Yardies at home and Farrin (part12)

[sus 70]

sus i wish i could braid hair would save me a lot of cash

When I used to work in a group home, I had 3 female residents who were black - The first time one of them washed her hair and I had to do it, the next day a co-worker came in and asked WHO THE HELL TOUCHED THAT GIRLS HEAD! She said she looked like a birds nest, lol - So Robin taught me well and quick how to do hair - One of the residents had really long gorgeous hair, and doing it would put her to sleep or calm her down when she was agressive, so I used to practice on her head.g

[MSNELLY 0]

Well someone suggested that I go and get another gift and send a note saying hope R likes this better. I was thinking of going to get her a Barak Obama coloring book since the two of them voted for McCain and be like TAKE THAT! Ideas ladies?

See, I would be pissed enough to want to not do anything, but I wouldn't want to punish the child - so I would probably send something that I knew would annoy the parents, but the kid would like - something really loud and not returnable!

see i wouldnt get nothing sorry should of keep the gift, i'm pretty sure she would of got over being scared and used it them you know

[dillon 6]

Ya I don't want to punish the child either but she is only 3 I am sure she could really care less. I think they are just too sheltering...take the kid she will probably have the time of her life. I don't think they let her touch the ground until she was about 2 always carried her everywhere.

Funny thing is my brother isn't answering his phone.

[MSNELLY 0]

Ya I don't want to punish the child either but she is only 3 I am sure she could really care less. I think they are just too sheltering...take the kid she will probably have the time of her life. I don't think they let her touch the ground until she was about 2 always carried her everywhere.

Funny thing is my brother isn't answering his phone.

i say leave it alone you tryed and the mom sent it back wasnt your fault you know

[jakeswife 0]

dillon don't you think if you go to the source you can nip this thing in the bud. if u intend to get this resolved i think you should talk with your SIL. relaying your feelings to your brother might end up with him shutting down about it or he might be very reluctant to share it with his wife knowing it might cause more tension between you and her.letting her know how u feel will help u to repair the relationship or her understanding how u feel.

[clairern 0]

Hey Yardie Family!! Thanks for all the prayers. They worked but of course not without some drama. My trip was good although I only saw sunshine for 1 day. It rained hard in Ochi most of Saturday and all of Sunday. I also had a trip a bit like Sus' last one but I'll just stick with the interview stuff.

When the plane landed in Mobay I had a message from A that he wasn't going to make it in time to meet me at the airport because the bus broke down. I get outside and my car rental guy isn't there either. I'm thinking this is a great start - I got stood up by 2 men! But car guy finally shows up and is chatting bout if he was my guy he would never be late blah blah. I said YOU were late - cho!! I drove to Discovery Bay and met up with A there. We went to Ochi and I unpacked somewhat and then drove to Runaway Bay to meet with Jawi's friend and deliver the care package for her girls (he was very nice Jawi!). We had some yummy curry chicken for dinner at the restaurant that he worked at.

We go back to the room and I started organizing the paperwork for the interview. And that's when it started......A had told me that all the papers got messed up when the bus rolled over and that he thinks he was missing a few things so I had brought down my copies of everything I had sent him thinking no big deal - we can just replace it. So I say, where's your medical? He said I shoved everything into that folder you sent down. I said it's not here. He starts rummaging through his bag - nothing. I keep organizing and I say - where's your police report & non-impediment and receipt for payment of the interview????? This was the first time I ever saw a black guy turn white. He said all of that stuff was in the white fed ex envelope into the folder. I looked through every single piece of paper and nothing. He started calling every one asking if he had left an envelope there - nothing. After traveling since 2 am, I just wanted to bust into tears. I got washed up and climbed into bed and said to him we have 2 options - go to the interview knowing we won't get an approval and take our bumps and bruises & try to fix it or just give up now (I was so disappointed in him at this point.) He said he was NOT giving up - we were going and just deal with the consequences as they came. I went to bed and he starts chatting bout the monkey man and saying prayers and quotes and all this hoopla. He was retracing his steps bout when the last time he saw the envelope, blah, blah.

We get up at 5:00 am and since I had a good night's sleep I was ready to concur the world. We get outside and have a flat tire! I'm like are you freakin kidding me?!?!?! A changed the tire and off we went.

We got to Kingston around 8:15 and since A runs on JA time, he thinks we have plenty of time to drop by the tire place and drop the flat off, stop by his "ranch" so he could rummage through his stuff once more looking for the docs while driving through bumper to bumper Kingston traffic. We still had to go to the bank to pay for another interview - 1st bank we go to was the wrong one. Go to NCB which was the next block over - I'm practically running through the streets dragging him as it is now 9:00 (INTERVIEW TIME). Since I stick out like a green alien in Kingston a very nice customer service rep asks if she can help me. I explained what we were here for and she sent me to the teller line and explained we needed passports - SHYT A's is in the folder with all the documents!! A tries to argue that he bought one in Hanover before without it but I hushed him said I'll catch a place in line and you run back to the car. We finally pay - it's now 9:15 and he's chatting bout I worry to much. I just kissteeth at him.

I parked the car on the curb with these 2 guys having traffic stopped (NOTE Dillon: If you keep driving and turn around so the embassy is on your left - there is a big gated parking area there.)

There is a long line outside the embassy so I ran up to a security guard and asked where do we go for an immigrant visa interview. He points me to the ladies with the yellow shirts just outside the door. A's still moving on JA time so I am dragging him up the sidewalk. While I'm talking to the yellow shirt ladies this guy is chirping in my ear about so cell phones, no cameras, no lotions, no water....I turn and said I know - thank you! Yellow shirt lady tells us to wait and she goes inside. She comes back out and said they have now closed those appointments - where did we come from. My mouth drops open so A said I came from Hanover - she came from New York. I said I understand we are late but we had a flat tire. She said go ahead.

We go through security with no troubles and they hustles us to a next room where we turn in our appointment letter. The guy there says "you're late." I said I'm sorry we had a flat tire. He asked for the passport photos and the police report. We gave the photo but said we didn't have a police report. He said you don't have a police report? No. Okay - gives the photos back, gives us a ticket and shoos us off to another room which A - prescreening. It is now 9:38. The room is packed. I take the one empty chair in the back and A stands. And we waited and we waited. I was trying to listen to what was going on while we were chatting and laughing - I was at the point of whatever happens happens.

It was after 11:00 when we were called to the window by a pretty Jamaican woman. She asked who filed for him and he told her my name. And she said and who is Tanya? He looked at me and said she is. And she asked again - and who is Tanya? He gets it and said "She's gonna be my wife!!"

She said you had an earlier appointment did you come or did you not get the letter? A told her he was on the way when the bus had an accident. He said some of my documents got messed up in the accident. At this point I explained the bus rolled over. She jumps and says Praise the Lord yuh not dead!! Papers can be replaced - not yuh life! At this point I breathed my first sigh of relief.... She collected all the papers that we did have and sent us down to B17 for fingerprints. They had to take them 2x and then told us to go back to wait in Section A. By this time we are the last people in this section - I told A at least it will be over soon cuz they are going to want to go to lunch at noon.

We got called back to another window in Section A by a nice American girl. She swore us both in and asked if either of us were married before. I said I was (I had already turned in my divorce decree to the 1st woman). She asked me how long I had been married, did I have any children, how old where they, had my children ever met A, how many times did I visit, and what did I do for work? She then asked how we met and when did our relationship turn from friendship to romantic? She also asked A if his father ever filed for him and what happened with that?

We explained again to her about the missing documents and she asked why we hadn't just got a copy of the medical? I explained that we didn't realize that stuff was missing until I was organizing the stuff the night before. A said he would go take the medical again and she said no, we can just get a copy so you don't have to pay the fee again. She asked for the doc's name and the approx date of the medical. I told her and she told us to wait a minute. She came back and said it would be here in a week. She told him not to worry about the non-impediment but that he did need to get another police report. She gave us a blue slip with a date of 2/11 to come back with the police report. She told him to make sure he brings the fee to pay DHL when he comes back on the 11th!!!! It was 11:48 when we walked out.

Most of the interviews were for families. I heard a lot that required DNA testing due to a time lapse, one didn't have her father on her birth certificate even though he filed for her, and some approved. There was one girl who was blue slipped to have her fiancé return with her, and one couple who filed K1 but then got married in the meantime. The same girl we had explained that petition was now void and he would have to refile with the I130 which would take about a year.

Whew!!!!

WOW girl that sure was an exhausting trip but I am very happy that you made it through and is back home safe and sound congrats to you an A. Is his little boy coming with him?

[dillon 6]

dillon don't you think if you go to the source you can nip this thing in the bud. if u intend to get this resolved i think you should talk with your SIL. relaying your feelings to your brother might end up with him shutting down about it or he might be very reluctant to share it with his wife knowing it might cause more tension between you and her.letting her know how u feel will help u to repair the relationship or her understanding how u feel.

Well I would like to just go to her and you would think that would be the best thing to do. But I don't even have their home phone number. Only have my brothers cell...I just talked to him and he had no idea that she even sent the gift back. I spoke my piece and I can't repair a relationship with my SIL if she doesn't want it to be. I have reached out to her number of times to try and build a relationship. I just found out from him that she is still holding grudges from the past and can't get past some things. So be it...

[jakeswife 0]

dillon don't you think if you go to the source you can nip this thing in the bud. if u intend to get this resolved i think you should talk with your SIL. relaying your feelings to your brother might end up with him shutting down about it or he might be very reluctant to share it with his wife knowing it might cause more tension between you and her.letting her know how u feel will help u to repair the relationship or her understanding how u feel.

Well I would like to just go to her and you would think that would be the best thing to do. But I don't even have their home phone number. Only have my brothers cell...I just talked to him and he had no idea that she even sent the gift back. I spoke my piece and I can't repair a relationship with my SIL if she doesn't want it to be. I have reached out to her number of times to try and build a relationship. I just found out from him that she is still holding grudges from the past and can't get past some things. So be it...

do u think he would mention it to her? how did he sound after you told him she returned your gift?i think you should ask him to talk to her about how u feel since u have no contact info for her.

[dillon 6]

dillon don't you think if you go to the source you can nip this thing in the bud. if u intend to get this resolved i think you should talk with your SIL. relaying your feelings to your brother might end up with him shutting down about it or he might be very reluctant to share it with his wife knowing it might cause more tension between you and her.letting her know how u feel will help u to repair the relationship or her understanding how u feel.

Well I would like to just go to her and you would think that would be the best thing to do. But I don't even have their home phone number. Only have my brothers cell...I just talked to him and he had no idea that she even sent the gift back. I spoke my piece and I can't repair a relationship with my SIL if she doesn't want it to be. I have reached out to her number of times to try and build a relationship. I just found out from him that she is still holding grudges from the past and can't get past some things. So be it...

do u think he would mention it to her? how did he sound after you told him she returned your gift?i think you should ask him to talk to her about how u feel since u have no contact info for her.

Oh he is going to talk to her and he sounded shocked that she sent it back. He said he would talk to her tonight and will call me tomorrow. He has put himself in this situation by letting her continue to hold this grudge and being the middle man for the past 6 years. He did say he will always have a relationship with me even if her and I don't. She is hold the grudge that when she asked me to be in their wedding I said no. The reason why I said no wasn't because I didn't approve of their wedding but because I had a 5 month old who at the time would not let ANYONE hold her not even my parents. So I didn't want her to be screaming during the wedding.

[MSNELLY 0]

JAKES WHATS GOING ON

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Jake , Nelly and Dillon, good evening, how is everyone doing? It is snowing, sleeting and everything in-between here, so I worked from home today.

[jakeswife 0]

dillon don't you think if you go to the source you can nip this thing in the bud. if u intend to get this resolved i think you should talk with your SIL. relaying your feelings to your brother might end up with him shutting down about it or he might be very reluctant to share it with his wife knowing it might cause more tension between you and her.letting her know how u feel will help u to repair the relationship or her understanding how u feel.

Well I would like to just go to her and you would think that would be the best thing to do. But I don't even have their home phone number. Only have my brothers cell...I just talked to him and he had no idea that she even sent the gift back. I spoke my piece and I can't repair a relationship with my SIL if she doesn't want it to be. I have reached out to her number of times to try and build a relationship. I just found out from him that she is still holding grudges from the past and can't get past some things. So be it...

do u think he would mention it to her? how did he sound after you told him she returned your gift?i think you should ask him to talk to her about how u feel since u have no contact info for her.

Oh he is going to talk to her and he sounded shocked that she sent it back. He said he would talk to her tonight and will call me tomorrow. He has put himself in this situation by letting her continue to hold this grudge and being the middle man for the past 6 years. He did say he will always have a relationship with me even if her and I don't. She is hold the grudge that when she asked me to be in their wedding I said no. The reason why I said no wasn't because I didn't approve of their wedding but because I had a 5 month old who at the time would not let ANYONE hold her not even my parents. So I didn't want her to be screaming during the wedding.

you would think she would see that as u being considerate for her on her special day instead she felt like u weren't there for her. it sounds like she is still carrying the selfish feelings that brides have towards their wedding. but it's beyond childish if she use a gift for her child to prove a point.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Clairern and Pam, I didn't see you two down there, so hello too.

[MSNELLY 0]

Hey Roxice i am doing good about to head to chicago for a hot second, then come home cause i am sleepy

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Mrs. Palmer welcome bqck home, good to see you and Mr. had a nice time together. I see that your case was transfer to CSC. Mine's is still at VSC, so I will wait it out.

Hey Roxice i am doing good about to head to chicago for a hot second, then come home cause i am sleepy

Are you down-town or on the outskirt of Chicago?