Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[wakeywakeup 1]

I'm so glad I posted this.. you all are good for a sista....

Things I followed before have been lost along the way..I surely wouldn't want to feel like someone was trying to control me and I guess that's what I've been doing.

I agree with Dillon and Quana - You have to have your together time and your alone time - I wouldn't be happy if he were taking off every night and we weren't spending time together, but I think twice a month is a bit restrictive - Too much together time was somewhat of a downfall of my last relationship - because he had no friends, and we went everywhere together - but I have a ton of friends, and when we went out to a club, they were always around - I think you have to build your lives together, and your lives apart -

What about hosting dominoes night at your house? If he's keeping you separate from his friends, that would bother me - but bring them around - no issues.

Sus what a great idea..I love the idea of a party...I'm going to plan something soon.

[dancehallquana 5]

You know once I typed it ..2 times per month it does sound like I'm putting a collar and leash on him I never want to do that. I just think I need to find my own stuff outside of work to do with friends again. When he was in Ja I would rush home to get on our nightly phone call and I guess I let alot of my friendships slip and haven't found a way to get back in them. Plus I've changed how I think on many things like how I want to hang out now..So I guess I should communicate that with my friends and start there.

u know what ..there's the ITCH!!! so many times, WE women can cut off our lives and pour our heart into a relationship and its not healthy.. we should be fulfilled in EVERY area.. and maybe u don't want to go out clubbing or what not, BUT if u feel fulfilled u can say "see u later baby" and not even think about hubby being gone..cuz now u can do some WAKEY stuff..

when my hubby would go over to his family or whatever.. i might put in a good romance movie that i wouldn't watch w/ him (action fanatic!), or study for my next sunday school lesson ( YES i teach sunday school LOL) , go over to a friend's house who i hadn't seen in a while..

[wakeywakeup 1]

You know once I typed it ..2 times per month it does sound like I'm putting a collar and leash on him I never want to do that. I just think I need to find my own stuff outside of work to do with friends again. When he was in Ja I would rush home to get on our nightly phone call and I guess I let alot of my friendships slip and haven't found a way to get back in them. Plus I've changed how I think on many things like how I want to hang out now..So I guess I should communicate that with my friends and start there.

u know what ..there's the ITCH!!! so many times, WE women can cut off our lives and pour our heart into a relationship and its not healthy.. we should be fulfilled in EVERY area.. and maybe u don't want to go out clubbing or what not, BUT if u feel fulfilled u can say "see u later baby" and not even think about hubby being gone..cuz now u can do some WAKEY stuff..

when my hubby would go over to his family or whatever.. i might put in a good romance movie that i wouldn't watch w/ him (action fanatic!), or study for my next sunday school lesson ( YES i teach sunday school LOL) , go over to a friend's house who i hadn't seen in a while..

SOOOOOOOOOOOO TRRRUUUUEEE.

[dancehallquana 5]

I'm so glad I posted this.. you all are good for a sista....

Things I followed before have been lost along the way..I surely wouldn't want to feel like someone was trying to control me and I guess that's what I've been doing.

I agree with Dillon and Quana - You have to have your together time and your alone time - I wouldn't be happy if he were taking off every night and we weren't spending time together, but I think twice a month is a bit restrictive - Too much together time was somewhat of a downfall of my last relationship - because he had no friends, and we went everywhere together - but I have a ton of friends, and when we went out to a club, they were always around - I think you have to build your lives together, and your lives apart -

What about hosting dominoes night at your house? If he's keeping you separate from his friends, that would bother me - but bring them around - no issues.

Sus what a great idea..I love the idea of a party...I'm going to plan something soon.

yeah.. that neat.. ur house can be the hang out house SOMETIMES.. has he had company over much??

[dillon 6]

You don't want him to loose who he is and you don't want to loose who you are. It sounds like friends were really important in your lives don't stop having them just because you are married. Through your hubby you might meet some new ones. Trust me my parents are miserable without their own friends....

[MrsBuggy 0]

Good afternoon everyone!! Hope ya'll have had a good day so far....

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Wakey, before you plan this party, ask Dewayne how he would feel about hosting such an event, make it look like it's his ideas, so he doesn't feel like you are still trying to collar him.

Just remember inorder for a plant to grow to be strong and healthy it needs plenty of sun, space and tender loving care. A plant that is covered either dies or remains stunt to growth.

How do you to wish to see your marriage and relationship develop?

[Ellsinlove 2]

GREAT ADVICE everyone! I didn't want to comment because without having been in that situation, I don't think I have the authority to advise on it....I won't know how I'll react to that situation until it happens to me but your answers are well thought and make sense. I worry about whether my mister will be bored and will be without friends and how I'm going to cope because I also have a pretty wide social circle (except lately I've been kind of a hermit) and if I'm off doing something, he might feel lonely....unless of course I drag him around with me everywhere which he may or may not appreciate.

[dancehallquana 5]

Good afternoon everyone!! Hope ya'll have had a good day so far....

hey mrs buggy.. almost there!!

wakey, i am glad u posted it too.. i am telling u no matter how we may act a nut sometimes, we are all good for each other..

[dillon 6]

Good afternoon everyone!! Hope ya'll have had a good day so far....

hey mrs buggy.. almost there!!

wakey, i am glad u posted it too.. i am telling u no matter how we may act a nut sometimes, we are all good for each other..

AMEN!

[wakeywakeup 1]

I'm so glad I posted this.. you all are good for a sista....

Things I followed before have been lost along the way..I surely wouldn't want to feel like someone was trying to control me and I guess that's what I've been doing.

I agree with Dillon and Quana - You have to have your together time and your alone time - I wouldn't be happy if he were taking off every night and we weren't spending time together, but I think twice a month is a bit restrictive - Too much together time was somewhat of a downfall of my last relationship - because he had no friends, and we went everywhere together - but I have a ton of friends, and when we went out to a club, they were always around - I think you have to build your lives together, and your lives apart -

What about hosting dominoes night at your house? If he's keeping you separate from his friends, that would bother me - but bring them around - no issues.

Sus what a great idea..I love the idea of a party...I'm going to plan something soon.

yeah.. that neat.. ur house can be the hang out house SOMETIMES.. has he had company over much??

not much at all- only twice. We live futher away from where the group of friends live so it's always easier for him to go across town.

Wakey, before you plan this party, ask Dewayne how he would feel about hosting such an event, make it look like it's his ideas, so he doesn't feel like you are still trying to collar him.

Just remember inorder for a plant to grow to be strong and healthy it needs plenty of sun, space and tender loving care. A plant that is covered either dies or remains stunt to growth.

How do you to wish to see your marriage and relationship develop?

Great idea..PREACH ON SISTA

[dancehallquana 5]

GREAT ADVICE everyone! I didn't want to comment because without having been in that situation, I don't think I have the authority to advise on it....I won't know how I'll react to that situation until it happens to me but your answers are well thought and make sense. I worry about whether my mister will be bored and will be without friends and how I'm going to cope because I also have a pretty wide social circle (except lately I've been kind of a hermit) and if I'm off doing something, he might feel lonely....unless of course I drag him around with me everywhere which he may or may not appreciate.

i might be underestimating him, but that is more of my worry too ells.. i have my friends and my social scenes.. also as a mother so of course there is always SOMETHING going on.. i get worried about RG getting lost in all of it.. and feeling "not apart"..i hope he does find a good group of friends here and finds "RG's place" in Dallas

[wakeywakeup 1]

I think this party will be just pefect because when he arrived, and we got married within 30 days, he didn't have any friends to attend the wedding. He only had me and I was surronded by friends and family. Now he will be able to host something and get good times flowing at home the way he did in Ja.

Bless you guys for such wonderful advice and words of wisdom.

[wakeywakeup 1]

GREAT ADVICE everyone! I didn't want to comment because without having been in that situation, I don't think I have the authority to advise on it....I won't know how I'll react to that situation until it happens to me but your answers are well thought and make sense. I worry about whether my mister will be bored and will be without friends and how I'm going to cope because I also have a pretty wide social circle (except lately I've been kind of a hermit) and if I'm off doing something, he might feel lonely....unless of course I drag him around with me everywhere which he may or may not appreciate.

i might be underestimating him, but that is more of my worry too ells.. i have my friends and my social scenes.. also as a mother so of course there is always SOMETHING going on.. i get worried about RG getting lost in all of it.. and feeling "not apart"..i hope he does find a good group of friends here and finds "RG's place" in Dallas

I too became a hermit and only used VJ for my social life before he got here.. It was mainly because I knew everyone on here understood our LDR and it was just easier. Dwayne met a few friends from husbands of wives on here and others he met just talking to people. He is a people magnet...so I think RG will be just fine too.

[PortlandAngel 0]

GREAT ADVICE everyone! I didn't want to comment because without having been in that situation, I don't think I have the authority to advise on it....I won't know how I'll react to that situation until it happens to me but your answers are well thought and make sense. I worry about whether my mister will be bored and will be without friends and how I'm going to cope because I also have a pretty wide social circle (except lately I've been kind of a hermit) and if I'm off doing something, he might feel lonely....unless of course I drag him around with me everywhere which he may or may not appreciate.

i might be underestimating him, but that is more of my worry too ells.. i have my friends and my social scenes.. also as a mother so of course there is always SOMETHING going on.. i get worried about RG getting lost in all of it.. and feeling "not apart"..i hope he does find a good group of friends here and finds "RG's place" in Dallas

Quan, the mister told me that on Sunday that some days he feels so lost, I know its hard on him not having a job and not doing anything and not having no friends.