried calling the EEOC? Here is some information if this route is feasible to you.

Discrimination/Harassment

For more information about filing a discrimination or harassment claim in Michigan, see our page on filing a discrimination complaint: Michigan

Discrimination/Harassment - State Agency

Michigan Department of Civil Rights (MDCR)

Benton Harbor Office

499 West Main Street

Benton Harbor, MI 49022

Phone: (269) 925-7044

Fax: (269) 934-2143

Detroit Service Center

Cadillac Place

3054 West Grand Boulevard, Suite 3-600

Detroit, MI 48202

Phone: (313) 456-3700

Fax: (313) 456-3701

WATS: (800) 482-3604

TDD: (877) 878-8464

Flint Office

Flint State Office Building, 7th Floor

125 East Union

Flint, MI 48502

Phone: (810) 760-2805

Fax: (810) 760-7363

Grand Rapids Office

State Office Building, 4th Floor

350 Ottawa, NW

Grand Rapids, MI 49503

Phone: (616) 356-0380

Fax: (616) 356-0399

TTY: (616) 356-0391

Kalamazoo Office

535 South Burdick Street, Suite 230

Kalamazoo, MI 49007

Phone: (269) 337-3640

Fax: (269) 337-3636

TTY: (269) 337-3122 Lansing Office

Capitol Tower Building

110 West Michigan Avenue, Suite 800

Lansing, MI 48933

Phone: (517) 241-6300

Fax: (517) 335-3882

TTY: (517) 335-3881

Marquette Office

1504 West Washington Street, Suite B

Marquette, MI 49855

Phone: (906) 226-6393

Fax: (906) 226-9974

Saginaw Office

State Office Building

411 East Genesee Avenue

Saginaw, MI 48607

Phone: (989) 758-1686

Fax: (989) 758-1564

TTY: (989) 758-1455

Traverse City Office

State Office Building

701 South Elmwood, Suite 10 - Room 410

Traverse City, MI 49685

Phone: (231) 922-5211

Fax: (231) 922-5212

Web Address: http://www.michigan.gov/mdcr/

[wakeywakeup 1]

I pray you stay near the word and seek the Lord during this difficult time.

This is what has held me up..

I'm in prayer too. I truly appreciate you sharing your story.

I do too Sonshyne. The same thing happened to a few ladies I met on here and they were too ashamed to share their stories. Again, thanks for sharing.

I was just thinking nuff people would just never come back here...

Bless you Sonshyne. You have my prayers too.

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

[Sonshyne 2]

Has he applogized for how he handled things?

WHHHAAATTTTTTTTTTT???

Gyal yuh mad?? Please all this is my fault let him tell it... Mi fuss and vex too much!!

He can't won't and don't acknowledge his part in this.

I feel like screaming and cursing on your behalf but wa good ie do...him one big man decide fe lef him yard. Stay strong and PM me if you ever need a shoulder to on.

Thanks Wakey

I am getting a little stronger by the day..

He may not know my WORTH but I do

And so deos the man upstairs

[Sonshyne 2]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

It really is therapy!!

You need to talk about these

things in order to be able to

heal and get pass it.

[Islandwoman 0]

I don't see why anyone would feel shame. Maybe the fear of being judged.....but mi knoa worry bout dat only di Good Lord judge mi. I've shared the good and the bad on here. I pray my journey will get easier but if not I will still share. Only because it's my therapy. Love ya'll

Totally agree Wakey - sometimes there are some harsh things said on here, but I get way more good out of this thread than bad. This is a wonderful support group - without the therapy bill!!